FreeConCiencE:


Nobody is saying God, culture or morality support woman footing the whole bills, but if she is capable of doing of doing it and the husband is not, God, culture and morality demand she foot the bills on behalf of the husband. Even if she does that, she should still submit to her husband and see him as the authority. It's such a woman you call woman of virtues. Nobody is supporting maltreatment of women and living an irresponsible life as a womanizer, drunkard or smoker. But I repeat, the husband is the authority, is the dictator and he is the head that all the other family members should respect. Where there is need to carry his wife along, he will do. That makes him a man.

ImaIma1:


The highlighted is what makes a lot of men lazy and laid back. The wife can foot the bill on "behalf of the husband" and still see him as the authority while he does what? Sit around and being the head with mouth.

ImaIma1:


Why should he tell his wife to shut up when he is talking?

All these points you raised did not start in this generation. It has nothing to do with women of today. Absolutely nothing.

And you cannot even compare then with now. Then, the husband worked and brought in the money while the wife stayed home and took care of the house and kids.

You cannot expect it to be exactly the same when the woman also works as hard as the man or even harder and still bears children, takes care of the children and the home. Of course she will feel cheated when she is still treated without consideration.

Marriage is an agreement between two people. Couples should try to make life easy for each other without one feeling neglected or disrespected.

victorian:









So true, no woman will see such man as a head. I repeat no African woman.


FreeConCiencE, I disagree with u on that.

Some Men should man up and do the needful, if they so much desire to be the head.

Pataricatering:
as if marriage is a prize ! I’m so happy women don’t carry marriage on their head like they used to !

victorian:








Tears indeed.

I don't need to pretend. I rather be single than be desperate to even date or marry a clueless irresponsible man.

And inbetween

msylva2147:
I respected you for your first comment but on this you are not totally right, so because you are working mean when your husband is talking you should also talk back at him? Sometimes I see the problems in the marriage today as ego the women are having in the name of I can do without you at the detriment of the children.

Thesia:
So all this f*cked up niggas complaining that their woman don't do anything they ask them to do...

Is she ur fucki*g maid, u want a maid bitch u get one ur self, if that aren't enough for u, u can go bang ur head on a wall....

Rubbish, I am so tired of some stupid men thinking that their world is law, bunch succotash. .

ImaIma1:


What do you mean by talk back? So if he is talking, she has to be silent? They cannot debate on an issue or argue?

The problem in marriage is most lack of or bad communication. And a woman does not have ego where a man is. Because a man's ego is so big that it could be his ruin.

Thesia:


Once I have the money, and i am financially off, who man help, Rubbish....

Marriage is just f*cking sh*t, cus I don't see how that help...

Am still saying it, some men are disgusting misogynist bastards sons of bitches...

PS: am a misandry, go and check it up, that is why I hate men the most...

Cus they are just fantastically worthless piece of shits....

engrelvis:
dnt mind dem.most people writing here r nt married.if there is affection n luv in marriage submission comes naturally from yr wife.i shud know.i v been in it for d past 13yrs! Master slave relationship went with our parents.d more love u show a good wife d more submissive she becomes.find yr wife mumu button n d rest is history

victorian:










There is nothing to learn here.

You men screaming women no longer respect their husbands are just wasting your time.

Take a look at a comfortable home and marriage, where the man is the head of the house... Not just head bceacuse he has prick o! He's head because he takes care of his home and financial responsibilities. Where I live, the married couples there, live peacefully, everyone is happy. Bills are not split in their homes. The wife assist when she wants to add extra value to what the husband has dropped for weekly meals and running of the home.

Both husbands bought their working wives car. They don't share children school fees. Their husbands pay the fees solely by himself.

So tell me, why would such wives disrespect their husbands
Their homes are always peaceful and quiet with laughter and joy coming from the kids, wife and the husband. Their friends visits and they entertain them well.

Such women will always respect their husband and guard him jealously.

But you! You marry wife, u will tell her rent? She will pay half and u pay half
Food, is splitted into two
School fees into two

Sometimes the husband sef doesn't drop anything.

All you know how to do is fucvk and lash out orders, which she will look at u disdainfully and walk away.

You virtually split your title of your position as the head into two. What we now have in such homes are two leaders handling a ship. She starts rubbing shoulders with you. You talk! She talks back! What do u expect? Your wife to worship you?

Until u men starts behaving Like responsible men, your wives will start taking u serious.
No wonder women are no longer desperate to marry especially to men who are not ready to be men. They rather stay single, be single mums, be free and take care of their kids and biz.

Don't worry una eyes go soon clear. Alot of stingy men are dying of loneliness and coming online to pour out their frustrations. Have u seen rich and comfortable men complain their wives don't respect them? Only struggling married and single men complain everytime online
.na una sabi..

Keep been frustrated.

msylva2147:
A wise woman will remain silent when the husband is talking and that's not a sign of weakness but respect, instead of arguing you allow him when he is in a good mood. Sometimes when you see men shouting is not as if they really want to but sometimes society puts pressure on them being it in a working place or in the traffic, so sometimes is a kind of transfer of aggression.

lefulefu:
Respect is earned. A husband who drinks himself to stupor vomiting all over the place or the one who at the end of the month gives half of his salary earnings to his sidechic while neglecting his kids and the remaining half he spends it in beer parlour... U think such a husband deserves his wife's respect? If the man is a responsible husband is wife will respect him....except if the wife na Karashika of the highest echelon bracket.

ImaIma1:


They just try to quote the part that suits them. They don't read thd other part where it says men should love their wives.

They demand submission but do they love their wives the way the same Bible they keep quoting says: love that is not proud, not self seeking, love that covers all wrong, love that is KIND and PATIENT,etc. But they keep shouting "SUBMIT".

msylva2147:
it is women like you that makes guys to go into kidnapping, robbery, money rituals and yahoo yahoo because you can't respect your husband simply because God has not open his way. Is it everybody that will be rich? You are using rich people to generalize. To think that men's eyes will soon clear I guess you must be in China to have said that. On the contrary it's men that doesn't want to get married because of people like you, if every man decides to marry ten women, women will still be surplus to requirement.

victorian:


Honey i really caught a goldfish. And with the kind of things i hear here, i count myself lucky.

You can find that kind you are looking for










Don't mind them., they want submission but cannot even fulfil one simple rule : Love your wife.

I repeat, I will NEVER marry a man who pretends to love me but doesn't give a hoot about me but expect submission because he's the head?
Head my foot!

msylva2147:
when you see such a man try to enquire if that's how he has been before they got married, sometimes it's the women that makes their husbands to engage in such habit because I don't believe that was the man's character and habit yet she chooses to get married to him.

IgboBasthard:


Solve your own first.......didirins want to control women without means. So a woman is respected by her younger sisters, by her friends and family, relatives and society because she is getting dicked-down every night? Maybe your sisters think so sha.

victorian:







Those category of men shouldn't marry nah. You think women are so eager to marry as well?

I repeat No man is doing me any favour in marrying me, that's the truth! Take it or leave it.

ImaIma1:


A woman will not always keep quiet when her husband speaks. A wise person knows that there is a time to speak and a time to be silent. Some silence could be insulting.

You should realize that though the man is the head, they are a team.

msylva2147:
then you believe that two wrongs can make a right to build a home by not keeping quiet

lefulefu:
some men are j*st addicted to alcohol. Its just their tin and the way they are. No be woman push them into it. There are married men who would rather spend all their money on drink and girlfriends while neglecting their wives and kids at home. When salary alert ring for dhier phone na dat time dem go remember sidechic number 1 and sidechic number2. Their wives will toil and slave for the kids while d husbands are outside frolicking with other women. How u go expect such a wife to feel? Yes a man deserve respect from his wife but then many of these married men should try and be more responsible. Play a role in your children's life and ur spouse would love and respect u except she be heartless devil. U can't talk of respect when u as a man refuse to cater for ur children's needs.

Pavore9:
The basic question is how did the man get attracted to a woman he could not inspire respect into?

braunstrowman:


Gone are the days, when a woman will see her husband and she will submit to him and to his instructions wholeheartedly but not days again.

Even the Bible says wife should be submissive to her husband.
Ephesians 5:22-33 New International Version (NIV)
22 Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord. 23 For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. 24 Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything.

A man will give simple instructions to his wife or girlfriend they will still find it hard to obey him or listen to his instructions.

Amaka don't do this! She will still do that.

Mama Emeka shut up when I'm talking! She will talk 50 times before the man will say two statement.

Ma victor you didn't wash my clothes! Do I look like your house maid.

You girls should be respectful and obedient to your husband or boyfriend

lloyds:


I think you are a wise man.

ImaIma1:


If the roles are switched and the woman takes the role of the man as the provider (according to the bible) don't you think we can also switch up the submission and authority part too?

And nope...the man is not a dictator in his house. It is not the way the Bible described it. The woman is meant to submit but the equation does not end there. If you read further, it says the man should love his wife.

Then when you read 1 Corinthians 13 that talks about love, you will realize that a husband cannot be a dictator if he claims to love. You will understand how a husband and wife should live.

victorian:









So true, no woman will see such man as a head. I repeat no African woman.


FreeConCiencE, I disagree with u on that.

Some Men should man up and do the needful, if they so much desire to be the head.

whitebeard:
guys going about saying u want to control ur woman this and that..!! Pls relax..

Ur woman is ur companion, ur best friend, ur die hard fan, ur fvck mate/buddy, ur friend that can tell u in ur face.."niccar u ain't attractive", ur bully..and likewise ladies too..!! They are not ur subject or maid one some low life object that u want to be doing ur bidding every fvcking time..there is time for everything..come together agree on something then do it..it not that one person will decide and be expecting the other to follow whether she/he likes it or not..!


Well not everyone is enlightened.. And pls don't expect to marry a virgin if u are not one, dont expect a loyal person if u ain't loyal..!

Ur spouse is ur companion..(not in front or behind)..but beside u..!