45? chei menopause is knocking on the door ooooooooooooooooooooo, abi you no wan burn childrens?Na love you go chop?who love epp?

Lol authoritative and rude

U never know as e dey do u

If you want to have kids, this is not a good idea

ZombiePUNISHER:
it's not bad..

Have you met the French president?...

Happiness is all that matters

Liar.

Don't ever forget that here is AFRICA.

Just your chances of having kids OP. She's beautiful how come no man has gotten serious with her before now. Think character

the simple truth here is you are targeting her money and she is targeting your body as her relaxation center and her end product
so if you think you can man up go ahead but there are so many things to consider my brother make you no go turn to cook or sexdolll

Love knows no age

If you love her grab her now

She go dey give you everything and respect you

Small small girls of nowadays no get respect for men

Vote Atiku
Things will change

nwanneni:
Chop and clean mouth.you can't possibly love a 10 yr older woman na

that's just the only and best alternative. Chop and clean mouth

sodiamond:
Just your chances of having kids OP. She's beautiful how come no man has gotten serious with her before now. Think character

she has character problem

Nelbless:
I write this with tears in my heart.... and almost a confused mind.

I recently met woman back in August this year who is also in my line of work, oil and gas......she is a Nigerian/Canadian as I learnt just last night, mixed root.

at first I was captivated by her stunning beauty/drive for excellence.....before I knew it we both had clicked .....understanding each other very well.

she is a Sagittarius and am a leo......meaning we both in some ways shares same thing in common 'workaholics/honest/generous'

I was helplessly in love with her....

NOTE: SHE RESIDES IN ABUJA WITH HER PARENTS WHILE AS AT WHEN WE MET ONLINE I WAS IN LUXEMBOURG HOLIDAYING.....CAME IN RECENTLY AND HAD SCHEDULED OUR FIRST MEETING COME 23RD NOV BEING HER BIRTHDAY.

Having shared her odeal with men and how she was abused by her last fiance for years and her resolve never to date again.......upon my recommendation she began taking classes that would help her mindset on men as she hates men atleast i suspected.

now we both are deeply in love..... HOWEVER LAST NIGHT WHILE ON PHONE I SHARED MY AGE WITH HER (34) AND GOT THE SHOCKER OF MY LIFE WHEN I HEARD HER SAY SHE IS (45)!!!!

I COULDNT BELIEVE MY EARS COS SHE LOOKED WAY YOUNGER THAN THAT AGE ..........

AM CONFUSED.....

I know hence I love her am meant to overlook her age and etc.....but this lady is authoritative and rude though I cautions her from time to time , bug then I fear if I proceed with this I might be her puppy above all am just confused.

PLEASE I NEED SEASONED ADVICE FROM PEOPLE WHO HAVE BEEN IN SAME POSITIONS.

WHAT ARE THE CONS AND PROS IN THIS SITUATION!

AM 35 ....SHE IS 45!!!

OK....ask yourself these questions

1.Do you want children?

Because at 45, she could be having the onset of menopause....which could make it difficult to have kids.

Also, assuming she gets pregnant...pregnancy at this age can be risky.

Plus,menopause has a lot of issues....can you handle them? EG....emotional issues.

2. Do you want to be in charge of your house?

Because, she is older than you, more experienced, seen life....she might not be willing to 'take orders' from a kid.

ZombiePUNISHER:
it's not bad..


Have you met the French president?...

Happiness is all that matters

this is Africa

ZombiePUNISHER:
it's not bad..


Have you met the French president?...

Happiness is all that matters

OK....go and marry a 55 year old woman.

Happiness matters.

AGE IS RILY A NO., BT MY ONLY ADVICE 4 U IS TO REMIND U DAT, AN ATTITUDE DAT HAS NT CHANGE DURING COURTSHIP CANT BE CHANGE IN MARRIAGE, MAYBE DOSE ARE D REASONS SHE HAS BEEN TRU ALOT FRM HER EX, AND TELL URSEF D TRUTH, ATTITUDE DAT HAS NT CHANGE 4 45YRS Y DO U THINK U CAN?

please follow your heart... if you have any aorta of doubt... please listen to your heart.. marriage is not for a moment,its till death do u path.. most times we know what is right we just want others to say what we want to hear.. let's God lead you... follow ur heart.. listen to it.. pray and seek Counsel

U should be warried of those things others came, saw and decided to run away. Except u are also going there to deceive her.

Authoritative and rude is a red flag bro. Marry at your own risk .

Noted

Follow your heart bro, don't let anyone decide for you.

Abeg make una kontinue, with the older women, leave the young girls for us,
Incase that age is not enough, I have one 55 year old baby oku for you.

Marriage that dead institution.

My dear, don't ever you fall to that story of age is a number. You are 34, she is 45. When you are suppose to be 45 and she is 34. My dear, try and find out her real age. WHEN YOU BECOME 40 AND SHE IS 51, YOUR EYES WILL CLEAR AND NOT BLIND AGAIN.

Saff:
If you want to have kids, this is not a good idea

Why? are you God? smh

Proceed with your relationship and even marriage.

There is something called divorce if both of you can no longer cope in future.

Besides, you have a woman who will never flirt. If you end that relationship and marry one of these slay queens my brother, you won't love a woman again.

Both of you are matured

You love her and she loves you too

If you can tolerate her authority and you know that you are not dating her for what she has and you guys are compatible then go for her

If you feel happy staying with her for the rest of your life, go for her

If you are not desperate for kids and you don't mind one or two kids from both of you, go for her

Assuming she didn't tell you her real age honestly you won't know.

What a man needs is a woman that will make him happy all through his life

But if all I meantioned especially the kids aspect and you know that if there are delays in child bearing and you can't wait till she takes in, just leave her alone

Love have somany relations.

Wealth
Happiness
Children
Peace of mind
Finance

You did not see beauty there, its because it fades away

If there is love, kindly go for it.
The cons, with understanding, can be handled.
Note that there are many arguments or commandments you might have to concede.
Congratulations in advance

Unbelievable. Age 34 or 35, and here you are on NL seeking for life and relationship advice....from, believe it or not, mostly shiteaters in their 20s.

Sorry, man. You ain't ready mentally to get hitched yet. You still need to grow up.

45? In the long run,you are going to contribute to the problem of this woman when you finally reset your brain. The problem of that woman is that she doesn't know who she should fall in love with,and she has about to make the same mistake by falling with you.

The age difference is not the issue, your major issue is the rude aspect you mentioned. There's a certain maturity that comes with older women.

But, but you see that rudeness part, that is your red flag. Unfortunately, in this clime, it comes with dating a most ladies who are financially stable. Most of them always turn out to be so. Tackle that issue, and if it feels like she can't help being rude, then leave her be.

Your problem is not age, it is her character.

Nelbless:
but this lady is authoritative and rude though I cautions her from time to time

It was all nice and beautiful until I got here. This should answer your questions.

Bro, ur about taking a dangerous decision which can go a long way in ur entire life. Personally I don't see any good in the near future on this move. My advise is for you to opt out on the issue of marriage but can maintain a good relationship as friends.