Symphony007: thanks in part to you guys i have made a decision but i won't say it here, if i do, i will disappiont those who don't agree with me. As you can see from the comment, some folks are really vocal about this. So it's better i preserve my decision and appreciate all the comments.

infoscope: You must be a proud brat.. As of now MTN foundation scholarship is the highest paying at 200,000 per session. NLNG is 100k and shell is 75k, so you need to tell me how you came up with such inflated figures. BTW you are not supposed to be in more than one scholarship. What's your full name?

infoscope: You must be a proud brat.. As of now MTN foundation scholarship is the highest paying at 200,000 per session. NLNG is 100k and shell is 75k, so you need to tell me how you came up with such inflated figures. BTW you are not supposed to be in more than one scholarship. What's your full name?

uche13: @ OP, sorry to say but it seems like your girlfriend is the one calling the shots in your relationship. I am looking at the bigger picture and not just because she asked for your pin. She sounds controlling and authoritative. You also seem to act like a sissy that your girlfriend has to help, push and motivate you to do things. There is entirely nothing wrong in that as women were created to be helpers and most successful men have good wives who encourage and motivate them into greatness. However, there is a limit.

I admire the fact that she is encouraging you towards investing and not squandering the scholarship money you would receive but that does not mean she should get your atm pin and monitor your spending. She should trust that you have a sensible head on your shoulders not to waste your money and I am sorry to say that if she does not trust you in that regard, then that is a bigger issue.

I am not against couples divulging their atm pins to each other (I have that of my fiance) but I never requested for it. However, I am totally against her reason for wanting your pin. So what would happen na? she would notice a withdrawal and maybe you would get a paper and pen and be asked to write down and account on every kobo spent. Nonsense!!!.

You really need to work on yourself. If your girlfriend cannot trust your sense of judgment then the relationship is headed for the rocks. This is because she would get tired of being the one pushing, encouraging and motivating you and understanding how intelligent she is, she would look for a man that would also bring out the best in her and lead her because every lady wants a man they can look upto in every aspect.

As for your girlfriend, that's the problem with some of we ladies. Not knowing where to draw the line. You can bring out the best in your partner without tampering with his ego and making it seem like he is being controlled.

By the way I don't buy into the nonsense of splitting the money with her. Yes be grateful for her help and buy her gifts or even give her some money but that is where it ends. Does it mean because an uncle helped me secure a job that I should start sharing my salary with him?. Wont I just thank him, buy a gift in appreciation and if he requires any financial assistance in the future and I can help, I would gladly oblige him?

Normal Nigerian mentality. I helped you secure a job or political appointment and you must then always do my bidding.

SMH!!!

50calibre: Why should you give her any money, was that part of the agreement?

@OP look this world is a very tough place, survival of fittest, learn to back-stab anyone, don't be afraid to hurt anyone's feelings as far as you get what you want, the end justifies the means.

50calibre: Why should you give her any money, was that part of the agreement?

@(˘^˘)[b] look this world is a very tough place, survival of fittest, learn to back-stab anyone, don't be afraid to hurt anyone's feelings as far as you get what you want, the end justifies the means.

shakaz: @Op, I must commend you for your astuteness.
Again congrats for making front page.
I will comeback to this topic. BUT 1ST LET ME BEGIN WITH A CONCLUSION, If you are this shrewd why not try converting it in a positive way, I suggest you write a book with the late Napoleon Hills you should name it ''THINK and GROW POPULAR'' no sarcasm!!

Now back to your life, late June this year you created a topic about your gf not having accomodation and wanting you two to live together. That shows she'z not always thinking straight or not as smart as you say she.
Early last month(July) same you created a thread about ''A dean in your faculty of law age 30, appointed by RECTOR of YOUR UNIVERSITY who wanted you to impregnate her''.. Well after much critism on that thread and insult on how the story was fabricated and how that same story has appeared years ago in blogs.same thread explain 30year old being a dean is not feasible and how a University is headed by a vice chancellor not a rector.
You still have the zeal of creating yet another repugnant story.
NB:1. NLNG n SHELL are open to all state they might give preference to host community but all states can apply.
2. The amount you stated was far far exaggerated.

Having said this, My advice to you is get to know your hobby it could be weaving(fabric----ation). Anything to get your busy because an Idle brain they say.........

Symphony007: Hey guys. My girlfriend and i have been dating for a while and we are in the university.

She is a genius, i'm not dull but slightly lazy and rhusty in some courses.

Since we started dating. She took it upon herself to tutor me.

Forced me to go to night classes and read, supervise all my assignments. And surprisingly i improved greatly and i sat for NLNG and SHELL scholarship.

At the end shockingly. My name came out and today i am getting 300 thousand from LNG per session and 200,000 from shell. So plus the money i get from my parents.

My account is chilling but now my girlfriend is asking me to share all my financial data with her, from ATM pins to account details and investments.

It's really bothering me cause i don't think it's right but yet i don't want to seem ungrateful. My friends have told me not to try it.

Now i am not stingy, i buy her gifts and take her on expensive dinners. But why does she want those details and do you think i should trust her and give her?

ocelot2006:

You gave her the damn info....jeez...pls feel free to hand over your balls and spine, bruv, cos you're now a confirmed wussy maga. Feel free to pick up your brand new vagina on your way out.

ekwah:

Damn Are you saying OP is just a story teller? OP come and defend yourself o. Hmmm...

dangiwa09:


You're still a STUDENT, why do you need EXPENSIVE DINNERS?

shakaz: @Op, I must commend you for your astuteness.
Again congrats for making front page.
I will comeback to this topic. BUT 1ST LET ME BEGIN WITH A CONCLUSION, If you are this shrewd why not try converting it in a positive way, I suggest you write a book with the late Napoleon Hills you should name it ''THINK and GROW POPULAR'' no sarcasm!!

Now back to your life, late June this year you created a topic about your gf not having accomodation and wanting you two to live together. That shows she'z not always thinking straight or not as smart as you say she.
Early last month(July) same you created a thread about ''A dean in your faculty of law age 30, appointed by RECTOR of YOUR UNIVERSITY who wanted you to impregnate her''.. Well after much critism on that thread and insult on how the story was fabricated and how that same story has appeared years ago in blogs.same thread explain 30year old being a dean is not feasible and how a University is headed by a vice chancellor not a rector.
You still have the zeal of creating yet another repugnant story.
NB:1. NLNG n SHELL are open to all state they might give preference to host community but all states can apply.
2. The amount you stated was far far exaggerated.

Having said this, My advice to you is get to know your hobby it could be weaving(fabric----ation). Anything to get your busy because an Idle brain they say.........

freecocoa: I didn't even see this post before giving my advice so you see, I had a feeling this is what her reason could be.

I felt like that cos its something I would do but only if I'm sure the man I'm with isn't good with spending money.

OP I understand your skepticism cos tbh it takes a whole lot to trust someone with all you have but then, you should be able to make this decision based on how far you've come with this girl, is she the type who would stay with you through thick and thin? Has money always been an issue with you two? Does she have some money of her own and doesn't expect you to shoulder all her responsibilities? Is she materialistic? Am I handling money the right way? Do I give her a reason to feel I'm not my best when it comes to money issues?

Questions like the above are what you should ask yourself before reaching a conclusion.


Nope!!! U dont need someone's ATM pin to monitor his account. How do u want to do it? Are U in custody of the ATM card or u will be sneaking it out of his wallet to monitor? or ask him for it to go check the account Looks fishy to me. If you wanna monitor someone's account, just ask for his internet banking user name and ID. and the guy should keep his token far away or not even use token at all (endure the pain of going to the bank regularly / better still begin the use of mobile wallet app on ur fone). Like this she can see all transactions made on the account.

sexkillz: You've been an obedient puppy from get go. Are you refusing to obey this time around because money is involved? You smelt money and suddenly remembered you have balls?

You allowed her run your life happily. You have never complained about her nor the sacrifices she has done and undergone for you. How many girls will teach and encourage a boy these days? Stand by him and make sure he takes his books seriously? Nudge him to apply for an exam, and coach him to success? Those are the qualities of a wife. It's a pity and a shame that you have chosen to look at the financial aspect alone.

A person who is grateful will share that money into 2 and give her half, just to show appreciation. Count how many blessings that have come to you because she was there. Now she is bad because money is coming your way.

Shame on you my brother, shame on you.

Some people do not know what they have, until it's taken away from them. In few years to come, you'll be looking for a "wife material".

How many present day wives have the interests of their husbands at heart like this girl does?

Smh.