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Can A Physically Abused Woman In A Marriage Work Things Out With Her Husband ? / Help! I Am Being Physically Abused By My Wife! What Will I Do? / Wives, Girlfriends, Partners Please Tell Me You All Have Experienced This Too. . (2) (3) (4)
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Re: For Abused Wives, Girlfriends & Men!!! by zeelo2014: 1:43pm On Sep 19, 2013 |
mysticgal: i have heard of this types of marriage,seen them with my korokoro eye,i can't even dream of letting an insane mad man touch me,i will will definately tear his heart from his back and implant it on his chest lobatanHmmmm. Initial gra gra. I blame women that want to marry made-men or established men by all means. They don't want to build from the scratch they just want to enter luxury. Can't imagine beating my wife that I met just after NYSC before getting a job,knows me in & out,when I was nothing,just because I feel have got something now feel I can beat someone that helped me up too. For women that are being abused u have only 2 options: 1. Be a zombie, don't alter a word to him,don't object to anything he says,let him be ur Lord or. 2 If u can't treat him like ur god even if he's acting like a beast. Pls kindly pack ur load & go while u're alive.simple! U CAN'T CHANGE AN ABUSIVE MAN/WOMAN. 2 Likes |
Re: For Abused Wives, Girlfriends & Men!!! by johnnyblakes(m): 1:43pm On Sep 19, 2013 |
peggykorol: Once a man starts abusing the wife physically,he won't stop.it goes on and on.thats how mine started and I thought it would be the last.i know some people on NL feel am not real or I caused my problem myself but you are free to feel or think however you wantSO AS BIG AS YOU ARE,YOU DONT KNOW WHERE GUNS ARE SOLD.KAI U DEY FALL MY HAND OOOOO 1 Like |
Re: For Abused Wives, Girlfriends & Men!!! by AjanleKoko: 1:45pm On Sep 19, 2013 |
mbulela: In the Nigerian context, I tend to agree with the pastor's advice. Little else for the woman to do really. I say in the Nigerian context because, in a different society, the woman could have called the police, or filed for divorce. Both of which are usually not viable options down here. If she intends to stay in the marriage, she'd better watch how she speaks to the dude. |
Re: For Abused Wives, Girlfriends & Men!!! by mysticgal(f): 1:45pm On Sep 19, 2013 |
xy and zeelo believe me this is no story or igg,all the hustling about made men haha ok you mean i should marry begger before i would avoid violence research shows that poor men beat their wifes out of frustration |
Re: For Abused Wives, Girlfriends & Men!!! by swagqueen(f): 1:46pm On Sep 19, 2013 |
Donxavier: I've already told my parents and they are supportive.I've started calling my contacts at CAC to send clients my way.my sister wants to send things from America that i can sell wholesale so I'm negotiating with managers of some supermarkets here. My MIL and FIL say i shouldn't leave but um gonna bid time.at least to garner some money to take care of myself n the kids. 1 Like |
Re: For Abused Wives, Girlfriends & Men!!! by Nobody: 1:46pm On Sep 19, 2013 |
Tho some ladies deserves to be beaten but even at that, I can never and would never lay a finger on my woman.i rather leave that relationship if the woman is stressful. ... |
Re: For Abused Wives, Girlfriends & Men!!! by mysticgal(f): 1:48pm On Sep 19, 2013 |
Re: For Abused Wives, Girlfriends & Men!!! by Donjazzy12(m): 1:48pm On Sep 19, 2013 |
Caracta:Yeah we are very real as her problems are! She is very vulnerable and may fall into another trap.These days lesbians are even more desperate than men. Know a case of a lesbian General Overseer of a Church that kept female sex slaves in her house. She called them her special assistants! Special indeed! The girls main routine each day is to kneel down between her legs for hours tonguing her kinikon until she is satisfied. She was only exposed when one of the girls was bold enough to escape and told her story to a lawyer. So lesbian molesters in Nigeria is very real! 2 Likes |
Re: For Abused Wives, Girlfriends & Men!!! by fedilia: 1:51pm On Sep 19, 2013 |
stay low n get urslf smthg doing nxt time he tries hitting u standup for urslf n let hm know dat u re a human being n not an animal even animals defend themself nt b scared of him evn if u are dnt let it show he has no d rite 2 treat u dat way 1 Like |
Re: For Abused Wives, Girlfriends & Men!!! by Nobody: 1:51pm On Sep 19, 2013 |
swag queen:Good @ highlighted portion. In fact you can start working on helping people in similar situations as yours, once you get your self sorted out. |
Re: For Abused Wives, Girlfriends & Men!!! by Nobody: 1:52pm On Sep 19, 2013 |
dowjones: sorrystories.com! I will not mind standing as the bad guy but i'll drop my 2 cents. completely agree with you |
Re: For Abused Wives, Girlfriends & Men!!! by Nobody: 1:53pm On Sep 19, 2013 |
AjanleKoko: Please tell me why filing for divorce is not a viable option. You assume every woman is from a very poor background and has no money of her own right? |
Re: For Abused Wives, Girlfriends & Men!!! by johnnyblakes(m): 1:55pm On Sep 19, 2013 |
Vincent 4: FOOL |
Re: For Abused Wives, Girlfriends & Men!!! by Nobody: 1:55pm On Sep 19, 2013 |
swag queen: Great. Good to know you are on the right path. In your own mind, do you still think your marriage is redeemable? Does your husband care about his kids? |
Re: For Abused Wives, Girlfriends & Men!!! by Les: 1:56pm On Sep 19, 2013 |
Donjazzy12: FINALLY........THE TRUTH!no truth, do you judge this case by what a family went through?? People are different, families differ, mentality differs. As a critical thinker, I'm yet to fault the op, if u have been able to spot any, let me know, but if you have not, stick to the problem at hand and stop looking for a complementary problem. And the problem here is how to stop the op from being abused and not what she does that make her to be abused by her husband • 2 Likes |
Re: For Abused Wives, Girlfriends & Men!!! by ferhyntorlah(f): 1:59pm On Sep 19, 2013 |
swag queen: Same for me too. Such attitude is highly disrespectful. |
Re: For Abused Wives, Girlfriends & Men!!! by Nobody: 2:00pm On Sep 19, 2013 |
Les: no truth, do you judge this case by what a family went through?? People are different, families differ, mentality differs. As a critical thinker, I'm yet to fault the op, if u have been able to spot any, let me know, but if you have not, stick to the problem at hand and stop looking for a complementary problem.and how do you get a solution to a problem without Knowing the cause? |
Re: For Abused Wives, Girlfriends & Men!!! by mysticgal(f): 2:02pm On Sep 19, 2013 |
oh God oh. God |
Re: For Abused Wives, Girlfriends & Men!!! by ajanaku2(m): 2:02pm On Sep 19, 2013 |
Really, what kind of Man beats a defenceless, weaker feminine gender? A Coward, I suppose! And a Beast too, considering the fragile and soft nature of the Feminine body structure... Some Females can be so annoying though but I think the greatest punishment to mete out on such unruly Females is to simply ignore them! They hate being ignored! 1 Like |
Re: For Abused Wives, Girlfriends & Men!!! by AjanleKoko: 2:02pm On Sep 19, 2013 |
Nashville: Not at all. But there is a very distinct social stigma associated with divorced women in Nigeria. It has nothing to do with the woman's income. And of course you are likely to not get any support from anybody if you report your husband to the police in Nigeria. Neither your family nor your husband's. |
Re: For Abused Wives, Girlfriends & Men!!! by ehiblessing(f): 2:03pm On Sep 19, 2013 |
We women have to knw what we want in a marriage b4 we go in, nobody is too big 4 an abuse, my husband beat me once and he can say what he went tru to get me back, cos i ve always said that a man cannot beat me but when it happened i took a bold step and left d hux with my phones switch off i did not even tell anybody at home, but had to cos of my families concern. And when we where called to explain wht happened d only thing i could say was if he tried d rubbish again i wud leave his hux without coming back and i meant it cos i dont c any reason why i shd be at an abuSive marriage. 4 Likes |
Re: For Abused Wives, Girlfriends & Men!!! by kadman(m): 2:06pm On Sep 19, 2013 |
Ujujoan: Thunder fire the head of any man who dares abuse me . . . physically or emotionally. To add to what she Ujuan says not only are you being weak but you're breeding another set of women abusers! These women abusers came out of homes like that. Your son is learning and will carry this out on someone else in future. I know you have a lot to contend with, but as long as you stay there add the above to the list! 1 Like |
Re: For Abused Wives, Girlfriends & Men!!! by Nobody: 2:06pm On Sep 19, 2013 |
Am sorry if my words will hurt but you are the cause of your problem. You are hurt already but the truth has to be told. Did you jst say your a lawyer? He already voiced out his problem to you; u are only but a burden to him, you have not added and not even planning to add to him. All you bring out of him is the beast in him. The way u present yourself,that is the way you will be addressed. I wont advs u leave,get yourselve busy to secure a good future for yourself and kids. Men have a way of wanting to be identified with their wives success. For any other facing abuse out there,its time to pick up and say no to it ones and for all. You are not complaining thats why they havent seen it as something wrong. |
Re: For Abused Wives, Girlfriends & Men!!! by 25Calibre(m): 2:07pm On Sep 19, 2013 |
ajanaku2: Really, what kind of Man beats a defenceless, weaker feminine gender? Really? Just hold let the aggressive feminists ( Ring leader Wu Zaitan aka Shollypopz )get hold of you, you'd rethink the above statement. Btw I believe it. |
Re: For Abused Wives, Girlfriends & Men!!! by Les: 2:13pm On Sep 19, 2013 |
Hettymoore:sometimes, the cause of a problem can be a source of a mystery, in such cases, the solution is to look for an escape route and leave the problem behind. Her husband is not her problem, her problem is the abuse and if getting out of the marriage is the only solution, so be it. 1 Like |
Re: For Abused Wives, Girlfriends & Men!!! by samyan12: 2:14pm On Sep 19, 2013 |
Ema prince: Only slapped my sister once and that was like 11yrs ago.I was small anyway.she felt dizzy and i was filled with remorse. Rubbish! Believe this at your own peril. True husband ko. It is very possible to marry wrongly.If a woman's husband dies and she remarries, does that mean the new husband isn't a 'true husband'? |
Re: For Abused Wives, Girlfriends & Men!!! by kadman(m): 2:14pm On Sep 19, 2013 |
Nashville: At OP, you want to whom that woman is? JK Rowling, arthor of the Harry Potter franchise. Today she's a billioniare. She was abused and ran for it. She was homeless but she had her dignity and the love of her child. The love of your child would make you do the impossible, it will motivate you, give you ideas and make you work harder. I'm really pained by this, this is happening in 2013? And not to anyone but to a Lawyer ! You see how we all keep harping about your profession? There's a reason, if you qualified from Law School means you at least used your brain, you worked hard and had determination. Why wouldn't you use all these qualities in real life? You don't have to actual practice law but all these soft skills you developed at school have equipped you for life life situations like this. I'm pained, angry at the world and disappionted in you, because 6 years ago I gave this same advice to a married woman who didn't have SSCE qualifications. I really should NOT have to be telling this to a lawyer. Get out now whislt you aren't broken yet. Because from your posts you still have some spirit - get out before this spirit is broken too. Because once your spirit to fight is gone. . . it's gone ! 5 Likes |
Re: For Abused Wives, Girlfriends & Men!!! by showoff(f): 2:16pm On Sep 19, 2013 |
jay bee: please read the story on page 3. Thanks. |
Re: For Abused Wives, Girlfriends & Men!!! by Nobody: 2:17pm On Sep 19, 2013 |
Les: sometimes, the cause of a problem can be a source of a mystery, in such cases, the solution is to look for an escape route and leave the problem behind. Her husband is not her problem, her problem is the abuse and if getting out of the marriage is the only solution, so be it.why look for escape route when u can address the cause and enjoy a happy life? |
Re: For Abused Wives, Girlfriends & Men!!! by monex(m): 2:20pm On Sep 19, 2013 |
Nashville: Unfortunately, I have nothing to share but an advice to young people still dating. very true about the background thing. all these love nd romantic stuffs sometimes blinds U from his real person. Until you see the way people handle emotions like anger, frustration, excitement etc. U know almost nothing about them |
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