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She's tired of "carrying you" she's like the mother in the relationship

essentialone:
Ogbeni, it what it is. People wey write dictionary, fall from skies?

No it's not what it is. You don't get to change the definition of words to suit your point.

essentialone:
There are 3 ways one can be inferred to be a god daughter to another:
By Baptismal adopted relationship, for those who believe in that.
By school adopted relationship, and by
By political adopted relationship.

The emphasis on the word "adopted".
you have familiated that person who naturally is not of your biological family, but who you now have a family type of relationship with, based on your own chosen adoption.

In extension, your goddaughter is still your own family.

Now back to the question before you derailed it:

What about "financially assisting a grown ass lady with public (sic, pubic) hair that isn't your family"?
Have you ever done that?

Alaye, where are these definitions in the dictionary? Are you making up your personal definitions just to score a point?

It's interesting how you've labelled a god daughter as family for this argument 😂 But Nigerians don't even respect officially adopted kids as family members. Some of you don't even accept your wives as family.

But god daughters all of a sudden are now family members because you're desperate to score a point.

I see you 😂

Carcholce:
The person that asked the question is one man. Why you saw you the need to generalize “men” is uncalled for.

The question should have been “is a woman’s ability to push such a big deal for you(OP)”

Direct the question to the person that asked it.

I didn't generalise men, I asked a question about men.

Don't complain about generalisation when you're on the receiving end, because I've seen your post history.

2buffagain:
Men, would you marry a woman you love if you know she can't give birth naturally?

If she can't have a vaginal birth? Is a woman's ability to push such a big deal for men?

essentialone:
And what about "assisting a grown ass lady with public (sic, pubic) hair that isn't your family"? Have you ever done that?

Do you know what a goddaughter is ? Or you can't read?

essentialone:
But a man can financially support a full grown lady like you even when you are not his family member?

Meanwhile the examples you gave are not called Financial Support. They are called Family Responsibilities. One wonders the kind of schools people attend these days. Is understanding that difficult?

Yeah you're right, but maybe you should ask why men will financially support a woman over another man?

Nice trick. That sentiment doesn't work on me. Not when these girls are distant relations, they're not directly my responsibility, I do it just because, not because it's my duty.

Do you now want to shift the goalpost? Are cousins, god daughters not women any longer? Is giving them money no longer financial support?

What is the definition of financial support?

Sonnobax15:

I'm very sure this op typed this with a complete broken heart..

Omoh,try move on with your life too and stop being stupid at this same time

He should just move on and not work on his attitude? He apologised for being rude to her and still went ahead to be rude a second time, that tells you it's something that he can't help and needs to work on.

He should move on and go and insult another woman? Do you think women don't deserve respect too?

kakaaa77:
it's not by force if it doesn't work it doesn't work, just move on there's so many fish in the River keep on casting your net

So he shouldn't learn from the situation, he should go and carry his bomb of a mouth to another relationship?

Are you for real?

essentialone:
Amaechi Muonagor, Lord of Ajasa, Ugo Shave Me, Ernest Asuzu, I cannot even remember all their names. None was ever financially supported by any lady in Nigeria. Why money no dey ever come out from ladies purse, except to buy food, and fashion?

I'm telling you right now that we assist each other. We assist our younger sisters, cousins, god daughters.

I will never financially assist a grown ass man with public hair that isn't my family, unless he has some kind of disability and I can be certain he truly needs it.

What happened to Monday comes to mind

wiseoneking:
Bitter soul spotted. Leave her, she might not have thought ever having such a privilege. Not everyone has the opportunity of entering plane or even seeing it. It could be tears or cries of joy to her God. You sound so frustrated by the way. May God remember many in her shoes that desires such.

It's easy to identify the bitter frustrated ones by their comments.

🤣

Rip Glocktavious.

easzypeaszy:
Please Igalas do not speak clear Yoruba..dey don't even understand it except dose who grew up wer dey speak Yoruba.
Only tribe that speaks Yoruba clearly in Kogi are the Okuns or Kabba as generally called.
Except OP referring to another Igalas but Kogi Igalas is out of dis yeye trend.

Have you ever heard igala language? Very similar.

It takes women willing to walk away for someone of you to act right.

Men don't respond to cries, tears, nagging protests, long paragraphs. They respond to no contact and withdrawal.

Once a woman has shown you that you can't take her for granted and has no problem walking away. That's when you lot start losing your shit, panic and start crawling back.

GloriousGbola:
There is a horror story on this platform of some dude who hustled saved and paid one sociopath for a 'job' in Kazakhstan. The guy eventually made it back and committed suicide

What a shame.Heard about him. He was on NL wasn't he?

GloriousGbola:
Of course I am trolling.

But rest assured some Nigerians are suckered like that every day

Ah ofcourse...I sensed it.

At bolded, for real? 🤣

GloriousGbola:
What is this one saying? I arrange asylum for advance fee of 10k pounds. Stop capping and saying what you don't know. You can get as high as 200k pounds sef s/

Are you being sarcastic? Firstly let's look at the asylum seeker claim, how is he an asylum seeker? When did Nigeria become a war torn country. Story makes no sense.

Konquest:
It's a fake viral story to tarnish Emdee Tiamiyu's image. The expelled ex-student of Oxford, David Hundeyin has this deportation story posted on his X handle as well.

Envy (induced by low self-esteem) and narcissism are behind these kinds of hateful and misleading stories from wannabe bloggers and YouTubers. A simple fact-check just like you and others have clearly done would have unraveled the truth of whether he was deported or NOT. Some of these wannabe YouTubers are weak, emotional jerks, tbh.

I never really gravitated towards the story of this young man's interview with the BBC and the uproar that followed when it broke last year (2023), but I developed symphathies for him today due to the insidious attacks on him on this thread and on X. I got to finally subscribe to his YouTube channel.

=>https://www.bbc.com/news/uk-65684594.amp

Imagine. Even a verified twitter account helping to spread fake rumours. They hate him so much, they're wishing deportation on him. To be on the receiving end of Nigerian misdirected anger, no be small thing oo.

Yeah apart from his bunder on BBC, he actually seems like a decent dude. He's consistent with youtbe and his content is so helpful. They're doing too much at this point, even with his apology.

emkz:
I am not aware that the UK pays asylum seekers £160,000 as resettlement costs.

This part of the story is somehow.

He's not even an asylum seeker.

How true is this? I went on his channel, it's still up and running. There's no indication that he was deported.

Zooposki:
That’s why I like American women. They have taken the steps to be independent financially from their men. African women better follow in their footsteps and stop being dependent on African men. Marriage is not by force. Don’t let the men gaslight you into marriage.

Survey shows that single women with no kids live the longest, while married women with kids die much quicker. It’s vice versa for the men cos they have time to relax in the evenings, weekends and pursue their hobbies, while the wives have no time for themselves.

I've always said it. African women should have something doing before they marry these men. Have a leg to stand on financially.

Being completely dependent on a man just leads to disrespect. Look at this embarrassment.

meum:
Her load plenty sha. I believe that house is empty. In nollywood it’s only one or two boxes.

All those that worship pastors shey una Dey see?

I'm seeing onions

Are the kids not his??

Dyfynezz12:
That man has been doing the job for years nd no body has come to help him so he can stop the stressful job

But once the girl was involved,boom!

You know why she has blown up but you want to be mischievous.

It's the same as seeing a man backing his child, people will also make a big deal out of it.

He can take it to the bank, no?

Jman06:
Unless you agree to be making a 50-50 financial contribution with your husband, your being a working class wife is useless to your family and that is why most men insist on full-time housewives.

Which men are insisting on full- time housewives? The ones that are asking what women bring to the table?

If you're not financially educated that 10 million will be your doom. You will end up worse than before you had it. That red pill is the best option but some people no wan hear am.

samwheel:
Lols

That one is not a man, we dash you.

But that's exactly what yall sound like.