fellis:

@nedu213, I modified your post for you and exchanged the husband and wife's roles, read through it this time and see how you feel.
Read through it and see what you were expecting women to just accept without complaining.

Sky-walker:


lol.i get your point but like i said, its like taking advantage of the maid. Someone that calls u sir sir and you decide to sleep with the person. its does not sit right with me.

Miss EZ: @OP, i try not to comment here on Nairaland, but i logged in just to tell you that this is pure bullshit.

People who cheat (women and men)make a conscious decision to do so. The emotional and sometimes physical scars felt by those cheated on run deep, that i find your useless theory insulting to their intelligence.

If people who cheat find themselves in an uncomfortable position, if they have any integrity, the will walk away or take themselves out of it. That is what honest people do. So sit down there and make excuses for people who are dishonest and unfaithful, and of course blame the victim of such actions.

Get yourself educated and i hope you can grow some sense cos making excuses for dishonest people is Bullshit.

donlyone:

Are you saying once a person is honest they can never yield to temptation?

An honest person who thinks he/she is beyond falling will inevitably fall.

There is no excuse for infidelity,yes.

But no matter how honest and faithful you are and have been, you best flee from temptation, many have fallen who are better than you.

Believe me, stranger things have happened.

calebo101: Is it not better you ladies give the man no reason to cheat on you than to say men are cheats? Yes we know we can cheat but let the guilt be on us when we do it. If my wife lets the maid perform her roles then pronto i have concrete reasons to cheat and would feel no guilt whatsoever. my maid cooks for me, makes my bed, washes my clothes while my wife paints like jezebel and networks all day, me i go lash the maid oooo, that na sure banker. You like talk about morality, talk about dogs, to hell with those silly arguments. Funny how women talk at times, it is a man's world give or take. I cheat, you live the house, you cheat you still leave the house. period. just do your duties as a wife and i do my duties as a husband. I married you and not the maid so if the maid plays your role she should as well receive her reward. That's all.

12 inches!:
@shollypopz yes, a cheat will always be a cheat bt u cnt cheat nature or biology. A woman according to society and biology is meant to take care of her man but when she delegates such responsibilities to a maid, she loses a lot. The main problem is that attraction is easy to build and if the woman neglects the man, the man can develop eyes for the maid esp when she's pretty nice and does all what his wife is meant to do.The Op has analysed the truth here and everybody saying it's false on the basis of a cheat will always be a cheat is living in fools paradise.Think of what really attracts most men. 1.Physical beauty 2. Good food 3. Been taking care of emotional 4. Sound advice and support. If the maid is already doing all these what stops her from adding the last one 5.Good se.x to it. Don't forget that the maid is also human and is bound to be attracted by a married responsible man.

Nashville:

Na wah o. So, if a man cheats on his wife with the maid, it is now his wife's fault. I am man by the way. I cannot even imagine myself at my level sleeping with a maid, someone that is also probably sleeping with the driver, gateman and the cook or with some AIDS infected guy somewhere. And people are saying it is the wife's fault!

There is no excuse for cheating. Cheating is a choice and you should never blame your spouse for it. No one can push you to cheat, you cheat because you want to and it is only your fault. A man that wants to cheat will always find a good excuse to cheat, because his wife can never be perfect so he will always find an excuse. Cheating never solves any marital problem. It is a cowardly act of selfish and lazy fools!

Marriage is for better for worse, ok, there will be better days and there will be worse days. If you wife isn't doing the things she is supposed to do, why not talk to her. If her bo*obs are no longer pointed and it means the whole world to you, why not think of silicon.

If you claim she has body odour, why not buy her the perfume, abi no be your wife again? You and your wife are one, her problem is yours and her appearance is a reflection of you. If she doesnt welcome you with love, talk to her about it. I dont think sleeping with the maid will solve any problem.

calebo101: Is it not better you ladies give the man no reason to cheat on you than to say men are cheats? Yes we know we can cheat but let the guilt be on us when we do it. If my wife lets the maid perform her roles then pronto i have concrete reasons to cheat and would feel no guilt whatsoever. my maid cooks for me, makes my bed, washes my clothes while my wife paints like jezebel and networks all day, me i go lash the maid oooo, that na sure banker. You like talk about morality, talk about dogs, to hell with those silly arguments. Funny how women talk at times, it is a man's world give or take. I cheat, you live the house, you cheat you still leave the house. period. just do your duties as a wife and i do my duties as a husband. I married you and not the maid so if the maid plays your role she should as well receive her reward. That's all.

shot ur trap:

My dear I pity u. U are just another crazy f**l on this blog. I am a man, if my woman does all the op said above. She doesn't cook my food, to her saturdays are for party and hanging out with friends. Then when u come back u are exhausted and tired and want to sleep. No time for the man. When u know he only has the weekends to spend with u. He works throughout week day.

Pls leave all this foolish western life that we see in white men's movies.imagine coming back and ur wife is never there to welcome u. But when she need money or favor she appears like an Apparition to ask for it. If he doesn't give u don't care. But she she is never at home.
I pity u poeple. If u do this to me as a man, I will not only sleep with our maid, I will sleep with ur friends, sisters, enemies. What rubbish.

Its like the wrong is now the norm in our society and people now feel anything goes. A woman should take care of her home. Not put some one to assist her while she runs around for useless things. It means I married that person that is always around to tend to my needs. I just got vexed by SHOLLYPOPZ comment. Nonsense

Popowaa: As if you dont knw some men,even if the woman get doctrate degree for phucking skills e never go sati am.E go wan taste agbero poosie see hw e dey taste.

Shollypopz: The op is just another brainwashed product of an undisciplined man....

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lorretta u: and while u r at it,I hope u sleep with ur mom and sisters too.I.M.B.E.C.I.L.E

berem: Some wives perform all their marital duties and their husbands still cheat with the maids.OP is either you are high on Ammonium Chloride or you are on a verge of loosing your husband to your maid.Mtscheeeew!

~vicky~:
The mistake most women make is when they hire a domestic worker(maid), they fold their arms and become "madams",who do not lift a finger in the house. A wife must ALWAYS perfom her w.ifely duties with or without a maid.
Men are attracted by character not status or the money their wives make. Most 'modern' wives leave all the work to maids including cooking and serving the man, cleaning the marital bedroom, ironing the man's clothes etc. When you let your man closely interact with the maid as she is serving him, she will definitely end up serving him all the way!!! Women can say this is an excuse. Well it may be, but ignore it at your own peril.

Lilimax: I married a man that is God fearing. The trust and love I have towards him will never allow him to betray me.

Mynd_44: Just when I thought NL cannot desend lower. Now women are making excuses for cheating husbands. See Gobe ooooo.

The truth is that a cheat will cheat no matter what. I have heard some men say the reason they cheat is because their wife is always home and they don't have a chance to miss her. Some men say the wife is always away so they miss her too much. Even the ones married to women who balance things gets cheated one.

Let's be honest here, a dog will always be a dog. There is no way you can defencd or excuse his actions.

And while we are on this issue, i hope the OP and her supporters (The ones that liked that piece of thrash included) can defend a woman who sleeps with the driver cos the husband is always going on business trips

Fellonigerians: Useless excuse... Why wont the man demand that the wife perform her duties well

So if na houseboy nko will he start sleeping with him

Mynd_44:
Another very silly arguement. So it in now the nature of men to cheat? Where do you people get your results from sef?

So because a lot of people are dishonest that means humans are dishonest? Or because a lot of Nigerian youths are into fraud it means it is their nature to be fraudstas right?

It is a personnal thing and it arises cos they are not disciplined or are greedy. Stop defending silliness and speak where the truth is.