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Re: What Is The Biggest Lesson You Learnt From A Past Relationship? by elonize(m): 10:47am On Jan 08
slowbreeze:


Arrogant scum;clearly cheating and expecting one to accept his nature & endure;that they mean nothing; tight-fisted with money inspite of him being the better earner;someone in this century that believes that all women who are smart & have a career/successful business will make bad wives & dat all women belong to za oza room & kitchen;and d list goes on and on.......Smh
4d record, he is not ur atm machine, wrk out ur money wit fear n trembling, if u get wrk,u wont mind him... Let him change his arogant nature
Re: What Is The Biggest Lesson You Learnt From A Past Relationship? by drmikeadams(m): 10:55am On Jan 08
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These kpomo men paying girlfriend salary grin
Kpomo men buying phones and collecting it back
Kpomo men training girlfriend in school grin
Kpomo men thinking with their pricks grin



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Re: What Is The Biggest Lesson You Learnt From A Past Relationship? by BecaciaBarbie(f): 10:56am On Jan 08
samkevie:
I understand though
But then again every relationship is a risk
Yes you are right... smiley

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Re: What Is The Biggest Lesson You Learnt From A Past Relationship? by SmellingAnus(m): 10:59am On Jan 08
Re: What Is The Biggest Lesson You Learnt From A Past Relationship? by Yuneehk(f): 10:59am On Jan 08
islandmoon:

I know plateau state is the only state with such beautiful landscape.
Yea, right cheesy cheesy

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Re: What Is The Biggest Lesson You Learnt From A Past Relationship? by skolawale(m): 11:03am On Jan 08
[quote author=obembet post=74547698]It's very bad to cheat, that is my regret so far that make me lose the man of my dream.I wish he can give me second chance but God knows the best

Share yours guys


At least, u see a Lady that come out to say the Truth and not blame d guy for their Fault..

Appreciate You..

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Re: What Is The Biggest Lesson You Learnt From A Past Relationship? by blissgregory(f): 11:14am On Jan 08
alfredo4u:
Paying her school fees and feeding her for four years in school and after everything she dumped me for my friend........

Today, the two of them are working for me in my fathers company.



















Just be good no matter what
too bad n painful...sorry bro
Re: What Is The Biggest Lesson You Learnt From A Past Relationship? by 1x2x3: 11:15am On Jan 08
placeofallure:
Very interesting thread.

This is a typical case of kettle calling pot black. Men are not faithful and women are not only unfaithful but also money crazed.

I have never experienced a heartbreak, not once, in the relationships I've had. I do the heartbreaking.
But then I don't demand either. I remember I don't know how to ask for money. But I got favours, more than I would have gotten if I had asked. I prefer you just be sensitive enough to see a need and meet it instead of me asking. Maybe that's why each one thinks this must be the 'wife material' he's been looking for.

Ladies should be content with the little they have and be hardworking too. For every Kobo you hope to get from a man, you can get a dozen of it from your own sweat. It's called self esteem. No man will disrespect you when they know you can breathe without them.

Men, don't throw humaneness away in your attempt to be an Alpha male. When you look well, you'll see those girls with the extraordinary qualities you crave. Where have you been looking? Insta pages? Snapchat? Tweeter?Any serious minded person won't mark register everyday on social media. Great girls still abound trust me.


This is an aside. Sorry to all the guys whose heart were broken in my search for the One. I know you're good now.


This is my own offering.

You are a rare gem.
Re: What Is The Biggest Lesson You Learnt From A Past Relationship? by Judybash93(m): 11:15am On Jan 08
Obarofrederick:
mask off(if u know u know)

Re: What Is The Biggest Lesson You Learnt From A Past Relationship? by blissgregory(f): 11:18am On Jan 08
Dnt over trust,dnt over love...dnt give in ur all n all
Re: What Is The Biggest Lesson You Learnt From A Past Relationship? by swetjo(f): 11:35am On Jan 08
Do not consider how others will feel about your decision on love.

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Re: What Is The Biggest Lesson You Learnt From A Past Relationship? by skolawale(m): 11:35am On Jan 08
larryking540:
No matter how beautiful a lady is,her heart might not be beautiful, and no matter how ugly a lady is her heart might not be as ugly as she is,

Look b4 u leap, ,,,,some females are after help not love so b careful , I have quickly learnt to differentiate between help and love when asking a lady out
.

Bro, u just spoke a FACT about Lady of nowadays.. They pretend to Love u as You dey Spend or sponsor them. Immediately, u re out of Cash or gat other tinx to attend to or u gat Challenge, then broda, You see their Definition of So Called LOVE.

I don wise sha..

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Re: What Is The Biggest Lesson You Learnt From A Past Relationship? by skolawale(m): 11:37am On Jan 08
[quote author=alfredo4u post=74548738]Paying her school fees and feeding her for four years in school and after everything she dumped me for my friend........

Today, the two of them are working for me in my fathers company.

That is a Good Testimony, Kindly Delay their Salary for Months n Sack both of them on same day
Re: What Is The Biggest Lesson You Learnt From A Past Relationship? by swetjo(f): 11:37am On Jan 08
Do not allow others decision to influence your stand on love. Last Last you stand on your own

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Re: What Is The Biggest Lesson You Learnt From A Past Relationship? by mablie: 11:39am On Jan 08
luminouz:

My bro,i have never given any gf any monthly allowance since I was born and unless she is my wife,no girl will collect that shiit from me...its a relationship,not a job opportunity.. The sooner men realise u overinflate women's egos when u do these 'allowance' thingies,the better...Don't u see Women are either wired for love or for materialistic gains....u deceive ursef when u think women equate the two...she either truly loves u or she is in it for the money.....
What dafuq is that rubbish statement...'taking care of me as my bf' when she couldn't visit u in Ibadan after Ur accident... What if you died She wouldn't ever give a damn.....Like a poster said above,learn to control ur woman.....be in charge, women are like lionesses...they respect strength,will and power....the moment u show weakness(being too nice,stop taking charge, being predictable,less mysterious,dull) they take over and take you for granted. If only men understood women like I do,the world would be way easier for us to live in.... No matter how pretty she is, a Lich Queen (leech mama) can never get my attention... U need to have something to offer as a woman(intellectually, hardworking, insightful, diligent and so on) before I even look at you... We are supposed to be MEN not he-goats controlled by sex and pheromones....

Until Men start acting like they are men,women will continue to use reverse psychology, click-bait technique and emotional blackmail to make men sissies....I watched a lion documentary of what happened to an old lion who couldn't control his pride...I could literally see the disgust on the faces of d lionesses,they booed him off,shooed him off, chase him round like a little bitch and force him to eat last over a meal...it was the most pathetic thing I have ever seen...they literally killed him themselves (allowing a new male to enter the pride and chase the oldie away,he died the next day from his battle wounds). It taught me a monumental lesson ...no matter what they say,women respect an Alpha,a male in control,it drives them insane and keeps them in check...u lose ur will,u lose their respect...so learn to say No to her demands,keep her guessing,be mysterious,being too nice to women(even the ones who love u truly) translates to weakness.....u were made by evolution to lead,be in control, take charge... Not begging her to 'manage' 25k as if she be Angel Gabriel when she hasn't even given u a kobo since u knew her....or buying her IphoneX cuz she asked for it(of cuz she might have used the line ' a bf must cater for his gf') as if u be her fada. I see some stuffs men do and i wonder whether I'm alone around here with some senses left...u already made her feel like the MAN in the relationship,so she took charge!!

Conclusion:

So,never ever ever ever kowtow or sissify ursef cuz of a woman...be an Alpha.. Be in charge..and watch while they beat themselves up to gain ur attention(money or no money)

#Luminouznuggets#
Re: What Is The Biggest Lesson You Learnt From A Past Relationship? by nick50: 11:44am On Jan 08
Don't loose a sleep over a woman,help ur fellow man instead of a woman..always look for money cos with money all women will worship u,

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Re: What Is The Biggest Lesson You Learnt From A Past Relationship? by sophiathefirst: 11:52am On Jan 08
News101:


No I never said it's applicable to guys. It's not applicable to guys. It's only you ladies it's applicable to. Nigerian guys/men are very good but the women are the problem because of their money monger attitude & their bad character. So stop trying to rope guys into this issue. The problem lies with you ladies. Period.
Ok I hear u.
Just remember and let me say it again; all those things u typed about ladies is 100% much applicable to the men. No one is an escape goat. Period
Re: What Is The Biggest Lesson You Learnt From A Past Relationship? by mamaafrik(m): 12:01pm On Jan 08
larryking540:
No matter how beautiful a lady is,her heart might not be beautiful, and no matter how ugly a lady is her heart might not be as ugly as she is,

Look b4 u leap, ,,,,some females are after help not love so b careful , I have quickly learnt to differentiate between help and love when asking a lady out
help and love ,can you please explain??,thank you
Re: What Is The Biggest Lesson You Learnt From A Past Relationship? by Acidosis(m): 12:13pm On Jan 08
Biggest lesson I've learnt is to move on and stop remembering lessons from a failed affair. The lessons you learnt from the past won't stop the next one from failing.

Just be yourself, and put in your best at whatever you do. If someone leaves you for being yourself or being your best, it shows they don't deserve you in the first place.

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Re: What Is The Biggest Lesson You Learnt From A Past Relationship? by Glocee(f): 12:24pm On Jan 08
frankmoney:
my dear my last relationship taught me a lot , never give 100% to someone you ain't married to , stop apologizing Everytime it's a really messed up thing to do , and being too available makes you less wanted
It's well!
Re: What Is The Biggest Lesson You Learnt From A Past Relationship? by maisauki: 12:25pm On Jan 08
ValCon888:

No matter how many orgasms you give her, she'll still leave you if you don't have money.
and no mata hw much u giv her if u cant giv her orgasm den she'l take ur moni to d street guys who wl giv her orgasm
d gist of d mata is women ar women, u cant actualy satisfy dem...just do ur bst and pray God takes care of d rest...ORO MI KO LOPIN...
Re: What Is The Biggest Lesson You Learnt From A Past Relationship? by GetCofOProperty: 12:35pm On Jan 08
maisauki:
and no mata hw much u giv her if u cant giv her orgasm den she'l take ur moni to d street guys who wl giv her orgasm
d gist of d mata is women ar women, u cant actualy satisfy dem...just do ur bst and pray God takes care of d rest...ORO MI KO LOPIN...

No matter whatever... Learn to respect each other... trust your instinct.... love with your heart... but be conscious with your brain... Money is important in a relationship... women only respect you as a man when you have money.... women who are not submissive and supportive to their husband/fiancee would lose their home. cool

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Re: What Is The Biggest Lesson You Learnt From A Past Relationship? by Spectre007: 12:49pm On Jan 08
Funjosh:
Never say some words via chats or SMS. It's better to call or see the other person and talk f2f.
it seems someone invaded her privacy and read your sms/chats on her phone... Maybe her parents,an ex,bad belle friends.

Pls tell me more if you can,i would like to know more about what happened so that i can protect myself against any future occurrence incase should it cross my path.
Re: What Is The Biggest Lesson You Learnt From A Past Relationship? by Spectre007: 12:56pm On Jan 08
OgaBuhari:
gosh my story bro.
You really nailed it.
Got entangled with a liability who had nothing to offer and had to deceive me up with sex and all in the name of trust, I lashed her raw without cd for nearly a year.
Finally cast her out of my life after I realized she wasn't adding anything to my career.
Now I lashed her without knowing her status sad
with pull out method or contraceptives?
Re: What Is The Biggest Lesson You Learnt From A Past Relationship? by b0rn2fuck(m): 12:57pm On Jan 08
NarnieSnyper:
With all these news about the females being heartless or only after money; I wonder where you guys meet these girls. Most of you just see a pretty girl in a club or places I don't understand and most times use money or expensive gifts to woo her. Even the "make money and women will chase you" crew are lamenting.

I am not an expert in relationship but one thing I have learnt is to be the Alpha male in a relationship even if she truly loves you and yes, money also makes the relationship sweeter. Don't place her on a monthly salary or something similar to that. Just help her when you can and sometimes tell her you don't have enough to give and she should learn to manage things and save as well.
Don't reveal everything about you to her, scold her when she misbehaves or gets out of line (there's no woman on earth who doesn't like this but won't admit it).

Seriously, most of these girls I am sure you met them online. One thing you don't know is, they'll surely meet another guy online.
I have never dated anyone j met online but generally local or online, they are still not different, is it not the local ones that logging on Facebook turn online, some even borrow cloths to take pictures, so I don't date on-line and most girls nowadays are online just like you and I, may God change the mentality of girls worldwide. Oyinbo face same problems with their white ladies so tay them turn to Nigeria maga in a build to look for woman outside world, oyinbo own go even wan divide your property into two places, if you know , you know, women generally are evil, we just need to play our card nicely

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Re: What Is The Biggest Lesson You Learnt From A Past Relationship? by smeag0l(m): 12:58pm On Jan 08
Never date a lady that's not working. She'll just end up milking you dry. I tried it last year when I was dating a lady in Abuja. I pay her flight tickets(return) to come see me in my location. I take care of her and even send her between 30-50k almost every month(I wasn't giving her an allowance but just helping with basic needs). Mind you, the money wasn't my problem as this wasn't even up to 20% of my monthly income. However, this girl was till not loyal as she calls another guy to come pick her from the airport in Abuja whenever she leaves. I also later found out that she was secretly having an affair with someone that works with one of these agencies that arrange holiday flight bookings and accommodation for people. I just stopped talking with her after so many confrontations and denials. Never give a girl that's not your wife, sister or mother money except you just want to help the person. Now, I only roll with ladies in my class-ladies that have well paying jobs!

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Re: What Is The Biggest Lesson You Learnt From A Past Relationship? by SmilingMary(m): 1:23pm On Jan 08
sophiathefirst:

Is a two way something. No just women, is also applicable to guys

I'm speaking from experience and I know it applies more to women.

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Re: What Is The Biggest Lesson You Learnt From A Past Relationship? by OgaBuhari: 1:25pm On Jan 08
Spectre007:
with pull out method or contraceptives?
contraceptives Ke?
Raw oga.
The risk was that I didn't carry her to the lap o know her hiv status and that was a huge risk
Re: What Is The Biggest Lesson You Learnt From A Past Relationship? by tkpaul(m): 1:30pm On Jan 08
Nothing is permanent undecided
Re: What Is The Biggest Lesson You Learnt From A Past Relationship? by slowbreeze(f): 2:17pm On Jan 08
Perfectnumber6:
. Elaborate on this please would you, I mean how is a guy bad mannered, is it that he’s cheating, lieing , not good at all etc . �

Love is sharing;helping and being there for each other.It comes natural if there is genuine affection...No matter how little.I cannot say I'm in a relationship with someone & he desperately lacks cash; occasional gifts or an assistance which I can provide and I won't; and watch my guy suffer;be a debtor here& there;and look unkempt;all cos I don't wanna be the "mugu ATM machine"..and I know u wouldn't want to be treated as such.

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Re: What Is The Biggest Lesson You Learnt From A Past Relationship? by smeag0l(m): 2:41pm On Jan 08
This your comment and that of the lady you quoted shows how emotional(instead of logical) Nigerian women can be. Is it in this harsh Buhari economy that you want a man that goes to work and comes back in the night just to make ends meet to be watching lion king or telemundo? Can you people be realistic for once and forget the facade you watch in movies? It is true that raising a child shouldn't be the sole prerogative of women but things can also not be as perfect in reality as the way it is being portrayed in the movies that you people busy yourselves with!
NwanyiAwkaetiti:
men have been programmed to be emasculated? Pray tell in what society pls? The fathers of this days have failed in their duty. They should go watch lion King and learn what it means to show their male kids how to be a real man... Their isn't just to provide... Don't leave d male children to d women to bring up.

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Re: What Is The Biggest Lesson You Learnt From A Past Relationship? by millionboi2: 2:55pm On Jan 08
Admssnhelp:
this is what I am passing through now. please brothers always look before you leap. there are dangerous girls out there who are ready to destroy any man for their own gain. I hate women I swear. they pretend alot and most of them are green snake under the green grass.
she infect u?

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