mgbeketoto:

You can NEVER SPICE UP A NIGERIAN OR AFRICAN MARRIAGE!

naijaboiy:
You must be going through some hard times

mgbeketoto:


It is gonna be hard for a loooooooooon time!
Na Nigerian marriage o!
I don't see any marriage different from the one I have o.
But every problem get solution abi?

Hmm,,i want to believe you weren't forced into that marriage.

So it's inevitable that you encounter problems.

I'm not married but I believe perseverance is the key

naijaboiy:

Hmm,,i want to believe you weren't forced into that marriage.

So it's inevitable that you encounter problems.

I'm not married but I believe perseverance is the key

kidsam:
lol
mgbeketoto, thats what happens when children come to comment on nairaland. Sorry jare

amunkita:
Mgbeketoto hapu d small boii, its in them..

@ topic... Seriously u re on point nd dat challenge still kipz mii single cous it wuld b hard keepin up wiv d mate wen d soul is gone.

Lookin @ d possibility of both party stayin @ diff. State, nd visting occasionally might rekindle d Soul.. Or watz ur take?

mgbeketoto:


In my own case. . .it has helped a lot.
I work in one state. . .and live in another.
You have to take frequent breaks because FAMILIARITY ALWAYS BREEDS CONTEMPT!

Things still remain the same. . . . .but less BORING!
Separate vacations too!

You know the bottom line?

It does not matter if you are married or single.

LIFE CAN BE BORING. . . IF YOU DO NOT HAVE A VARIETY OF THINGS TO DO.
You must have some 'ALONE' time to appreciate yourself and YOUR FAMILY!
You cannot do things together ALL THE TIME!

amunkita:


Good, I fink I wuld adopt dat to mitigate d diminishing soul in d mate...

naijaboiy:

Hmm,,i want to believe you weren't forced into that marriage.

So it's inevitable that you encounter problems.

I'm not married but I believe perseverance is the key

naijaboiy:
You must be going through some hard times

mutter:
Being bored is a state of the mind and the great thing about the mind is that you can influence it and steer it.
Decide you have the most exciting marriage and act that way and your marriage will become exciting.

I am married to a rather calm man who does not like much social life and yet I am more the temperamental kind that is always attending one function or the other. Years back it used to make me unhappy that he had no interest but I learnt to attend with my kids where possible. Over the years my husband has started getting more engaged socially and that really makes me happy. I too have reduced my social engagement ( ehhm not really) anyway I have gotten used to the fact that I have to do most of the talking and joking and teasing.
He could spend hours after work on the phone talking to family and that used to get me. it took me years before I found out how to get him drop the phone. Schatz I love you, hugs , kisses and the phone call is ended immediately
The hardest part for a woman is being submissive, especially when the man is getting it wrong. That is hard and you need time to work at it. The fact is that if that aspect is missing you can hardly get to the man because the fronts are hardened... two soldiers on the battle field.
What I am trying to say is that you constantly have to work on a marriage to make it work and to make it happy. Laugh, joke ,tease, flirt. It is not that easy and it takes time. Sometimes you ask yourself if it is worth it but if you remained determined you will get there. You can learn to become loves, friends, family, mother father to another and then you become one heart and one soul.

Anyone becomes your soulmate as soon as you let them into your soul.

SAMBARRY:
Mgbeketoto haaaa fear God o.shebi yesterday your husband cook rice and peppery stew and 2eggs and 2meat and now you are talking about boring marriage when your husband is doing all he can to spice up your marriage without even helping him in the kitchen o




tell me which naija man in Nigeria will do that


lol

adebayo201:



Can any good "thing" come out from this guy
Saw that tho...

I don't understand

mgbeketoto:


The reason it is quite difficult to have exchanges with MOST of you on or off NL is that:

You lack THE MOST BASIC comprehensive reading/writing skills to process information FROM OTHER PERSPECTIVES. . . . ,and will seize the slightest opportunities to make ANY thread a 'personal vendetta' with your hangovers from other threads.

First, you assume I may have been forced into a marriage.
Second, you deduce I may have encountered problems that are 'inevitable'.
Third, you are not married.
Finally, you 'think' perseverance is THE KEY.

The key to WHAT?

Can you actually understand WHAT YOU READ?

Please, stick to the subject matter. . . BOREDOM IN MARRIAGE THAT CAN NEVER BE FIXED IN A NIGERIAN OR AFRICAN MARRIAGE.
Thanks!

Hmmm,,sorry o

Maybe I didn't understand your point.

Good luck in your marriage

naijaboiy:

Hmmm,,sorry o

Maybe I didn't understand your point.

Good luck in your marriage