Lordnewton1:
only if everything said here today would change anything...SMH

maryhaam:
yes dear,woman power.

yomi007k:



I will remind u of ur statements in future.

alterswerve:


If this is coming from a married man, I'm disappointed. That you need marriage to become a man? Wow! I think we know who the boy here is, for without marriage, he wouldn't have become responsible. So disappointed

menix:
Lamentation of a 'play boy/Gay/Lesbian/Feminist'
Just watch, even those wowo galz no man dey price will also come to support this lamentation..


If u re being stigmatized enta market, ring no cost, it will stop people asking you queshions..

bisdam9086:


I think the reason why your pastor had to separate you guys is that living with a woman is not easy. For a man to be living with a woman means that the man is very tolerant . Living with a woman is tantamount to living with a mad person(No offence). The strong skills used to endure and maintain a relationship with a woman for years can be required to make decision in the Society because it requires a lot of intelligence to stay under a roof with a woman for years.

Ediss:
s behind every successful man there is a woman. Were responsible men are called you will be kicked out without your wife. Without u been married must corporate organizations and government agencies see you as irresponsible

Sunseeker:
For Nigerian woman Marriage =

1 .ESCAPE FROM PARENTAL PRESSURE
2 .RESPECT FROM PARENTS
3. RESPECT FROM INLAWS
4. REGULAR BRAZILIAN HAIR
5 .A WEALTHY HUSBAND
6 .LEGITIMATE CHILDREN ( African Tradition & Culture)
7. A HOUSE
8. POSSIBLE VISA FOR UK OR LONDON.
9. TITLES LIKE MADAM...LORLOR...OLORI...HER ROYAL MAJESTY
10. A HOUSE GIRL OR GATE MAN TO BEATUP..
11.. OCCASIONAL KONJI WITH HUSBAND ( if hes lucky)
12. INVITES TO BIG PARTIES FROM OTHER MARRIED PEOPLE
13 ...AND MONEY in order not to Suffer in Nigeria's struggling economy.
14: TO PREVENT BEING CALLED ASHAWO, OR A WITCH....

A few Nigerian woman can marry even a poor man for True Love, to help him progress and be happy!

Bollove:
The generation of these ladies mostly do not have any thing on their head than being pretty and possessing model shape.

what about knowledge and sense of responsibility .. These crops of girls only think sex is the only appeal to enter a man's heart and good food. What about your sense of Judgement and masters of issues.

me dey use girls do yanga ooo ..... as a working class, u can only watch me, u gat to stand up for Ur sef to date me.... u gat to understand our responsibility in life to marry me .... no be by pancake n make up o.

I was sitting down in shoprite waiting for my (office) driver on the queue to buy fuel during working hours ...... some girls around seven occupied my table and the table next to me ..... Then two of them started acting funny by brushing my hands on many occasions while gazing like IDEK (I dont even know)...... I just acted as if they do not exist until I firmly looked at the one disturbing me like "wtf" , I ain't here for zhit !!!!

I also remember a day a girl on the street walked back and asked me am I calling her cuz I fixed my gaze at her and I told her no oooo .... my guys around fault me sha.

Marry the wrong girl and be unhappy for the rest of Ur life .... get a divorce and start all over again in wife market (who get time) with a divided home.

About to go for my PhD now ... single, young," girlfriend less , energetic and happy .... Verily that dream girl will come , I just want to be ready for her!!!!

StarboyMichael:

Let me continue by saying that I am not married and I don't need anybody's advice on why I am not yet married. I personally will not tolerate disrespect from anyone because I am not married. Neither will I accord anyone special respect because he or she is married. I will only respect you if you deserve my respect, whether you are married or single is immaterial to me.

Finally, let it be clear that single or unmarried status is not a disease that needs to be cured. And to all the single and unmarried people out there, your destiny is in your own hands. Whether you allow the society to make you feel inadequate or not, depends on you. Always remember that there is nothing wrong with you. Also, know that everybody cannot get married at the same time. In fact, I don't have problem with anyone who doesn't want to get married at all.

Thank you and share your thoughts.

chronique:
As in,it's not a small issue. I guess most people don't have an idea how embarrassing it is to us,when they start with such questions. It's particularly frustrating for those of us above 30 or approaching 40. I get really embarrased when people start asking "how is madam and the children"...

lestat:
To all rejected, dumped, used, confused, lonely, dependent, emotionally immature, mentally immature, aggressive, single people on naioraland who are all bashing marriage and consoling themselves!!! listen!!!

I work in a company with 70% expatriates and even they will tell you marriage stabilizes one better and makes you a well rounded human being!! I get this all the time because i am in my mid thirties and still single!! yet in a much as i would like to convince myself that being single rocks the reality is that being single and unmarried sucks!!!! it sucks so bad it stinks!!!

How i would love to come home to a smiley face of a wife but things just didn't go that way, may have been my fault or the people i met who knows? thats life sometimes life serves you lemons and instead of ranting make some lemonade!!!

Contrary to your post i actually welcome these constant criticisms why? because they keep me on my toes and constantly remind me what i should be doing!! you see its easy to get lost in the life of being single but let me tell you all

THERES NO JOY IN BEING A SINGLE PARENT NOR IS THERE ANY JOY IN BEING LONELY!!! so i would rather keep having people tell me ythe painful truth than get stuck in self delusions of intentionally wanting to be single when in reality i had some innate issues that needed fixing hence why every good person left me!!

For example.. i have a colleague who has serious temper issues , she wont ever agree to anything except its her point of view, now guess what?!! SHE IS SINGLE AT 34!!!! (No surprise there) now at every opportunity she sings out that it was her choice to be single, that infact she has decided to be a single mum!!! wow!! such self deceit!! the truth is she cant keep a relationship because of her attitude!!

Mine is temper i have a bad temper and that sort of used to scare some women away, imagine me f00ling myself into thinking that being single is a choice instead of working on myself?

All i am saying is no one wants to be alone!! no matter how much they deceive them selves or convince people, when they are inside their bedroom alone, they all cry and think over past relationships that they self sabotaged!!!

So stop whining and work on yourself, then maybe you can get married

sonofananimal:
it will change my dear,

It is call mental awareness, before you knew it! Things will start changing gradually. But one has to take a yeap of faith.

Lordnewton1:

In our society alot of rubbish has been subconciously assimilated and generally acepted already and even lies had been passed down from generation to generation until it becomes truth and a way of life.
Those things my dear are difficult to change. Cause even now they are still being transmitted by those who are ignorant.
...so the lies leaves on shealted in the believe that it is truth.

shona2487:
I think it's time Happily married people began to step forward and share the secret. I dnt nid any1 to tell me that ppl in that category are few. A lot of us r idealists but I think this issue nids a realistic approach. Marriage shld be well prepared for, if sum1 thinks having lots of money is how he/she can prepare, who am I to argue? Jeez! I've got my life and u've got urs nau. Marriage is a double edged sword if dnt handle it well it wld slash u to bits instead of protecting u. We r all here to bare our minds, be honest with ourselves and with eachother. Happily married ppl r very few, wen ppl r pressurized into gettn married,hw is d marriage supposed to work? Ppl nid to start talkn more about hw the society can help improve and sustain marriages. As much as we like to force marriage down ppl's throats in naija, we never lift a finger to help out wen it goes sour. Prayer is needed nd we hav to remember dt God didn't put a deadline on marriage. Look @ d sentence "he who finds a wife,finds a good thing nd obtains favour frm d lord" God himself knws u will find ladiesssss b4 u finally find ONE to be called WIFE. Samme goes for ladies, we find men before we find a HUSBAND, God can hlp us but he wnts us to use our discretion along with his back up, nd dts y he didn't say "he who God finds a wife for,finds a good thing"... let's nt forget dt Adam didn't find his own wife, nw we r here in d world of Eve's error. If we love God we shld use his words to slash into eachother but to guide eachother. PS if any1 pester me abt gettn married quick, i'll first slam u with a punch b4 writing u an epistle o.

hotdi:


U are right man
OP, the Pastor may have taking it too far but he is not totally wrong.
As for office stigmatization, I also experience it but I didn't take it personal, because even my mum wouldn't let me rest. It is a societal thing, especially from this part of the world (Naija), the calculation is once u take up a good job, get married because ur retirement day start counting from the day of your appointment.
I don't think you want to be facing children upbringing especially paying school fees after retirement. That is their point
As for respect, you should respect those that are married because, believe me, IT IS NOT EASY AT ALL.......L. They deserve it!
When you sight a Married man/woman, it should inspire you because it is a step ahead of you. And you should aspire to take that bold step because it is a step in the right direction. Even the Bible affirms it.
As for people who decided not to marry at all your choice, no offence, Paul the Apostle affirms it too, but immorality has to be out of it too

octopusfreaky:
Lord have mercy,you have bn meeting the wrong ladies...

Deefuray:

How is madam and the children?

Kimoni:


I think I like this babe

Kachisbarbie:

It's mutual

Lesbians!

mcdreeezy:
The woman behind a successful man is his mother and not the wife.

Ediss:
grow up ok?

3Dee:


Bros, I thought I was the only one in that shoe until I came upon ur post. The stigmatisation is real bro. There's even this man at my work place that normally ask after my mum anytime I greet him---meaning I'm still a boy who's probably living under mummy's roof and eating mummy thank you food. Can you imagine!!!
I still dey count am for the guy, the day wey I go surprise am with slaps don dey ripe.
Just watch out Una go hear for nairaland.

StarboyMichael:
. In fact, I don't have problem with anyone who doesn't want to get married at all.