handsomeyitayo:
my mind is free..I won't do that..but it surprises me that how can he ignore me like that

There are times when the head of those people abroad, runs-riot, due to the many problems they are facing.
Sometime, it is the amount of debt thay have to pay-off every week (Electricity, gas, Telephone, Internet, transport, Housing, e.t.c....everything, Na-pay! ) and the thing can make some of them very "reactive", especially in the cold winter months

Alezy:
the behavior is cos of same reason some guys comments out there.

Its as if when u try to reach out, u automatically want something. Very wrong mentality

Daboomb:


Relax, maybe you hit him at the wrong time and he thought you were going to be bothering him for money.
There are times when the head of those people abroad, runs-riot, due to the many problems they are facing.
Sometime, it is the amount of debt thay have to pay-off every week (Electricity, gas, Telephone, Internet, transport, Housing, e.t.c....everything, Na-pay! ) and the thing can make some of them very "reactive", especially in the cold winter months

Few weeks later, things might have changed.

Just take your mind off it, you can even surprise him that you just called him to let him know that if he needs anything from Nigeria, including small cash, you are willing to help him.

He will from then, see you in a different light

sassysure:
Two months and you are already hyped because he sent money to a non significant person.
When will u guys change.
This is exactly the reason they block u guys or refuse to call.
I'm still waiting for that person that will just end it in exchanging pleasantries.

At two months the guy may not have started work.
The sis is still taking care of him. Sis is yet to recoup back money spent.
You didn't actually help him from your heart.
U helped him with the intention of gaining and was taken aback when he gave something to his girlfriend first before you.

Go and buy another shoe or jacket and stop sounding like an immature kid.

See sense of entitlement already bc you gave him shoe and jacket.
If the girl fucck around like u said, is it your biz?
Amebo

Shikena:

Don't blame your sister until you know the full gist. When you talk to your sister, do you ask her how things are going for her out there letting her know that you are aware of what people go through before settling down? For once, make the conversion all about her and her well-being. People abroad often tend to protect family members from the pains of what they are going through. Same way our parents do when they are in pains. Your sister is probably waiting for the time when she overcomes her present situation to have a heart-to-heart talk on what she went through - not a good idea but that is often the reality. Fellas, getting US document is no joke and that is just part 1 of the struggle. She might open up if she knows that you can handle the truth, and that will surely help her in dealing with the challenges until the rewards start coming - for most abroad, the rewards definitely come in waves! It might take time.

bujebudanu1:
Well . people abroad always feel that are on top of the world.
All of us go go the abroad.so I see no reason for the yanga
Traveling na turn by turn.
If u get reason to travel.u will travel.
.i don't know why people over there think we that are here are nothing.

I stopped entering Facebook cos of this nonsense.this is my 3rd year of no Facebook.
My guys that we were so close are now ignoring my chats.they don't even reply.
They think is everybody that beg online.


I get bros here.wey talk say him no dey go relocate go anywhere.

His travels are all expenses paid.every year , different countries



Op.dont depend on friends... only your blood siblings abroad can help you.

GavelSlam:

As you old reach you never sabi decorum.
See your ugly picture.
Na for your body #EndSARS start?

ronaldbecky:
mumu..who get ur tme

You no dey shame.

Old man like you dey depend on who dey abroad.

NwaAmaikpe:



Dear Handsomeyitayo,

I can tell you are in pain.
The problem is, you are a potential leech and your brother in his wisdom has seen this and has cut you off before you push him into trouble.

Do you know folks like you who have lofty assumptions and make hefty demands from relatives abroad are the cause of the crimes Nigerians commit abroad just to meet up with your expectations.

It is not your business if his girlfriend is fvcking around, neither is it your business if he sends her money.
The only allegiance your brother owes you is NOTHING. He is not obliged to keep in touch with you.

It is sad that the okirika winter jacket and used shoe you gave him is the bargaining chip to your emotional blackmail.

Ogbeni,
Don't be a beggar. Hustle for yourself and expect nothing from anyone. If you think life is easy outside Nigeria, go get yourself a passport then a visa and travel.
Better still, you can cross from Libya to Italy so that you can join to pluck money from the trees and send back to everyone who ever said hi to you back in Nigeria.

Till you do that.
Don't judge, don't beg, throw away your sense of entitlement and be happy.

Yours truly,
NwaAmaikpe.

NwaAmaikpe:



Dear Handsomeyitayo,

I can tell you are in pain.
The problem is, you are a potential leech and your brother in his wisdom has seen this and has cut you off before you push him into trouble.

Do you know folks like you who have lofty assumptions and make hefty demands from relatives abroad are the cause of the crimes Nigerians commit abroad just to meet up with your expectations.

It is not your business if his girlfriend is fvcking around, neither is it your business if he sends her money.
The only allegiance your brother owes you is NOTHING. He is not obliged to keep in touch with you.

It is sad that the okirika winter jacket and used shoe you gave him is the bargaining chip to your emotional blackmail.

Ogbeni,
Don't be a beggar. Hustle for yourself and expect nothing from anyone. If you think life is easy outside Nigeria, go get yourself a passport then a visa and travel.
Better still, you can cross from Libya to Italy so that you can join to pluck money from the trees and send back to everyone who ever said hi to you back in Nigeria.

Till you do that.
Don't judge, don't beg, throw away your sense of entitlement and be happy.

Yours truly,
NwaAmaikpe.

sassysure:
Two months and you are already hyped because he sent money to a non significant person.
When will u guys change.
This is exactly the reason they block u guys or refuse to call.
I'm still waiting for that person that will just end it in exchanging pleasantries.

At two months the guy may not have started work.
The sis is still taking care of him. Sis is yet to recoup back money spent.
You didn't actually help him from your heart.
U helped him with the intention of gaining and was taken aback when he gave something to his girlfriend first before you.

Go and buy another shoe or jacket and stop sounding like an immature kid.

See sense of entitlement already bc you gave him shoe and jacket.
If the girl fucck around like u said, is it your biz?
Amebo

bujebudanu1:
Well . people abroad always feel that are on top of the world.
All of us go go the abroad.so I see no reason for the yanga
Traveling na turn by turn.
If u get reason to travel.u will travel.
.i don't know why people over there think we that are here are nothing.

I stopped entering Facebook cos of this nonsense.this is my 3rd year of no Facebook.
My guys that we were so close are now ignoring my chats.they don't even reply.
They think is everybody that beg online.


I get bros here.wey talk say him no dey go relocate go anywhere.

His travels are all expenses paid.every year , different countries



Op.dont depend on friends... only your blood siblings abroad can help you.

GavelSlam:

You no dey shame.
Old man like you dey depend on who dey abroad.

aforosco:



Oshey Madam. I don't think you know what is on ground more than me.I don't feel entitled to her but I know she is doing very very well.I am not expecting a dime from her also.But does Economics hardship means you will not call your kid bro? For 1 yr 6 mths.

I believe it is our parents that didn't do the home work well so I didn't blame her at all.If I was born into Otedola's family and my parent could give me the little leverage I need to move on in life would I even look at her side.

I totally disagree with you but I understand you don't have the full story like I do. I work in Naija too and if I continue earn what I earn in 3-4yrs I should be able to sponsor myself too.The major thing I expected from her was just the lift.That is the importance of having elderly one you don't have to start rough and when you are rising they also share part of the glory. We may need each other some day but let me tell you something where one will reach he would reach there either you help them or not if you don't it may only be a little bit slower

handsomeyitayo:
God bless you my brother.. you are mouthed...

Shikena:

I'm not madam o but believe me I totally understand you because I was YOU. Glad that her situation is not what I assumed but I will still implore you to attempt a real heart-to-heart conversation without bringing anything about you into it. Also, just a correction on 'economic hardship' and calls - yes, we handle challenges differently. Some people simply withdraw into their shell because they think they have disappointed everybody. However, since this is not the case with your sis then there must be other factors. I know of several different possibilities but no point going into those since we don't know for sure. Communication is always the starting point and the challenge is always how to initiate this successfully. Your sister is still your sister, and women tend to be more helpful in this 'living abroad' situation that's why I think something is terribly wrong somewhere - it happens, I know but it still not right. You can either address it or ignore it, it's a family thing.

bujebudanu1:
Well . people abroad always feel that are on top of the world.
All of us go go the abroad.so I see no reason for the yanga
Traveling na turn by turn.
If u get reason to travel.u will travel.
.i don't know why people over there think we that are here are nothing.

I stopped entering Facebook cos of this nonsense.this is my 3rd year of no Facebook.
My guys that we were so close are now ignoring my chats.they don't even reply.
They think is everybody that beg online.


I get bros here.wey talk say him no dey go relocate go anywhere.

His travels are all expenses paid.every year , different countries



Op.dont depend on friends... only your blood siblings abroad can help you.

Nwanieke:


True! nothing like your own blood, like the same mama the same papa

agarawu23:
i am not misinformed sir, that's what guys in Yankee do to catch it "big" . Yeah, brought back so much luck and blessings from North Africa

ojimbo:
up to one year I spoke with my girlfriend last. I love her so much but the frustration abroad doesn't give me the courage to speak to her. Life is not as easy as you think abroad especially when you do not have papers to stay there

Jiang:


If he was an just acquaintance what you said is valid, But a friend that will borrow salt & even clothes from you does not deserve the stranger treatment as you can tell him directly you got no money Incase he asked, truth be told, only the op thinks they are friends, the other dude obviously does not

Tellemall:


People abroad change because they are as broke as you?

It doesn't make sense.

All the people "abroad" have come to act like they're doing so much out there and money is so hard to come by. It's hard to come by anywhere. There's no reason for throwing people under the bus.

The OP is simply wondering why his friend refuses to communicate with him when he's not begging him for anything and simply wants to remain friends with him as he was when he was in Nigeria. It has nothing to do with his "money".

The ego Africans give when they leave the continent is silly. You really think everyone is after you for nonexistent money, Africans abroad? South Africans do this thing. Kenyans do it. Because of this ego black people have.

I've never treated people shabbily because I think they're after my money. I called them myself from outside of Nigeria, not because they had/have anything to offer me in Nigeria, but because we are friends! All the talk of economy in the UK and elsewhere is just another reason to be unkind to people who knew you when you were in the dirt with them. It's not always about money.

bestpunterever:
forget story some so called sisters and brothers are wicked