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Its been so long I've been here, thanks to coviq1-9, im here now. I'm an introvert, and I enjoy every bit of it. Nothing makes me angry at myself as talking to stupid people, or arguing. Some think I don't like talking, but I'm actually a talkative when I see people like myself.
I love wise people, (not brilliant people), critical thinkers, and someone very truthful.
Everyday, I wish to meet people like myself to be friends with, but I have not been able to. I see them though, but they are usually at a very top status that I am yet not, and thus we can't be friends. I meet some and I feel too shy to be friends or talk to them because they are in a very high social rank than myself.
I believe I would one day I would and would finally love to chat

Epositive:
Well, I'm gradually getting out of my comfort zone and loving it.
Before now, I usually, as a student, avoid standing out in public as much as I can. I just keep to myself as I don't like crowds and it drains me a lot (up till now).
Earlier this semester, a friend suggested I contest for a departmental post(exco). His reason was based solely on my academic record and calm attitude. Little did he know how much I dislike publicity and to make the matter worse, it's going to be an election.
I agreed with the condition that he will do most of the campaigning. I did my part by posting on the group chats and a little of talking. Election came and passed, and to my surprise, I was declared the winner. I would feel very bad I if I had lost though.
On the course of the campaign, I realized that speaking with people (other than one's close associates) is not as bad as it seems. Especially when there is an important reason for it. One just have to develop courage (which of course takes time and practices) to express one self in a simple and clear terms.
Another important thing to note is, if you don't normally talk, people will be more inclined to listen to whatever you want to say anytime you want to say it. And this is a time to show them what you have got unfailingly.
Of course, It's okay we are just being who we are. But then again, it won't hurt if we will, for our own personal interest, stretch out our comfort zone a little.

I cud relate wif ur case, but d fact remain dat, d reality of ones introverted nature will olwez set in which one cud notice shud one is observant.

No 1 urge me 2 join school politics back in school, but decision I was just moved 2 mk back in my ND days wen I notice tinz wia getin out of hand. Joined unionism just 2 be out 4rm my shell nd gain dat confidence 2 relate nd canvas wif people which really help 2 sm level of extent as I was saddled wif d responsibilities of serving at various level while in school, ranging 4rm being d Deputy Clerk of Student Representative Council 2 being General Secretary of an Indigenous Student's forum, Social Dir of a team, Welfare Director of an association, even became d President of my Faculty likewise Class Rep durin my HND days, was even d President of my CDS during my service year, ol dis just 2 improve my social life nd leave my shell, was able 2 improve in d part of interactin wif people likewise addressing d crowd thou, but I still notice nd feel dat introverted nature of me. Despite d fact dat I got 2 meet lot of people, got 2 associate wif dem as ol dose portfolios demand, I still cudn't mk friends, except casual ones which d circumstances at dose moment cud present. Found it difficult 2 av dat/dose friend(s) I cud confide, visit nd av dem visit me, socialize cos I've not been finding doing so convenient. Synergy was wat made my my tenures sucexfu. Still no friend 2 hang out wif 4 d wkend or get 2 gist wif. My situation has olwez been meeting people based on wat circumstances present nd our relationship is olwez limited 2 wat actually brought us 2geda nd if dat shud kom 2 an end, I wudn't even look back nor check on any. Cudn't even get 2 keep up wif long chat shud I get 2 chat wif sm. My mindset has olwez been, shud u chat me up, u av a purpose 4 it nd wen dat purpose has been discussed, dat wud be d end cos I literally wud run out of idea abt wat next 2 discuss nd wudn't even like 2 invade ur privacy. My phone still remain my only nd best friend as dat's d only tin dat kip me busy 2 avoid been bored, even thou boredom still crept it at times, but just had 2 resort 2 my only available option which is phone.

oazeez1991:


I cud relate wif ur case, but d fact remain dat, d reality of ones introverted nature will olwez set in which one cud notice shud one is observant.

No 1 urge me 2 join school politics back in school, but decision I was just moved 2 mk back in my ND days wen I notice tinz wia getin out of hand. Joined unionism just 2 be out 4rm my shell nd gain dat confidence 2 relate nd canvas wif people which really help 2 sm level of extent as I was saddled wif d responsibilities of serving at various level while in school, ranging 4rm being d Deputy Clerk of Student Representative Council 2 being General Secretary of an Indigenous Student's forum, Social Dir of a team, Welfare Director of an association, even became d President of my Faculty likewise Class Rep durin my HND days, was even d President of my CDS during my service year, ol dis just 2 improve my social life nd leave my shell, was able 2 improve in d part of interactin wif people likewise addressing d crowd thou, but I still notice nd feel dat introverted nature of me. Despite d fact dat I got 2 meet lot of people, got 2 associate wif dem as ol dose portfolios demand, I still cudn't mk friends, except casual ones which d circumstances at dose moment cud present. Found it difficult 2 av dat/dose friend(s) I cud confide, visit nd av dem visit me, socialize cos I've not been finding doing so convenient. Synergy was wat made my my tenures sucexfu. Still no friend 2 hang out wif 4 d wkend or get 2 gist wif. My situation has olwez been meeting people based on wat circumstances present nd our relationship is olwez limited 2 wat actually brought us 2geda nd if dat shud kom 2 an end, I wudn't even look back nor check on any. Cudn't even get 2 keep up wif long chat shud I get 2 chat wif sm. My mindset has olwez been, shud u chat me up, u av a purpose 4 it nd wen dat purpose has been discussed, dat wud be d end cos I literally wud run out of idea abt wat next 2 discuss nd wudn't even like 2 invade ur privacy. My phone still remain my only nd best friend as dat's d only tin dat kip me busy 2 avoid been bored, even thou boredom still crept it at times, but just had 2 resort 2 my only available option which is phone.

Commendable! You really did well in the student unionism, judging from the number of positions and responsibilities you have handled. It's really time-consuming I must say. Well done sir.

As for making friends, you said you met with a lot of people and interaction is usually circumstantial. And as soon as the issues are attended to, the interaction or closeseness as the case may be, stops. Was it that during your days in school, you never met with anyone who has the same line of thought with you in terms of life activities such as sports, religion, ideologies or even preferences?
As most times, sharing the same interest in some of those things helps to bond persons together and before you know it, friendship is initiated - enjoyable one at that.

Also, it's possible that many of those you came in contact with wanted to come close to you. You didn't just notice them enough to ignite the friendship.

Are you single?

Epositive:


Commendable! You really did well in the student unionism, judging from the number of positions and responsibilities you have handled. It's really time-consuming I must say. Well done sir.

As for making friends, you said you met with a lot of people and interaction is usually circumstantial. And as soon as the issues are attended to, the interaction or closeseness as the case may be, stops. Was it that during your days in school, you never met with anyone who has the same line of thought with you in terms of life activities such as sports, religion, ideologies or even preferences?
As most times, sharing the same interest in some of those things helps to bond persons together and before you know it, friendship is initiated - enjoyable one at that.

Also, it's possible that many of those you came in contact with wanted to come close to you. You didn't just notice them enough to ignite the friendship.

Are you single?

Maybe it's wat u just outlined dat causes my lack of mkin friends beyond wat brought us 2geda at 1st. I just didn't feel d connection nd wasn't comfortable getin 2 know most of dem beyond wat brought us 2geda. I don't just olwez av d enthusiasm of getin 2 visit or hang out wif dem. Shud I contemplated doin so in mind, I olwez av a change of mind later by choosing 2 spend my time alone instead. I even do decline invitation 2 most occasions by askin my excos 2 go represent me dia mostly, except d ones dat really concerns me like events organized, courtesy of my govt den.

As per weda I'm still single, Yes. Thou, I've had couple of relationships in d past which non r gotten d conventional way.

oazeez1991:


Maybe it's wat u just outlined dat causes my lack of mkin friends beyond wat brought us 2geda at 1st. I just didn't feel d connection nd wasn't comfortable getin 2 know most of dem beyond wat brought us 2geda. I don't just olwez av d enthusiasm of getin 2 visit or hang out wif dem. Shud I contemplated doin so in mind, I olwez av a change of mind later by choosing 2 spend my time alone instead. I even do decline invitation 2 most occasions by askin my excos 2 go represent me dia mostly, except d ones dat really concerns me like events organized, courtesy of my govt den.

As per weda I'm still single, Yes. Thou, I've had couple of relationships in d past which non r gotten d conventional way.

Obviously, you were making conscious decisions all the way. You could have moved closer to them if you wanted to but you didn't. I'm not saying you should become friends with everyone but the right ones. We meet people everyday. Many become acquitants, and some, with little commitment and care , become friends depending on our scale of judgement and preference. It's that easy.

In as much as we (introverts) tend to stay on our own without external disturbances from other people. It still doesn't stop us from making friends, male or female alike. Personally, I make friends with the people I know we have more in common than differences. In that regard, we flow more and understand each other better.

Regarding the relationship, I understand the unconventional way you are talking about. I have been there, still there, though will soon leave there.

Epositive:

Obviously, you were making conscious decisions all the way. You could have moved closer to them if you wanted to but you didn't. I'm not saying you should become friends with everyone but the right ones. We meet people everyday. Many become acquitants, and some, with little commitment and care , become friends depending on our scale of judgement and preference. It's that easy.

In as much as we (introverts) tend to stay on our own without external disturbances from other people. It still doesn't stop us from making friends, male or female alike. Personally, I make friends with the people I know we have more in common than differences. In that regard, we flow more and understand each other better.

Regarding the relationship, I understand the unconventional way you are talking about. I have been there, still there, though will soon leave there.

Thanks for ur piece Sir. Will work on ur recommendation.

Really appreciate!

oazeez1991:


Thanks for ur piece Sir. Will work on ur recommendation.

Really appreciate!

Alright sir. Thanks for stopping by. Goodluck on your quest.

ModestGal:
Its been so long I've been here, thanks to coviq1-9, im here now. I'm an introvert, and I enjoy every bit of it. Nothing makes me angry at myself as talking to stupid people, or arguing. Some think I don't like talking, but I'm actually a talkative when I see people like myself.
I love wise people, (not brilliant people), critical thinkers, and someone very truthful.
Everyday, I wish to meet people like myself to be friends with, but I have not been able to. I see them though, but they are usually at a very top status that I am yet not, and thus we can't be friends. I meet some and I feel too shy to be friends or talk to them because they are in a very high social rank than myself.
I believe I would one day I would and would finally love to chat

Truth is Wise peeps are everywhere just that the wise rich are more attractive.

So how are you keeping up with the Kovikk 1. 9?
What do you classify as Wise?

TrippleEEE:

Truth is Wise peeps are everywhere just that the wise rich are more attractive.

So how are you keeping up with the Kovikk 1. 9?
What do you classify as Wise?

You are right, the wise rich are definitely more attractive and more celebrated.

hmm I thought I'm the only introvert in thus world, problem is I dont want to marry by wedding, I just wish to pay bride price and take her home.
but the world is silly

DeeMarh:


I totally agree with you dear.
It's tough when an introvert and an extrovert are paired. My boyfriend of 4 years recently broke up with me because he thinks I bore him. Whilst in the relationship, In a bid to inquire what I wasn't doing right, when I asked him why he was always cheating, his response was that he was looking elsewhere for emotional entertainment with someone more interesting, and he wished I could be less boring. It hit me hard because I thought he understood the kind of person I was, and that I was trying to do things that I normally wouldn't do, just to please him.

I just wish he knew that If I’m quiet and/ or straight-faced, I’m probably not mad: I’m just people-watching.

That's what u get been with an Extrovert, d pair (Introvert + Extrovert) are not just perfectly match, dey myt be cool 4 a short time, but not a long time relationship. Same fate is what mostly befall an introvert guy dating an extrovert lady.

I think avin an Ambivert as partner is d way, cos introvert + introvert also myt not produce a befitting result.

Sorry abt ur relationship lost, a broken relationship is beta dan a broken marriage. Learn 4rm it nd move on. D right one wud show at d right time. Life goes on.

DeeMarh:


I totally agree with you dear.
It's tough when an introvert and an extrovert are paired. My boyfriend of 4 years recently broke up with me because he thinks I bore him. Whilst in the relationship, In a bid to inquire what I wasn't doing right, when I asked him why he was always cheating, his response was that he was looking elsewhere for emotional entertainment with someone more interesting, and he wished I could be less boring. It hit me hard because I thought he understood the kind of person I was, and that I was trying to do things that I normally wouldn't do, just to please him.

I just wish he knew that If I’m quiet and/ or straight-faced, I’m probably not mad: I’m just people-watching.

it happened to me, she dont even respect me, she thinks I'm still a small boy bcus I dont move around making friends especially females.

ModestGal:
Its been so long I've been here, thanks to coviq1-9, im here now. I'm an introvert, and I enjoy every bit of it. Nothing makes me angry at myself as talking to stupid people, or arguing. Some think I don't like talking, but I'm actually a talkative when I see people like myself.
I love wise people, (not brilliant people), critical thinkers, and someone very truthful.
Everyday, I wish to meet people like myself to be friends with, but I have not been able to. I see them though, but they are usually at a very top status that I am yet not, and thus we can't be friends. I meet some and I feel too shy to be friends or talk to them because they are in a very high social rank than myself.
I believe I would one day I would and would finally love to chat

Where are u right now? Maybe we could be friends

DeeMarh:


I totally agree with you dear.
It's tough when an introvert and an extrovert are paired. My boyfriend of 4 years recently broke up with me because he thinks I bore him. Whilst in the relationship, In a bid to inquire what I wasn't doing right, when I asked him why he was always cheating, his response was that he was looking elsewhere for emotional entertainment with someone more interesting, and he wished I could be less boring. It hit me hard because I thought he understood the kind of person I was, and that I was trying to do things that I normally wouldn't do, just to please him.

I just wish he knew that If I’m quiet and/ or straight-faced, I’m probably not mad: I’m just people-watching.

I hope this doesn't come forth as being critical. I can't help but ask, how were you able to stay in a relationship with someone who was cheating on you? I mean you found out, chose to remain in the relationship, until HE finally broke up with you.

Did you at any point feel you might not be able to find someone else who'd accept you [your personality]?

meeky007:
hmm I thought I'm the only introvert in thus world, problem is I dont want to marry by wedding, I just wish to pay bride price and take her home.
but the world is silly

I know the feeling. If you have met a significant other who doesn't mind your requirement, the next obstacle will be your parents and her parents. Remember that the wedding belongs to family and the marriage belongs to you two.

Good luck!

DeeMarh:


I totally agree with you dear.
It's tough when an introvert and an extrovert are paired. My boyfriend of 4 years recently broke up with me because he thinks I bore him. Whilst in the relationship, In a bid to inquire what I wasn't doing right, when I asked him why he was always cheating, his response was that he was looking elsewhere for emotional entertainment with someone more interesting, and he wished I could be less boring. It hit me hard because I thought he understood the kind of person I was, and that I was trying to do things that I normally wouldn't do, just to please him.

I just wish he knew that If I’m quiet and/ or straight-faced, I’m probably not mad: I’m just people-watching.

I don't know where people, especially extroverts get the impression that Introverts are boring or uninteresting. We are usually fun, intelligent, entertaining and deep, we just don't make a loud show of it and we prefer to express all of this in our comfort zone.

I'm sure you are interesting, it is not your fault that your ex prefers shallow and superficial fun. Please don't feel bad and don't let this experience shake your self esteem. You fantastic just as you are, he is just not the right one for you.

AquariusRising:


I don't know where people, especially extroverts get the impression that Introverts are boring or uninteresting. We are usually fun, intelligent, entertaining and deep, we just don't make a loud show of it and we prefer to express all of this in our comfort zone.

I'm sure you are interesting, it is not your fault that your ex prefers shallow and superficial fun. Please don't feel bad and don't let this experience shake your self esteem. You fantastic just as you are, he is just not the right one for you.

Too legit 100%

ModestGal:
Its been so long I've been here, thanks to coviq1-9, im here now. I'm an introvert, and I enjoy every bit of it. Nothing makes me angry at myself as talking to stupid people, or arguing. Some think I don't like talking, but I'm actually a talkative when I see people like myself.
I love wise people, (not brilliant people), critical thinkers, and someone very truthful.
Everyday, I wish to meet people like myself to be friends with, but I have not been able to. I see them though, but they are usually at a very top status that I am yet not, and thus we can't be friends. I meet some and I feel too shy to be friends or talk to them because they are in a very high social rank than myself.
I believe I would one day I would and would finally love to chat

Same here

Hi all I'm new here

First post on nairaland since I registered

I’m a bit jealous that some of you introverts are able to get into relationships .

I’m chronically introverted or you can just call me a recluse. Back where I grew up, my neighbors didn’t know I ever existed because they only saw my siblings and thought they were all my parents had lol. Got into the university and found it difficult going for classes or even leaving my room that one time I stayed indoors for 2 months straight and had my sister get me all I wanted. Years later, nothing has changed just that I have to be in school every day but after that I crawl back into my room.

Looking forward to making new friends here .

MysteryGirl:
First post on nairaland since I registered

I’m a bit jealous that some of you introverts are able to get into relationships .

I’m chronically introverted or you can just call me a recluse. Back where I grew up, my neighbors didn’t know I ever existed because they only saw my siblings and thought they were all my parents had lol. Got into the university and found it difficult going for classes or even leaving my room that one time I stayed indoors for 2 months straight and had my sister get me all I wanted. Years later, nothing has changed just that I have to be in school every day but after that I crawl back into my room.

Never been in a relationship because I’m not sure if I can cope in one and there’s nowhere a guy can find me to even ask me out . I’ve met a few though but I’m just not interested because I feel being in a relationship would be an invasion of my sweet quiet and private life.

Looking forward to making new friends here .

Hi female version of me,
I think you'll find someone really, and only a serious individual will stick around. Your personality tends to filter out shallow minded beings.
Going out is still an issue, but i try n the few times i did, it was cool.
Didn't attend lectures throughout my 100 level except practicals.

madbuk:


Hi female version of me,
I think you'll find someone really, and only a serious individual will stick around. Your personality tends to filter out shallow minded beings.
Going out is still an issue, but i try n the few times i did, it was cool.
Didn't attend lectures throughout my 100 level except practicals.

Good to know I’m not the only one like this .
Did same in 100level until my department threatened to expel people like me in 200 level .

I plan on going out more often after this lockdown because deep down I really do not want to die a lonely death. Let’s see how it goes.

And moimoi is served

Allshadesfemale:
And moimoi is served

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wrong thread..lol

warripikin17:



:^):^)^_^

Since I'm here already..let me drop this here

allshadesfemale.com

DeeMarh:


It's not something I'd like to discuss explicitly here. I forgave severally, and at a point, I didn't think I'd be able to love anyone else as much as I loved him, that was why I stayed. Introverts are known to be selfless and loyal lovers...

It should not be at your own detriment. What if he infected you with STDs? We should stop taking unreasonable risks all in the name of introversion.