ImaIma1:


Yes she is. And she is cut off from friends and family that he doesn't approve of

Toks2008:


Save yourself all these uneeded sermon and simply understand that what is an issue to you may not be an issue to another....Simple

tosyne2much:
Hahaha

Benita27:
A guy who doesn't have regard for you, calls your all sort at the slightest provocation is who you want to marry next month...I pity your case 'cause you're make another thread of how your husband beats you, and has reduce your self-worth.

Mtcheew!.

Toks2008:


Every affair with its own peculiarity.

Some people will say you should leave him for another guy who may not abuse you but will cheat on you with reckless impunity.

I tell ladies that the only thing they must never condole is domestic violence and of course the one that comes from the man without them being the instigator.

This marriage thing has its good and bad sides and as long as slap never follow the abuse I will advise that you deal with it cos most guys out there have their own crazy side and you also do...nobody holy pass.


I recommend this thread for you.
https://www.nairaland.com/3441125/search-decent-partner-marry

joceey:





Is like you read well........quote me well it common among those that never went to school from the east......
......If my stupidity is legendary then yours is what Go and make a life nitwit

Tominiola:


Oko gidi won lode that's true, but this guy is a boy not a man. Awon oko gidi don't beat their wives. Na your type dey beat women. With a mindset like yours its not wonder why physical abuse is so rampant in Nigeria. Normalising rubbish.

ImaIma1:


You really like the word "dumb"...obviously a word you have come to become. I am not one of those kinds that you can intimidate with your degrading words. If you like spill all the vulgar and abusive words you learnt from the day you were born till this minute, you own your trap.

All these awaiting result small boys that think they know jack will come and be mouthing off here.
Save the abuses for the females in your family and don't come and form Van Damme on your keypad.

PrickGetSize:
Does he have enough money to take care of you and your future family?

Does he show you love?

Does he care for your well-being?

Does he fvck you real good?

If the answer to these questions is yes then I see no reason why ordinary insult should spoil your marriage, unless he beats you. Insult him back - call him a bigger fool, a he-goat, a maluu, a stupendous ignoramus calamity - and get used to it. When kids start coming he won't have time to insult you again.

Marriage is for better or worse!

habeny:
Good afternoon, am a 26 years old lady and am getting married next month, but anytime I have an argument with my fiance he insults me,telling me am a fool, an idiot, etc, have tried to correct him several times but he doesn't see anything wrong with it, just this morning we had an argument and he started again calling me all sort of names. Am starting to get really scared, because if he's doing this when we are engaged what will he do to me when when we are married

tosyne2much:
This is just a preamble of how he will unleash his wrestling/boxing skills to administer 50kg worth of punches on your face in conjunction with "smack down" when he finally pays your bride price. These are the salient qualities of potential wife beaters yet you choose to stick to such a man probably because your source of livelihood depends on him. (it's very obvious). I mean do you think marriage is a "magician" that changes people completely from beasts to angels , especially a man that is already calling you a fool or an idiot even without legal ownership of you?

This is what to expect when you want to marry a man by force because of what you stand to gain. You tend to cope with any poo due to the fact that you no longer have self esteem. I hope this will serve as a source of lesson to many Nairaland ladies who are always opening irrelevant threads to express their love for already made men and disgust for broke guys. Most of them need to see how some of these men treat these "long throat" ladies like poo before/after marriage. When you have little or no contribution to a man's success, why won't he see you as an idiot?

Since you can see the signs of dangers with your korokoro eyes yet you're bent on getting married to this same person next month be ready to face the consequences of your actions. That was how my female friend despised all advice and went head to married a man with similar character with the OP's fiance, but now, she has returned back to her parents home due to assault.

Sha don't later come and open an irrelevant thread asking us ways to cope with your temperamental husband because when no one here will be able to clean you mess.

Anyway, I wish you an abusive marriage life in advance with your potential wife beater

To all those people quoting me to say rubbish. The ugly truth always sounds like bashing

LordAdam16:


And you're still being adamant.

So, you absolutely believe there are women on this planet for whom abuse is not an issue?

The things I read on NL.

Anyway, you can stay with your conviction. After all, there are men (many in fact) who believe women are property. It wasn't so long ago that men had canes for their wives in England.

The person who invents the time machine would do this world a huge favor. We'll just have to ask peeps like you to take the next time ticket to 1400, where you'd have women who society had conditioned to take a daily prescription of physical/verbal abuse in good faith. How you'd feel at home.

-Lord

stuffs4me:



Mumu olodo wey you be..

It's your type that will push her mother in law down the staircase or be slapping your husband up and down.

You are a classic case of domestic violence, a psychological wreck and I pity the unfortunate man man that will marry this demented creature. Only an evil and diabolical mind like your own will justify domestic violence against men.

LordAdam16:


And you're still being adamant.

So, you absolutely believe there are women on this planet for whom abuse is not an issue?

The things I read on NL.

Anyway, you can stay with your conviction. After all, there are men (many in fact) who believe women are property. It wasn't so long ago that men had canes for their wives in England.

The person who invents the time machine would do this world a huge favor. We'll just have to ask peeps like you to take the next time ticket to 1400, where you'd have women who society had conditioned to take a daily prescription of physical/verbal abuse in good faith. How you'd feel at home.

-Lord

CheapSunglass:
And you still in the relationship?
Lol

You aren't married yet but you two already argue.I think your home will be one combative home.

Enjoy.

mrsfavour:
u nailed it.

tosyne2much:
God bless you my sister but I don't know why my comment does not go well with some people

ephi321:


Classic.
That dude in particular, I jump pass whenever I see his threads. In 2017, we still have these kinds of mindsets around. Na real wa.

Toks2008:


You are a wise person.Better continue to ignore.

habeny:
Good afternoon, am a 26 years old lady and am getting married next month, but anytime I have an argument with my fiance he insults me,telling me am a fool, an idiot, etc, have tried to correct him several times but he doesn't see anything wrong with it, just this morning we had an argument and he started again calling me all sort of names. Am starting to get really scared, because if he's doing this when we are engaged what will he do to me when when we are married

habeny:
Good afternoon, am a 26 years old lady and am getting married next month, but anytime I have an argument with my fiance he insults me,telling me am a fool, an idiot, etc, have tried to correct him several times but he doesn't see anything wrong with it, just this morning we had an argument and he started again calling me all sort of names. Am starting to get really scared, because if he's doing this when we are engaged what will he do to me when when we are married

PrickGetSize:
Does he have enough money to take care of you and your future family?

Does he show you love?

Does he care for your well-being?

Does he fvck you real good?

If the answer to these questions is yes then I see no reason why ordinary insult should spoil your marriage, unless he beats you. Insult him back - call him a bigger fool, a he-goat, a maluu, a stupendous ignoramus calamity - and get used to it. When kids start coming he won't have time to insult you again.

Marriage is for better or worse!

MrCork:




...I like u so I be nice to u....my prediction...marry him and u will live in hell..the bad news is that love it or hate it..u will end up with scars.
By then it will be too late. U women leave in a fantasy world thinking u can change a guy.. the stuuuupid thing ABOUT women is that u no wot u getting into...but becuzz u want yorrrr fantasy wedding,u still go ahead..u sound soft and u have weak people around u telling u it be ok and he will change...big mistake..am trying to be nice to u but guess wot,he will not change and yorrrr life will be miserable when u marrrrrreid!! (Real talk)

Omonigeriarere:


She is getting married to already made man to whose life she has contributed nothing.

That's the simple truth and I can deduce it clearly. I hope those long throat ladies could learn from this.

This is just the beginning cos this marriage is heading to destruction conspicuously.

habeny:
Good afternoon, am a 26 years old lady and am getting married next month, but anytime I have an argument with my fiance he insults me,telling me am a fool, an idiot, etc, have tried to correct him several times but he doesn't see anything wrong with it, just this morning we had an argument and he started again calling me all sort of names. Am starting to get really scared, because if he's doing this when we are engaged what will he do to me when when we are married