joborskill:
I have been in a relationship with a lady since March last year and all has been going smooth until a revelation popped out earlier today via our chat on whatsapp and it has been troubling my mind. We had a discussion about our past and after sharing series of experiences, she started begging me to forgive her for not telling me this earlier. She claims the month of February has always been a terrible month for her as it brings back some bad memories.

After persuading her for a while about what the issue is, she said she was pregnant for her EX in 2013 and she didn't know until it resulted in a terrible sickness which led to her been rushed to an hospital where the doctor confirmed she is 5 months pregnant. She said the doctor recommended surgery to terminate the pregnancy because the baby was in her right fallopian tube instead of her womb.

She confirmed to me that her right fallopian tube has been removed while all she has now is her womb and left tube. she claims the doctor told her she can only have a maximum of 3 kids when ready due to the surgery. I acted like everything is fine so as not to hurt her feelings any further but i'm seriously disturbed by this.

This is someone i love so much and i intend getting married to later this year. I need advices on what to do next as i am confused right now. What are the implications of having any of the tubes removed? would it affect fertility or child bearing in marriage? Do you think i should move on with my life and look for someone else as i cannot determine the level of damages that has happened to her reproductive system? Kindly drop your comments.

femi4:
The only fallopian tube left can also be at risk if child's development doesn't take place in the womb

Veejaylicious:

As many advice you receive here, Please follow your heart in making decisions irrespective of how pleasing or convincing it is.
No man is an island of knowledge, we display it at different levels.
Some people form moralistic while in real life they are... if people advise will save your relationship, it think it is worth it irrespective of the means and in as much as condemnation and hypocracy is eliminated

BE WISE!

tpiar:


chances of reocurrence depend on various factors which are not clear.

but most people with an ectopic pregnancy, go on to have children afterwards.

sickstars:
anoda dummy spotted

U dont av matured relatives to ask?

Wow d mumu people in naija increases daily

sickstars:
anoda dummy spotted

U dont av matured relatives to ask?

Wow d mumu people in naija increases daily

Lexusgs:



In this situation,insist on pregnancy before marriage.
Simply to avoid stories that touches the heart!!!

sickstars:


Cum nd grow me up

naijaboiy:
Bro,I think you should give her a second chance. At least for the fact that she has been honest with you before marriage.

The God that gives you such a forgiving heart will not forsake you when it's time to have kids.

Trust me.

grandstar:
if ur son told you his fisncee has only one fallopian tube, you go gree make hin msrry am?

sickstars:
anoda dummy spotted

U dont av matured relatives to ask?

Wow d mumu people in naija increases daily

naijaboiy:

Look at what this one is typing when someone needs an important advise.

Just say you are not capable of helping instead of displaying how crass your stupidity is.

What is wrong in asking for advise on a forum?

You sounded like the dummy with that post of yours.

Naso them dey do. Like say them be encyclopedia... rubbish.

@OP, she had an ectopic pregnancy which led to the loss of one of her tubes. That's definitely not the worst thing to happen to a woman, it could happen even in marriage (I am not in any way encouraging premarital sex).
Most importantly, the remaining tube is viable, same with her womb, she pops eggs...some ladies have all present_ yet no kids.

In the longrun, it's all dependent on you... if you know you can support her through it all, without readily reminding her of her past_ the Lord is your strength.

Just remember, it might be you tomorrow. Have you checked your sperm count (et al)?

naijaboiy:
Bro,I think you should give her a second chance. At least for the fact that she has been honest with you before marriage.

The God that gives you such a forgiving heart will not forsake you when it's time to have kids.

Trust me.

stevecantrell:
Be cool, She had an ectopic pregnancy and then a salpingectomy to save her life. The other tube should be patent and thus she isn't considered barren. Good luck.

sonofananimal:
Bros!

Which doctor will tell a woman to terminate the baby because of fallopian instead tell will put her in an intensive care unit when is due time to deliver.

Your queen did an abortion and she is telling you lies and you on the other hand (MUGU ) is buying it.

Guys make una dey use una brain SOMTIMES na!

You dey hear about NAIJA WOMEN and there evils life style but yet still fall prey to them.

MUGU!

tpiar:


bro, dont spoil this thread abeg.

There is no "time to deliver" with an ectopic pregnancy, and neither does it last for five months.

i expected you to call out the op on this monkeyish thread, making mockery of women who actually went through this experience, not assist him in his s.tupidity.

sickstars:


M nt claiming tough stop saying dat to me

I cant get all crios nd giv advise to sumone matured enof to tink on his own!

U tink its normal but its not to b sincere it doesnt make sense

Ow wud d girl in question feel wen she told her man d truth only for him to publish it world wide if she was ur sister wat will u do?

Cos u fink its good to expose in d public wat a girl in tears secretly told u smh

flokii:
lol.. how many she suppose get?

women sef

veraponpo:


Pls do not assume that she was honest.

This might be half truth . The damage might be worse than this but she watered it down to get her husband first.

My advice is for you to take her to an hospital of your choice not recommended by her and test her fertility, womb and fallopian tubes.

If the tests come out well, then go ahead.

I have a friend that is still battling with his own till date , unfortunately he married as a virgin whereas the wife had had abortion tat affected her womb. They have been there for 8 years now.

adepeter26:

Sis, dont confuse me jare.
Suite urself