mgbeketoto:
^^^^
Na wetin be all dati grama wey you write for up dia so?

Life is boring? Abeg tok for yasef o!
My life is NOT BORING AT ALL.
Na ALL my relationship with NIGERIAN DUDES dey SUPER BORRRRRRING!
Please, take note!
I'd rather play on NL than spend more than 1 hour in the same room with a NIGERIAN man!
Simple!

Polygamy only favor AFRICAN GIGOLOS!
Even if I were to have the opportunity of having more than one husband, IT WOULD ONLY MAKE ME MORE MISERABLE.
Dealing with more than one EMOTIONAL NOMAD in my life is worse than HELL FIRE!
Hell NO! Good RRRRRRRRIDANCE to them all!

tunwe:


Wish you luck in experience with men of other stripes.
I thought you're married and bored in your matrimonial home.
Try some other race, hope you find comfort.

SAMBARRY:
Mgbeketoto so the summary of all your arguments is that monogamous marriages are boring but open marriages are exciting.

By the way and for the sake of your health are you conversant with their sekzual history so they don't pick stds from one of their numerous partners and pass it on to you. You don't want to know how the vagyna of an infected woman looks like

mgbeketoto:


No! ALL MARRIAGES ARE BORING period.
Monogamous or otherwise.
Open marriages are exciting because you don't get to be IN A CAGE.
You do not have to sleep around either. . . .making friends and hanging out with others does not equate to DIVING INTO BED WITH EVERY TOM, DI-CK AND JERRY! Open marriage means FREEDOM TO GO AND COME AS YOU PLEASE!!!!




I don't know why you think SEXXX is the only thing you can do with the opposite sex!
IN THIS DAY AND AGE? ONLY DESPERATE AND LOCAL WOMEN WOULD INDULGE IN BED-HOPPING(married or single)!
I am too much of a FEMINIST for that kind of trash. THE ONLY THINGS A MAN CAN OFFER ME, ARE A SOUND MIND AND HIS WALLET!!!!
I don't make male friends for SEXXXX!
I really do not like to abuse my beautiful mind and body. . . .

SAMBARRY:
Sek- per adventure

EfemenaXY:
Interesting topic.

Kanwulia, lemme come off my phone and log in properly with my laptop. I need to ask you some questions so better not run off to work / bed / another thread...

(Good morning sha )

tunwe:
As i understand, you said, your marriage is boring as do all marriage with time. Your focus is "The futilility of spicing up a boring Nigerian/Africa American marriage".
Your experience and general observations, is not limited to marriage. Life, indeed, can be boring.
However, the monotonies of life routines can, and are spiced with dynamic personal dimensions.
The futility of spicing marriage, and indeed life is not limited to Nigerians/Africa Americans. Is the human experience.
The less economical endowed, think money is all the need to happiness. Actually the most unhappy and boring people are the wealthy, especially those who had wealth thrusted on their laps without the distraction and satisfactions of productive engagements to earn, and protect them from the idleness of affleuncesia.
As our physical body depends on active living to enhance our circulatory patency, so does our changes in active focuses promotes emotional health and growth from expectional satisfactions and divergent perspectives. A one dimentional mind quickly get stale and unhealthy.
Has life/marriage always been like this? Do the ease of the mechanisation and digitalisation contribute to this predicament, by leaving us with much more idle time than we need?
I cannot pretend to have answers to these existential questions or problems.
However, a look into our forebearers polygamous system had dynamic subgroups competitions and coperations, wether expressed or implied. Matrimonial boredom and patriachial erotism must had be mitigated by varieties and time off. Off times, gives the wives space, and desires to maximize her turn when it comes around. Also the possibity of getting laid on their parthners time(internal cheating) cannot be ruled out as a spicing experience. In fact what is obtained in the macro-world, were possible in their nucleus polygamous unit. That is internal dynamism that keep the family humming, and interest prime.

crackhaus:

Hmmmm...

Bro I'm sure you had good intentions, and your write-up seems to come from a good place.

But you see, anytime you enter a thread by Kanwulia/KanwuliaJara/Mgbeketoto/Calloti, you gotta let go of any need to talk sense to her - those things don't impress her as you could see from her reply to you.

She is the razz, uncouth, ghetto-type with a lot of psychotic baggage - if you want her to see sense in anything you write, you best be aggressive and direct...she is crazy, verrrrry crazy.
Don't pay compliments, don't patronize..

mgbeketoto:
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mgbeketoto:


Good morning my dear!
I just dey wake o.
It is almost 6AM in the beautiful ATL. Back to TX to resume work tonight.
Enjoying my quiet time. . . waiting for GOLDEN CORRAL TO OPEN for family breakfast!
I ain't going nowhere o.

crackhaus:

Sexy mama...

Cool down for Jesus o

mgbeketoto:


Adventure. . . ? I go to DUBAI OR LAS VEGAS FOR THAT!
No. . .to LEARN! I love to relate with smart boys. . .NO GIRLS!

EfemenaXY:


Lol!

Okay thanks...

See, I've got so many questions about this but not sure how to start. It's a sensitive topic and I don't want to place my foot in it, and I'll try my best not to...

I get what you've being saying about a marriage becoming a bit boring, especially if the routine is the same, and I see how having an open relationship can help alleviate that, but the thing is, most men / majority of men are territorial and insanely jealous.

So how where you able to work that bit out with him, about having an open relationship? Was this something you guys discussed at the outset or did it sort of naturally come about during the course of your marriage many years on?

Pls, pls, pls, if you find my questions offensive, just tell me so I don't go any further...but I'm hoping you don't feel that way.

SAMBARRY:
Oya answer efemena question.i love her question



efe mena!

mgbeketoto:



I refused to be moved.
One of the greatest hallmarks of ONE with A BONAFIDE, 'SADISTIC', Multiple-Personality-Disorder, is to stalk and ambush others on or offline with nothing but a trajectory of cheap shots even where unprovoked. It is a new year and I hope you find peace in ALL matters concerning me.
Please, continue to pray to YOUR GOD OR SATAN!


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Flt9K8vlJGE

mgbeketoto:

You can NEVER HAVE A PLATONIC RELATIONSHIP WITH A NIGERIAN MALE. . . . ! Fact. They are mostly TOO DENSE to understand what a woman really needs and would usually like to fool you by trading SEX FOR LOVE! I don't take such baits!

mgbeketoto:



I don't associate with such men. The moment I see a jealous or possessive streak, I cut them off!
The moment a man starts asking me questions that don't concern him. . . . I tell him goodbye!

How can you be jealous of WITH ANOTHER MAN'S WIFE OR HUSBAND? DOES HE OR SHE BELONG TO YOU? That is not only immature but SILLY at best. I am not that DAFT, and I don't attract insecure and DAFT PEOPLE. The reason I limit my such associations to MEN other than THE BLACK RACE at this stage in my life!

You can NEVER HAVE A PLATONIC RELATIONSHIP WITH A NIGERIAN MALE. . . . ! Fact. They are mostly TOO DENSE to understand what a woman really needs and would usually like to fool you by trading SEX FOR LOVE! I don't take such baits!



Yes, it was discussed SEVERAL times, with an option to LEAVE OR GET OUT OF THE KITCHEN! It was a gradual process TILL HE GOT USED TO IT. . . AND REALIZED HIS OPTIONS. . . since he could HAVE HIS CAKE AND EAT IT TOO!!!! WITH ALL THE BENEFITS OF MARRIAGE!!!!
So, in the final analysis. . .THERE ARE NO CHEATS AND NO SURPRISES. The reason I STATED EARLIER that any man looking to show my husband nayked pictures is only 'risking' his life and the life of his 'dearest' ones!



Dearest Efe, you are one of the most well brought-up personas on NL.
Please, keep it up!

Open relationships are really not hard to manage. . . EXCEPT YOU ARE DEALING WITH A PRIMITIVE, PSEUDO-TRADO-RELIGIOUS, CHAUVINISTIC BEING FROM THE JUNGLES OF AFRICA! Like 100% of the 'tins' you see running around NL calling themselves 'MEN'! If you worship a 'jealous' GOD. . . .you can only live your life in an empty pit of JEALOUSY!

I have risen above such primitive sentiments!

Any further questions?

mgbeketoto:



I don't associate with such men. The moment I see a jealous or possessive streak, I cut them off!
The moment a man starts asking me questions that don't concern him. . . . I tell him goodbye!

How can you be jealous of WITH ANOTHER MAN'S WIFE OR HUSBAND? DOES HE OR SHE BELONG TO YOU? That is not only immature but SILLY at best. I am not that DAFT, and I don't attract insecure and DAFT PEOPLE. The reason I limit my such associations to MEN other than THE BLACK RACE at this stage in my life!


You can NEVER HAVE A PLATONIC RELATIONSHIP WITH A NIGERIAN MALE. . . . ! Fact. They are mostly TOO DENSE to understand what a woman really needs and would usually like to fool you by trading SEX FOR LOVE! I don't take such baits!


Yes, it was discussed SEVERAL times, with an option to LEAVE OR GET OUT OF THE KITCHEN! It was a gradual process TILL HE GOT USED TO IT. . . AND REALIZED HIS OPTIONS. . . since he could HAVE HIS CAKE AND EAT IT TOO!!!! WITH ALL THE BENEFITS OF MARRIAGE!!!!
So, in the final analysis. . .THERE ARE NO CHEATS AND NO SURPRISES. The reason I STATED EARLIER that any man looking to show my husband nayked pictures is only 'risking' his life and the life of his 'dearest' ones!

mgbeketoto:
Dearest Efe, you are one of the most well brought-up personas on NL.
Please, keep it up!

mgbeketoto:
Open relationships are really not hard to manage. . . EXCEPT YOU ARE DEALING WITH A PRIMITIVE, PSEUDO-TRADO-RELIGIOUS, CHAUVINISTIC BEING FROM THE JUNGLES OF AFRICA! Like 100% of the 'tins' you see running around NL calling themselves 'MEN'! If you worship a 'jealous' GOD. . . .you can only live your life in an empty pit of JEALOUSY!

I have risen above such primitive sentiments!

mgbeketoto:
Any further questions?

mgbeketoto:



I don't associate with such men. The moment I see a jealous or possessive streak, I cut them off!
The moment a man starts asking me questions that don't concern him. . . . I tell him goodbye!

How can you be jealous of WITH ANOTHER MAN'S WIFE OR HUSBAND? DOES HE OR SHE BELONG TO YOU? That is not only immature but SILLY at best. I am not that DAFT, and I don't attract insecure and DAFT PEOPLE. The reason I limit my such associations to MEN other than THE BLACK RACE at this stage in my life!

You can NEVER HAVE A PLATONIC RELATIONSHIP WITH A NIGERIAN MALE. . . . ! Fact. They are mostly TOO DENSE to understand what a woman really needs and would usually like to fool you by trading SEX FOR LOVE! I don't take such baits!



Yes, it was discussed SEVERAL times, with an option to LEAVE OR GET OUT OF THE KITCHEN! It was a gradual process TILL HE GOT USED TO IT. . . AND REALIZED HIS OPTIONS. . . since he could HAVE HIS CAKE AND EAT IT TOO!!!! WITH ALL THE BENEFITS OF MARRIAGE!!!!
So, in the final analysis. . .THERE ARE NO CHEATS AND NO SURPRISES. The reason I STATED EARLIER that any man looking to show my husband nayked pictures is only 'risking' his life and the life of his 'dearest' ones!



Dearest Efe, you are one of the most well brought-up personas on NL.
Please, keep it up!

Open relationships are really not hard to manage. . . EXCEPT YOU ARE DEALING WITH A PRIMITIVE, PSEUDO-TRADO-RELIGIOUS, CHAUVINISTIC BEING FROM THE JUNGLES OF AFRICA! Like 100% of the 'tins' you see running around NL calling themselves 'MEN'! If you worship a 'jealous' GOD. . . .you can only live your life in an empty pit of JEALOUSY!

I have risen above such primitive sentiments!

Any further questions?

carefreewannabe:
^^ I can't wait for Kanwulia to re-appear and answer. Too many boring people in this world, she is not one of them.

SAMBARRY:
She has answered.

Me nko? I no boring ni

carefreewannabe:


There are more questions to be answered. It's going to be interesting.



I agree.

SAMBARRY:
that?

carefreewannabe:

SAMBARRY:
*Learning mode activated*




And yes you're right about efemena.shes a sweet and delectable woman