willibounce: @ least young ladies wud learn never to marry an 'educated illiterate'. Some men are educated, yet very backward.

High academic attainment is not a guarantee of sound mind.

sCun: Bros that is the reality o! Most of these girls who act all powerful and feminist on Nairaland are actually being used as rags by men in real life. Some girls can be so fake.

chineloSA:

Continue luv. Stop resisting as well. You cant divorce because of this

yellowpawpaw: Madam, to stay in marriage and make marriage a success, one has to employ wisdom. At times small small issues like this compounds to bigger problems that lead to abuse or divorce.
Its not everything we ought to complain about.
If ur hubby said he want his baby to speak his language only, by all means accept and teach him that. That way he will c u as a submissive wife and peace will reign.
Meanwhile, u said he speaks ur own language very well. All good!
Converse with him in ur language sometimes. I tell u baby is learning. Sing in ur language, baby is learning.
U go out with baby, u speak ur language to baby. Infact, where is ur number six?
Children r capable iof learning up to 4 diff languages at a time.
Stop raising issues where there is none.
Meanwhile, u r married to him not the other way round.
Ur reaction is unneccessary.

divine2043: Many people on here commenting are not being fair.

Do you really think that once the wife starts speakin yoruba, she would let the kid learn Esan? You're joking. The husband should stand his ground on this one. Why must the child learn Yoruba now?

Can this question be answered please?

De Beauvoir: Wonders shall never end. In the minds of Nigerian men, marriage=slavery.

After suffering through pregnancy, giving birth and then spending her entire life taking care of the child, the man still decides every single decision they take concerning the child because one fabricated book said that women should be submissive and men must always be the head regardless of whether they have leadership skills or not.

Women have really suffered.

cynhamscakes: If the child belongs to the man totally, so the woman is just an incubator and baby pumping machine?

gothrones: @divine2043
Let the woman speak Yoruba to the child and let the man speak Esan to the child.

kendraloops:

Are u kidding me? He has a right to deny me giving MY child a yoruba name All the labour pains n agony nko? Abeg foget oo. I know he's more of Esan than yoruba but it hurts. In public when people ask for his baby's yoruba name, he quickly responds that he's gat none.


As for me being pregnant again, I'm not oooo. Lol. Y u dey ask sef?

chima12: The man has no complex.he is only trying to protect his son.the woman obviously took him for granted cos he speaks yoruba.the man is simply saying I am esan and my son is esan,if he can't speak esan,then he should not speak yoruba.

Afam4eva:
Is it now a competition. If this happens then the woman is bound to win. Esan cannot win against Yoruba as the latter is spoken by wayy more people and they also live in the SW.

thorpido: He should have married an esan lady if it is all about him.Once you choose to marry outside your tribe,you should accommodate the other side too.I didn't marry from my tribe and I understand the children will pick up their mother's language too and I don't mind.

chineloSA:
I am a self proclaimed feminists, but I am against woman turning man into their wives

A woman is married to a man and therefore takes after his surname, so man should not be deprived of that last right that is left for them please.

Yes we are equals, but he paid the bride price, provided shelter and name to be used for that house. So please, this is Africa.

chineloSA:
I am a self proclaimed feminists, but I am against woman turning man into their wives

A woman is married to a man and therefore takes after his surname, so man should not be deprived of that last right that is left for them please.

Yes we are equals, but he paid the bride price, provided shelter and name to be used for that house. So please, this is Africa.

Triciana gal:

Yes he is the head but not because of bride price or shelter, Yorubas do not collect bride price and in today's world most women contribute to the rent or house building in fact some women are the full breadwinners. Those are not the things that make a man the head.

gothrones:

There is no equality in the Nigerian culture; in particular, there can be no equality if a bride price is paid. Where I live, you simply marry anyone you want to. You don't buy them. How can you claim equality if you are paying?

Triciana gal:

Yes he is the head but not because of bride price or shelter, Yorubas do not collect bride price and in today's world most women contribute to the rent or house building in fact some women are the full breadwinners. Those are not the things that make a man the head.

De Beauvoir: Wonders shall never end. In the minds of Nigerian men, wife=slave.

After suffering through pregnancy, giving birth and then spending her entire life taking care of the child, the man still decides every single decision they take concerning the child because one fabricated book said that women should be submissive and men must always be the head regardless of whether they have leadership skills or not.

Women have really suffered.

Afam4eva:
Can you tell us what is not backward? Causing unnecessary confusion that will lead to divorce? It's because of people like you that the average human being now marries up to 5 times before they die(i made this up sha). When God created man, he apportioned roles to each of them. It's when one tries to take up the other person's role that problem starts and it can eventually lead to the end of the marriage.

Afam4eva:
There can never be equality in marriage the way you mean it. That's where you live, in their attempt to make marriage equall, they keep running into problems that lead to divorce. The reason why most of our parents have been married for decades is because they respected each other's role and not try to usurp the other person.

Afam4eva:
Can you tell us what is not backward? Causing unnecessary confusion that will lead to divorce? It's because of people like you that the average human being now marries up to 5 times before they die(i made this up sha). When God created man, he apportioned roles to each of them. It's when one tries to take up the other person's role that problem starts and it can eventually lead to the end of the marriage.

Afam4eva:
Bride price is not just about money. The man came to pick his wife from her family to make her part of him and that's what she has to be - part of him. I also agree that a woman can be a breadwinner and possibly the head if implicitly or explicitly agreed to by the husband. But when she becomes that, she should remain that and not try to take over the newly assumed role of the husband.

yellowpawpaw:
Forget whatever his reasons were and teach him his father's language. This shouldn't be an issue at all. Like I said, u r still with ur baby. U will be chipping in ur language and baby will be picking small small. U can sing in ur language too abi is it forbidden?
Honestly speaking, its small small molehills like this that becomes mountain if not put in check.
Talk is cheap. Some of us will give advice that will spark fire and still go and jejely manage their own homes very well.
Be wise madam.
Thanks.

Afam4eva:
So, do you suggest the Man now submits himself to his wife instead? There's really nothing wrong with that as long as everybody takes their role and stop trying to usurp someone else's position.