chiommy123:
he wants to cheat but he knows he can't bring the other lady home so he wants to use the excuse that she's not working to drive her away. op better go and collect list oh cos you can't run away from this one

EVILFOREST:

Such LADIES you did mention can’t reside in the US or CANADA or AUSTRALIA.
There are too many bills to be paid.
Insurance policies are stronger in the US.
Such places are not for them, because u have to contribute. Even grown up children contribute to the running of homes else their parents charge them to leave the apartment.
The number of CRÈCHES in the US is more than the number of churches in Nigeria, because women have no time gossiping. Some invite NANNIES to live with them.

It’s in AFRICA your story trends.
Where LADIES are encouraged to remain as BABY FACTORIES without mental development.

sassysure:

A man that loves a wife like this lady is battling with very low self esteem. If she starts work or hustling, she will be richer than me, men will admire her more, I won't be able to monitor her movement etc. So many disguise on taking care of the children anthem to hide such insecurity.

And I must agree with you, most of the ladies want such life.
As long as the man is going out there and bringing in the mo money, they are good. Top it with a car, what else do they need?

weyreypey:
If only oyindidi can pack come like this

teekay213:
This is not fair o.

After you Don see the girl finish

bleeped her morning, afternoon, nights na now you come need space

Where do you want her to go after she has left her sis place to your place.


To get job in this country is hard,is she not cleaning up your place,cooking for you washing your clothes and the rest


Fear God o.

Jasen1:




I've been talking to her ma


She's not showing sign

Like she's not making any effort to get a job

Acidosis:


The primary responsibility of a married woman is to take care of her home and the kids. It is her daily paid job she's making up for, of which she'll retire someday. So the daily paid job should never be seen as the primary responsibility.



The primary responsibility of the man is to act as the sole provider of the home. I actually would be very scared of a woman that doesn't need my money or is not interested in me being and acting in my full capacity.

Bad and failing economic conditions and the rascality of those in government should not distort ethical and ideal family principles. My family would not be manned and controlled by a nanny/househelp.

Being a working (married) woman is an added advantage. Seeing her pursue her dreams is equally an added advantage, but no dreams should be greater than the family to the extent we begin to see the family as a secondary responsibility.

chiommy123:
you can help her get a job and start preparing for your marriage cos I don't know who you want to leave her for

ritylove:
She said she can't stay with her sister husband, I then told her to come to my place and stay, she agreed.

You Never Had Good Intention's Towards Her From The Day She Stepped Foot Into Your Home,Some Girls Are Just So Dumb

Now After Fvcking Her To Exhaustion For 3months And Counting Your Finally Tired Of Her, And Want Space To Deceive Another Innocent Girl Now Your On NAIRALAND And Want Opinion On How To Get Rid Of Her Like She's A Piece Of Trash

Congratulation On Your Newly wedded Wife She's Going No Where

I Just Wish I Could Meet You Personally And Punch You On Your Face You Scum...

emeijeh:
Just declare the union INCONCLUSIVE


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generationz:


so in other words you are comfortable with a full time house wife?
you will never allow nannies and house helps in your home?

Haywhaie:
Gynocentric bias makes you look foolish.

Jasen1:


Am to renew my rent new year February and it's 130k annually, like am hustling trying hard to get the money before then, here is someone iny house everyday just eating, and doing nothing




Well y'all can accused me of getting tired after having sex with her, but the truth we both are having the sex together I've not for one day force her she even ask for it, if she starts working today I will be happy

I've sent her this link already maybe she will read

sylvez:


Keep fucking her.... One day somehow you both will go your separate ways....

I was once in something like diz....you don't know the value of what you have until you loose it... There's no feeling greater than that feeling that you can Bleep any time you want....

donblade85555:


only u 1464 likes

ritylove:
She said she can't stay with her sister husband, I then told her to come to my place and stay, she agreed.

You Never Had Good Intention's Towards Her From The Day She Stepped Foot Into Your Home,Some Girls Are Just So Dumb

Now After Fvcking Her To Exhaustion For 3months And Counting Your Finally Tired Of Her, And Want Space To Deceive Another Innocent Girl Now Your On NAIRALAND And Want Opinion On How To Get Rid Of Her Like She's A Piece Of Trash

Congratulation On Your Newly wedded Wife She's Going No Where

I Just Wish I Could Meet You Personally And Punch You On Your Face You Scum...

Acidosis:


There is no such thing as a full time house wife. Do we have part-time office wife? Work or no work, a married woman is a "fulltime house wife."

We need to stop confusing ourselves with slangs/terms that do nothing but destroy the family structure and lead people to depression and unfulfilled life. Some of these terms include;

Fulltime housewife
Housewife
Career woman
Modern woman
Modern wife
Working class woman
Working woman
I have even heard "sweet 16 working class wife and mother of 2"
Etc.

Have you ever seen a nonworking married woman?

Have you wondered why men don't bear any of these slangs? Have you ever heard the term working class man? Career man? Modern husband? Working man?

Truth is many of these terms were borne out of hatred and oppressive behaviour of women towards other women. You guys don't need to define yourselves by these terms to make a point. Women have been working since time immemorial.

Btw, being a "fulltime housewife" at some point in time is no big deal especially when sitting in your house makes economic sense.

That being said, I have nothing against househelp/nanny but many of these services have reduced some wives to sex machines. A wife should offer more than sex in the house, she needs to give more to her family (husband & kids). Same applies to the man.

Lovelypet28:

My brother have been to one of those countries you just mentioned and trust me they have STAY HOME mums,they cook clean and take good care of the children while the man works,FULL TIME HOUSE WIVES,the only difference is that the family gets huge benefits from the government so the running of the home is not much of a burden for the man of the house so please dont have the impression THEY are all working women,some are still very traditional,look most nigerian men are just lazy,if you cant keep a home,Bleep it dont get married,please dont get married and be expecting assistance from your wife,dont expect it,if you married a sensible wife she knows the role she is meant to play,but dont bank on it, RENT,FEEDING YOUR CHILDREN,SCHOOL FEES should not even be in dispute,you shouldnt expect your wife to even attempt paying for those.
Let me tell you a secret my old uncles and even my dad were discussing and said these new generation of men are chickens,no balls,they are not MEN.

sassysure:
Very very lazy gal.
Gal if u are reading this, u are a liability. I wonder what will happen when u become a wife.
U are very manipulative. Get ur ass off free loading and find something doing. Ur boyfriend shouldn't be the one to go job hunting for u.
I'm very sure u are panning to tie him down with pregnancy. U have already perfected ur plan with ur family else how can they not be ashamed u are living in a man's house?
Lazy Nigerian youth.

Mr lover boy, next time don't reason with ur John Thomas. All that glitters are not gold. U make plans for the future with ur head and not ur heart. U willingly wanted to play the role of family, husband and boyfriend at the same time. Well, good luck to u. If ur soft heart will be broken, go to the registry and do the needful. It's very cheap.You believe that part that talked about her parent in this story?


The union is actually symbiotic. Good luck to u two.

generationz:


so you have never heard of house husband
sit at home husband
baby daddy etc

it wasn't until the start of the 1900's and mid 1900's that most women had to take on predominantly male roles because most of their husbands , sons and fathers were out in the first and second world wars. not to forget the american civil war of the 1800's

it would surprise you to know that jobs like secretary, hairhostess, etc were filled by mostly men. it wasn't until the second world war that vacancies were put out for women to fill up these rolls end mass.
let's not forget that women had to fight to become doctors, senators, heads of states, lawyers, bankers, judges, pilots etc and even for the right to vote . all these roles were predominantly occupied by men


all that didn't happen in the 13th century. all these things took place just about a hundred years ago in the western world

Even Africa and Nigeria as a whole is still getting used to these things and still battling gender bias against women.

The world let alone Africa still has a long way to go getting used to the 'working woman' these werent terms created out of jealousy by other women but out of a agenda to support 'girl power' and squash gender biases in every industry


there is nothing wrong if a man chooses to marry a full time house wife. yes A woman in this modern age who chooses to sit at home to to take care of her home and family without any business or job at hand is a full-time house wife. Even those full time house wives won't argue with you when you call them one

Don't be like those hypocritical men who tell their wives that sitting at home full time taking care of the kids is the best for their marriage.

after the woman has spent a chunk of her life with only marriage being her achievement , you begin to chase working class chick or compare the wife to those high achieving ladies breaking glass ceilings .

Lovelypet28:

My brother have been to one of those countries you just mentioned and trust me they have STAY HOME mums,they cook clean and take good care of the children while the man works,FULL TIME HOUSE WIVES,the only difference is that the family gets huge benefits from the government so the running of the home is not much of a burden for the man of the house so please dont have the impression THEY are all working women,some are still very traditional,look most nigerian men are just lazy,if you cant keep a home,Bleep it dont get married,please dont get married and be expecting assistance from your wife,dont expect it,if you married a sensible wife she knows the role she is meant to play,but dont bank on it, RENT,FEEDING YOUR CHILDREN,SCHOOL FEES should not even be in dispute,you shouldnt expect your wife to even attempt paying for those.
Let me tell you a secret my old uncles and even my dad were discussing and said these new generation of men are chickens,no balls,they are not MEN.

Acidosis:


Sorry the agenda of the so called "working class modern classy chic" we have today on the social media is far from promoting the girl child or girl power.

I have a very independent mind I would not support or encourage caging everyone into this "working class box" and belittling women who decide to stay home to take care of their children with derogatory clichés. Who doesn't know the term "full housewife" is meant to belittle this category of women, some of whom are products of circumstances such as unemployment and underemployment?

I have seen way too many pregnant women pursuing buses and okada in the name of working class. I have seen very distasteful incidences that ordinarily should be criminalized in a working nation.

In a saner clime like Germany, there no such things as private daycare. Government regulate the limited ones so more women have no choice but to stay home and nurture their wards. Marriage is not by force. If you can't do it, leave it, that's why movements like feminism are easier pursued in such countries because these women know very well that they can't eat their cake and have it.

Here in Nigeria, we've allowed previous bitter experiences to shape our thought process. Some of you want your potential MIL dead because of "previous experiences". You want to build houses without their husband's knowledge following "previous experiences". The reason some are working isn't even because they love the job but to enable them save enough because when Papa Nnamdi died, his extended family punished Mama Nnamdi and sent her packing. These illustrations are just a few of those things shaping these drives, no trust, no real or positive explanation whatsoever, yet we always claim we love each other.

About the hypocritical thing, trust me, I don't even compare myself with anybody. I have my dreams and aspirations and I expect others including my wife to have theirs. If her dreams correlate with an ideal family structure, I will strongly and ultimately encourage her. Contributions don't always have to be monetary by the way.

generationz:



This conversation started when you said the op didn't love the girl becuaee she was a a full time house girlfriend and failed to contribute to the upkeep


You have forgotten that love means different things to duffernt people you can't force your opinion on others.

I know you had a soft spot for this because your mom was a full time housewife (please I don't mean it in a derogatory way).To ad

Your parents have been married for long and you have built a picture of an ideal marriage around what you saw while growing up

emeijeh:
Just declare the union INCONCLUSIVE


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