cronsberg:
[s][Madam nobody is forcing u o, if u like stay without marrying at a youthful age u hear? Continue playing shakara and hard to get. Whether u like it or not, women are at a disadvantage regarding this, they must makeup their minds wisely and quickly as time is surely not on their side and your disproval wont change that fact. So take all the time u need, by the time u are 25 and above, u will get back to ur senses in realizing that there are younger beauties than u and men simply aren't interested in u anymore[/s]

Not really interested if I marry at 59 self nor be your concern.Other things are more important you can tell this epistle to other ladies who care to know or are interested.

Ladyhippolyta88:

Why are you telling me this did I mention money?In my post?
Every one set their standard it could be high or low.Just meet the lady that meets that standard.

I did not only mention money na..
but this is the standard most you have for any guy that really wants to settle down with you.
I am talking from experience .

please, don't feel offended.

Friend01:



I did not only mention money na..
but this is the standard most you have for any guy that really wants to settle down with you.
I am talking from experience .

please, don't feel offended.

I am not offended
I am an exception to that rule

IamD18:
In my opinion.

No sensible and reasonable man will stoop so low to marry an expired woman in her 30s.

These set of ladies are condemned and a big disaster to humanity.

Starting from their toxicity to their bad attitude, starting from their sexual expired features to their infertility, starting from their over 700 body counts to their overused pussay looking like an expired liver.

Spit on them!


After reading my comment, a reasonable unmarried lady in her 30s will not hesitate to do as the picture below interprets. They are not needed on earth.

At such Cena Rio, I rather marry a one time baby mama whom I know she's still fertile

VERDA:


If you read well you would see where I stated psychological,emotional and financial growth,that means all round stability.

my bad. sorry for that

I can't believe u said this, I was even thinking you are one of they few good ladies on nairaland , but I was wrong,, never expected this from you, I know you have taken sides already, so nothing I say will make any sense,, but is okay. Goodnight.

Eberechi24:

The earlier you learn to ignore these men the earlier for your sanity. some of These men have psychological disorder.

They don't worth the energy you waste on them.
I will be the last person to react to rubbish they post on nairaland. I value my sanity much.

All these "marriage is not this....marriage is not that..." naso una go dey talk till una reach 40. Na wetin d man dey try tell una.. They won't listen. I've spotted like 9 of them here but the table's not mine to shake.

Ladyhippolyta88:
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hi I want to communicate with u. can I send a pm?

kkkk

I never had a plan I’ve always been the type to experience life I want my first marraige to be my only marraige so I’m prepared to learn the ropes test the waters first before going deep

Pusssy ass niggas be bashing the ladies to feel good about themselves... Listen if they decide to hookup with someone or not it's totally none of your damn business. Leave and let live... At least that's what she said.

Saffi:
To all the women who feel pressured to tie the knot, do not purposely make your life a misery, it is not worth it. People will always talk, you’re damned if you do, damned if you don’t. Unfortunately we have unfortunate men and even women that will shame you and ridicule you for not getting married at the “right time”, these people will be the same ones that will laugh at you when you’re running from one place to another, crying about your marriage issues. Be patient, work on yourself spiritually, mentally and emotionally, build your finances, build relationships, work on your craft, and God will compliment you with your equal. My mother got married at 31, my mothers sister also got married at 34 and she’s blessed with 3 children today, and they’re still very happily married. Its not a rare situation, it’s called life. Shiit doesn’t always go according to plan, is your life suddenly over because of this? It’s not a crime to run your own race, quality men attract quality women. Men, see quality before anything. Boys use foolish stereotypes to produce their thoughts. This actually applies to both genders. Heck marriage is not for everyone, if its not for you, jejely stay on your own and live your life in peace. I shall say no more.

This is coming from a girl who have been used and overused, you should ask yourself why the men that used you why do they run away afterwards? seems their's something unpleasant about you.


Learn to fix yourself, it's no one fault you are like this.

DanDeeBoss:
Rextizzle... Food don done.... Lefulefu follow suit

Lol for me a woman should wait for the right man to come before getting married because of regrets afterwards, however, I've seen ladies that married at the age of 35 even 40 and they are still waxing stronger. it's just about happiness and love.

it's only a wayward, abusive and nagging ladies that doesn't get married, we have seen them here on nairaland. because men rejects them after using them, they channel that anger and bitterness to other men online, I don't blame them though.

well once you are a lady and you have the good traits and character, you know how to appreciate, you are faithful, you are loving and caring and also supportive I see no reason why she won't get married. all men love this type of women.

funmisticqueen:
my bad. sorry for that

No worries .

@ saffi brilliant submission .

Much respect .

Hey...be careful what you write on public forums. There are actual people reading them trying to hold on to life,never encourage suicide..every life matters!

DateMynd44:
hi I want to communicate with u. can I send a pm?

Nope

funmisticqueen:
you forgot to add that he should be financially stable and has his life in order. You cant expect a woman and your childrem to come and suffer with you

This mentality is why many girls are single today? you don't want to suffer with him when the going is tough but wants to enjoy with him when the road is good. what are you if not a gold digger? what value do you add in his life except your smelling pussie? you think you are smart, trust me so many guys use there head too. The best you can ever be is a girlfriend or maybe side chick.

The writer made some valid points but we must not blame women solely for staying married beyond 30yrs, some never planned that but due to bad Nigerian economy making most reasonable men that would have married them long time ago not to have the gut and boldness to marry them.

This is why we all must join hands and condemn and fight useless Nigerian leaders that destroyed and still destroying Nigeria; starting from the current failed President Muhammadu Buhari, we all must join hands and send him parking and send every incoming useless leader parking too until we get it right.

Now my candid advice to Nigerian ladies out there, pls never you listen to feminists or those unfortunate women saying marriage is not for everyone. Marriage is for everyone that desires to get married. And naturally, women function better under marriage than as single mothers or perpetual spinsters like Oprah Winfrey.

Don't be fooled, Oprah is a failure. Her over bearing attitude which is common among most successful black women in America and other black nations made it difficult for Oprah Winfrey to keep a good, healthy relationship with a great man, so she settled for being a perpetual spinster. Imagine Oprah didn't even have a child, now tell me which woman on earth wishes not to have a child even if she wishes not to marry

Oprah should never be your role model as a lady, instead look up to Folorunsho Alakija, Hillary Clinton, Celine Dion, etc, who are great women and successful in both marriage, career, etc not some failed women who out of bad character and pride were unable to keep a worthy man.

No single mother on earth is fulfilled no matter how rich. Linda Ikeji never planned to be a single mother, she thought the man that impregnated her would marry her but little did she know that the man was secretly married, and I blame Linda because it is her greed and love for material things even though she has made money, led her into falling for married man.

I am not proud to say this, God forgive me, but I have been introduced to so many white ladies and mixed race or let me say biracial ladies, I mean cute ladies from USA who are all single mothers who are so eager to marry, but how can me a single guy that has never dated for long to even think of marrying a single mother, it won't sound nice at all to the ear.

Go to US, most of their ladies are single mothers, and even though they aren't lacking financially, I can boldly tell you that majority of them are unhappy being single mothers, and reason they fall prey to romance scammers and small gigolos looking for easy sex. Most of these single mothers abroad that our ladies look up to and brag that they are happy are not happy oh, most are desperately searching online and offline for men to still marry, so don't envy them.

Most single mothers (rich or poor or average) be it in America oh, Europe oh, Asia oh, Africa oh are not happy.

At least I have met several of them who confess how miserable life is as a single mother despite having good paying jobs and careers.

And if you listen to their stories, they never planned to become single mothers but out of mistake or they got scammed or deceived by men of which they are regretting.

As a lady, don't look down on men or marriage just because you are making some money or living abroad, all those things don't matter, be humble and friendly and you will meet a worthy guy to settle down with whether you are in your 20s or 30s, age don't always matter like most guys make it look here, just take care or your body and physical looks, don't allow yourself to age so quick, eat fruits, avoid fatty foods, exercise, drink lots of water, stop frowning always and learn to smile cos it makes you look younger and avoid face wrinkles, have a friendly heart cos it helps you stay young, because anger affects body.

vingeophysicist:
guy seriously this is unneedful. Ladies are fragile oo, they might end up doing what you wrote

Dont know why I find this funny

Chei I do laugh tire.

IamD18:
In my opinion.

No sensible and reasonable man will stoop so low to marry an expired woman in her 30s.

These set of ladies are condemned and a big disaster to humanity.

Starting from their toxicity to their bad attitude, starting from their sexual expired features to their infertility, starting from their over 700 body counts to their overused pussay looking like an expired liver.
Spit on them!
After reading my comment, a reasonable unmarried lady in her 30s will not hesitate to do as the picture below interprets. They are not needed on earth.

Please permit me to qoute you.

Is not really the fault of some ladies that are still single after 30+.

Our system contributed to this problem.
Imagine, Both male n female will be like 4-6 yrs before starting primary school n will spend 6yrs in primary school, 6yrs in secondary school. That's 18 yes already.

We begins to write jamb, gain admission with or without strike. Might graduate between 25 to 28yrs depending on the course.
Then one year service. Now the reality of life set in looking for job.

Some will get 50k job. The lucky once will hit the target.
Women really want to marry early but our system have created a big problem for us.

Some are even first child. He or she will be told to train his/her siblings for those from average family like me.

On the guys, some will be like I wanna flex before I settle down. Others will be like I want to hammer before I marry.

To me once a guy have a future is okay for me. His present conditions does not determine his tomorrow.

We have many graduates riding okada n keke n living in one room. This is not the life they all want. Ladies will hardly accept their hand in marriage. Everyone want good life. We have many guys in the street without job, how will they provide for their family.

Even some of the guys commenting here. How many of them can provide for themselves let alone their family.

Or are you suggesting we should do like the Northerners. Marrying just for marriage sake without any plan to train those children?

Thanks

Rextizzle:
Lol for me a woman should wait for the right man to come before getting married because of regrets afterwards, however, I've seen ladies that married at the age of 35 even 40 and they are still waxing stronger. it's just about happiness and love.

it's only a wayward, abusive and nagging ladies that doesn't get married, we have seen them here on nairaland. because men rejects them after using them, they channel that anger and bitterness to other men online, I don't blame them though.

well once you are a lady and you have the good traits and character, you know how to appreciate, you are faithful, you are loving and caring and also supportive I see no reason why she won't get married. all men love this type of women.

Sometimes, some evil people contributes to some ladies problem. Do you know some people will go as far as bewitching innocent ladies that she will never get married.

I know a lady in my village that recently married at 45yrs. Why. She has been going from one church to another all this years until she brought spiritual people to her father's house for prayers. It was then the prayer people told the man his the problem of his daughter. How?

He charmed his late brothers daughter not to get suitors n is affecting his own daughter.

It was then he confessed oooo. He went n reserve all he did against the innocent girl. Both his daughter n the late brothers daughter married at OLD AGE last years in same month due to wickedness.

I'm Igbo n I know what I'm saying. My people do evil against peoples daughter a lot in Igbo land.

Maybe your parent sent you to school. One man or woman somewhere will be like after that school come marry make I see. Why? Because they are jealous of you going to school.

Apart from bad system. The evil people are also part of this big problem.

Cheers

From my point of view, majority of the ladies that either marry late or never do do not really have the qualities (physical and/or otherwise) that could attract the kind of man the want, and they don't intend to settle for less.

Nevertheless, some guys are not just marriable.

I’ve been used and abused at 23. I’ve been in one relationship previously before the one I’m in now. Some people will just be chatting shittt just to feel relevant, Oga please get a life, stupid nuisance.

Rextizzle:
This is coming from a girl who have been used and overused, you should ask yourself why the men that used you why do they run away afterwards? seems their's something unpleasant about you.


Learn to fix yourself, it's no one fault you are like this.

Ladyhippolyta88:
I am not offended I am an exception to that rule

Nice to know that.
I pray good things find you wherever you are.

there are men in there late 50 not married, hmmmmmm its really better to be single waiting on God then to be a divorcee, that experience no bi here ooooooooh, u will never know until u come to wear that shoe.

Ladyhippolyta88:
Nope

why

carter009:
I can't believe u said this, I was even thinking you are one of they few good ladies on nairaland , but I was wrong,, never expected this from you, I know you have taken sides already, so nothing I say will make any sense,, but is okay. Goodnight.

Hello,
Am shade of different colors. I shade color that align with your character/action.
Whatever I said to my friend is valid and potent. I hate to see women waste so much energy on toxic discussion.

An Op will post something that will benefit us all if we all gve insightful view.


what do some men do? They see it as avenue to bash, demean and abuse women folks, When women defend themselves, these set of men will go sentimental, tagging them evening newspaper, slut, olosho, feminist, bitter soul or even use their weakness against them.

Is that how it supposed to be?
I can't partake in this show of madness. I value my sanity.



Happy Sunday

Chubhie:

I wonder why seun still allows this thing freedom to insult our women. May our Ancestors (SSFBUT) key you there.

It really irritates me.

Comments bashing women are left freely on this forum.
Report as much as you like. The comment won't be brought down neither would the person be banned..
It seems seun and his mods like it like that.

Nigeria's largest forum and every other thread Nigerian women are being insulted left and right.
Just enter nairaland and see how Nigerian women are rubbished and insulted

Ladyhippolyta88:
So a woman should settle for anybody because she must marry before 30.She settles for anybody and starts crying in the marriage.
This man should advise his fellow men on how to be responsible and on how to respect women.Maybe then women would agree to marry them.
You can't tell me that the likes of Dambisa moyo,Oprah are unfulfilled because they are unmarried.
This closed minded society of ours should understand that you do not tell people how to run their lives.
A woman should never reduce her standard because she must get married before a certain age.
Love,happiness,companionship etc knows no age.
So this talk is silly and not factual for everybody.
Even evening tabloids would be calling wonderful humans newspaper.

Too much sense