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Who Is Too Young To Marry After 18yrs? by micronut(m): 11:04pm On Apr 09, 2018
#Who is too young to marry after 18yrs? By Elu

You wanna know? Now read this!

A girl finished school at 20, started working after service year at 22, and from there, one serious mature working class guy in his 30's, that has been searching for long, was all over her. He was pleading, Amope, please marry me now. He asked for her hand in marriage but some village people in the spirits of families, parents, and friends told my dear girl that she's too young for marriage.

They told her that she still has full life in front of her, that she shouldn't go and tie herself down in the name of marriage, that marriage is not for a girl of 22, that she ain't matured enough, that she might regret it or marry wrongly, that better guys are always available once she's ready, that she should take her time and starts exploring career wise and the advises are just endless Lol!

Fast forward to 6yrs after, this same girl has gone through 3 terrible unsuccessful relationships that has turned her to a walking corpse in the name of depression.

She wants to give love another chance again but she ain't just lucky anymore.

The guys she is meeting nowadays, want just girlfriend, and probably Gf for benefits, or just to while away time, some need money first, to even think of marrying, but all she wants now is just a serious man that is ready to settle down, and she's still searching, holding onto prayers and hope.

You said how about the rejected guy? Oh, he is happily married with kids and still a friend with this girl who he now advises and pray for, like an old friend.

Who is this girl, you may wanna ask? Lol!

Oh Well, She doesn't exist really, but this is just a play out of realities of many girls here who may be reading this, that have left school a decade ago or years ago and have been working and the only prayer they are praying for now is the #Right Man!

Now this is the issue, who is too young to marry after 18yrs as a Lady? At least from legality of age. Who? 19? 20? 22? 24? Lol!

Well, there is something that I have learnt in this life, which is the fact that[b] a chase for perfection delays good results, rather, different trials give you experience to learn what makes perfection to come in place.[/b]

I once wrote sometimes, that if you ask many of us why we are not married, you will find out that if it is not either fear of the unknown, financial challenges, then may be it is largely because of relationship insecurities - in the name of let me look for a better guy or a better girl .

You see my people, many of these reasons are understandable and are tenable, but the simple truth is that seeking perfection in either of the cases above only causes nothing but personal delay.

If you think you are too young and there is still plenty of time then you need to study how quickly time burns out unknowingly and how the same time you think you have plenty of it, will be the one that would now be against you.

4yrs ago, I was youth Corper and someone once asked me funnily, that when I would likely get married? Lol!

I answered, "Marriage for where, me that is still young, I need a good job in an FMCG company. I need to enjoy my bachelor's life to cover up for my long years of celibacy. I need to have many girls around me, when my pocket is loaded, out of which I can pick the best".

But see me now, we are still hustling oooo & still single to stupor. Lol! Now, even one funny small boy will say, bros go marry ooo. Lol!

Now, if I as a guy is being disturbed left and right, imagine what a girl of my age will be experiencing daily, just like the lady that I fictionally illustrated above.

Suddenly, the same people that advised you that the other time, will be the one, now on your neck, saying, 'Iyabo, hey, you are aging oo, do you know you will be 27 by may? Lol

Even your parents who said then that you should take your time, will be now be reminding you of those your mates that have married lately and how you must hasten up or drag Mr wrong to the right side. Lol

And for you.. Oh, yeah, you are 100% ready now but where are the ready guys? Possibly disturbing another 22yrs old girl who might just say 'Yes, let's give this marriage thing a trial" like Zahra Buhari. Lol

Moral of the lesson: There is no such time as a right time for marriage than the time when everything looks favorable on your side but fear of unknown or societal perception of too early, or not good enough for you, may make you delay it for a latter day.

See, If you don't keep any ready guy in the future, then my young lucky sister, marry that ready dude now, if he is everything you want in a man.

Again, let me add this for older single girls that are searching. If you're 23+ and you ready to settle down, please try to avoid guys between 24 to 28yrs, for marriage plans, because only very few think about marriage at that age. Many are still sorting out their lives.

At 25, I was enjoying my life as a young Naija guy with no worries, and any girl at that time for me would have been in a long time waiting mode. Lol!

You wanna settle down, roll with men of 30+, with that, your waiting time reduces.

And for guys, you wanna settle down now but you have no money, please leave out girls below 24, many are not ready, they wanna explore, and the ready ones have financial burdens, that only big bros could carry.

Roll with older girls, you might not pay a dine, as these girls are mostly financially okay on their own. Through them, you get quick parental consent, the families accept you quickly and even fund your wedding plans. Just go bring your family and come and take her away. Lo[/b]l

[b]Wisdom is all we need!


#Goodnight Single friends. Let's keep searching rightly and let's not be delaying ourselves unknowingly.

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Re: Who Is Too Young To Marry After 18yrs? by bjayx: 5:21am On Apr 10, 2018
Ur last two bolded paragraph na him make sense, all others na plenty story.

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Re: Who Is Too Young To Marry After 18yrs? by MISEDUCATIONS: 5:48am On Apr 10, 2018
mah niggah.
girls' motto is "There's plenty of fish in the sea". yet the marriage rate is going down infront of their eyes. and they're single.
no man must marry before 35 and when he marries must marry under 22.

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Re: Who Is Too Young To Marry After 18yrs? by UDUJ(m): 5:56am On Apr 10, 2018
micronut:
#Who is too young to marry after 18yrs? By Elu



Moral of the lesson: There is no such time as a right time for marriage than the time when everything looks favorable on your side but fear of unknown or societal perception of too early, or not good enough for you, may make you delay it for a latter day.

See, If you don't keep any ready guy in the future, then my young lucky sister, marry that ready dude now, if he is everything you want in a man.

Again, let me add this for older single girls that are searching. If you're 23+ and you ready to settle down, please try to avoid guys between 24 to 28yrs, for marriage plans, because only very few think about marriage at that age. Many are still sorting out their lives.

At 25, I was enjoying my life as a young Naija guy with no worries, and any girl at that time for me would have been in a long time waiting mode. Lol!

You wanna settle down, roll with men of 30+, with that, your waiting time reduces.

And for guys, you wanna settle down now but you have no money, please leave out girls below 24, many are not ready, they wanna explore, and the ready ones have financial burdens, that only big bros could carry.

Roll with older girls, you might not pay a dine, as these girls are mostly financially okay on their own. Through them, you get quick parental consent, the families accept you quickly and even fund your wedding plans. Just go bring your family and come and take her away. Lo[/b]l

[b]Wisdom is all we need!


#Goodnight Single friends. Let's keep searching rightly and let's not be delaying ourselves unknowingly.

Cc: Ishlove, lalasticlala, Rockstation and farano

Makes sense. Couldn't agree more cool

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Re: Who Is Too Young To Marry After 18yrs? by UDUJ(m): 5:57am On Apr 10, 2018
MISEDUCATIONS:
mah niggah.
girls' motto is "There's plenty of fish in the sea". yet the marriage rate is going down infront of their eyes. and they're single.
no man must marry before 35 and when he marries must marry under 22.

Mah Nigga cheesy cheesy grin cheesy

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Re: Who Is Too Young To Marry After 18yrs? by Sarang(f): 9:24am On Apr 10, 2018
Someone without a job grin grin

Please see my signature

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Re: Who Is Too Young To Marry After 18yrs? by yeyeboi(m): 9:25am On Apr 10, 2018
Ok
Re: Who Is Too Young To Marry After 18yrs? by wwwtortoise(m): 9:25am On Apr 10, 2018
cheesy

One major reason why people make wrong marital decision is Societal pressure

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Re: Who Is Too Young To Marry After 18yrs? by akeentech(m): 9:25am On Apr 10, 2018
Sarang:
Someone without a job grin grin
Please see my signature
Re: Who Is Too Young To Marry After 18yrs? by MissRaine69(f): 9:26am On Apr 10, 2018
MISEDUCATIONS:
mah niggah.
girls' motto is "There's plenty of fish in the sea". yet the marriage rate is going down infront of their eyes. and they're single.
no man must marry before 35 and when he marries must marry under 22.
You are genetically flawed .

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Re: Who Is Too Young To Marry After 18yrs? by stano2(m): 9:30am On Apr 10, 2018
They pressure no be here
Re: Who Is Too Young To Marry After 18yrs? by tomdon(m): 9:32am On Apr 10, 2018
MISEDUCATIONS:
mah niggah.
girls' motto is "There's plenty of fish in the sea". yet the marriage rate is going down infront of their eyes. and they're single.
no man must marry before 35 and when he marries must marry under 22.



Badt guy cheesy

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Re: Who Is Too Young To Marry After 18yrs? by Okoyeebos: 9:32am On Apr 10, 2018
MissRaine69:

You are genetically flawed .

See you in Shiloh in 2050.

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Re: Who Is Too Young To Marry After 18yrs? by flyca: 9:32am On Apr 10, 2018
Not necessarily so!

Before now, this kind of topic will not be written without splashing Linda Ikeji into our faces! Now she is engaged - Praise Jesus!

Do not tag marriage to a particular age. This is one of the wrong assumptions guys make when marriage-shaming older single women.

People should marry when they are financially and emotionally ready to face the challenges that marriage brings. Marriage is no child's play.

Another is that I will personally encourage women to pursue their career and be financially grounded before delving into marriage. Nigeria is hard. Marriage, child bearing etc impedes a woman's career growth. If you don't take care, you are out of job. Getting back in a few years later in a labour-congested society such as ours is challenging, most times absent.

If you marry early and depend fully on an another adult for your daily sustainance, of what use is your education? Besides, you are gonna bring a lot of pressure of the man/marriage. Nigerian economy of today harsh o. Enterpreneurship without capital sustainance will fail, biko I'm not talking about hawking ankara and perfume from office to office.

From my own experience, a woman advancing in her career does not stop men from liking and toasting her. Just live a level-head life, without too much drama. Don't give in to societial pressure and start everyday vague uploads and preaching on Facebook and co, it's no competition. Live a natural (not fake) life devoid of sexual controversies, and stalking ex-es. etc. It will not be hard for you to get a man that will adore you even in your late 30's.

I am a living example.
And Sister Linda Ikeji is also engaged too already.

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Re: Who Is Too Young To Marry After 18yrs? by BiafranDel: 9:32am On Apr 10, 2018
Okoyeebos:


See you in Shiloh in 2050.
grin grin grin grin grin guy you no fit make heaven i swear

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Re: Who Is Too Young To Marry After 18yrs? by tomdon(m): 9:33am On Apr 10, 2018
No mind them

I know a number of them now who are feeling on top of the world, some are even above 25 oo, but feel the world is below their feet cos they think they're very beautiful.
Some younger girls of 20 years are even level headed. It's an individual problem.
We will check report card in ten years time when wrinkle go don demolish their faces cheesy

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Re: Who Is Too Young To Marry After 18yrs? by Nobody: 9:33am On Apr 10, 2018
Nice post...

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Re: Who Is Too Young To Marry After 18yrs? by MISEDUCATIONS: 9:34am On Apr 10, 2018
MissRaine69:

You are genetically flawed .
obvious answer from someone affected by my words. its not my fault you rejected proposals till you're 30 and noone wants you.
guys i repeat: under 22

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Re: Who Is Too Young To Marry After 18yrs? by Nobody: 9:34am On Apr 10, 2018
UDUJ:


Mah Nigga cheesy cheesy grin cheesy
someone is miseducating you with his moniker you are shouting "mah nigga " undecided

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Re: Who Is Too Young To Marry After 18yrs? by BiafranDel: 9:35am On Apr 10, 2018
MissRaine69:

You are genetically flawed .
when the pastor's op's message hit you directly at 35. lol. lemme come and be going

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Re: Who Is Too Young To Marry After 18yrs? by BiafranDel: 9:36am On Apr 10, 2018
MISEDUCATIONS:

obvious answer from someone affected by my words. its not my fault you rejected proposals till you're 30 and noone wants you.
guys i repeat: under 22
mah niqqa you wicked and heartless grin hahahahahahahahahahahaha hohohohohohohohohohoho hehehehehehehehehehehe

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Re: Who Is Too Young To Marry After 18yrs? by sarcasticdude(m): 9:36am On Apr 10, 2018
Mah nigga ur head is dia jarey! Take one bottle of alomo bitters abeg

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Re: Who Is Too Young To Marry After 18yrs? by UDUJ(m): 9:37am On Apr 10, 2018
frenzyduchess:
someone is miseducating you with his moniker you are shouting "mah nigga " undecided

So I can't laugh at something that is clearly a joke? Sis don't take all these nairaland theories too seriously.

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Re: Who Is Too Young To Marry After 18yrs? by Coldfeets: 9:38am On Apr 10, 2018
You have a point there.

As for me, the main reason why I am yet to marry is because I haven't seen or found a girl so interesting enough.

Most girls I know are so intellectually below me. My above average IQ is the problem here...

Some friends advised me to just accept the girl and then begin to train her.

And I'm like... na me be her mama and papa wey suppose train her since tay tay...?

Maybe na baby mama me I go do finally finally because as for me, living in a house with someone who cannot challenge you intellectually all in the name of marriage is the shortest cut to suicide.

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Re: Who Is Too Young To Marry After 18yrs? by MissRaine69(f): 9:38am On Apr 10, 2018
MISEDUCATIONS:

obvious answer from someone affected by my words. its not my fault you rejected proposals till you're 30 and noone wants you.
guys i repeat: under 22
Case proven.

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Re: Who Is Too Young To Marry After 18yrs? by pat077: 9:38am On Apr 10, 2018
No b lie

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Re: Who Is Too Young To Marry After 18yrs? by abiolag(m): 9:39am On Apr 10, 2018
MISEDUCATIONS:
mah niggah.
girls' motto is "There's plenty of fish in the sea". yet the marriage rate is going down infront of their eyes. and they're single.
no man must marry before 35 and when he marries must marry under 22.
Wicked guy. Old mamas dem will soon come for u grin

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Re: Who Is Too Young To Marry After 18yrs? by MISEDUCATIONS: 9:39am On Apr 10, 2018
MissRaine69:

Case proven.
does that make you 22 or return your virginity?

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Re: Who Is Too Young To Marry After 18yrs? by Nobody: 9:41am On Apr 10, 2018
UDUJ:


So I can't laugh at something that is clearly a joke? Sis don't take all these nairaland theories too seriously.
Good to know you don't take it seriously, cos I know some bitter and frustrated folks who come online to spill their venom to escape their misery. Have a nice day ahead.

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Re: Who Is Too Young To Marry After 18yrs? by flamingREED(m): 9:41am On Apr 10, 2018
Marry when you are driven by confidence and nothing else.

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Re: Who Is Too Young To Marry After 18yrs? by UDUJ(m): 9:41am On Apr 10, 2018
frenzyduchess:
Good to know you don't take it seriously, cos I know some bitter and frustrated folks who come online to spill their venom to escape their misery. Have a nice day ahead.

You too dear wink

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