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Re: Banned From Speaking My Language To My Baby by Tricianagal: 11:54pm On Nov 09, 2013 |
Afam4eva: Actually the fact that they didn't divorce is not necessarily because they were happy but rather because most women were fanacially dependent in their husband so they basically had no where to go to. The higher rate of divorce is not so much because people are coping westerners but now women who are miserable in their marriages are no longer trapped since they can survive alone. Let us not blame everything on western world but rather the society has changed since the roles if women has changed a lot. 3 Likes |
Re: Banned From Speaking My Language To My Baby by willibounce: 11:54pm On Nov 09, 2013 |
Infact this topic is very annoying. U want to have a son tht will speak Esan abi Asan language and ur brain doesn't tell u to marry an Esan woman? U for kuku teach ur wife Esan language b4 u marry am so tht she can teach ur son. How is it ever possible not to speak ur native language to ur own child. I am very sure ur husband cannot come out in public to proudly say tht he banned his wife from speaking her language to d child thy gave birth to. Except say ur husband na brickLayer or conductor. But if he is highly educated, he' L kip it as a secret as his colleagues @ wrk n friends mst not know such craap. E ko lo ma fe awon aLakori okunrin sha. SMH 4 Likes |
Re: Banned From Speaking My Language To My Baby by Mujah1deen: 11:55pm On Nov 09, 2013 |
Chatters:women like you end up in coffins 1 Like |
Re: Banned From Speaking My Language To My Baby by Nobody: 11:55pm On Nov 09, 2013 |
Afam4eva: Abeg, I am too tired to point out the ridiculousness of this post. Believe anything you like. 3 Likes |
Re: Banned From Speaking My Language To My Baby by juman(m): 11:55pm On Nov 09, 2013 |
The husband has myopic and parochial understanding of todays world. The world where people learn and speak as many languages as possible. 4 Likes |
Re: Banned From Speaking My Language To My Baby by tintingz(m): 11:57pm On Nov 09, 2013 |
chineloSA:in as much I support your post I don't dig your statement @ bold, women are not properties that they should be changing names ups and down after marriage...Islam marriage is still the best on this, a wife will keep her father's name after marriage. |
Re: Banned From Speaking My Language To My Baby by enigmatique(m): 11:57pm On Nov 09, 2013 |
De Beauvoir:De Beauvoir, you see, Malcolm Muggeridge or G K Chesterton said that before you remove any fence, make enquiries about why it was put their in the first place! The Bible says the wife shld b submissive, why? For example, can two drivers simultaneously hold and control the steering wheel of a car without a fatal accident occuring? Never. So, som1 has to hold the wheel, while the other looks out for him/her. So God chose the man to be the one at the wheel while the woman is supporting, BUT NOT AS A SERVANT OR SLAVE. Men and women are EQUAL(they are just the two sides of the coin called mankind or the human race), but they av different purposes e.g does the woman av muscular a build as the man, or does the man av a womb? Anyway, actually, the woman's power is not in words and noise but it is very powerful(I can explain if you want me to). Even many patriarchs didn't succeed in treating their wives right, but that wasn't how it was meant to be! But no matter what, you can never say that Jesus was a sexist, chauvinist, sexist or anything like that. Your response is welcome. PS: & about being married to a sadost etc, dat is y u must b careful about who you marry. If u enta, na to enta bliss or bilisi(i.e a tempest). I pray dat we will av d 4ma case in our respective marriages. |
Re: Banned From Speaking My Language To My Baby by Afam4eva(m): 11:58pm On Nov 09, 2013 |
Triciana gal:I won't blame you if you call it entrapment. That's the word the proponents of the warped equality in marriage have been using. Our mothers never complained about their roles and were doing it willingly, so who are you to tell them that they were entrapped? Did they tell you they want to be financially independent. Are you aware that when you marry a man, both of you become ONE and everything he owns becomes yours and vice-versa. So, why would anyone say a woman is entrapped in marriage because she does not make her own money. You people should fear God oo. 1 Like |
Re: Banned From Speaking My Language To My Baby by Chatters(f): 11:59pm On Nov 09, 2013 |
chineloSA: Where are you from? The zoo? 5 Likes |
Re: Banned From Speaking My Language To My Baby by chineloSA(f): 11:59pm On Nov 09, 2013 |
Chatters: I never said woman should be slave to their husbands. All I was trying to say is some issues should be left for the man to decide. This is not a Yoruba child but a Eson child. I also think your kind are the ones who control man even when its unnecessary. Your kind also is selfish and does not allow kids to learn their fathers culture and language, over their own culture. If you change to Mrs ...... then do what/how Mr...... does. Unless you are married to your father then do what your father does. Why let kids live the way you lived in your fathers house? Are they your fathers kids?? When you are married its another mans house and it should be respected by doing what you both agree upon or what his culture dictates. Are you inter-tribally married, perhaps 1 Like |
Re: Banned From Speaking My Language To My Baby by Mujah1deen: 11:59pm On Nov 09, 2013 |
Afam4eva:b blessed |
Re: Banned From Speaking My Language To My Baby by Tricianagal: 11:59pm On Nov 09, 2013 |
chineloSA: I don't know where you have been but in most marriages these days the women contribute at least 50 percent financially and in lot of cases even more. So if the husband only earns enough to rent a face me I face you but the wife's salary can get a nice apartment in a good area, they should stay in the face me in face in because she doesn't want him to become a wife . A man's responsibility is not only financial, as long as he gives his all no matter how little he is fulfilling his responsibility. It us only lazy ones that will relax and leave the wife alone to do it that women have a problem with. 3 Likes |
Re: Banned From Speaking My Language To My Baby by chineloSA(f): 12:01am On Nov 10, 2013 |
Chatters: You know because we always greet each other in the same Zoo You just failing to debate and you resort to insults. I wont stoop to your imbe cillic level. 1 Like |
Re: Banned From Speaking My Language To My Baby by Mujah1deen: 12:01am On Nov 10, 2013 |
Please don't stop there, kindly give us the link where you took your bogus statistics Triciana gal: 2 Likes |
Re: Banned From Speaking My Language To My Baby by Chatters(f): 12:02am On Nov 10, 2013 |
Mujah1deen: women like you end up in coffins Men like you end up with bullets in their heads. slowpoke!!! 2 Likes |
Re: Banned From Speaking My Language To My Baby by Afam4eva(m): 12:02am On Nov 10, 2013 |
Mujah1deen: Please don't stop there, kindly give us the link where you took your bogus statisticsLol |
Re: Banned From Speaking My Language To My Baby by chineloSA(f): 12:03am On Nov 10, 2013 |
Mujah1deen: women like you end up in coffins |
Re: Banned From Speaking My Language To My Baby by Mujah1deen: 12:03am On Nov 10, 2013 |
Chatters:ashawo, who is going to marry you ? Village bicycle |
Re: Banned From Speaking My Language To My Baby by Tricianagal: 12:04am On Nov 10, 2013 |
Afam4eva: What are you on about? Of course the women who had loving husbands were not entrapped. My point is even women who were abused could not divorce their husbands in those days and it was mostly because of financial reasons. I am not saying a woman who doesn't have money is entrapped but rather the ones who are in a bad marriage but have no money cannot leave. In an ideal situation it wouldn't matter who makes the money unfortunately in bad situations lack of more can make one very vulnerable. You should try not to be so emotional and jump to conclusions. 3 Likes |
Re: Banned From Speaking My Language To My Baby by nduchucks: 12:05am On Nov 10, 2013 |
kendraloops: I'm so so so very angry this evening. I've been having this issue with hubby for a while now, used to think he was kidding but this evening just confirmed it for me. No time to read all the comments. My suggestion to you is to note that it is most unhealtly for a baby to be raised in an environment where you and your hubby constantly bicker and fight over, of all things, speaking your language to your child. For your child's welfare and that of your marriage, I'd suggest that for now, you stop speaking the language to your baby while your hubby is arround. But make it a point to continue to speak the language to your child on a daily basis. This way, you kill 2 birds with a stone One day the child will say to his dad "baba mo love yin gan" (baba I love you very much), let's see whether the insecure man will disown the child afterward. 1 Like |
Re: Banned From Speaking My Language To My Baby by Tricianagal: 12:06am On Nov 10, 2013 |
Mujah1deen: ashawo, who is going to marry you ? Village bicycle You should learn how to disagree with people without throwing insults around. I believe we are all educated adults here and we should be able to have arguments without getting offensive. 5 Likes |
Re: Banned From Speaking My Language To My Baby by Chatters(f): 12:06am On Nov 10, 2013 |
Mujah1deen: ashawo, who is going to marry you ? Village bicycle Idiot! Always picking quarrels in threads. No woman in her right mind will marry you. You pathetic bigot. 3 Likes |
Re: Banned From Speaking My Language To My Baby by chineloSA(f): 12:07am On Nov 10, 2013 |
Afam4eva: On point. Very true |
Re: Banned From Speaking My Language To My Baby by Afam4eva(m): 12:08am On Nov 10, 2013 |
Triciana gal:Now you're shifting the goal post. You made a bold statement and i quote: "Actually the fact that they didn't divorce is not necessarily because they were happy but rather because most women were fanacially dependent in their husband so they basically had no where to go to" 1 Like |
Re: Banned From Speaking My Language To My Baby by tintingz(m): 12:08am On Nov 10, 2013 |
Mr Mandilas: Pls call a spade a spade not a farm tool. Hence the lady is married to an Esan automatically, she becomes one of them. She should stop being stupid and pushy or she will break her home. She should have married Yoruba then. One thing about nairaland is that people speak not the truth because everyone wants to protect their tribes..@ OP, i want u to start thinkin like an Esan because U are now one of them. Learn how to speak the language and solidify ur new family. Remember, a good woman maketh her home. Shekinah!She's not a yoruba woman anymore because she's married to an Esan man and she should start thinking like an esan person? When are we going to stop seeing women as properties. She's still a yoruba woman no matter who she is married to. Yes she might be one of them but not an esan person. 4 Likes |
Re: Banned From Speaking My Language To My Baby by Mujah1deen: 12:08am On Nov 10, 2013 |
Triciana gal:I guess you missed her "slowpoke" .kindly redirect your sermon to your feminazi friend. |
Re: Banned From Speaking My Language To My Baby by Tricianagal: 12:09am On Nov 10, 2013 |
Afam4eva: |
Re: Banned From Speaking My Language To My Baby by Afam4eva(m): 12:10am On Nov 10, 2013 |
ndu_chucks:Pls don't take this advice This is a recipe for disaster. You don't go cheating on your husband. What if he finds out she's been doing it behind his back? 1 Like |
Re: Banned From Speaking My Language To My Baby by Mujah1deen: 12:10am On Nov 10, 2013 |
Chatters:I'm actually married with two beautiful wives. What about you? Is the chief of your village still riding you or it is the turn of your governor? Village bicycle ooo who wants to take a free ride? |
Re: Banned From Speaking My Language To My Baby by Afam4eva(m): 12:12am On Nov 10, 2013 |
tintingz: She's not a yoruba woman anymore because she's married to an Esan man and she should start thinking like an esan person? When are we going to stop seeing women as properties. She's still a yoruba woman no matter who she is married to. Yes she might be one of them but not an esan person.I agree with you. |
Re: Banned From Speaking My Language To My Baby by chineloSA(f): 12:12am On Nov 10, 2013 |
Mujah1deen: I'm actually married with two beautiful wives. What about you? Is the chief of your village still riding you or it is the turn of your governor? |
Re: Banned From Speaking My Language To My Baby by chineloSA(f): 12:13am On Nov 10, 2013 |
Chatters: I think you started being rude before he did. |
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