Aleovera: A friend said married men are very normal people, it is just that they are married! She said this when I once questioned how a girl would have inappropriate relations with a man, knowing he is married. We often feel we gat it under control and certain things are beneath us but alas...

@ 190: Thank you for dropping a line.

Aleovera: Not only did I find such circumstances disgustingly annoying but also judged the ladies as silly, stupid, gullible, irresponsible, thoughtless, selfish and cruel

Aleovera: Ogugua, thank you for the welcome. Honestly babe I understand why you seem so vexed and can relate with the passion your post exudes. Reason is I have been at the very place you are. I think you kinda misunderstood the content of my post, I did not leave my boyfriend for a married man, ( I fell in love not loose my mind). The reason I took a break was not to play the victim as you also wrongly assumed, but to re-evaluate things.

I have no intention of stealing any woman's man because I do not see myself having a meaningful relationship with a man who is already taken. Like I said, this thread is to assist all(myself included) who have been entangled in wring relationships to take the bold step of getting out by discussing meaningful ways to do that.

Get rid of the judgmental attitude!

Aleovera: Ogugua, thank you for the welcome. Honestly babe I understand why you seem so vexed and can relate with the passion your post exudes. Reason is I have been at the very place you are. I think you kinda misunderstood the content of my post, I did not leave my boyfriend for a married man, ( I fell in love not loose my mind). The reason I took a break was not to play the victim as you also wrongly assumed, but to re-evaluate things.

I have no intention of stealing any woman's man because I do not see myself having a meaningful relationship with a man who is already taken. Like I said, this thread is to assist all(myself included) who have been entangled in wring relationships to take the bold step of getting out by discussing meaningful ways to do that.

Get rid of the judgmental attitude!

WackyJ1: Except i purposely decide to cheat. I can never and will never.. Once i have said i won't cheat, i won't cheat, now assuming i am your boo have you given me reason to stick to my promise? Is what you did my reward for being faithful?

baibijay: You know, you have a point in your 1st point, sometimes we do things we never believe we can do... So, I ll try not to Judge you.
But If you are trying to justify flaws then you are not ready to make amends.

As for you friend,
Tell her to stay away from married men, they are taken that is what make them different.

ogugua88:

[size=13pt]Na, you truly don't understand. If you're cheating with a married man, then you don't understand. Put yourself in the man's wife shoes. If they have children, put yourself in their shoes as well. Then, consider the implications of all of them finding out.

I didn't misunderstand you. You said you cheated on your partner with a married man and took a break from your current boyfriend. I don't think it gets any more explicit than that. What is there to reevaluate? You don't love your boyfriend if you're hiding this from him and telling yourself you've fallen in love with another woman's husband.

If you have no intention of stealing someone else's husband, then cut your ties with him and face your own partner. I know what you or anyone else will say. "It's not that simple". Of course it's not that simple. Why? For one of two reasons. Either because you don't know what you want, or because you want the two of them simultaneously.

Make your choice. The options are actually crystal clear.[/size]

Aleovera: I really am excited reading your posts. Its a clear reflection of how much I have grown! Try to get out of yourself, I mean attempt not to respond from the basis of your values and principles, just be a bit open minded. I am telling you, that even as I type this I am in shock that this could happen to me, all because I thought so highly of myself and took things for granted and was caught unawares!

I have attempted to cut ties with him but still slip occasionally. You are currently in love I suppose, imagine he is the wrong person and you have to let go, how do you do that? That's why its not that simple.

Aleovera:

Are you sure about this?

DigitalSignal:
Are you saying that what you believed in was wrong because you have cheated on your man and known the truth?

WackyJ1:
Very very Sure.
I've seen girls i've been attracted to while i was with her but i never collected number or even called...
I never want to do something that would hurt the person i care about especially if i imagine myself being the one cheated on. I imagine the pain it would cause me and even though it is possible that she would never find out, i just remember how unfair it would be and how ironic it would be to do something to someone i cared for. Well this was what i believed till she left me for someone else and now you're coming to tell me this. Any hope for the female race ?

Aleovera:

Of course not! That would be mighty silly of me. Actually, this situation has made me more open minded, realizing how careful I should be about taking things for granted. Before now, I didn't have issues relating with men, married or not because I thought certain boundaries can NEVER be crossed! But with this situation, I thread veeeeery carefully knowing temptations happen and the seemingly untouchable can fall carelessly.

WackyJ1:
Sometimes i don't understand you women. How old are you sef that you're acting like a freaking uni teenager? Dont you know what you want? Don't you love your boyfriend? How can you fall in love with a married man? Does your love have no reason?

Okay okay. It's too bad what you did but lets leave that. Look at your plan now, you want to give your boyfriend heart trouble by calling for a break with no good reason and then you plan to come back to your boyfriend when you're ready and keep the secret from him? Is it fair? We may not judge you for your mistake but i damn well will judge you from your current action, infact from what you're doing now, were you ever whom you claimed to be? Why don't you want to do the right thing

Aleovera:

Don't misunderstand me. She said that to make me understand that the
fact that they are married doesn't make them less appealing. They are
just as easy to like as a single dude and the title married doesn't make
them abnormal but just out of bounds.

I used to think I could NEVER be found in certain situations, this kind
is even unthinkable! But the fact that it did has made me more careful
about a lot of things.

baibijay:



Are you still making excuses for yourself? Mehn thatz a silly, you are xo not sorry, I bet if you see some damn goodlooking guys tmrw he tell you he is some1's dearest hubby well, if you are single @ that time I see you will still jump into it

Enegod: reasons why you cheated on your bf with a married man;
1.your bf couldn't satisfy you financially and you now turn to runz gal...you were attracted to his wealth or
2. your bf couldn't satisfy you sexually,maybe his tyn is like his last finger...and you startd looking for married men coz you were told they have experience..
op may God forgives you

WackyJ1: This world is totally not fair... Hope boyfriend kept backup oh. Odikwa necessary