Jadekitana:
Sorry I know of someone who just ended his marriage! He did court,traditional and church. When the woman was misbehaving badly, no pastor, nor documents nor traditions could make him change his mind. He kicked her to the curbs and signed an Alimony to cater for their son! He would be getting married later in June to someone else. Bottom line is when you are married, behave yourself as a lady or a guy! Divorce is inevitable,nobody is indisposable.

daretodiffer:


Divorce is not the reason people marry in court

Youngpo413:
There is nothing wrong in marrying other wives if he chooses.

Fairytales:
no woman wants to share.

Jadekitana:
Ok we learn everyday, now what's the reason behind court weddings,lets hear your opinion

daretodiffer:


Security, bigamy, and so on

In a country like Nigeria where your husban can throw you out when he wishes, he won't be able to do that in law. You can sue hiss ass if he tries it

Men often use their familky etc as next of kin, when he dies, the family may seize all the properties and leave the wife and her children stranded. However with a court marriage, they will be secured. Next of kin does not mean you automatically own all the properties however it gives the next of kin a certain authority over it.

Your husband cannot marry another wife without a proper divorce. I think you can get compensation if he cheats on you. I am not sure about that.

Also, he cannot leave you financially stranded after a divorce.



This arguments should also apply if you are the richer partner as well as the one that misbehaves.

Fairytales:
Will you still marry him knowing the following;
1. He can marry other wives with ease
2. He can kick you out at any opportunity he gets
3. You have no protection under the law in case he dies.

Pls men, instead of ruling out white wedding, you can do a small one if money is your consideration.

Matured advise.

Fairytales:
Toks2008
Daret odiffer
Freec.ocoa
Lez.zlie
Postm.ann
Estarfabian
Mizmyc.oli
Mamag.ee3

And others, ur comments needed

Jadekitana:
Sorry I know of someone who just ended his marriage! He did court,traditional and church. When the woman was misbehaving badly, no pastor, nor documents nor traditions could make him change his mind. He kicked her to the curbs and signed an Alimony to cater for their son! He would be getting married later in June to someone else. Bottom line is when you are married, behave yourself as a lady or a guy! Divorce is inevitable,nobody is indisposable.

Fairytales:
Will you still marry him knowing the following;
1. He can marry other wives with ease
2. He can kick you out at any opportunity he gets
3. You have no protection under the law in case he dies.

Pls men, instead of ruling out white wedding, you can do a small one if money is your consideration.

Matured advise.

Fairytales:
Will you still marry him knowing the following;
1. He can marry other wives with ease
2. He can kick you out at any opportunity he gets
3. You have no protection under the law in case he dies.

Pls men, instead of ruling out white wedding, you can do a small one if money is your consideration.

Matured advise.

Toks2008:

https://www.nairaland.com/3014187/married-lady-never-good-single#44167364

Lezzlie:
Brilliant, please tell them, especially those who think they know too much.

Lezzlie:
If she insists on just traditional marriage, she couldn't have made a better choice!!!

To me, that's the way to go!!! Court marriages and white wedding are just what they truelly are; the rites of our cultural and spiritual subjugation to the West.


Besides court marriage aren't divorce-proof, white wedding is just a Cinderella show for the bride and her friends.

agarawu23:
sorry!!!
I honestly can't do court wedding with ANY lady and NOBODY can change my mind on that.

These set of ladies with court wedding do behave silly and I can't take such shiit. You expect me to marry a Lady and if she messed up , I kick her ass out and one mumu court will divide my property for such biitch? God4bid.

If you can't marry me cos I ain't doing court, another person will.

After all only lazy and bad minded ladies will insist on court wedding

daretodiffer:


Security, bigamy, and so on

In a country like Nigeria where your husban can throw you out when he wishes, he won't be able to do that in law. You can sue hiss ass if he tries it

Men often use their familky etc as next of kin, when he dies, the family may seize all the properties and leave the wife and her children stranded. However with a court marriage, they will be secured. Next of kin does not mean you automatically own all the properties however it gives the next of kin a certain authority over it.

Your husband cannot marry another wife without a proper divorce. I think you can get compensation if he cheats on you. I am not sure about that.

Also, he cannot leave you financially stranded after a divorce.



This arguments should also apply if you are the richer partner as well as the one that misbehaves.

naijathings:


all this wahala, terms and conditions like when we were buying SIM card for over 30K.

Does anyone in this world marry simply because of Love anymore ? Or it is a matter of WHO GETS WHAT ?

How people be thinking of security and divorce while saying their marriage vows and signing papers.

daretodiffer:


let me see, ther sis love not Romeo and Juliet love.

If you look around you, you wouldn't be surprised. Two strangers who intend to live together must be prepared because after all they are humans that is they can misbehave. Better safe than sorry

Why won't you think of security? If it ends up bad, do you expect your family and friends to clean up your mess?