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Re: What Is The Biggest Lesson You Learnt From A Past Relationship? by Nobody: 5:02pm On Jan 28
Glycolysis:

Funny you..
Making it "hard" for a man doesn't change the fact that if he wants to use u and dump you,he will not do exactly that.
Funny enough,not every responsible guy would want to engage in the vigorous chase method you want to use.
Personally, if you want to play mind games with me,I will advise the lady take her ass to the playground!
Lol. I am kicking this user and loser fast out of my life. If the guy plays games with me telling he can't afford dating but he claims and wants to marry me, he should go to play HIS games somewhere else. Me, not making it hard for a guy but NOT PAYING for him to make it easy. He (or you) better stay and pay for your African queens, they know how to play games and manage the man who doesn't want to work ... but to live on a woman's money. And I am not scary to be dumped for you or anybody else, better alone, than in a bad company. Also, you forget, nobody in this world is irreplaceable, there are plenty of fish for men and for women.

I am not playing games, I don't like lazy users living on a women's money and oh, yes, yes, yes, dump me fast, please, I am not your mama for to pay for your fun, clothes and food, travels, living and I don't need a gigolo who thinks I should pay for few words of love. Not games, love should work both ways, not only a woman giving all.
Re: What Is The Biggest Lesson You Learnt From A Past Relationship? by Lowkey01: 5:07pm On Jan 28
Angela777:

Lol. I am kicking this user and loser fast out of my life. If the guy plays games with me telling he can't afford dating but he claims and wants to marry me, he should go to play HIS games somewhere else. Me, not making it hard for a guy but NOT PAYING for him to make it easy. He (or you) better stay and pay for your African queens, they know how to play games and manage the man who doesn't want to work ... but to live on a woman's money. And I am not scary to be dumped for you or anybody else, better alone, than in a bad company. Also, you forget, nobody in this world is irreplaceable, there are plenty of fish for men and for women.

I am not playing games, I don't like lazy users living on a women's money and oh, yes, yes, yes, dump me fast, please, I am not your mama for to pay for your fun, clothes and food, travels, living and I don't need a gigolo who thinks I should pay for few words of love. Not games, love should work both ways, not only a woman giving all.

Love don't exist.stop confusing yourself, it's a matter of interest nothing else.

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Re: What Is The Biggest Lesson You Learnt From A Past Relationship? by Martin0(m): 5:10pm On Jan 28
Angela777:

Lol. I am kicking this user and loser fast out of my life. If the guy plays games with me telling he can't afford dating but he claims and wants to marry me, he should go to play HIS games somewhere else. Me, not making it hard for a guy but NOT PAYING for him to make it easy. He (or you) better stay and pay for your African queens, they know how to play games and manage the man who doesn't want to work ... but to live on a woman's money. And I am not scary to be dumped for you or anybody else, better alone, than in a bad company. Also, you forget, nobody in this world is irreplaceable, there are plenty of fish for men and for women.

I am not playing games, I don't like lazy users living on a women's money and oh, yes, yes, yes, dump me fast, please, I am not your mama for to pay for your fun, clothes and food, travels, living and I don't need a gigolo who thinks I should pay for few words of love. Not games, love should work both ways, not only a woman giving all.
cheesy cheesy cheesy cheesy cheesy cheesy crazy you cheesy cheesy cheesy cheesy
Re: What Is The Biggest Lesson You Learnt From A Past Relationship? by olaboy1: 6:01pm On Jan 28
MhizLewa:





"Ur swag....intelligence ....well furnished apartment did all d magic" ? "And guyz who placed girls on monthly allowance are below average??" Smh!!! U're so damn full of yourself man!!!


Did I strike a nerve? Sorry it’s not my fault that your superficiality is putting you in my pump and dump radar.

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Re: What Is The Biggest Lesson You Learnt From A Past Relationship? by Nobody: 6:12pm On Jan 28
Angela777:

Lol. I am kicking this user and loser fast out of my life. If the guy plays games with me telling he can't afford dating but he claims and wants to marry me, he should go to play HIS games somewhere else. Me, not making it hard for a guy but NOT PAYING for him to make it easy. He (or you) better stay and pay for your African queens, they know how to play games and manage the man who doesn't want to work ... but to live on a woman's money. And I am not scary to be dumped for you or anybody else, better alone, than in a bad company. Also, you forget, nobody in this world is irreplaceable, there are plenty of fish for men and for women.

I am not playing games, I don't like lazy users living on a women's money and oh, yes, yes, yes, dump me fast, please, I am not your mama for to pay for your fun, clothes and food, travels, living and I don't need a gigolo who thinks I should pay for few words of love. Not games, love should work both ways, not only a woman giving all.
OK...
Re: What Is The Biggest Lesson You Learnt From A Past Relationship? by mkpurumma090(f): 6:17pm On Jan 28
NarnieSnyper:
With all these news about the females being heartless or only after money; I wonder where you guys meet these girls. Most of you just see a pretty girl in a club or places I don't understand and most times use money or expensive gifts to woo her. Even the "make money and women will chase you" crew are lamenting.

I am not an expert in relationship but one thing I have learnt is to be the Alpha male in a relationship even if she truly loves you and yes, money also makes the relationship sweeter. Don't place her on a monthly salary or something similar to that. Just help her when you can and sometimes tell her you don't have enough to give and she should learn to manage things and save as well.
Don't reveal everything about you to her, scold her when she misbehaves or gets out of line (there's no woman on earth who doesn't like this but won't admit it).

Seriously, most of these girls I am sure you met them online. One thing you don't know is, they'll surely meet another guy online.
You are kind of my guy...
He would scold you to the extent that you would be angry or been uncomfortable
For part is that he wouldn't even look at your face at the moment...
Anyway I miss him so much though I always remain faithful to him but he do not believe in me...
Re: What Is The Biggest Lesson You Learnt From A Past Relationship? by Nobody: 6:37pm On Jan 28
Lowkey01:


Love don't exist.stop confusing yourself, it's a matter of interest nothing else.
Lol. Maybe in Nigeria doesn't exists yet Nigerian men love to talk about love. But real love does exists and I am sorry for you if you never experienced it.
Re: What Is The Biggest Lesson You Learnt From A Past Relationship? by Lowkey01: 6:47pm On Jan 28
Angela777:

Lol. Maybe in Nigeria doesn't exists yet Nigerian men love to talk about love. But real love does exists and I am sorry for you if you never experienced it.

Don't be sorry for me,I'm not a victim of circumstance,all I'm saying is,love don't exist,its personal interest, even in the western and saner world,its interest.

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Re: What Is The Biggest Lesson You Learnt From A Past Relationship? by Nobody: 6:59pm On Jan 28
Lowkey01:


Don't be sorry for me,I'm not a victim of circumstance,all I'm saying is,love don't exist,its personal interest, even in the western and saner world,its interest.
I disagree.
Re: What Is The Biggest Lesson You Learnt From A Past Relationship? by Tashacobbs(f): 7:32pm On Jan 28
mikaelangelov:
It's not yet an ex relationship but I believe by weekend it will be.
Finally it's over
I've been too easy and simple for the bae aswear, and even she herself says that, I girl I've never shouted on before, never cheated on her, she will never say that I've failed getting her whatever she's requested for, a girl that I've fed comfortably since early 2018 till now, just name it, yet bae still got the guts to cheat me countless times, cheated on me with random guys that can't even match my shoes even though they're all older than I am, aborted babies for them and I still care for her, buying her life relief drugs during the recuperating stages thinking it's menstrual related issues, got her a job so she wouldn't be idle, best way she could make me proud is to become a cum-bag to her boss who offers her nothing, just because they all offer her marriage which I don't want to tell her first because I want her to learn a skill this 2019 first, before I'll think about tying the knot with her, my only crime was loving her too much, well next 60 days I'll be moving permanently to Copenhagen so I guess marrying a white chick is the next thing,

infact I know that I've reached my boiling point and enough is enough
damn I feel you bro! this is deep
Re: What Is The Biggest Lesson You Learnt From A Past Relationship? by Tashacobbs(f): 7:39pm On Jan 28
alfredo4u:
Paying her school fees and feeding her for four years in school and after everything she dumped me for my friend........

Today, the two of them are working for me in my fathers company.



















Just be good no matter what
true sha
Re: What Is The Biggest Lesson You Learnt From A Past Relationship? by Tashacobbs(f): 8:11pm On Jan 28
PrinceBBlack:
Well for me, i had a girl who i met in 2016. She is currently in her final year and i work with Nigerian Breweries in Enugu. I give this babe a monthly allowance of 50k while she doesnt even get 10k from being that her parents are in the village and he uncle gives her schoolfees.
First, i realized that i loved her so much with my heart that i forgot to use my head. I had a car accident in 2017. i was in the hospital for four months and then relocated to Ibadan where i was till september in 2018 where i was recouperating getting ready for a final surgery. I got her an Iphone X in that same september. In october, i told her that i was no longer getting salary that i wont be able to keep up with the 50k allowance but i could still manage 25k. Do u believe this girl said she cant come to Ibadan cos its far to visit and that i reduced the allowance i give her that what is 25k going to do for her. She finally said if i cant carry out my duty as a bf, that i should let her be. Well it was easy for me... i could part with the money but i personally sent someone to collect the Iphone X i bought for her and told her that the phone isnt my problem but she is an ungrateful piece of a person. Broke up with her and the phone is still in my wardrobe with full accessories since its not up to 1month i bought it waiting for the next person. I didnt love with my head but loved with my heart. If u dont take care of them, na war, if u do, na still wahala.
ungrateful bitch
Re: What Is The Biggest Lesson You Learnt From A Past Relationship? by olaboy1: 8:37pm On Jan 28
Women don’t do love, they don’t want the genuine version of a guy because they are fake-ness personified with fake eye lashes, fake hair, fake face.

Women love fantasies, and I’m not talking about the Romeo and Juliet sweep them of their feet kind of fantasies. Instead it’s a fantasy of Kim K and Kanye with all its bad and bourgeoisie. So to create this false illusion for them, you just need to drop a simple hint at things in your background showing class and value and then change the subject without making a big deal out of it.

That will linger on in their memories while they fill in the blanks, and don’t be surprised when they stylishly bring that sh-t up later.
No guy should put up with an average girl who is boring, unintelligent and materialistic. And this is not me trying to rationalize that the juice isn't worth the squeeze any more, I’m just saying stop pedestalizing pus%$y and start making women to put in the work by meeting you half way.

Hide your wallet but don’t hide your di-@k

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Re: What Is The Biggest Lesson You Learnt From A Past Relationship? by joyousever(f): 9:06pm On Jan 28
I dey tell u! I just tire. some of them do contrary to what they claim online.
MhizLewa:





"Ur swag....intelligence ....well furnished apartment did all d magic" ? "And guyz who placed girls on monthly allowance are below average??" Smh!!! U're so damn full of yourself man!!!

Re: What Is The Biggest Lesson You Learnt From A Past Relationship? by MhizLewa(f): 10:03pm On Jan 28
olaboy1:


Did I strike a nerve? Sorry it’s not my fault that your superficiality is putting you in my pump and dump radar.

Clueless thing!!!!


Out here givin a false impression while a miserable life exist behind the keyboards!!!

Take care of your problem first bro!!! You need not fake it.
Re: What Is The Biggest Lesson You Learnt From A Past Relationship? by pansophist(m): 10:05pm On Jan 28
olaboy1:


I’m so confused with Nigerian guys that earn good salaries placing women on some sort of allowance. I intentionally refused to give money to all the girls I dated when I was working in a big company in Nigeria, and it was never a deal breaker. My job title, blue chip company I worked for, my swag, intelligence and well furnished apartment did all the magic, and some girls even told me they were scared to ask for financial help so as not to lose me. I’ve had Naija girls telling me how their hearts ache at the thought of losing me.
You might have to revisit the fundamentals of seduction if truly you have a fantastic salary, because all my colleagues at work were slaying pu$$/y without placing them on any sort of allowance.
I would place a bet that the guys who place women on these allowances are below average in looks. First step is to raise your level of attractiveness.

The more valuable you are as a man (wealth, social status, looks, etc), the less you have to impress a woman. Giving is to impress her, not requesting is to impress you. And if you're not a valuable male, no amount of cheerful giving will capture her faithfulness and prevent her from fleeing, it only delays it occurrence.

The most difficult truth most men will accept is that ''your success with women is directly correlated with your attractiveness (wealth, social status)''. Instead of going through the hassle of chasing, being an option, heartbreak, and all the flakiness associated with dating, go develop yourself and see the game reversed in your favour. Men age like fine wine after all. cool

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Re: What Is The Biggest Lesson You Learnt From A Past Relationship? by NarnieSnyper(m): 12:17am On Jan 29
mkpurumma090:

You are kind of my guy...
He would scold you to the extent that you would be angry or been uncomfortable
For part is that he wouldn't even look at your face at the moment...
Anyway I miss him so much though I always remain faithful to him but he do not believe in me...

Who knows I might even be the guy himself.

He never believed in you, how? Like he never trusted you?
Re: What Is The Biggest Lesson You Learnt From A Past Relationship? by CosmicJames(m): 6:44am On Jan 29
Don't ever treat your good girlfriend bad without a good reason.
Don't be the reason for the breakup of your good relationship.

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Re: What Is The Biggest Lesson You Learnt From A Past Relationship? by mkpurumma090(f): 9:22am On Jan 29
NarnieSnyper:


Who knows I might even be the guy himself.

He never believed in you, how? Like he never trusted you?
Yes.
He always think I'm like other girls that cheat on their bf because of ldr
Re: What Is The Biggest Lesson You Learnt From A Past Relationship? by ecstasy357(m): 9:27am On Jan 29
A boy and a girl can never truly be close friends without strings
Re: What Is The Biggest Lesson You Learnt From A Past Relationship? by NarnieSnyper(m): 12:32pm On Jan 29
mkpurumma090:

Yes.
He always think I'm like other girls that cheat on their bf because of ldr

Sorry about it. You should have given more than 101 reason why he should.

Always be truthful about your location.
Treat him like a king.
Try to always be honest with him
Call him maybe twice a day, telling him how u miss him. Then at night send him a romantic message that is a little erotic.
Whenever u are with him, pay 100% attention to him.Don't be chatting with other guys while u guys are together. Its disrespectful and increases the doubt he has towards u.
Always kiss him like there'll never be any other man in ur life.

I know this because this is what my woman does, because she tried everything humanly possible for me to trust her and I do.

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Re: What Is The Biggest Lesson You Learnt From A Past Relationship? by united442(m): 1:37pm On Feb 07
b0rn2fuck:
Now I enjoyed life, no pressure, no seeing miss call and be panicking , no unnecessary transfer from mobile application, no woman following me to ATM and even be helping me press the amount using her nipples to reset my brain system to suite her task, I don suffer , life is sweet if you stop looking for woman and stop impressing them, if you don't care/you don't get hurt even if she snap with 1000 guys and be uploading, but the moment you turn to father Christmas/ you will almost died of attack or commit suicide even she snap with just 1 guy self, my dick cannot give the directions of my life anymore, my brain do the job now while my dick hear words, I dab for my lifestyle now but the mumu past make me a better person, I dab again!!
please how did you get behind all this.
am trying to get out of this break up..
ouchh..its hurt like hell..
Re: What Is The Biggest Lesson You Learnt From A Past Relationship? by rebirthforgoody(f): 2:23pm On Feb 07
mikaelangelov:
It's not yet an ex relationship but I believe by weekend it will be.
Finally it's over
I've been too easy and simple for the bae aswear, and even she herself says that, I girl I've never shouted on before, never cheated on her, she will never say that I've failed getting her whatever she's requested for, a girl that I've fed comfortably since early 2018 till now, just name it, yet bae still got the guts to cheat me countless times, cheated on me with random guys that can't even match my shoes even though they're all older than I am, aborted babies for them and I still care for her, buying her life relief drugs during the recuperating stages thinking it's menstrual related issues, got her a job so she wouldn't be idle, best way she could make me proud is to become a cum-bag to her boss who offers her nothing, just because they all offer her marriage which I don't want to tell her first because I want her to learn a skill this 2019 first, before I'll think about tying the knot with her, my only crime was loving her too much, well next 60 days I'll be moving permanently to Copenhagen so I guess marrying a white chick is the next thing,

infact I know that I've reached my boiling point and enough is enough





Is well

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Re: What Is The Biggest Lesson You Learnt From A Past Relationship? by united442(m): 4:30pm On Feb 07
NarnieSnyper:


Sorry about it. You should have given more than 101 reason why he should.

Always be truthful about your location.
Treat him like a king.
Try to always be honest with him
Call him maybe twice a day, telling him how u miss him. Then at night send him a romantic message that is a little erotic.
Whenever u are with him, pay 100% attention to him.Don't be chatting with other guys while u guys are together. Its disrespectful and increases the doubt he has towards u.
Always kiss him like there'll never be any other man in ur life.

I know this because this is what my woman does, because she tried everything humanly possible for me to trust her and I do.

its bleeping difficult to see a girl who can do this..
this is what i want from any girl i date.
Re: What Is The Biggest Lesson You Learnt From A Past Relationship? by NarnieSnyper(m): 5:06pm On Feb 07
united442:


its bleeping difficult to see a girl who can do this..
this is what i want from any girl i date.

Bro, it is very rare I tell you. When she started doing it, I was kinda of worried because no woman in my past relationship has ever done these things.
Good girls/women still exist in this our bad society but they are like 1 in every 2,000 women and you'd be very lucky to have one. Not all pretty girls play games, some are true to you as long as you are true to them
Re: What Is The Biggest Lesson You Learnt From A Past Relationship? by united442(m): 6:26pm On Feb 07
NarnieSnyper:


Bro, it is very rare I tell you. When she started doing it, I was kinda of worried because no woman in my past relationship has ever done these things.
Good girls/women still exist in this our bad society but they are like 1 in every 2,000 women and you'd be very lucky to have one. Not all pretty girls play games, some are true to you as long as you are true to them

that's true.
Re: What Is The Biggest Lesson You Learnt From A Past Relationship? by FlyingTOMATOE(m): 4:17am On Feb 15
Fayv:
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good you edited.. Privacy
Re: What Is The Biggest Lesson You Learnt From A Past Relationship? by larryking540: 7:19am On Feb 24
Evercurious:


Oga go read my last statement. And if you are not okay with it, i can't help any further. Do check you email.
Good morning
I have contacted u on whatspp, it seems u aren't replying
Re: What Is The Biggest Lesson You Learnt From A Past Relationship? by SaucyBenks(m): 9:06am On Feb 24
soberdrunk:
Never ever confess!!! Stick to your lie!! angry
you don mad aswear grin grin
Re: What Is The Biggest Lesson You Learnt From A Past Relationship? by SaucyBenks(m): 9:31am On Feb 24
Divay22:

Mine is boyfriend like no other.
First time in all my relationships that am not getting tired of my nigga.
The only thing i wanna see him do everyday is Smile. Not some fake smile though, but a genuine smile and I just can't help it ,but to beg God to bless him each and every day of his life...

Would love to end up with him but if i don't, am sure not leaving him the way i met him.
I Love My Baby .
yet you talked about learning to cheat... May your type never come my way, Amen!
Re: What Is The Biggest Lesson You Learnt From A Past Relationship? by Divay22(f): 11:06am On Feb 24
SaucyBenks:
yet you talked about learning to cheat... May your type never come my way, Amen!
Amen!
I say a big Amen to that cheesy

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