dangotesmummy:
Ignore her.nothing quells an aggressive woman more than ignoring her.just leave the house for her for like a month. Go and stay with a friend in another city or lodge in a hotel.by the time you come back she go Don simmer

What does the bible say about quarelsome women

Another thing that might cause her unnecessary aggression is maybe you're not grinding the place well with your D

E get the way wey you go fok am all the rascality and gra Gra for her body go comot.it might be that you're starving her OF the phenese or you're not doing enough

Bwahahahahahaha roflwkmd lmao

You knew she was short tempered and still went ahead to marry her?

This is what happens when you allow kongi to select wife for you. Enjoy

nnamdibig:
If you are married to her with no intention of divorce, the only solution for now is for you the man to have high level of tolerance.

Am sure she will change when kids starts coming.

I quite agree with you my brother. Another thing the OP needs to add to it is prayer. I believe there's nothing prayer can not do. I knew of a couple, the man used to beat the woman. The man do not attend church but do allow the woman to go to church. All she does to avert trouble is to prepare the man's food and keep it for him before going to church. This continues for some years until one day, God answered the woman's prayers. When the woman was giving her testimony along with her husband, many people learnt from it.

God changed the man totally, he became a new person and two of them begin to enjoy their marriage and lives together. But it takes commitment and lots of patience.

It is well my brother.

In my candid opinion, I will suggest you take her to a psychiatrist for a cross examination, it could be partial madness, everyone has it at one point or the other of our lives depending on the degree.

Don't also forget to pray, God can do all things, prayer works bro.

Be deaf and dumb if you want to succeed with short or long tempered wife. No marriage will survive if a man lacks these 2 qualities

[quote author=Waladade4luv post=51175242]Pls i want matured minds in the house and experienced peeps to answer aw a man can cope or treat his short tempered wife.
This is a woman who picks offence in virtually everything that happens in d house even among her co workers at work, the taxi driver that carried her, even d passangers she sit win in a bus to the bike man that carried her, pple she buys things from, infact the list is endless everybody is always offending her.
In the house she always see somthing to complain about, to d extent that one will be beging her not to vex even when she is at fault, infact so many other thinz like that that one cannot finish saying.
To guys in d house av u been in a situation like this bfor and can someone treat such a wife since its not easy to change her at dis stage.[/quote.

NevetsIbot:
change am for her jare.

Show her small craze. No beat her o, .

Just let her know sayyou sev sabi vex. She'll control herself at home.

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did same and it worked

Nutase:
You either get used to it or take a walk.
The truth about marriage is you CANNOT change anyone.
The only attempt you can make at changing your spouse which has a 50 50 chance of working is to Change your responses towards your spouses weakness and this might appeal to the persons conscience to adjust.

Thanks for this brilliant post!

To be honest with the Op, when a woman decides to act this way (I am sure she was not like this before you married her otherwise l will call you 'names" for marrying her and now complaining after! ) she is telling you, in her most "courteous manner", that she is no longer interested in that marriage!

She is currently in what we call FRUSTRATION MODE!
SHE WANTS TO FRUSTRATE YOU, WITHOUT HURTING YOUR FEELINGS.

I guess you should take the cue and start making alternative plans to live well, after her exit.
Dont let it get to the point where someone will break someone's leg or she starts bringing another man-friend to your matrimonial bed.

Package yourself properly and just walk-out on her.
There will always be other more decent women out there, looking for a 'good husband' so why kill yourself over some bitch?

May be she's stressed

May be she's the bread winner


May be it is hereditary or what is called ancestral curse

Gloriouspa:



I quite agree with you my brother. Another thing the OP needs to add to it is prayer. I believe there's nothing prayer can not do. I knew of a couple, the man used to beat the woman. The man do not attend church but do allow the woman to go to church. All she does to avert trouble is to prepare the man's food and keep it for him before going to church. This continues for some years until one day, God answered the woman's prayers. When the woman was giving her testimony along with her husband, many people learnt from it.

God changed the man totally, he became a new person and two of them begin to enjoy their marriage and lives together. But it takes commitment and lots of patience.

It is well my problem.

Such qualities are lacking in this generation.

Daboomb:


Thanks for this brilliant post!

To be honest with the Op, when a woman decides to act this way (I am sure she was not like this before you married her otherwise l will call you 'names" for marrying her and now complaining after! ) she is telling you, in her most "courteous manner", that she is no longer interested in that marriage!

She is currently in what we call FRUSTRATION MODE!
SHE WANTS TO FRUSTRATE YOU, WITHOUT HURTING YOUR FEELINGS.

I guess you should take the cue and start making alternative plans to live well, after her exit.
Dont let it get to the point where someone will break someone's leg or she starts bringing another man-friend to your matrimonial bed.

Package yourself properly and just walk-out on her.
There will always be other more decent women out there, looking for a 'good husband' so why kill yourself over some bitch?

Are you married,if yes...then I'm sorry but seems you don't even understand the purpose of marriage....its obvious you think a wife is a "girlfriend"

i know many will not believe this.aggressive.very rough,warlike ,constant sexing is the only way you bleeped the anger out of such women.high level of certain chemical/hormones in their blood streams account for the anger and sex normalizes the hormonal imbalance.

Bad temper is nt somtin dat starts in one day,av u eva discussd wot her growin up was lyk?oga I was lyk dat once growin up was hell 4 me so b4 I knew it I was a super saddist I wld flare up @ d slightest provocation @ tyms u dnt need 2 offend me jst ask me a simple question nd I get hot inside,my bf met me dat way nd @ frst he was complainin bt nw am over it cos I prayed 2 God 2 take it away nd he did!dere was a tym I trew a knife 2 my bf bt 2day we r happy wit 2kidz.so handle her wit care nd make her knw its nt her fault den find a trickish way 2 calm her down cos my man use 2 calm me down wit a gud kiss!!!

See, this human being can wake up and do unimaginable one day. To avoid story that touch, Pls share ur garri, meaning :Go ur separate ways.

[quote author=warmachine post=51289818]
As funny as it may sound...the truth is...a demon of anger is upon us wife..she just needs deliverance...it will be physically impossible to please her...its gonna be impossible... Try it and see !....but if she's delivered she'll be just fine...I believe she's a nice woman its just this spirit that is tormenting her it wants to break the home...meditate Gods Word and pray to God for direction...p.m me for more detailed info...I want to commend ur patience so far... Pls keep it up...it will be well and your wife will restored to woman you once married..peace[/

Listen to me my brother, if I have to be very blunt with you, that woman is stressed, yes you heard, what did you tell her / Promised her before you marry her She complaints of almost everything because of the anger, frustration & bitterness within her soul! This is why her body is under stress & reacting this way because these frustration in one way or another find s a way of expression.

My brother, you have to keep your man ego aside, call your wife & have a very honest, heart to heart discussion with her. Understand & digest her expectations & feelings about the marriage, tender an unreserved apology for falling short below her expectations & reassured her of your love & commitment towards her. Nothing is wrong with that woman but you the man. The day you start to accept all responsibilities about your wife & home is the day you have started to live as a father / husband because anyone that fails in marriage has failed in everything! The Lord will help you ooooh!

Listen to me my brother, if I have to be very blunt with you, that woman is stressed, yes you heard, what did you tell her / Promised her before you marry her She complaints of almost everything because of the anger, frustration & bitterness within her soul! This is why her body is under stress & reacting this way because these frustration in one way or another find s a way of expression.

My brother, you have to keep your man ego aside, call your wife & have a very honest, heart to heart discussion with her. Understand & digest her expectations & feelings about the marriage, tender an unreserved apology for falling short below her expectations & reassured her of your love & commitment towards her. Nothing is wrong with that woman but you the man. The day you start to accept all responsibilities about your wife & home is the day you have started to live as a father / husband because anyone that fails in marriage has failed in everything! The Lord will help you ooooh!

Waladade4luv:

Hunnn dia is no how long u court together i can never see d full picture until u start leaving together

that is why I said people should stop phone courtship.

Was she a short tempered girlfriend? Or this side of her developed after marriage?
If she was like this when you were courting and you chose to marry her then that's a flaw you accepted therefore it's a matter of being brutal but with intentions guided by love she needs to be told how her behaviour affects you and how it's also impacting on your relationship with her. If this is something that did not exist while courting why has she become this unhappy that she takes it out on everyone rather than address the source of her frustrations and unhappiness. She could be unhappy with you , her marriage,her career maybe?

gabinogem:
In one word... RUN!

for his wife? that's not wright.
It's simple bros. If i may ask you a question... do u know the physical advantage of Fasting (Muslim or christian) apart from its spiritual effect?
The answer is "Humbleness". Do it together with her for selected 2 days in every week and make her problem (clearly stated to her) and any of your personal and family request the prayer point to God. It will make her humble in the cause of exercising it there after an addiction.
100% assurance.
Please don't forget to remember pray for me later

Beetee1:
for his wife? that's not wright.
It's simple bros. If i may ask you a question... do u know the physical advantage of Fasting (Muslim or christian) apart from its spiritual effect?
The answer is "Humbleness". Do it together with her for selected 2 days in every week and make her problem (clearly stated to her) and any of your personal and family request the prayer point to God. It will make her humble in the cause of exercising it there after an addiction.
100% assurance.
Please don't forget to remember pray for me later

guy u never see problem ooh... Even pastors & their wives dey get problems wey dey split them. It's better to stay alive than to be in a mad matrimony.

Broda run before someone ends up dead

The worst thing a man can do to himself is to marry a wife with this kind of character.
Na die bdat

Proverbs 21 vs 19

It is better to dwell in the wilderness, than with a contentious and an angry woman.

NevetsIbot:
change am for her jare.
Show her small craze. No beat her o, .
Just let her know sayyou sev sabi vex. She'll control herself at home.

..... Violence doesn't solve Violence @times....

A.
Sometimes it's a sign of frustration or burn out. When ANYONE but especially a woman is contributing more to life than they can psychologically handle especially because
1. Resting time is inadequate FOR THE INDIVIDUAL
2. They are constantly seeing NEEDS (theirs or others', especially loved ones') they feel helpless about resolving

They get short-tempered.

SUCH PERSON NEED TO BE REMOVED FROM THE ENVIRONMENT PROMPTING OR CAUSING THAT.

B.
It could well be a sign of lack of personal DAILY relationship with God. You can't force this on people but YOU can only experience it yourself and that can help especially when you start praying for her.

C. GET A BOOK ON TEMPERAMENT DIFFERENCES FOR BOTH OF YOU TO READ. READ TOGETHER IF YOU CAN. It will help her understand herself and to see the world through other people's eyes. A book like WHY YOU ACT THE WAY YOU DO by Tim Lahaye(not sure of spellin)will be of practical help. In fact I have heard a mental health specialist acknowledge the usefulness of the man's books.

D.
YOU OUGHT TO BE THE MOST IMPORTANT PERSON IN HER LIFE. SO YOU NEED TO UNDERSTAND HER LOVE LANGUAGE- WHAT SHE CONSIDERS TO BE SOMEONE SHOWING LOVE TO HER.
Love is patient but you can't give what you don't have. Fill her love-tank as much as you can and she can have more to give.



[size=13pt]Love Languages Include[/size]


- ACTS OF SERVICE: Help around the house and with the children. Go out of your way to do things for her. Open the door to the house, car. Get out the dirts. Wash her own clothes even if you have maids. IF THAT'S HER LOVE LANGUAGE make sure you do these things o, even if she insists you shouldn't bother.

- GIFTS: Buy her things she want or give her money, surprise presents and EXPECT her to say she doesn't like it(don't take offence), just ask what she would have preferred and do it.

-TOUCH: It's been said that women may need at least 7 MEANINGFUL touches per day generally. Now imagine what a woman whose love-language is TOUCH would need. Just do your best. 1. Kiss her when it is obvious you cannot be asking for sex 2. Embrace her and leave her there 3. Ask her to sit on your lap and caress her hair 4. Let her lean on you etc AND A COMBINATION

- TIME: Force yourself to become a good listening even when your wife is saying the most irrelevant things in the world and make comments and gestures that shows you are interested(IF YOU ARE NOT INTERESTED IN HER TOPIC, AT LEAST YOU ARE INTERESTED IN HER. THAT'S WHY YOU LEFT OTHERS TO MARRY HER.) Even if she wakes you up to say irrelevant things, patiently listen until she sleeps off.
IS NOT THE TOPIC THAT IS IMPORTANT TO HER, IT IS THE FEELING THAT YOU ARE AVAILABLE FOR HER.
Take her out to spend time ALONE with her. No phone calls from your end. She can pick calls. If this happens to be your love language too. Let her know you don't mind spending time with her alone and this time is for you- no phone calls from anyone to either of you.

- SEXUAL INTIMACY: It is supposed to be part of TOUCH but it is better separated because this primarily some women's love language. You must not just do it regularly but you must let her be open to you about what turns her on and puts her off plus her sexual fantasies. Let her be assured you will not be surprised or call her a slot even it is what you may find "inconvenient". If it is not a conscience or moral issue, give it a try even if inconvenient but be open about it if it is so she won't expect it often.

I HOPE THESE IS OF HELP TO YOU AND OTHERS WITH SHORT-TEMPERED SPOUSES TOO.

All the best.

**I'll make the love language part a post for others not reading this to see.**

Just ignore her for some times.... U can even leave the ouse for her, for like months...even wen she angry with pipu around her she won't see someone to calm her down or pet her...I bet u nothing pains a woman than diz...

Also remember that Prayers change things****

robotix:
Are you a man of the house or she is?

Bro this is not about who is the man. The prayer is not to fall into the situation.

frugal:


The Bible ('Christianity') supports divorce... as long as you remain single.

If The Bible does not support divorce, I am very sure the Bible does still not say we should die in order to remain married. What exactly is the Bible's view on how to handle this matter ?

You can't just ignore a psychopath. They are literally time bombs waiting to explode. He or She could end your life and not take responsibility. Fortunately, in my case she was only a live-in girl friend who was with me for a about 4 months. Moving out of the apartment wasn't even possible because of cost. I kept hoping she would change till one day i resolved to end the relationship. Her last parting gift to me was destroying my valuable household property worth about 800k. Big deal, I wrote it off. At least it wasn't my life and we were not married so bro, married or not take a walk for your dear life!

Waladade4luv:
Pls i want matured minds in the house and experienced peeps to answer aw a man can cope or treat his short tempered wife.
This is a woman who picks offence in virtually everything that happens in d house even among her co workers at work, the taxi driver that carried her, even d passangers she sit win in a bus to the bike man that carried her, pple she buys things from, infact the list is endless everybody is always offending her.
In the house she always see somthing to complain about, to d extent that one will be beging her not to vex even when she is at fault, infact so many other thinz like that that one cannot finish saying.
To guys in d house av u been in a situation like this bfor and can someone treat such a wife since its not easy to change her at dis stage.

You never noticed it during courtship? Living with such a woman is worse than living in a penthouse full of scorpions.
The only solution is not to get involved ab initio.
But since you are in it anyway, there are steps you could take to air your struggles. Get an annoying habit, sometimes, go paranoid too even without reasons. Be nice, polite and very official too. Let her know that you get exactly what give. Then pray.
Most people with this attitude have this superiority complex that it sometimes requires an equal and similar complex to cure. Once they begin to feel the way they treat others, they may have a rethink.
Just saying...

First thing first. Such at burst shows she is psychologically defeated, something must have happened in her life at some point that led into what u see today. I advice she sees a good psychologist(like Noman Vincent) so that thru interactions and questioning such a problem could be detected and corrected

izito:
use reverse psychology for her.
it works all d time.....

thank me later.

please what is reverse psychology ?