menix:
Lamentation of a 'play boy/Gay/Lesbian/Feminist'
Just watch, even those wowo galz no man dey price will also come to support this lamentation..


If u re being stigmatized, enta market ring no cost, it will stop people asking you queshions..

adeoti01:
Marriage, I detest the institution with passion....

krissy213:


Makes no sense. If you ask me

lestat:
To all rejected, dumped, used, confused, lonely, dependent, emotionally immature, mentally immature, aggressive, single people on naioraland who are all bashing marriage and consoling themselves!!! listen!!!

I work in a company with 70% expatriates and even they will tell you marriage stabilizes one better and makes you a well rounded human being!! I get this all the time because i am in my mid thirties and still single!! yet in a much as i would like to convince myself that being single rocks the reality is that being single and unmarried sucks!!!! it sucks so bad it stinks!!!

How i would love to come home to a smiley face of a wife but things just didn't go that way, may have been my fault or the people i met who knows? thats life sometimes life serves you lemons and instead of ranting make some lemonade!!!

Contrary to your post i actually welcome these constant criticisms why? because they keep me on my toes and constantly remind me what i should be doing!! you see its easy to get lost in the life of being single but let me tell you all

THERES NO JOY IN BEING A SINGLE PARENT NOR IS THERE ANY JOY IN BEING LONELY!!! so i would rather keep having people tell me ythe painful truth than get stuck in self delusions of intentionally wanting to be single when in reality i had some innate issues that needed fixing hence why every good person left me!!

For example.. i have a colleague who has serious temper issues , she wont ever agree to anything except its her point of view, now guess what?!! SHE IS SINGLE AT 34!!!! (No surprise there) now at every opportunity she sings out that it was her choice to be single, that infact she has decided to be a single mum!!! wow!! such self deceit!! the truth is she cant keep a relationship because of her attitude!!

Mine is temper i have a bad temper and that sort of used to scare some women away, imagine me f00ling myself into thinking that being single is a choice instead of working on myself?

All i am saying is no one wants to be alone!! no matter how much they deceive them selves or convince people, when they are inside their bedroom alone, they all cry and think over past relationships that they self sabotaged!!!

So stop whining and work on yourself, then maybe yopu cab get married

maryhaam:
ok jare,how you dey.

yomi007k:


Even in d fire,I'm COOL


U?

StarboyMichael:
My friend wrote this and I want to share.


But it is an invasion of privacy to be asking people when they are getting married. And it is wrong of you to disrespect people because they are not married. Some people even think single or unmarried people are irresponsible or lose.
I have seen situations where some married people believe you should accord them special respect because they are married and you are not.

Let me continue by saying that I am not married and I don't need anybody's advice on why I am not yet married. I personally will not tolerate disrespect from anyone because I am not married. Neither will I accord anyone special respect because he or she is married. I will only respect you if you deserve my respect, whether you are married or single is immaterial to me.

Finally, let it be clear that single or unmarried status is not a disease that needs to be cured. .

Yes, married women deserve a lot of respect and will always be accorded that due respect than on you over-aged "Agadi Nwanyi" that is playing around, jumping from one bed to another, all in the name of civilisation!

If you like, go to court and say you are not respected like a married woman.
Infact, you are considered not yet responsible, since you are yet to get married.
Who are you "responsible towards"? Your wife? Your husband? Your children?

Oh, l forgot, you many boyfriends/Girlfriends, right?
Who will even put you in sensitive position when they know that you can "bail-out" at anytime since you have no "family responsibilities"?

maryhaam:
I dey alrite oooo,how my rivals them

eightsin:

And why are the ladies avoiding this thread like a plague.

Lilimax:

Because we ladies cannot impose ourselves on a man for marriage. We may not have control over our being single ...
It is a man that will ask our hands in marriage and not the other way round

Lilimax:

Because we ladies cannot impose ourselves on a man for marriage.
It is a man that will ask our hands in marriage and not the other way round

peppyluv02:
80% of married couples in Nigeria are not happy. Fact! So, why rush into it?
Yea....'What people will say'....Interesting
Keep living a miserable life for those whose life are not better than yours...
All these misinformed kids turn relationship counselors think marriage is just a union to bear children and enslave your partner with silly rules and regulation. Don't worry,by the time you get into it with the wrong person,your eyes will open. And don't go screaming, 'I can divorce' because it's better to be single than divorced.
For all the ladies that are desperate..take it easy and don't get into it for the wrong reasons except your single status is your fault eg too much rejection,looking for 'mr right'. No Mr right,no Mrs left,we are human. That's why understanding and tolerance is needed.

eightsin:


True but given the right attitude. I've seen some ladies talk their men into marriage though.

yomi007k:


I don't knw anything abt ur rivals...

U shud tel me abt dem,since u knw dem.

maryhaam:
you r grounded,till further notice.

trishapal:
Even before I got to the point where the op expressly mentioned it, I already knew he (or most probably SHE) was single and 'unhappy' but pretending to be satisfied. Marriage is a program of God so I don't think anyone should arrogantly explain themselves out for not falling in line with that program. Some unhappy singles instead of talking to God to fulfill His purpose for their lives, resort to self-pride, praising their status in public but weeping in their closets. About people 'prying' into your privacy, you need to know that in Africa, or let me say Nigeria, anyone who says 'it is my life' is not always right - we haven't reached that stage. Very few may talk about your status to mock you but many mean well for you. No matter your achievements, except if God exceptionally does not want you to get married, you need to know that you are not where you should be. And if your petty 'achievements' have gotten into your head that you now think or talk less about marriage, you need some people around you to 'beat' you into order...

1. When you are married, the way you take decision before will change.

2. Responsibility has come.

3. Waste of Resources will stop.

4. your excesses will be control by someone.

5. Your Thinking will change.

6. You will be taking serious because you are now serious. etc

Kachisbarbie:


this is the most facile hackneyed statement I keep hearing.
Which fact?
Where did you conduct the survey?
If 80% of married people you know are unhappy, then change your circle because something is really wrong somewhere.

Marriage is sweet, as at when due to the right person. I don't believe in pressurised marriage, neither do I believe in your statistics.

Why won't 80% of marriage be unhappy to you, when you go about looking at unhappy couples, to make yourself feel better and buttress your statistics.

If a married person says "singles (especially ladies) are unhappy" some of you would almost have cardiac arrest on top the matter. Argue constructively, albeit with facts. Don't fling preposterous statistics here and there...

Henrypraise:
Once u start workin, even ur enemy wants u to get married.

In my former office, I was given a 30days, in 1 week off, wen I tried to protest, I was told m not married n it shud remain like dat. Whereas d married once stay in d office doin almost notin.

Kachisbarbie:


this is the most facile hackneyed statement I keep hearing.
Which fact?
Where did you conduct the survey?
If 80% of married people you know are unhappy, then change your circle because something is really wrong somewhere.

Marriage is sweet, as at when due to the right person. I don't believe in pressurised marriage, neither do I believe in your statistics.

Why won't 80% of marriage be unhappy to you, when you go about looking at unhappy couples, to make yourself feel better and buttress your statistics.

If a married person says "singles (especially ladies) are unhappy" some of you would almost have cardiac arrest on top the matter. Argue constructively, albeit with facts. Don't fling preposterous statistics here and there...

lastpage:



Get a Husband and stop ranting here!

Yes, married women deserve a lot of respect and will always be accorded that due respect than on you over-aged "Agadi Nwanyi" that is playing around, jumping from one bed to another, all in the name of civilisation!

If you like, go to court and say you are not respected like a married woman.
Infact, you are considered not yet responsible, since you are yet to get married.
Who are you "responsible towards"? Your wife? Your husband? Your children?

Oh, l forgot, you many boyfriends/Girlfriends, right?
Who will even put you in sensitive position when they know that you can "bail-out" at anytime since you have no "family responsibilities"?

Like l said, if e dey pain you, charge me to court.

Married and Proud of it. Just see my "ring finger"!



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