@OluluSo what happens if the man has a bad attitude, you bench him too, abi. Main point, there should be mutual respect, they are both team players.
I bet you fergie would not delibrately be rude to Evra because he feels he could field someone else. If he does that he has lost his respect as a coach. Respect is mutual, my dear Olulu and you seem very smart so you should know that. Believe me when you meet a good oman you know and you would not want to loose her, but when you meet a woman who feels she has to endure every trash you spring on her because she wan marry, i sure say u go run.
@ Chisco 82, I cant even answer you because you are stuck in another world.

Different strokes for different folks. They know themselves better and if they've made up, very good. 4 years no be 4 months so I'm sure they know themselves better than anyone here.

I think the lady acted right.It might not be the best thing to say,but I guess she acted on the spur of the moment.Imagine being taken out and then told that.If she ends up marrying that guy,then I wish them luck in the union.A man like that would be an'OBASANJO' in the home,it would be run by strict military fiat,no 'honey,what do you think'.

But sha,husband scarce,so she can make do with that,but don't expect him to change tomorow and become the epitome of sensitivity,and love.Just know what you are getting into,and don't go running to your pastor tomorow when starts showing more of the same colours of his,abi?

They ve been going out for four years, and I want to beleive the babe has been expecting a proposal from her guy. Now it has, and she's complaining about the wording. Anyway sha, everybody with him own way.

On the other hand, the proposal sounded as if the guy has a lot of reasons why he should not marry her but has finally make up his mind. He should have been a bit romantic though, but a beg proposal na proposal oh. Just as somebody has said, if the babe is not careful she will even have to beg him to still keep his mind to marry her.

Some people just miss their luck for lack of tactics. For the fact that they ve been together for a long time, would have made the thing funny for both of them and they will laugh over it and be happy.

O baby maybe u er still 25, by the time u get to 35, u will find out that no matter how it comes, na proposal

sperrysun:

But sha, ,husband scarce

^{Wife nko??}


@Poster - that proposal ain't funny atallllllllllllllllllllll. . .  ^{i hav finally decided 2 marry u indeed!!}

It all good thou,since they r bac 2gether again.

@Chigotex, I hope you meet Your "Luck" and get a man who will decide to marry who. As for me and my household, e will marry a man who feels honoured (Just as we ill feel) to marry us.
I can't believ some women have been brainwahsed to stoop so low.
All the rubbish about husband scarce is getting me crazy, ife too scarce but there are lot of desperado women, mind you, marry them at your own risk, They can kiss your arse before marriage, but atch them cahnge to vultures after. Anyway some kind of men deserve some kind of women.
Abeg I don go.

Husband scares husband scares. . . scares for where?

There is always a good man available for some good woman to hook up with.

chisco82:







will you mary yourslf, is a favour afterall isaiah 4:1 say at that time 7 ladies will get hold to one man and say ''we can feed and clothe ourselves,but let us say you are our husband,so that we won't have to endure the shame of being unmarried''.or don't you know that husband is scarce.

When is dis gonna happen? can't wait    


@aisha2
Anway, d most important thing is dat ur friend is back in the arms of her man,
and they kissed, now dats da best part of the story, makes me wanna cry  

A good woman, u say? Hmmm,
where? on mars?

efuah:

Husband scares husband scares. . . scares for where?

There is always a good man available for some good woman to hook up with.

Good men? yes, plenty dey
to hook up with? sorry, dem hooked already

Chigotex:

, the proposal sounded as if the guy has a lot of reasons why he should not marry her but has finally make up his mind.
O baby maybe u er still 25, by the time u get to 35, u will find out that no matter how it comes, na proposal.

Thanks Chigo,

I have no doubt that the lady is not yet ready or betterstill mature for marriage. I am disappointed that almost immediately after the man proposed marriage to her, she wasted no time by informing her friend, and even asked her to post it on Nairaland.

I wonder the kind of wife this lady will be - Information Minister, may be.

Aisha2, even u sef? Na wao!

'I've finally decided to Marry you'.
I think it would have been very strange and in fact silly if your friend had smiled and said 'yes sweetheart I definitely will'
When you marry someone you're not doing that person a favour, rather you've realised or believe that this is the one person that you can work with as a team, the one person that will satnd by you and you will stand by in turn. 'Husband scare' I here this all the time and frankly it amuses me. For us women we need to realize and understand that being married is not all about adding the Mrs. title to our names, its deeper than that. I'm Glad she reacted the way she did and that things are okay between them now.

olulu:

Good men? yes, plenty dey
to hook up with? sorry, them hooked already

I aint available maself buddy. . .am hooked! nailed! and am content, if not, i wldn't type wht u quoted!

efuah:

Husband scares husband scares. . . scares for where?

There is always a good man available for some good woman to hook up with.

Exactly.

@poster

the guy is a bit daft, he should have been more complimentary and respectful.

the girl should be thanking her stars she got someone to propose to her

in this world where guys hardly want to marry, some girls/women even beg guys who ticks all for them, for marriage

let her wait for a better proposal then, since she wants someone who would whisk her away to Mt Kilimanjaro and propose before she develops butterflies in her tummy!!!

civilization has changed things a lot, i wish we were in the days of our forefathers!

I've finally deceided to marry you - Is logical. For me it dosen't mean that the guy did not love you, but depends on the situation b/w him and the  family and then he finally agree to go into marriage with you could be the meaning of the statement.

Efuah dear who is taunting you, abi you never tell them

@ topic:

I have finally decided to marry you.




later on in life:

I have finally decided to divorce you.





what's the difference? One is the puppet, one is the puppeteer.

what a scary marriage proposal. I'd freak out too, if I were the woman.

I respect u almondjoy.u re a true  Nigerian and you re being urself and being real.Thumps up for u.
U see what ego leads women into, alot of them at 30 with out anybody to marry them.then afterwards,they pick up the placard of single parent.So far i can cater for child,what the heck wit a hubby they always quickly say that when the issue is mention anywhere (Thats themajor problem  and root cause of al american problem)

U see,truely ,economy is causing alot of Nigerian male think longer before jumping into wedlock.The guy must hav thought about it for long and finally decided to go all the way with her.afterall it takes two to tangle and honestly she needs his consent,

Conclusively,babe you ve made  a mistake .take good look around and see alot of better beautiful girls,ladies ,queens and princessess with out any hubby and would jump even at proposal worst than that.
If u will stick wit ur decision, then u ve wasted all the 4 years with him, come to think of it what do u want from this relationship?, Isnt it this, because he didnt proposed to u on a loveboat and a mo polite way u think u should throw it at him.I bet u never knew what the guy went thru before coming to that decision and saying it out to u .Most people are not what they say they are.so most often people lie about how they are proposed to, its a complex, and u re letting it ruin ur future.
Any way its not over yet .just go back to him and show him love,

MANNER OF WEDDING PROPOSAL IS NOT A FUNCTION OF HOW HAPPY AND SUCCESSFUL THE MARRIAGE WILL BE>SHIKENA

Dalby:

Efuah dear who is taunting you, abi you never tell them

hey honey, wia u been since? missed u. . . dnt mind those kids!

If u ask me it may be a problem of semantics.

^{grammar no be my language}

@ AlmondJoy

Am very surprise reading AlmondJoy replies here making some good sense, after reading all her replies to the post "How To Stop Sex And Enjoy Your Relationship Till Marriage?". I never know she still have some sense up there in her senses.

Well, maybe her sense are not as LovePeddler/phokaholic as her ass. Thank God there is still hope 4 AJ.

@ Aisha
What do you have to say when you know i'm saying the truth.
i'm stock in another world, yes were something is happening.
look at you and your over proud friend.
she should even be happy that the guy manage to propose,otherwise
a spinter at 35,hmm , i wonder what will be her faith.

Almondjoy again? Anyway this is prime time network. Let me save the yappies for work tonignht!

May kelly:

I've finally deceided to marry you - Is logical. For me it dosen't mean that the guy did not love you, but depends on the situation b/w him and the  family and then he finally agree to go into marriage with you could be the meaning of the statement.

god bless you
you will get a good man like me no matter how he propose
is alright.

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Almondjoy, they were both rude but you seem to be blaming her alone, I believe a person is a person first before he is a wife or a mother. Why is it always the oman that gets blamed, when a husband is cheating we find a way to blame the wife.
The guy explained himself and apologised and said he does not blame her for the way she reacted hich any sane man ill do, he is not doing her a favor, mind you she still has a chioce even after hwe asked she could have said no, she does not want to marry him.
Na we women they kill ourselves, we encourage the men[b] to treat us like trash. [/b] Abeg, my girl knows her worth, not that am supporting her rudeness but i would have been as angry as she, Respect is mutual, if he had not been rude, she would bnot have been rude.
So Almond she should sell herself short because she wan marry. Any guy ho ont apologise for being as rude as that does not deserve a wife, let him go and marry the desperado women and see ho go loose. Please Marriage is not about answering MRs. Somebody, its about friendship and companionship, love and respect.
Look people should be real when dating, to aviod fustration in Marriage

aisha2, you are missing a point here.  I blamed the lady for the simple reason that the man was only doing things the only way he knew how to.  No be Nigerian man?  There are somethings my husband will say to me even in public.  I go say "Yessir"! People go begin deey laff us.   When I get home, I will sit him down and tell him exactly I feel and what the hell he did, privately so his ego will not blow up in ma face in public.  In public I will be laughing with him, but deep down in me, I know that I need to cuss him out there and then.  But I say to myself. . . . . .what do I accomplish here now?  To entertain people or make a fools of ourselves here now?  I just walk, especially in public.  At  home alone, all bets are off. . . . . .anything goes. Even the walls will have no ears!

So my point is that she for kpele am small, since na bush man.   If he talks like this for a proposal, you can imagine what he does on a daily basis, and she has been dating him for so long.  The guy did not know any better.  Her womanly skills should have come out by being more civilized.  Instead what did she do. . . . acted worse than the man who is his natural habitat mentally. Hers was worse, because that is not her natural habitat. . . .she should be thinking not actin' on impulse. . . . .knowing the kind of man she has been dealing with.

She should have corrected him later and not spoil that moment.  The guy always thinks he is on top of the world doing something special. . . .all you can do is humor him. Then correct him later.  Nobody said men should treat women like trash.  This guy did not mean to.   This is a small matter ma dear.  Bigger battles are way ahead.  I like to save my energy for important battles not a simple marriage proposal gone bad.  Infact I find it funny, because I am used to such things from Nigerians, especially the men.  This was not an occasion to prove ma independence at all.  Anyway, people handle things differently.

That is why there are successful marriages and unsuccessful marriages. People will learn the hard way hopefully when it is not too late.  Communication is the key and women do that better.  So women have a lot of work to do in that area.  Tell your friend to learn.  Next time, it might not go her way and only God knows what else! She need to learn to count her teeth with her tongue not her fingers. . . . .especially in public.

I can imagine.what did he main ,but he could have put it in a right way.or he think he is doing the girl a favour,OR he d'not NO how to put it.

wow, it sounded like he was buying a car. hmm the toyota or the nissan, well i guess i will buy the toyota. of course i have finally decided to go with the toyota, nissan is too big anyway.

when put in that context its a real insult. but that is naija for u oh

I've finally deceided to marry you - Is logical. For me it dosen't mean that the guy did not love you, but depends on the situation b/w him and the family and then he finally agree to go into marriage with you could be the meaning of the statement.

thank u, just because they have been in a relationship for 4 years doesn't give her the wife tag. marriage is a big decision for anyone. why do women expect the truth but complain when guys are brutal honest. did the man have to sugarcoat his proposal .

wow, it sounded like he was buying a car. hmm the toyota or the nissan, well i guess i will buy the toyota. of course i have finally decided to go with the toyota, nissan is too big anyway.

every move u make in life is a decision.

gentlegg:

@ AlmondJoy

Am very surprise reading AlmondJoy replies here making some good sense, after reading all her replies to the post "How To Stop Sex And Enjoy Your Relationship Till Marriage?". I never know she still have some sense up there in her senses.

Well, maybe her sense are not as LovePeddler/phokaholic as her ass. Thank God there is still hope 4 AJ.

GBAWAM, !
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She apparently has been 'working hard' to get the guy to propose, why would she reject it?
I mean if the guy actually said that to her as a marriage proposal it could only mean she's been making the guy feel like a superster she can't live without.

@poster
tell ya friend she spent four years making this guy feel he's doing her a favour,
now d guy don go a step further to do her 1 big favour of her life and the choice of words suppose show am.

If she must marry the guy she has to correct the wrong impression.

chisco82:

GBAWAM, !
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