Amelian: Pls lemme ask a question, what if the parents are late ....both mum and dad? Is it also compulsory to do it in the villa , head by extend families?

Chillisauce:

Our tradition states I be with my husband. To love and cherish ....

I can do the traditional any where I want. In my dictionary, safety first! Am very uncomfortable with security men with guns posing as a body guards for such occasion, the main thing is the church wedding.

Tradition ko, tradition ni....one thing I understand in life is that you reap what you sow. You did yours in the small city, in 20yrs ur daughter might do hers without inviting you after all she must love and cherish her husband and live with her husband.
As long as my present famile came for my wedding..I couldn't careless about fvck tradition.

Nwa Anambra: look at this retard. u and ur family were banished from ur godforsaken village, that was why u did ur trad wedding in ur shiitty base.

stillwater:

People like you.

I don't live my life by what culture dictates, tufiakwa. It is how it pleases me and what's convenient for my guests when that day comes. If that is too hard for people like you to understand in the 21st century, please beg the forces that be to spit you back to 1656 BC.

Phiozy: Please I need an answer ASAP. My cousin is getting married soon, and this has been bothering her seriously. She happens to be Igbo, but with a mother from Kwara state(yoruba).

The children are very close to their mother who despite being married to an Igbo man, despises the Igbos(especially Umu village). Unfortunately, they(my cousins) were all born and brought up in the North, and they understand yoruba only, depise Igbos too, and have never being to the village.

Now my cousin is getting married(to a yoruba man) and wants her wedding(white and traditional) here in Abuja, but the dad insists that they must do the traditional marriage in the village or no traditional marriage at all.

I've asked friends around and they said it depends on the village, tradition and her position in the family(1st or 2nd daughter), and luckily for her, she happens to be the second(the 1st daughter who married a yoruba man too, also had same issue, but only did an introduction in form of Traditional marriage and a court marriage here in Abuja).

Although I'm an Ada, grew up in Abuja, but have no problem doing mine in the village if that be the case(maybe because I schooled in the East).


But Please I would like to know, is it COMPULSORY for an Igbo lady to do her traditional marriage in the village?

vivianc: Ama m nke mga ekwu kita oputa okwu Most igbos wey dey do their trad for mba (outside) no get strong kinsmen relationship, or them no even dey in good terms with their kinsmen.

According to our culture, no be only the parents get the daughter.

So if you father no get umunna, it would be easier for you to do your trad na mba.

debrief08:

Biko, what is fake about Abuja marriage abeg? I got married in Abuja should I go and redo it in a village?

Chillisauce:

Our tradition states I be with my husband. To love and cherish ....

I can do the traditional any where I want. In my dictionary, safety first! Am very uncomfortable with security men with guns posing as a body guards for such occasion, the main thing is the church wedding.

Tradition ko, tradition ni....
As long as my present famile came for my wedding..I couldn't careless about fvck tradition.

yellowpawpaw: If I were the guy, I will back off. Love will not make me to marry a gal that hates her root. That's how we will give birth to children that will equaly hate mine eventually.
Mcheeew to Abuja marriage. So fake.

Phema:

Such a myopic view! Like seriously? What is wrong in one having her trad wedding in her father's base? Be it Abuja, USA or London. Does that have anything to do with the sustainability of that marriage? And yes! Some people hate their roots for some reasons best known to them. How does that make them bad husbands/wives? I know you are just ranting cos they mentioned Ibo.

OP, if your friend's father insists that the wedding must be in the Village, there is really nothing your friend can do. Let her just keep all her hatred for now, do her wedding and then go back to hating the villa again.

Orikinla: Only among primitive people in Nigeria.

eagle,eye:

wetin you think say be traditional wedding?
You think that dancing and eating is traditional wedding? SMH
Chai.... the paying of bride price or dues as you labelled it, is the traditional wedding..... and the money (no matter how small or big) is collected in the village. Other things you decide to do after that is Jara.

omonnakoda: I believe the OP is Ibo as all Ibos identify with one village or the other(Umunna Tinz ) .Not all Nigerians are from a village though

eagle,eye:

It is only an Efulefu, that talks like this..... you should have begged the gods to create you as a alian

yellowpawpaw: If I were the guy, I will back off. Love will not make me to marry a gal that hates her root. That's how we will give birth to children that will equaly hate mine eventually.
Mcheeew to Abuja marriage. So fake.

bukatyne: Are we having this discussion in 2013? Lol!

Chillisauce: D thread don enter front page., small small cockroaches have come to roast .

Oya make haterz begin chop my s hit!

claremont: It's a good thing I didn't get married to my Igbo ex, so I would have been compelled to go all the way to her remote village for the traditional?!

Nonsense and backward culture.