vivianc: I can't imagine myself having my trad in BY, Phc, Abj, London, or any place other than my father's compound in my hometown. Tufiakwa!!! Chineke ekwena ka ngwere gbaa achii! Ada di ka m? My trad won't even happen in an uncle's compound o, ama nna m echiri echi? Ashi gbagbuo kwa ihe ojoor! What then would be my pride? Or I should tell a man "eh, my umunna are evil, after all they didn't contribute a dime to what i am today so let's forget about those witches and wizard at home and their stupid tradition?" hehehehehe maka na adara m na elu? If they are witches and wizard, i'm one of them, any man that would marry me would have me given to him by these wizards and it wouldn't made me a little proud.

Like I said earlier, the Igbos that do this otherwise were either ostracised by their umunna, or they are osu, etc.

Infact, its even humiliating for a man to stand alone without being backed by his umunna in any traditional thing he does. So any father who can stand this humiliation indeed has something to hide, period.

Ok, let me picture another scenario where you would hire a bus and tell your umunna to enter, they are going to their daughter's traditional marriage in Lagos or Abuja.

Wetin I no go hear for nairaland?

Phiozy: Please I need an answer ASAP. My cousin is getting married soon, and this has been bothering her seriously. She happens to be Igbo, but with a mother from Kwara state(yoruba).

The children are very close to their mother who despite being married to an Igbo man, despises the Igbos(especially Umu village). Unfortunately, they(my cousins) were all born and brought up in the North, and they understand yoruba only, depise Igbos too, and have never being to the village.

Now my cousin is getting married(to a yoruba man) and wants her wedding(white and traditional) here in Abuja, but the dad insists that they must do the traditional marriage in the village or no traditional marriage at all.

I've asked friends around and they said it depends on the village, tradition and her position in the family(1st or 2nd daughter), and luckily for her, she happens to be the second(the 1st daughter who married a yoruba man too, also had same issue, but only did an introduction in form of Traditional marriage and a court marriage here in Abuja).

Although I'm an Ada, grew up in Abuja, but have no problem doing mine in the village if that be the case(maybe because I schooled in the East).


But Please I would like to know, is it COMPULSORY for an Igbo lady to do her traditional marriage in the village?

manny4life:


That's people for you na, so no blame them..

vivianc:

My dear its shocking how some people reason, i wonder if they reason with their azzes, instead of their brains. I understand alot of them are kids anyway but..........ah ah, is common sense so scarce now?

Imagine a poster saying that the lady should call her dad bluff, if he doesn't want to attend the trad no biggie. So this begs for this question; if the lady's father doesn't attend the trad, who would they (the husband's people) pay the traditional rites to? Me?

Honestly, common sense is not common at all.

COOLDUN:

Ezigbo Nwada Igbo ka ibu nne m, ya dikwara gi na nma ruo mgbe ebighiebi, iseeeeee !!!, Nne nwata nwayi ana ekwu okwu ya ebe a abughi anu oriri n'ala ndi yoruba, ga kwa juo ajuju. Nna ya amaghi mgbe ojiri luo onye aka ikpe yoruba, ya mere ajo nwayi ahu jiri kpachie umu ha n'ile.

Kee ihe na achu nwayi a oso n'ala ndi umu di ya? obu maka na obughi ndi ezigbo ya, omara go na ndi obodo di ya amatago na obu osu ndi yoruba, ya mere ojiri choo ka okee umu ha ndi nwayi di n'ala ndi ozo.

The mother of the girl is the main problem here, if the helpless man cannot bring them home for the traditional marriage let him stay back and let the wife marry the girl out, because he lost his children from the day he married the spy who love him.

The pride of every girl is to bring her husband and his kinsmen to her home town, even if her father has no house, it is only a day ceremony. Thank you my dear for standing for the truth. God will make you proud the day you will bring your husband home to your kinsmen, if is during the raining season, sun will shine throughout the ceremony period for you. Your guests will come peacefully and get back to their home peacefully in Jesus name. Amen.

Chillisauce:

Our tradition states I be with my husband. To love and cherish ....

I can do the traditional any where I want. In my dictionary, safety first! Am very uncomfortable with security men with guns posing as a body guards for such occasion, the main thing is the church wedding.

Tradition ko, tradition ni....
As long as my present famile came for my wedding..I couldn't careless about fvck tradition.



My der u ar not we'll informed sha so I blame ur parent for the upbringing they gave u if u wed in the church with trditional rites sorry u are not married even in the site of God even the bible said the father of the girl and the kinsmen will give the bride to the man not the priest to me church weding is ceremony the koko is the traditional marriage
2 the op if ur cousin can't go to the village for the traditional marriage she can send money for the kins men to perform the rite.
In Igbo land is an obsolent practice to perform traditional rite in township bt due to the present security challenge we have in the country things are changing u can send the fund for the kins men to do the rite

Dallas Cowgirl: Seriously, I want a proper, well organized Yoruba wedding.

I be proper proud omo Yoruba pelu proper Yoruba tradition ati culture.

Sugbon, na terrestrial power go bring me back to Naija wey dem dey bomb pesin like chicken

Ngodigha:
Boy, take your time, it's about Igbo trado marriage. What affects Ndigbo doesn't affect the Yorugbas. We are not same.

Igbo people here who were breast properly by their mothers have condemned the act of not doing it in their village. So stop seeking cheap attention here.

Dallas Cowgirl: Seriously, I want a proper, well organized Yoruba wedding.

I be proper proud omo Yoruba pelu proper Yoruba tradition ati culture.

Sugbon, na terrestrial power go bring me back to Naija wey dem dey bomb pesin like chicken

Dallas Cowgirl:

Well, that explains the backwardness of this thread.

Carry go.

Yorubas all the way......

Ngodigha:
This sort of thing is not done in the city. Ndigbo do it in their villages to show their roots and connections with their kins.
Moreover, you dont have villages and kins. This thread is not for your likes.
Once again, quit the thread poor boy.

Dallas Cowgirl:



unnecessarily trying to deter the thread from its Yoruba awesomeness.


Kini problem e?

Speak my sexy Yoruba to me, my friend. So fun mi problem e

Dallas Cowgirl:



unnecessarily trying to deter the thread from its Yoruba awesomeness.


Kini problem e?

Speak my sexy Yoruba to me, my friend. So fun mi problem e

Dallas Cowgirl:



unnecessarily trying to deter the thread from its Yoruba awesomeness.


Kini problem e?

Speak my sexy Yoruba to me, my friend. So fun mi problem e

Please I need an answer ASAP. My cousin is getting married soon, and this has been bothering her seriously. She happens to be Igbo, but with a mother from Kwara state(yoruba).

The children are very close to their mother who despite being married to an Igbo man, despises the Igbos(especially Umu village). Unfortunately, they(my cousins) were all born and brought up in the North, and they understand yoruba only, depise Igbos too, and have never being to the village.

Now my cousin is getting married(to a yoruba man) and wants her wedding(white and traditional) here in Abuja, but the dad insists that they must do the traditional marriage in the village or no traditional marriage at all.

I've asked friends around and they said it depends on the village, tradition and her position in the family(1st or 2nd daughter), and luckily for her, she happens to be the second[b](the 1st daughter who married a yoruba man too, also had same issue, but only did an introduction in form of Traditional marriage and a court marriage here in Abuja)[/b].

Although I'm an Ada, grew up in Abuja, but have no problem doing mine in the village if that be the case(maybe because I schooled in the East).


But Please I would like to know, is it COMPULSORY for an Igbo lady to do her traditional marriage in the village?

Like I said earlier, the Igbos that do this otherwise were either ostracised by their umunna, or they are osu, etc.

Infact, its even humiliating for a man to stand alone without being backed by his umunna in any traditional thing he does. So any father who can stand this humiliation indeed has something to hide, period.

Dallas Cowgirl:



unnecessarily trying to deter the thread from its Yoruba awesomeness.


Kini problem e?

Speak my sexy Yoruba to me, my friend. So fun mi problem e

pazienza:

Lies. Nobody in Igboland force anybody to spend more than his ability,in the name of traditional wedding ceremony. What happens is that there is this silent competition going on,where shallow people try to outdo each other in the name of traditional marriage. Once you pay the dowry and everyother thing that comes with it,you are good to go.

haminac:

Are you ibo? I am Ibo, from mbaise. The village peeps actually have a list that they give ur husband or his people. The dowry is negotiable during the trad wedding, but you must bring everything on the list, if not, the village folks will tell your husbands people that they are not ready to marry their daughter. So they do not consider what you can afford or what you cannot afford. This tradition we all talk about is man made, just like how laws, legislation, rules and regulations are created. If you believe in tradition, no one is saying you should throw away your heritage. Life as we know it evolves. In the past, there are communities that forbid going to hospital. That is not the case anymore in most communities I hope. This is a change in tradition for better. Just because it is tradition does not mean it is the right thing to do. It is tradition in some places to eat human flesh. is that right, no. in some traditions a wife is supposed to drink the water used to wash he mother in laws corpse, if they were not in good terms, is that right, no. Look at technology, why are using computer, Internet, instead of following the ways of our ancestors. I can go on and on, we can all have tradition, but not to the detriment of the people.

pazienza:

Lies. Nobody in Igboland force anybody to spend more than his ability,in the name of traditional wedding ceremony. What happens is that there is this silent competition going on,where shallow people try to outdo each other in the name of traditional marriage. Once you pay the dowry and everyother thing that comes with it,you are good to go.

Afam4eva:
Foreign culture...First, it's that we mustn't hold our traditional wedding in our ancestral home. Very soon, it will be that, we mustn't invite elders from the village. We can make do with the elders that are where we're based. Whether or nor they're from our village or tribe. Then very soon, it will graduate to, why must we even wear our traditional attire in our traditional wedding, why not a suit or evening gown. Afterall the world is a global village...Is it not better to just not do a traditional marriage than to make a mockery of it. Afterall, a lot of Nigerians have come to embrace White Wedding as the main wedding while the Traditional wedding is peripheral.

omonnakoda: How traditional is this attire. Are those baby hats Ibo made Most of the so called traditional Ibo attire is "imported" just like much of what is seen in the Niger Delta like GEJ's hat

omonnakoda: How traditional is this attire. Are those baby hats Ibo made Most of the so called traditional Ibo attire is "imported" just like much of what is seen in the Niger Delta like GEJ's hat