Dear Agatha,

Thank you very much for your advice to people like us. I have a very big problem and I don’t know how to get out of it. I got married last year. Since then whenever I want to have sex with my husband, I don’t get aroused and sometimes I don’t feel like having sex. What do I do or my husband to for me to get aroused or feel sexy. Again when is the best time to get pregnant?

Funmi

Source: http://odili.net/news/source/2010/feb/27/400.html

This peaked my interest. . .how is this possible for recently married folks?

She should get help from Walestar.

see danger wahala dey oooooo

it appears u r not in love with your husband and ur heart is somewhere else

It seems like you would like your husband to start sleeping outside.
well, you know the repercussions,if you can take it continue but if not back down or dont come complaining-"My husband of 2 yrs is cheating on me what should i do?"

aiye ma nika o!! ( what a wicked world we live in) *hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm*

the problem aint him, you've got to see here that you are the problem.
think back when you were single and remember what turns you on.
and if it happens to be the way your previous BF teases you before se*x, tell me.
tell him all this and let the experiment begin.

camelot:

it appears u r not in love with your husband and your heart is somewhere else

This could be it or her husband could incorporate more pre-intimacy into their love making.

ThoniaSlim:

This could be it or her husband could incorporate more pre-intimacy into their love making.

Makes sense.

Wow, i really pity the man.Something tells me u never really loved the guy, u just married him so as to be tagged a 'mrs' .

When anatha Woman helps You ''Feel Like Sleeping With Him'',
You Go confess that 'Jesus is Lord'.

but u didnt feel this way with your previous lovers did you? after giving it out to several others the one man who actually married you, u dont have any emotions for see how people get shirt-changed! Abeg go and return his bride price jare u sold him goods under false pretence

see wetin women dey find everywhere,life, in church,online-facebook,etc,
naim u nor want?
could u tell us the main reason why u agreed to marry dis man?

Kx:

see wetin women dey find everywhere,life, in church,online-facebook,etc,
naim u nor want?
could u tell us the main reason why u agreed to marry dis man?

It could be for any other important reason other than S3x.

I think d problem is from u, if u really love n care for hubby u should not be denyin him what is rightful his b wise and do somethin about it be4 u marriage become history

wotam i reading this right? Ok o,make u vamoos comot from dat marriage wit immediate alacrity!

Missy B:

It could be for any other important reason other than S3x.

A mans' desires goes beyong a woman having his food cooked,his laundry done or
his house cleaned up.As far back as 1943,Abraham Maslow answerred this question in his
his paper A Theory of Human Motivation.

Dont get married if u cannot meet your man's most important need in the order of needs.

But u dont have any qualms in spending his money sha, infact all ur tentacles go fire up when he takes u out shopping or buys u stuff

Make I no kukuma fall this kain trap.Na wa oh!

Kx:

A mans' desires goes beyong a woman having his food cooked,his laundry done or
his house cleaned up.

A man's desires You said!
We are talking about the principal Figure here, The Woman in Question.
Like I earlier said, in answer to Your Q - She could have married him for other reasons
irrespective of what comes first on the Man's 'Desire List'.
People go into marriage for different reasons and sometimes, s3x isn't just one of the principal reasons. Abnormal but True.

Kx:

Dont get married if u cannot meet your man's most important need in the order of needs.

This one is Questionable.

spikedcylinder:

Watch blue film.

Pesin is getting the 'Do' Live and still isn't interested, na P0rn go work?

Missy B:

People go into marriage for different reasons and sometimes, s3x isn't just one of the principal reasons. Abnormal but True.

Really,?
one can add that some of those reasons includes;
1.To use the man pose with the title Mrs.
2.To get all one's expenses defrayed by the husband.
etc.
My sis,@ Missy,Any reason that does not place the husband first is secondary.

Will this woman be pleased if the husband invites a strange woman to the matrimonial bed
to satisfy his biological need??

1Corinthians 7:4: "The wife hath not power of her own body, but the husband"

Kai walahi, my bruda i getam por burantashi , mak i drink am , i gwo dey pok wel wel

Kx:

one can add that some of those reasons includes;
1.To use the man pose with the title Mrs.
2.To get all one's expenses defrayed by the husband.

Na You talk am . . .Not me.

Kx:

My sis,@ Missy,Any reason that does not place the husband first is secondary.

Nah Sweerie. I have to think of me first before I can think of anatha.

Kx:

Will this woman be pleased if the husband invites a strange woman to the matrimonial bed
to satisfy his biological need??

I Guess Not!
That she asked for help is enuff reason to understand she isn't doing this to punish him.
She could have been despoiled in the past and is still suffering from the memory,
Probably they both aren't sexually compatible(?) or the man isn't doing sumthing right.
She just doesn't feel it and that's it. Like I said, Strange but it's what it is.

she might have married him for money and he be this pot bellied beast of a thing or he might carry okoro between his legs so she dries up when she sees it

The answer to her this is within,I looks like her heart is somewere else or she is not just into him.
she should search within for answers.

@poster take ur time and recall the cause of ur happy moments b4 marriage,afta which the GINGER 4 intimacy'll reignited.

All these newlyweds sha
You do they realise they are not sexually aroused with their husband after they are married?

Even the bible speaks against this lady and as many others like her.
1.cor.7.5 says 'do not deny yourselves to each other except you first agree to do so,

who do you feel like sleeping with then? his best man?

sleep wit his best man

or his father