obstead200:
hmmm!!!
It seems to me that ur wife is the one feeding u and footing all d bills at home. It seems she is the bread winner.
I don't encourage extramarital affairs cos it does more harm than good.
But u have apologized. That is all dat matters here. Take charge of ur home like a man and throw the stu.pid bi.tch out of ur house.

Except u don't live in Nigeria or except she feeds u. If so, OYO is ur case. But if not, man up and send her packing. If she is so wicked to deny u forgiveness, u life is at great risk.

Maximus85:


Take it from me, she's a damn good woman and she's not cheating on you. She might have taken it too far by not cooking for her kids but you brought all these on yourself and now it's affecting your innocent kids.
It's up to you. Look for a way to take her far away from home to a quiet place, I private beach or resort. Open your heart to her and vow never ever to cheat on her.
Men should be in control of their joystick. It belongs not to you but your wife's.

STFUareyouGod:
you are so unintelligent. It will always give you away. Shame!

malachytochukwu:
You think it's that easy uhhh?... He messed up real large and this is all you have to say... That's your opinion though but I am sure that if it were the man that caught the wife red handed this thread would have been filled up with... "kick the wh*re out!"... This is the time for him to show his wife real love and not taking up issues with her. He should not even contemplate divorce at all... Otherwise his whole life will be in a total mess...

worshipdevice:

Preach on sir...
Pray u dont fall because you will need help.

slap1:


He means his wife, not girlfriend. And why won't you beg someone you offended? Be forming African man while you're actually dying inside.

ILoveMakonen:
Please write your english well, i like ur comment but d english is making it irritatable. *no offence

NemzySeries:
yes u cheated, got caught & repented but I fink itz high time ur wife began to act straight & take d business of d day which is her marriage.....all dis bringing men home & not cooking 4 d kids is way too far......if she feels she can't 4give or let go den pls escort her to d gate bkos we can't cough out luv or affection frm pple dat are not willing to.....im not supporting seperation or divorce but honestly she gone too far 4getting she nw owns a family & d kids are growing as well as watching all dis unnecessary drama u guys are putting up wit.....success to u guys

Joy1706:

Madam it's not about being married for 20 years. Doesn't mean u have a good marriage. More like 20 years a slave. Hahahahahaha! See ur comment below

"Men of these days are so Weak, so my husband cheated, so I will bring a strange man to his living room?

Or go out and come back late or neglect his kids?

Which day I start to fly? Well with some men u can get away with many things."

You sound like ur in master - house girl relationship. Seems u have a husband who keeps u under control by beating u like a horse. You can take it but other women, I mean other normal women won't. His wife has every right to act out. She's angry and she's been hurt.
I know ur the type of woman whose husband will bring his girlfriends home and you'll serve them food and even excuse urself from ur matrimonial room. Lmao! I pity you o. That one no be marriage abeg.
And the fact that you keep saying HIS HOUSE, HIS LIVING ROOM shows the kind of master -servant marriage ur operating. I guess ur just a tenant. Choi! I pity for some women o. And this one will open her mouth and say she's married. Hahahahahaha! Say hi to your task master aka strong man when he gets back. Lmao! Glorified house geh

Joy1706:

The side chick still has to say YES abi. She would still marry you

OkoAnike:
Op, ur wife has watch a Nigeria film "Mr. & Mrs"
My brother find that same film Mr. & Mrs, after watching it, u will be better of...

rahman3853:
Reading this thread reminds me Shaggy's song "It wasn't me" lol. Back to the matter, OP I congratulate u for nothing but for being lucky. Couple of weeks ago we read abt a wife stabbing husbby to death on infidelity but on different scope like urs. Why cheat in the first place? It baffles me o, the same thing u are putting ur joystick into ur wife has it, the same front grapes u suck and caress, ur wfe has, except if the other lady's is golden, wch is imposicant. The deed is done n no need of crying over a spilt milk. Trust me, I am saying this from experience, it takes ur wife time to trust u, let's me give u an allegory, imagine a house built to 5th storey for 1year, then in 30mins the caterpillar crushed it, do u think the builder can rebuild it to that same stage within a month with same workers? Am sure the answer is no. But perhaps they can build it in 2 or 3 months, with conditions, like trippling the worker, pay for extra time and wrong the clock work. So my dear OP, u have demolished the trust, u can't attain it quicker than before, but u can still acheive it by being remorseful, sobre, loving n caring than before, come home at right time, no secrecy, no passwording fones, no closest chat on fone, be nicer to her and rebuff her insolence, she is trying to get at u, if u react to it, my guy u just detonate an atomic bomb in that relationship. U are the man in the house but nw u are the wife, trust me. Be calm, she knows wat she is doing. We men usually think ladies have fish brain, abeg no think am o. Only sometimes the are emotionally fragile, but they have nothing like fish brain. If u do this and constantly apologize, even if it means going on ur kneel abeg do am. No pride abt it. She is ur wife. Just try and turn the table around. Wat if she was the one that cheated, will u easily forgive n forget it? Of course no!!!!! So pedal softly, pray hard and be genuinely change. She is nt blind. She is human. She come around. Good luck.

Adasun:
Hellow fellow,am in a big mess right now.



My pervetious heart lead me to cheat on my wife and unfortunately i got caught red handed.i woun't explain dat awkward experience for now.



My wife trusted me so much,but i broke those trust.now my own home is broken too.


When da deed happened and i was caught,she cried nd cried and later left my house.due to pleads frm those she respected so much because i ask them for help.she later came back to da hwz bt not in gud terms


we no longer greet,she hardly talks to me,she cook when she wants to.once she did not cook,i had to buy fud for da kids


most of all,she now started acting wield nd free.she picks suspicious calls right under my nose.laugh anyhow when charting.


When it first started,i thought it's just a plot to get me jealous so i dance to da tone.i use my body language to atleast show her am jealous and want her badly.


Bt it got worse,she now comes home late and even brought a guy home.and when i saw dis guy in da sitting rum,he introduce me as her cousing.


i was mad,but i myself i guilty.how do i show her dat am in charge when i myself was caught cheatingshould i send her out?on what ground

should i continue to make peace reign?bt i have tried my best.i need ur help my fellow landers.help a brother to make da right decision.

donmarshia:


Madam, you think marriage involves only you. So because your husband cheats, you will break up not minding the effect on your kids? Think again!

Adasun:
Hellow fellow,am in a big mess right now.



My pervetious heart lead me to cheat on my wife and unfortunately i got caught red handed.i woun't explain dat awkward experience for now.



My wife trusted me so much,but i broke those trust.now my own home is broken too.


When da deed happened and i was caught,she cried nd cried and later left my house.due to pleads frm those she respected so much because i ask them for help.she later came back to da hwz bt not in gud terms


we no longer greet,she hardly talks to me,she cook when she wants to.once she did not cook,i had to buy fud for da kids


most of all,she now started acting wield nd free.she picks suspicious calls right under my nose.laugh anyhow when charting.


When it first started,i thought it's just a plot to get me jealous so i dance to da tone.i use my body language to atleast show her am jealous and want her badly.


Bt it got worse,she now comes home late and even brought a guy home.and when i saw dis guy in da sitting rum,he introduce me as her cousing.


i was mad,but i myself i guilty.how do i show her dat am in charge when i myself was caught cheatingshould i send her out?on what ground

should i continue to make peace reign?bt i have tried my best.i need ur help my fellow landers.help a brother to make da right decision.

uckennety:

IF I couldn't pay her bills!will sHe agreed?

repogirl:
seriously? That's the best argument you could come up with?

Maybe you need to wake up and see that its the twenty first century, umm, I think women go to school now ......maybe you also didnt realise but women have jobs and careers now .... some take it further and establish successful businesses, so therefore many women don't need you to pay their bills but ofcourse they would prefer to marry a MAN who's got his own, so as not to make him feel emasculated.

But maybe you prefer the ones that need you to settle their bills so you can sustain your ego by acting like the dictator?

bebe2:


Me think my self as nothing ? Far from it .

I have a man who adores me and has been doing dat for 20yrs. Treats me the same he treated me wen i was 17. There will always be issues, but one needs widom to handle it.

she has taken it too far. She had my sympathy until she brought a stranger to her matrimonial home.

For me dats a No No. On no account shud dat happen. That type of anger can make her sleep with someone else just to punish her husband . She is very vulnerable at this stage and men love that they will happily take advantage of the situation.

OK, wen all this dies down wat does she tell the stranger?

U live and learn, u dat is acting like untouchable, the day u hear ur husband is cheating on u , divorce him, take the kids and marry another man. Wen dat one cheats divorce him too, add the new kids to old from previous fathers. Search for another. Let's see how far that will take you.

uckennety:

And so Hw many men r successFul!99.9% girls are into runs!love is 4 d highest bidder!

repogirl:
you obviously don't know much about the female folk, I hereby rest my case.

When you rush so quickly to lump all women together as prostitutes, keep in mind your mother and sisters and whether they are part of the 99.9%

Henrique4real:



These words of yours shows that you are not ready to work out your marriage. It seems like she is cheating, u haven't even caught her red handed as she caught you yet you are already thinking about divorce. Wicked people who cannot take the same Shit they serve to women. Am sure she has seen that your apologies are not genuine.you are the types that wud commit psychologically damaging sins against your felow humans yet u wud be like "forgive me quick so we can get on with life" or "forgive and forget quickly so I can stop feeling this guilt". You quoted someone's post and you were asking if his comment was supposed to make u feel better. Jeez! By their fruit, you will know them.you just came here to boost ur ego and seek support for a wrong decision u have already taken in your mind. My advice to all, leave this guy, he is not ready to work on the marriage he spoilt with his errant ways. Am sure your wife wud have been noticing other of your escapades without proof. Swear on d life of ur kids that this is the first time u have cheated on her! Bad Husband! If u are a good man and you said your wife was a good woman then why can't u struggle appropriately for the marriage? One girl don dey for bench dey wait abi? I dislike every bit of you for now.

why are being like this?

Am trying as a man should,am not perfect ok.bt listen i regreted everything down to da core.


Bt why is she strangling me with harsh words,bad eyesight,unecessary chart and most of all malice,malice!!!!! dat one is even da worse.


Do u knw she can't even tell me orally dat fud is ready?


Do u knw what she usually do
Hahahaha o GOD.


Dis lady i called my wife would write a written not and drop where i may or not possibly c it,and then tell me dat fud is ready


listen i cherish her somuch,ur words are not even helping matters.u ar 2 judgemental.

Why i just thought of divorce stuff is dat her bad behavior look so real and ambivalent sometimes.

Please they are many things i can't say right now,infact u just worse my day.and don't tell me dats da truth.

uckennety:


Sorry I dnt v sisters!my mum n all d good babes out dia is d. 1%