Dotwillis1:
I decided to post this after seeing So much threads from ladies about been heartbroken, fear of losing their man to someone else and so on.


Okay Girls lets put an end to the needless fighting due to miscommunication, the unnecessary sex-less nights, verbal shut-downs and the rest. Follow this thread as we pour out our mind on some things we want from you in a relationship. So read through and do as we say, and I promise you’ll never see your relationship through the same lens again.

I have very short list here, so I leave the rest for the guys:


1. Respect

Men feel respect as love. So show us some, don't argue, don't insult in return even when he does out of anger.

Moreso, respect our choice and career. If he feels like you disapprove of him or the things that he believes to be integral to who he is as a person, he will have a hard time trusting and loving you. If a girl didn't respect my path or mission in life, then i will find it very difficult to feel anything other than an anxious need to distance myself from her.

2. Praise And Approval

Men have infamously tender egos. We need frequent reassurance about ourselves, our career paths, our sexual prowess, and our attractiveness (among other things).

Let your praise loose. Tell your man exactly what you find attractive about him. Let him know what physical features of his are your favourites. Tell him how attractive you find it when he says something a certain way, when he accomplishes something, or when he takes you on a date. Your praise won’t make him cocky; it will help him feel loved.

3. Sex

Men and women both connect through sex and communication, but generally, women connect better through communication and men connect better
through sex I guess.

So give us sex and don't think he is only all about sex and taking you to be a slut, No. If he reaches across the bed for you, even showing the willingness to embrace him, to kiss him deeply, and to engage him could be
enough to make him feel loved

And this does not mean that men need to have sex with their intimate partners every day in order to feel
connected..

4. Positive Affirmation

All guys want to hear that they are really sexy and good in bed. Just like women, men need to hear that their women are happy with how they look and what they do. It makes them feel appreciated, and it's also a turn on for them. This also plays into being more vocal in bed, which is closer to the top of his list - don't be afraid to scream about how amazing he is.

5. Space

Suffocating a man (either by failing to allow him free time or with overly jealous behaviour) is the fastest way to end a relationship. Men need breathing room in a relationship. We need time for our hobbies, time with our friends, and so on. Let us have our spaces, you don't need to call every minutes to check in, don't be too possessive.

6. Emotional Maturity

A woman who has the maturity to not blame or criticize a man for what she’s feeling, but to share her feelings in an honest and authentic way that helps a man better understand her will be attractive to a man. How a woman handles her emotions is one of the most important things men look for in a relationship, whether or not to get serious with her.

If she lets her emotions get out of control, this is a big red flag to him.
On the other hand, if she can present her feelings to him in a calm, non-dramatic manner, she will win his respect and make him feel like she’s the kind of woman who will be a real partner to him. He’ll see that she can handle things with a cool head rather than becoming a damsel in distress he has to rescue.


Do you agree with the points stated?



drop ya comments

Dotwillis1:


Not like you shouldn't call at all... Hear yasef, 2 damn weeks?? ...that ain't the kinda space expected. Just don't be too possessive.

Their is a way you praise someone and won't sound like yhu making fun of em... Maybe you didn't do it properly.

And then giving praises shouldn't be about the physical appearance alone

Bumbae1:
Interesting

But even with all those points .. some still wont be satisfied

trustyshoess:
Women want all these things too and more! A relationship is a two way street. Respect from both sides is essential. This title should be "6 essential things in a relationship". It's things like these that make some men feel justified in beating up their spouses because "she did not respect me". What happened to walking away or dumping her? Beating her up shows how disrespectful you are as well

FreeSpirited:
You are wrong.. Respect comes first...a lady who is respectful is naturally appealing to a man....That's what many gals don't knw when they disrespect their men.
When a lady has courtesy and respectful, an average guy will want to pay her back by screwing her..like a reward. But a disrespectful women is repulsive

dukeolumde:


What u said is true. I for one don't raise my hands on any woman. Thought there are other things Op didn't mention ...



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dechar:
you know as e day go,more grease to your kini oh sorry elbow

oladoja1:

I don't understand what screwing means am not joking o

TrapQueen77:



The SPACE tho...


This one is very tricky..the last time i gave him space he was asking for ...he was very upset

He said i didnt bothered to call or txt him for 2wks..the hell kinda space a man really want?


And then this PRAISE & APPROVAL

The last time i praised the guy, he indirectly saying i am lying coz he knows he's ugly & have a big nose ...i swear i never even saw that one...

Sometimes, i asked myself...WHY A LOT OF MEN ARE CONFUSED? wat yall exactly want us (ladies) to do to please u eehn?

Yk1506:
Guys and their rules.....u do problem,u no problem,u do too much wahala.we r learning.am a new comer here!

TrapQueen77:



The SPACE tho...


This one is very tricky..the last time i gave him space he was asking for ...he was very upset

He said i didnt bothered to call or txt him for 2wks..the hell kinda space a man really want?


And then this PRAISE & APPROVAL

The last time i praised the guy, he indirectly saying i am lying coz he knows he's ugly & have a big nose ...i swear i never even saw that one...

Sometimes, i asked myself...WHY A LOT OF MEN ARE CONFUSED? wat yall exactly want us (ladies) to do to please u eehn?

dukeolumde:


What u said is true. I for one don't raise my hands on any woman. Thought there are other things Op didn't mention ...



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ilems:


You are absolutely right. Mind you, a wise woman build the home, so lady first.
An average man want to see submission in exhibiting the issues discussed above, then if he's wise responsible and reasonable enough, he follows suit.Taken?

Destinyy22:
We learn everyday. No one is perfect in a relationship, both parties should tolerate each other and learn to forgive easily too.

TrapQueen77:



I dont reallt like pestering ppol sha..so im good even if he wanted 1year space

debbie223:
Op u r rite bt nt all guys think the same as u.


Any time i give my man space say like 3-4 days without visiting or maybe i called just once a day.the next minuite he'll come straight to my house n tell me i value my work more than him.



If he does something i admire say work related m i praise him he gets angry n tell me he thinks am lying that he sees the way i tackle my work related issues that he can never compete with me.



If i tell him i like the way he dress or speak he will tell me how outspoken n how he sees my male colleagues dress dat i'm making mockery of him.Sometimes i just wish he will understand that I love him n i mean everything i say abt him.

pryme:


You are wrong dear, a relationship is like a house if, if you don't take your time and build it, it will be blown away when the storms come.

Love is like a plant, you have to nurture it for it to grow. It will die if the conditions are not right.

There is nothing like "what will be, will be"in this one,
Cos ppl can destroy what will be with their carelessness

Missmossy:

Obviously you misunderstood what i said.

professorfal:
ofcourse i agree but sex should top the list, after sex she can start exhibiting other things.

its only after sex i would know if i love you or not.

VICTOFX:
All these points are cool, but I'll advice d ladies to study their men, if u can get his communication code, uv gotten it all, communication is far more important than sex in a relationship, if u love him, uv got to know him as him, and don't go about relating with him based on some general ideas you've got abt the male folks.

And for you guys clamouring 4 sex to top the list,y wont you, wen thats all you really care 4 and wanted all the way, i don't blame you guys though, it's the ladies I'll advice to be wise,

TrapQueen77:



The SPACE tho...


This one is very tricky..the last time i gave him space he was asking for ...he was very upset

He said i didnt bothered to call or txt him for 2wks..the hell kinda space a man really want?


And then this PRAISE & APPROVAL

The last time i praised the guy, he indirectly saying i am lying coz he knows he's ugly & have a big nose ...i swear i never even saw that one...

Sometimes, i asked myself...WHY A LOT OF MEN ARE CONFUSED? wat yall exactly want us (ladies) to do to please u eehn?

Dotwillis1:


Not like you shouldn't call at all... Hear yasef, 2 damn weeks?? ...that ain't the kinda space expected. Just don't be too possessive.

Their is a way you praise someone and won't sound like yhu making fun of em... Maybe you didn't do it properly.

And then giving praises shouldn't be about the physical appearance alone

agitator:


I have noticed that most Nigerian women exhibit that kind of behaviour. You tell them to give you space, they take it to the extreme. Tell them to give you time to read, they won't talk to you anymore. Tell them there is too much salt in the food, they stop adding salt.

They always go for the extreme. This implies that you either accept it they it is or you don't have it.

Dotwillis1:


Not like you shouldn't call at all... Hear yasef, 2 damn weeks?? ...that ain't the kinda space expected. Just don't be too possessive.

Their is a way you praise someone and won't sound like yhu making fun of em... Maybe you didn't do it properly.

And then giving praises shouldn't be about the physical appearance alone

lastmaster:
That 5 is real, I want to break up with my babe bc she doesn't give me any breathing space. She fight any lady dat comes around me.Ladies have started avoiding me like plague. There was a day she even fought my sister thinking that she's my gf. she calls me like 100times a day on the phone .I am tired of the relationship.