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Re: Why Do Only Broke Men Approach Me For Marriage? by Nobody: 4:55am On May 06, 2016
mizlolar:
Please i need ur help. Am having challenges in area of relationship. I have the problem of ending up with men who are nothing but gold diggers. They seem good from the start but before a few months, they will turn into pests.

I dont know what is responsible for this. I just need a man who ll love me on the basis of who i am not what i have. I am from a well to do family, I am the only daughter of my parents and my dad is late, I actually inherited quite a lot and initially it seemed like a blessing until I got older.

All the Guys i ve met so far re fake displaying fake love just to get hold of what is in my possession. I will give you a little insight so you can understand what I am going tru. Around 2013, my then fiance kidnapped himself and because i already knew he was too needy and then their was a lot of inconsistencies in the story so i ignored the kidnappers who were demanding for 700k ransom. The guys showed up 2 weeks later fuming without any injuries or even shedding any weight


He was ranting and saying all sorts like how wicked i was and how i abandoned him to die. I had to break it off immediately because he was beginning to sound like i was his mother and father joined together. The next relationship went quite the same way.


The guy sold my car and came up with stories of how he was robbed at onipanu by palm-grove. unfortunately for him, i had a tracker which had its own inbuilt battery, so when they disconnected the car battery thinking they have disabled the tracker, they gaffed. the car was subsequently tracked down to shagamu at a hotel managed by his cousin. these are just the few recent ones.

There are many more experiences that i wouldn’t bother you with but I am tired. the worst is that some will even want to move in with me because of the comfort of my place. Its really frustrating. My mum said i should stop driving but its nearly impossible for me to get around lagos without a car.


I simply stopped using the big cars and got a Toyota matrix and i even had to drive myself so it dosnt look like i am the one attracting the wrong men and scaring away the good ones yet i haven’t been lucky.


I am not looking for a millionaire, I just want a man with a little dignity and value not the ones who will start demanding for loans or come up with stories within months of how their visa was stuck or how their mother was diabetic and needed money for blood transfusion. I have heard a lot of such stories and i am tired.


I dont know if my mum is right that i am scaring away the right ones with my lifestyle. Honestly, i dont even live flamboyantly neither do I club. I am in my early 30’s and i really need to settle down.


Plz help me with ideas on how to stop attracting gold digging shameless men. As at now, 4 guys re on my neck including head of admin in my firm but they are all my subordinates and I don’t want a scandal. Thank u.

Please advice. I don't need abuse from you guys... Thanks

Y shud ppl belive ds ur make up story? U claimed to b in ur early 30 here nd in ur previous post u said u were 23? I won't b surprised if some gullible niggas ve started bombarding u wit PM because may ve succeeded in ur aim of putting this trash online. Ur primary aim is just to seek attention. I shud blame d mod dat brought ds poo to FP.
Re: Why Do Only Broke Men Approach Me For Marriage? by ZeeAfrica(f): 5:00am On May 06, 2016
Udofire:
Wonderful! What an interesting Nollywood script.
maybe u can b the producer

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Re: Why Do Only Broke Men Approach Me For Marriage? by gabbytabby: 5:04am On May 06, 2016
@mizlolar

Since you have a mum to act as camouflage why does a guy have to know anything about your inheritance.

Let a man be a man and take you out with what he has. Let him choose the location do not be too forward.

Try to date around your level. Watch how you dress and learn how to enjoy simple things without it becoming all about money.

Why is he driving your simple car him no get him own. Why does he know you have access to large cash without having to speak to your mum to use pay ransom. I have to ask or do not want my mum to quarrel with me is a get out of difficult place card and please use it.

Dont encourage time wasters so choose to spend your time with responsible people only. Does he really have a job, what are his motivation, how does he treat you. If you have the opportunity study him from afar to decide if you want to put any effort into finding out morr about him.
Re: Why Do Only Broke Men Approach Me For Marriage? by sympathysenior(m): 5:24am On May 06, 2016
You should be prayerful and careful. That's my own advice.
Re: Why Do Only Broke Men Approach Me For Marriage? by permanentgrace(m): 5:36am On May 06, 2016
xendra:
loll.... Imagine comment your situation? maybe its indeed permanent, but its not grace

I know the importance of that my comment and i can assure you the effect has deeply penetrated your bones even down to the marrow. My dear, though the truth is bitter and hard to spew, but sometimes we need to pull the bull by the horn. Go reflect yourself with that my comment again. Have a permanentgrace!
Re: Why Do Only Broke Men Approach Me For Marriage? by Chpstcks(m): 6:15am On May 06, 2016
Matt 6:33
Re: Why Do Only Broke Men Approach Me For Marriage? by Abumadea: 6:43am On May 06, 2016
Probably because u stay in mainland. There're rich guys in Island ( like lekki and Ajah) looking for ladies like u to marry. I never chop guys plenty for mainland.
Re: Why Do Only Broke Men Approach Me For Marriage? by tuk2ato(m): 6:44am On May 06, 2016
You can do a decent, honest, broke nigga but never a gold digger. Not some dude that will cook up stories to extort money from you but someone that is serious and wants to move up the ladder financially so that you can be at par.
Re: Why Do Only Broke Men Approach Me For Marriage? by tuk2ato(m): 6:47am On May 06, 2016
But he cant do the thing now!
NikitaNike:
Meet my handsome boy. He doesn't need money just ribbena and u 2 will be lovers 4ever
Re: Why Do Only Broke Men Approach Me For Marriage? by xendra: 6:57am On May 06, 2016
permanentgrace:


I know the importance of that my comment and i can assure you the effect has deeply penetrated your bones even down to the marrow. My dear, though the truth is bitter and hard to spew, but sometimes we need to pull the bull by the horn. Go reflect yourself with that my comment again. Have a permanentgrace!
keep wishing
Re: Why Do Only Broke Men Approach Me For Marriage? by Nobody: 7:02am On May 06, 2016
Maybe you broken down too grin grin grin
Re: Why Do Only Broke Men Approach Me For Marriage? by fotadmowmend(m): 7:10am On May 06, 2016
Coldfeets:


Oh my God, no, no, no, not Again, No!

Prayer. Prayer. Prayer.

How come that's only what you Africans know?

There's a prayer for any type of situation.

Prayer for Nigeria in Distress. Prayer Against Bribery and Corruption in Nigeria. Prayer for this... prayer for that! Prayer against this... prayer against that!

Ahn ahn, abeg una no dey ever tire for all diz una prayers undecided

Hmmm. You can't be tired of prayer ! praying is not always when you go to a mountain or go to a prophet, it has to do with what you confess with your mouth ! Prayer is the answer to all problems but you have a role to play in terms of your actions also !
Re: Why Do Only Broke Men Approach Me For Marriage? by chinnymary: 7:10am On May 06, 2016
My dear..Is not by dropping ur cars or stopping what makes u happy,cos some ladies that are Not rich as u are;still face same challenge. just keep praying and I know the right man ll come.and dnt be too desperate.tnx
Re: Why Do Only Broke Men Approach Me For Marriage? by Acidosis(m): 7:13am On May 06, 2016
So people spent the night commenting on a thread posted by a jobless male scammer??


OP posted this on the job/vacancies section just two nights ago:

I received this sms few days after applying for a Job online .. Should i discard it

"Your application for the customer service training has been received, To determine your eligibility for job referrals after the training, come with an updated CV and passport photo to 634 Akin Adesola beside GTBank head office V.I" the sms is from 'OCNL'

www.nairaland.com/3085972/please-need-advice


I know some f00ls like HIMself must have sent HIM PMs

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Re: Why Do Only Broke Men Approach Me For Marriage? by Nobody: 7:20am On May 06, 2016
mizlolar:
Please i need ur help. Am having challenges in area of relationship. I have the problem of ending up with men who are nothing but gold diggers. They seem good from the start but before a few months, they will turn into pests.

I dont know what is responsible for this. I just need a man who ll love me on the basis of who i am not what i have. I am from a well to do family, I am the only daughter of my parents and my dad is late, I actually inherited quite a lot and initially it seemed like a blessing until I got older.

All the Guys i ve met so far re fake displaying fake love just to get hold of what is in my possession. I will give you a little insight so you can understand what I am going tru. Around 2013, my then fiance kidnapped himself and because i already knew he was too needy and then their was a lot of inconsistencies in the story so i ignored the kidnappers who were demanding for 700k ransom. The guys showed up 2 weeks later fuming without any injuries or even shedding any weight


He was ranting and saying all sorts like how wicked i was and how i abandoned him to die. I had to break it off immediately because he was beginning to sound like i was his mother and father joined together. The next relationship went quite the same way.


The guy sold my car and came up with stories of how he was robbed at onipanu by palm-grove. unfortunately for him, i had a tracker which had its own inbuilt battery, so when they disconnected the car battery thinking they have disabled the tracker, they gaffed. the car was subsequently tracked down to shagamu at a hotel managed by his cousin. these are just the few recent ones.

There are many more experiences that i wouldn’t bother you with but I am tired. the worst is that some will even want to move in with me because of the comfort of my place. Its really frustrating. My mum said i should stop driving but its nearly impossible for me to get around lagos without a car.


I simply stopped using the big cars and got a Toyota matrix and i even had to drive myself so it dosnt look like i am the one attracting the wrong men and scaring away the good ones yet i haven’t been lucky.


I am not looking for a millionaire, I just want a man with a little dignity and value not the ones who will start demanding for loans or come up with stories within months of how their visa was stuck or how their mother was diabetic and needed money for blood transfusion. I have heard a lot of such stories and i am tired.


I dont know if my mum is right that i am scaring away the right ones with my lifestyle. Honestly, i dont even live flamboyantly neither do I club. I am in my early 30’s and i really need to settle down.


Plz help me with ideas on how to stop attracting gold digging shameless men. As at now, 4 guys re on my neck including head of admin in my firm but they are all my subordinates and I don’t want a scandal. Thank u.

Please advice. I don't need abuse from you guys... Thanks


Okay.Where do u base?
Re: Why Do Only Broke Men Approach Me For Marriage? by lovethadams: 7:30am On May 06, 2016
babe don't mind all this lazy and stupid guys commenting rubbish. men of this our generation are wicked and lazy. it is only few of them that still have d fear of God in them that think like human being. I will advice u see it as one of experience in life keep praying to God he will gv u d real man and don't rush into marriage because of age just relax so that u will not make mistake. marriage is 4 ever. I wish u best of luck
Re: Why Do Only Broke Men Approach Me For Marriage? by permanentgrace(m): 7:34am On May 06, 2016
xendra:
keep wishing
Do you rather prefer a temporary grace?
Re: Why Do Only Broke Men Approach Me For Marriage? by Afroconnect: 7:37am On May 06, 2016
On a ratio basis, the rate of struggling/broke men is quite high in Nigeria- it's a game of numbers,with time you will find that man you need. It hurts when men turn to pests, where is the dignity/pride.
Re: Why Do Only Broke Men Approach Me For Marriage? by extremelygolden: 7:43am On May 06, 2016
My advice to you dear sister is that you can try move out of your home for now and rent a room self-contain for just a year. Accept any guy you like who doesn't know your financial background, pretend to need the little little things that an average lady needs or demands from her man. And if after the stated period of one year he proposes, and if he has the qualities of a man you want, open up to him and tell him the reason you did what you did.

I wish you best of luck.
Re: Why Do Only Broke Men Approach Me For Marriage? by ibedun: 7:58am On May 06, 2016
Coldfeets:


Oh my God, no, no, no, not Again, No!

Prayer. Prayer. Prayer.

How come that's only what you Africans know?

There's a prayer for any type of situation.

Prayer for Nigeria in Distress. Prayer Against Bribery and Corruption in Nigeria. Prayer for this... prayer for that! Prayer against this... prayer against that!

Ahn ahn, abeg una no dey ever tire for all diz una prayers undecided


Thank you my brother. My people are extremely annoying. They do nothing but pray endlessly.

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Re: Why Do Only Broke Men Approach Me For Marriage? by Nobody: 8:03am On May 06, 2016
i am just here to ask if there is any rich, single guy on this thread,i am seriously searching o,I promise I am not demanding
Re: Why Do Only Broke Men Approach Me For Marriage? by Nobody: 8:11am On May 06, 2016
Op,in the light of these accusations in your age discrepancies, I would like you to do us all the honour to clear the air,are you talking about yourself here or a friend?
Re: Why Do Only Broke Men Approach Me For Marriage? by Nobody: 8:25am On May 06, 2016
Boeing777pilot:
As a guy from a wealthy background, I can relate with what you are experiencing(if you are telling the truth oh) . For me, I keep a very low profile and don't tell them where I work , so I'm just any ordinary guy. Anyone who approaches me already knowing who I am, is treated as a suspect. So far that has worked for me.
you keep low profile huh?and you just typed all this on NL
Re: Why Do Only Broke Men Approach Me For Marriage? by kennadio(m): 8:35am On May 06, 2016
After reading your topics on sexuality and romance I now know why they come around... that is if the story is true.
Re: Why Do Only Broke Men Approach Me For Marriage? by xendra: 8:44am On May 06, 2016
permanentgrace:


Do you rather prefer a temporary grace?
grace don't come from you.... you need it yourself.
Re: Why Do Only Broke Men Approach Me For Marriage? by sainttyayo(m): 8:49am On May 06, 2016
Lady, if your story is TRUE there is HOPE for you! You have to change your mindset by being remained positive in your in disposition. Your wealthy status is not responsible for your marriage delay if it is rightly got. If you are a Christian commit to more of God's word in study and practice, by so doing you will be more directed by the Holy Spirit in spotting the right persons to associate with instead of fraudsters coming on your way all times. Be committed to one of those bible believing churches where true WORD is preached for you deliverance and breakthrough. Thanks
Re: Why Do Only Broke Men Approach Me For Marriage? by NikitaNike(f): 8:54am On May 06, 2016
tuk2ato:
But he cant do the thing now!
bring ur girl let's see what happen next
Re: Why Do Only Broke Men Approach Me For Marriage? by NikitaNike(f): 8:56am On May 06, 2016
Thanks
sweetilicious:
That's children for you. Cute boy
Re: Why Do Only Broke Men Approach Me For Marriage? by NikitaNike(f): 8:58am On May 06, 2016
johnsonsegxy:


Chaii! This your son go like faaji oo? omo see stomach full of ribena. grin
lol
Re: Why Do Only Broke Men Approach Me For Marriage? by NikitaNike(f): 9:01am On May 06, 2016
factsdigger:
My boy loves ribena and biscuit too..
lol they are d same.

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Re: Why Do Only Broke Men Approach Me For Marriage? by NikitaNike(f): 9:09am On May 06, 2016
steppin:

Why your boy they smile like person wey pick money for road? grin
he is wondering y u re picking money from d ground instead of borrowing from d mad man staring at u with a bag of dollar.
Re: Why Do Only Broke Men Approach Me For Marriage? by Boeing777pilot: 9:21am On May 06, 2016
2dugged:
you keep low profile huh?and you just typed all this on NL

Online forums like this gives us anonymity. grin
I have already received several pm's which I'm not going to bother to reply for obvious reasons.

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