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Re: Why Are Men Scared Of Getting Married? by UDUJ(m): 6:31am On Apr 18, 2018 |
Majority of men are less keen on getting married. Most men have commitment issues. Another way to rephrase this question should be: Why are women more keen on getting married than men? Women want to have babies before their ovaries stop functioning, while men have virtually no expiration date on their fertility. As a result, women want to solidify a family partnership earlier than men. This gives a power advantage to men and results in women being the more eager for marriage. Men can play around throughout their thirties, knowing that they still have a chance to reproduce if their current relationship doesn't work out. Women who spend their late twenties and early thirties with a man want to stop playing and get married because they might not have time to establish another serious relationship before conception becomes difficult. Of course, there are also societal reasons that compound the power dynamics that results from this biological reality. Women want a wedding more than men. The wedding industry is targeted at women and girls. Men's wedding attire is classy but standard. Tuxedos have little variety, and there are other occasions to wear them. Wedding dresses, on the other hand, are magnificent and oftentimes very expensive. Bridal gowns are masterful pieces of art. From a very young age, girls dream of the day when they will be a beautiful bride, not only because these dresses are truly stupendous but also because girls are socialized to decorate themselves in a way that boys are not. Women so desperately want to wear a white dress that they'll put themselves through the torture of wedding planning. There is also some cultural holdover from the days when women felt marriage necessary for financial security. Women now hold their own in the workforce, but the cultural idea remains that a woman needs to marry. Sadly Older bachelors (who are referred to as "confirmed bachelors" or even "playboys" are regarded much better than older spinsters or bachelorettes. 4 Likes
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Re: Why Are Men Scared Of Getting Married? by anochuko01(m): 6:33am On Apr 18, 2018 |
Shugavee: I love your sincerity. my elder sister who had a PGD never had a job but her whole problem was how to get married. now she's got a kid, husband ,lost his job and she's still jobless. Only if most women too would choose to understand that there's more to life than getting married. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Why Are Men Scared Of Getting Married? by crafteck(m): 6:33am On Apr 18, 2018 |
eyinjuege: The pressure is real, especially after banky w's wedding, lots of girls behaving like slippers want to be treated as italian shoes..
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Re: Why Are Men Scared Of Getting Married? by engrelvis(m): 6:34am On Apr 18, 2018 |
SmellingAnus:my brother if u mistakenly marry a wrong foreigner u will regret d day u were born.forget what u watch on TV.A white lady is brutally honest n when dey c dat in u dey r very loyal.sorry if reverse is d case.most whites marriages dat r successful r based on honesty.dey dnt hide things from each other.how many Nigerian men deos dat? 1 Like |
Re: Why Are Men Scared Of Getting Married? by KhadyM(f): 6:37am On Apr 18, 2018 |
Responsibility.... theyre now the head of a family and have to provide for all needs till forever |
Re: Why Are Men Scared Of Getting Married? by pimpo: 6:38am On Apr 18, 2018 |
The world is over populated so men are contributing their 2 cents to population control by avoiding marriage. |
Re: Why Are Men Scared Of Getting Married? by mikejj(m): 6:38am On Apr 18, 2018 |
haven gone through all the comment ....i can feel your pains..3 categories of people.. heartbroken squad...single and no man is coming...broke guys wey no get money for marriage.... sai jango 1 Like |
Re: Why Are Men Scared Of Getting Married? by Mcy56(f): 6:40am On Apr 18, 2018 |
Rexeffiom:See jamb question! You tell me if you qualified for the above first. |
Re: Why Are Men Scared Of Getting Married? by mikejj(m): 6:41am On Apr 18, 2018 |
KhadyM:that's what men face in Africa very sad...u marry a woman u marry her people problems palava(PPP) |
Re: Why Are Men Scared Of Getting Married? by BigIyanga: 6:42am On Apr 18, 2018 |
Mcy56:Naija girl only mentality is that sex is the only thing a man needs. How many Naija girls clamouring for marriage know the cost of- 1:1 yr rent in a major city? 2: 2.5KVA generator? 3: A dozen of SMA/Similac/Infamil? 4: A carton of diapers? 5: trad wedding 6: white wedding 1 Like |
Re: Why Are Men Scared Of Getting Married? by ImaIma1(f): 6:45am On Apr 18, 2018 |
prince3009: Before his mum became late, she did have her life. My mum is also late but i can still make reference to her life. No sisters. And no female relatives or family friends? |
Re: Why Are Men Scared Of Getting Married? by Mcy56(f): 6:50am On Apr 18, 2018 |
BigIyanga:Your first sentence is not the mentality, it's what is happening and what men has turned it to be sadly If free sex is removed, some of you guys will be serious. 1 Like |
Re: Why Are Men Scared Of Getting Married? by KhadyM(f): 6:51am On Apr 18, 2018 |
mikejj: Yeah its very sad. I'd feel so much pressure if I was an African man. I'd probably wanna marry from another race. I heard on the radio the other day, this man complaining of how he now has to foot the bills for his wife's younger siblings still in school in addition to taking care of his own family. That's not cool. That's why we should fight for feminism because it creates a society where both men and women are expected to equally foot the bill for everything. No man head of the family bullshit. As much as it strokes their ego to be looked up to, it hurts them in the long run. And on that note, we wont have a society where women are so dependent on men on silly things such as airtime, and men wont be looking down upon us so that the only thing they believe we can bring to the table is *****. 2 Likes |
Re: Why Are Men Scared Of Getting Married? by Nobody: 6:52am On Apr 18, 2018 |
Safiaa: Bae you just dick my mind out exactly |
Re: Why Are Men Scared Of Getting Married? by streetzdreamz(m): 6:54am On Apr 18, 2018 |
marriage is scary ,more like a gamble cuz nothing guarantees a happy ending, the cool headed lady you court today might be a very sassy monster some months into your marriage,the uncertainty, degrading moral standards......n lots more. |
Re: Why Are Men Scared Of Getting Married? by Nobody: 6:54am On Apr 18, 2018 |
Butoneday2: Please my parents didnt teach us to cook indomie because according to them its not food. Der taught me to cook food. I don't think any lady doesn't know how to cook a basic meal like egusi or ogbono cos they are basically the easiest to put together. |
Re: Why Are Men Scared Of Getting Married? by ibietela2(m): 6:55am On Apr 18, 2018 |
Some of us are ready, getting a girlfriend sef is a problem |
Re: Why Are Men Scared Of Getting Married? by Ladyhippolyta88(f): 6:56am On Apr 18, 2018 |
SoapQueen:I am beginning to enjoy your post sis. Some of your post are so on point. Good one. 2 Likes |
Re: Why Are Men Scared Of Getting Married? by Gistpower(m): 6:59am On Apr 18, 2018 |
this one weak me |
Re: Why Are Men Scared Of Getting Married? by BigIyanga: 6:59am On Apr 18, 2018 |
Mcy56:Your statement doesn't make any sense! Women like u put so much emphasis on sex that it's the only they offer a man while marriage involves a lot of financial commitments.. most Naija Women see marriage as a meal ticket. 80% of Naija women in the university want to be married b4 getting a job. |
Re: Why Are Men Scared Of Getting Married? by Nobody: 6:59am On Apr 18, 2018 |
GoodMuyis: U people seem to always fall into the hands of selfish ladies. Some decent ones still exist but u people still see them as low class. |
Re: Why Are Men Scared Of Getting Married? by LegitGirl(f): 7:00am On Apr 18, 2018 |
crafteck: Some women. All the negativity y'all have won't do you any good. |
Re: Why Are Men Scared Of Getting Married? by SoapQueen(f): 7:01am On Apr 18, 2018 |
Ladyhippolyta88: Awwww! Thank you, the Amazon! 1 Like |
Re: Why Are Men Scared Of Getting Married? by LegitGirl(f): 7:02am On Apr 18, 2018 |
Simonrom: That's what so many people here on NL are... shallow-minded lot. |
Re: Why Are Men Scared Of Getting Married? by sexdoll: 7:04am On Apr 18, 2018 |
geesunge: The problem I have with some of you guys who talk like this is that I can't just figure out why you guys will allow a woman to suck him dry. Is it that you are so afraid she'll leave you or is it that you are so afraid you can't get another bïtch? Apart from being a totally foolish move, why would a guy actually believe he needs to do so much to keep a bïtch? Guys listen. If a bïtch wanna go, let her go. Bïtches come; Bïtches go. Life goes on. 1 Like |
Re: Why Are Men Scared Of Getting Married? by Ladyhippolyta88(f): 7:05am On Apr 18, 2018 |
SoapQueen:Welcome anytime 2 Likes |
Re: Why Are Men Scared Of Getting Married? by Nobody: 7:07am On Apr 18, 2018 |
I don't know but all i wish is to get rich before 25 and have my own family... So Help me God! 2 Likes |
Re: Why Are Men Scared Of Getting Married? by eyinjuege: 7:12am On Apr 18, 2018 |
crafteck: Marriage is not for everyone jare, even women. You find some men and women who have tried it and run out just staying on their own and living their lives peacefully never wanting to have a go at marriage again. They still have relationships, but are their own person and not accountable to anyone and they are happt with that setting. Some people can't do that though, and they just must be married whether happily or unhappily. Just chose one, and live with your choice. I try not to have regrets about any decision i make generally whether good or bad. I just learn and gain experience from the bad decisions especially 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Why Are Men Scared Of Getting Married? by Mcy56(f): 7:15am On Apr 18, 2018 |
BigIyanga:Bros, stop being myopic about this issue of sex outside marriage, take time to read thru some of your fellow men's assertions here to start with. Im just stating a statement of fact here and it does not in any way have anything to do with my personality, what I am or what I am not. I'm not answerable to you on my person, doing that is highly irrelevant 'cos even if I did, you'll not cease to be your very doubting self. |
Re: Why Are Men Scared Of Getting Married? by yanabasee(m): 7:23am On Apr 18, 2018 |
Mcy56: The morally trained and decent ones are virtually the ugly ones!!! The beautiful ones get deceived easily.....and turned haywired!!! 2 Likes |
Re: Why Are Men Scared Of Getting Married? by colestephan86: 7:24am On Apr 18, 2018 |
abiolamitodun:n't have to put your plans on friends.prents.economy or anything. With the number of messed up girls out there trust me there are still some very good ones.. I got married in feb n im happy I am now. I think all you have to do is let her know your budget n work with that strictly. N if I may add pls dont get married to someone that doesn't have anything doing. He must be doing something n I dont yahoo. 1 Like |
Re: Why Are Men Scared Of Getting Married? by Nobody: 7:24am On Apr 18, 2018 |
ImaIma1: Anyway...involving his mother or sisters or female relatives does not remove the fact that what he said is true. Nigerian ladies/Women today have totally lost it. 1 Like |
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