Armanee:
U shuld ask Toks2008 for an advice. He goes around encouraging Adulterous men. Im sure he has a backup plan for all situations concerning men who cheat.

uckennety:

Ur a wrong no doubt!but I v learnt neva to beg a woman!try tlk to her say ur sorry!if it continues!my brother let her bE!sEnd ur children to day care,or boardinG house!allow her have HER Fun wid whoEver!then as 4 a divorce!end d whole shit!two wrong makes no ryte!!!tnxz

Adasun:
Hellow fellow,am in a big mess right now.



My pervetious heart lead me to cheat on my wife and unfortunately i got caught red handed.i woun't explain dat awkward experience for now.



My wife trusted me so much,but i broke those trust.now my own home is broken too.


When da deed happened and i was caught,she cried nd cried and later left my house.due to pleads frm those she respected so much because i ask them for help.she later came back to da hwz bt not in gud terms


we no longer greet,she hardly talks to me,she cook when she wants to.once she did not cook,i had to buy fud for da kids


most of all,she now started acting wield nd free.she picks suspicious calls right under my nose.laugh anyhow when charting.


When it first started,i thought it's just a plot to get me jealous so i dance to da tone.i use my body language to atleast show her am jealous and want her badly.


Bt it got worse,she now comes home late and even brought a guy home.and when i saw dis guy in da sitting rum,he introduce me as her cousing.


i was mad,but i myself i guilty.how do i show her dat am in charge when i myself was caught cheatingshould i send her out?on what ground

should i continue to make peace reign?bt i have tried my best.i need ur help my fellow landers.help a brother to make da right decision.

Armanee:
U shuld ask Toks2008 for an advice. He goes around encouraging Adulterous men. Im sure he has a backup plan for all situations concerning men who cheat.

uckennety:

Ur a wrong no doubt!but I v learnt neva to beg a woman!try tlk to her say ur sorry!if it continues!my brother let her bE!sEnd ur children to day care,or boardinG house!allow her have HER Fun wid whoEver!then as 4 a divorce!end d whole shit!two wrong makes no ryte!!!tnxz

uckennety:

Nooo dts nt wt am saying!exactly but He who plays d piper dictates d tune!i married her,she didn't marry me!marriage is not relationship!let her gt matured and deal wid it

rahman3853:
Reading this thread reminds me Shaggy's song "It wasn't me" lol. Back to the matter, OP I congratulate u for nothing but for being lucky. Couple of weeks ago we read abt a wife stabbing husbby to death on infidelity but on different scope like urs. Why cheat in the first place? It baffles me o, the same thing u are putting ur joystick into ur wife has it, the same front grapes u suck and caress, ur wfe has, except if the other lady's is golden, wch is imposicant. The deed is done n no need of crying over a spilt milk. Trust me, I am saying this from experience, it takes ur wife time to trust u, let's me give u an allegory, imagine a house built to 5th storey for 1year, then in 30mins the caterpillar crushed it, do u think the builder can rebuild it to that same stage within a month with same workers? Am sure the answer is no. But perhaps they can build it in 2 or 3 months, with conditions, like trippling the worker, pay for extra time and wrong the clock work. So my dear OP, u have demolished the trust, u can't attain it quicker than before, but u can still acheive it by being remorseful, sobre, loving n caring than before, come home at right time, no secrecy, no passwording fones, no closest chat on fone, be nicer to her and rebuff her insolence, she is trying to get at u, if u react to it, my guy u just detonate an atomic bomb in that relationship. U are the man in the house but nw u are the wife, trust me. Be calm, she knows wat she is doing. We men usually think ladies have fish brain, abeg no think am o. Only sometimes the are emotionally fragile, but they have nothing like fish brain. If u do this and constantly apologize, even if it means going on ur kneel abeg do am. No pride abt it. She is ur wife. Just try and turn the table around. Wat if she was the one that cheated, will u easily forgive n forget it? Of course no!!!!! So pedal softly, pray hard and be genuinely change. She is nt blind. She is human. She come around. Good luck.

Adasun:
yeah i had thought abt da divorce thing.bt how do i start?what would be my excuse For da boarding skul stuf,


i don't want them in boarding skul,i have a big sis who can take care of them.

Tanks for ur care dear

obstead200:
hmmm!!!
It seems to me that ur wife is the one feeding u and footing all d bills at home. It seems she is the bread winner.
I don't encourage extramarital affairs cos it does more harm than good.
But u have apologized. That is all dat matters here. Take charge of ur home like a man and throw the stu.pid bi.tch out of ur house.

Except u don't live in Nigeria or except she feeds u. If so, OYO is ur case. But if not, man up and send her packing. If she is so wicked to deny u forgiveness, u life is at great risk.

STFUareyouGod:
So why are you complaining?

The fact she forgives doesn't mean you won't suffer for your sins. Even the bible made us realise a sinner won't go unpunished
Enjoy as she serves you hot

cao:
Some folks like wahala too much. Some people will go around throwing glass on the floor while walking barefoot, then start complaining when the glass cuts their feet.

worshipdevice:

you no try at all ooo.
The young admit he did wrong, repented and now need help.
dont judge so u wont be judge!
D same Bible u quote say he without a sin should cast the stone first.
U want tell say u be saint abi.
I hate silly folks

bellarmine:
Shits happens bro! But you messed up full time. If you must conduct an affair, why not do it with honour?

Blame aside and solution time!

Your wife is acting like that just to get at you! If she is really cheating on you, she won't bring the guys home or even make loud calls around you. Believe me, some of the loud calls are fake.

At this stage, she will derive joy to see you feel pain...which she expects you to react through being restless, angry, and complain. Do not give her that. Just act as if you are ok with her actions(it won't be easy at all). But that's a reverse psychology of not showing her what she expects-this will make her think of making a turn. But that's not all.

Most importantly, never stop getting her what you know she likes(expect refusal initially anyway). Also, try to get your kids attention the more. That will definitely make her jealous and want to come back.

Cook for your kids if you can...Play with them. And you know all those things their mum does for them, take over and start doing them for your kids.

I know you must have apologized, keep apologizing.

But be careful...once she stops making those loud calls, bringing guys home, yet she haven't changed and taken over her duty at home. At this point, something may be going on outside.

Still give her time...for the fact that you attested that she trusted you so much; it will take her sometime to get off the shock.

--keep apologizing
--care extra to your kids
--get her gifts
--give her extra time
--be watchful once she stops be evasive with her shock-effect behavior

My 2 cents anyway.

Sarang:


She won't because she's a good woman.
Your type are the people that remain in an abusive relationship for marriage namesake.
If my husband cheats on me,heaven knows thats the end.
That woman she has a kind heart and this husband of hers is just poo.

Im surprise to see some women still thinks themselves as nothing in this century.

repogirl:
this your post funny no be small, if she didn't marry you, would you have married yourself? Lol.

Have you noticed on wedding invitation cards that it is the woman's name that appears first, e.g. daretodiffer weds uckennety? Why do you think that is?

It is because she 'chose' to marry you, you didn't just pick her off the side of the road and force to live in your house. So wipe that mentality that you do women favours by marrying them. She agreed to your proposal and that's why your bride price was received or you would be looking for another woman to beg to accept your proposal.


And marriage is not a relationship, seriously? I guess to you, its a dictatorship then.