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Re: How Did Your Marriage End? Any Regrets? by sonature1: 11:15pm On Feb 10
husbandsnatcha:
my marriage ended in peace

no regrets

my husband: shud we end d marriage


me: yes swthrt



.my husband: ok

Stop the pretense.
No marriage or relationship ends with the two parties feeling good about it. Yes, one spouse, who had really given their best to make it work, will be feeling bad about it. More often than not, he/she lives in pangs of regrets.
If what u said actually happened, deep down you know I am right.

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Re: How Did Your Marriage End? Any Regrets? by WhoBeThisMan: 11:15pm On Feb 10
My advice from experience to those young stars love dey shark...
1. Look well
2. Its better to marry a bad woman from a good family, that to marry a good woman from a bad family. Families have a big role in a woman's life. I pity for you if you marry a bad woman from a bad family.. Smh

3. Read no.2 again

Note when i say "bad" i mean n terns of character.

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Re: How Did Your Marriage End? Any Regrets? by Earthbound(m): 11:16pm On Feb 10
husbandsnatcha:
my marriage ended in peace

no regrets

my husband: shud we end d marriage


me: yes swthrt



.my husband: ok
What is your relationship status? wink
Re: How Did Your Marriage End? Any Regrets? by CsRockefeller(m): 11:17pm On Feb 10
fetthu:
My advice is for MEN and this is based on my little experience.

Never marry a woman that does not or would not respect you. (including a woman with bad attitude and low morals). If you do YOU WILL REGRET IT....don't ever think you can manage it ( remember its forever).
The saying that "the 3 most important things men want in marriage is:
Respect, Good food & Good sex" is true, so scan well well to be certain you have the right partner.

Most women nag...but my brother nagging get levels....do everything humanly possible to avoid a woman with high potential of nagging....if you don't...YOU WILL HATE YOURSELF....As a man, if you are not patient (SURU) pls dont marry yet, until you find a way to develop yourself in that regard....its takes a patient man to be a good husband.....you will see many things, but you can't react to everything, else YOU CAN RUN MAD.....

It takes God and high level of luck to marry the right partner (man or woman)....you cannot use smartness alone or discerning spirit or anything....Marriage is like going to the market to buy a parcel wrapped in a black nylon, until get home that's when the nature of what you bought would begin to unravel its content in a slow release manner (good or bad).

It is my believe that for a woman to enjoy/own/control her marriage and her husband she needs to be submissive to her husband....(to people who may not agree) like i said...IT IS MY BELIEVE, it may not be your believe, don't crucify me for my believe.
To those planning to get married, i wish you GOOD LUCK in selecting the right parcel. -this advice is for men. Thank you.

Lovely

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Re: How Did Your Marriage End? Any Regrets? by 1StopRudeness: 11:28pm On Feb 10
There's no perfect marriage,
there's no bone of bone, flesh of flesh,
there no made in heaven marriage,
there's no spirit led me therefore, it must be perfect marriage..
Why do I say this.?..marriage isn't one of the compulsory will of God for us on this earth...u marry, u don't marry, it's not a crime or sin... u can still fulfill God's purpose for ur life and make it home...
Evangelist William Franklin Graham was asked, why do you have a great marriage...and he said...

There's no great marriage...just two imperfect people willing to forgive each other no matter what

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Re: How Did Your Marriage End? Any Regrets? by od501: 11:34pm On Feb 10
highcollide:
She was constantly chatting on the Internet. Kept her phone with her all the time, was going to the bathroom to answer her calls. It all ended the day I saw her send her snapping herself Unclad. I struggled with her and took her phone and saw that she's been bleeping around.... I had to walk out of the marriage.....

Welcome to the club
















Just kidding grin grin


I'm never getting married.

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Re: How Did Your Marriage End? Any Regrets? by allanphash7(m): 11:44pm On Feb 10
The best option i was left with is to end my marriage then if only i want to remain alive and not even behind the bars for life


Though it wasn't an easy decision but i retired to fate because i never bargained for it in my life


Marriage of 7 years with two beautiful kids?


It's not easy


Decision that took me for about 1yr



It's not easy (Lucky Dube) song

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Re: How Did Your Marriage End? Any Regrets? by UCyril: 11:44pm On Feb 10
fetthu:
My advice is for MEN and this is based on my little experience.

Never marry a woman that does not or would not respect you. (including a woman with bad attitude and low morals). If you do YOU WILL REGRET IT....don't ever think you can manage it ( remember its forever).
The saying that "the 3 most important things men want in marriage is:
Respect, Good food & Good sex" is true, so scan well well to be certain you have the right partner.

Most women nag...but my brother nagging get levels....do everything humanly possible to avoid a woman with high potential of nagging....if you don't...YOU WILL HATE YOURSELF....As a man, if you are not patient (SURU) pls dont marry yet, until you find a way to develop yourself in that regard....its takes a patient man to be a good husband.....you will see many things, but you can't react to everything, else YOU CAN RUN MAD.....

It takes God and high level of luck to marry the right partner (man or woman)....you cannot use smartness alone or discerning spirit or anything....Marriage is like going to the market to buy a parcel wrapped in a black nylon, until get home that's when the nature of what you bought would begin to unravel its content in a slow release manner (good or bad).

It is my believe that for a woman to enjoy/own/control her marriage and her husband she needs to be submissive to her husband....(to people who may not agree) like i said...IT IS MY BELIEVE, it may not be your believe, don't crucify me for my believe.
To those planning to get married, i wish you GOOD LUCK in selecting the right parcel. -this advice is for men. Thank you.
why do people find it difficult to talk about the importance of children in marriage. Can a man be happy in a marriage with good food, good sex and respect without children.

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Re: How Did Your Marriage End? Any Regrets? by striker07(m): 11:44pm On Feb 10
fetthu:
My advice is for MEN and this is based on my little experience.

Never marry a woman that does not or would not respect you. (including a woman with bad attitude and low morals). If you do YOU WILL REGRET IT....don't ever think you can manage it ( remember its forever).
The saying that "the 3 most important things men want in marriage is:
Respect, Good food & Good sex" is true, so scan well well to be certain you have the right partner.very deep

Most women nag...but my brother nagging get levels....do everything humanly possible to avoid a woman with high potential of nagging....if you don't...YOU WILL HATE YOURSELF....As a man, if you are not patient (SURU) pls dont marry yet, until you find a way to develop yourself in that regard....its takes a patient man to be a good husband.....you will see many things, but you can't react to everything, else YOU CAN RUN MAD.....

It takes God and high level of luck to marry the right partner (man or woman)....you cannot use smartness alone or discerning spirit or anything....Marriage is like going to the market to buy a parcel wrapped in a black nylon, until get home that's when the nature of what you bought would begin to unravel its content in a slow release manner (good or bad).

It is my believe that for a woman to enjoy/own/control her marriage and her husband she needs to be submissive to her husband....(to people who may not agree) like i said...IT IS MY BELIEVE, it may not be your believe, don't crucify me for my believe.
To those planning to get married, i wish you GOOD LUCK in selecting the right parcel. -this advice is for men. Thank you.
Re: How Did Your Marriage End? Any Regrets? by Quarterbac: 11:45pm On Feb 10
This is why i keep telling everyone around me I'm not sure i'm ever getting married. I'm a very quiet and calm person, even when I get offended I hardly react, I'm afraid a girl is gon' find out and take advantage of this.

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Re: How Did Your Marriage End? Any Regrets? by paraltero: 11:47pm On Feb 10
Could you guys that have nothing legit to say shut up instead of making noise and scaring off those that want to share real experiences.

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Re: How Did Your Marriage End? Any Regrets? by smeag0l(m): 11:47pm On Feb 10
Not everybody wants children in a marriage
UCyril:
why do people find it difficult to talk about the importance of children in marriage. Can a man be happy in a marriage with good food, good sex and respect without children.

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Re: How Did Your Marriage End? Any Regrets? by paraltero: 11:50pm On Feb 10
fetthu:
My advice is for MEN and this is based on my little experience.

Never marry a woman that does not or would not respect you. (including a woman with bad attitude and low morals). If you do YOU WILL REGRET IT....don't ever think you can manage it ( remember its forever).
The saying that "the 3 most important things men want in marriage is:
Respect, Good food & Good sex" is true, so scan well well to be certain you have the right partner.

Most women nag...but my brother nagging get levels....do everything humanly possible to avoid a woman with high potential of nagging....if you don't...YOU WILL HATE YOURSELF....As a man, if you are not patient (SURU) pls dont marry yet, until you find a way to develop yourself in that regard....its takes a patient man to be a good husband.....you will see many things, but you can't react to everything, else YOU CAN RUN MAD.....

It takes God and high level of luck to marry the right partner (man or woman)....you cannot use smartness alone or discerning spirit or anything....Marriage is like going to the market to buy a parcel wrapped in a black nylon, until get home that's when the nature of what you bought would begin to unravel its content in a slow release manner (good or bad).

It is my believe that for a woman to enjoy/own/control her marriage and her husband she needs to be submissive to her husband....(to people who may not agree) like i said...IT IS MY BELIEVE, it may not be your believe, don't crucify me for my believe.
To those planning to get married, i wish you GOOD LUCK in selecting the right parcel. -this advice is for men. Thank you.

So the man should not be loving, caring, kind, considerate or generally good. He can be whatever the hell he wants, it's the woman that must be good.

The misogyny.

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Re: How Did Your Marriage End? Any Regrets? by Elder0001(m): 11:53pm On Feb 10
Mindfulness how did you feel when your husband left you 4/5 years ago?
Re: How Did Your Marriage End? Any Regrets? by UCyril: 11:53pm On Feb 10
smeag0l:
Not everybody wants children in a marriage
yeah, but 75% of African man marry to ve children that's the bitter fact. Without children most men will remain single

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Re: How Did Your Marriage End? Any Regrets? by 001bumsa: 11:55pm On Feb 10
frenchman:
Was married for 15 years, ended badly due to irreconcilable differences. Ant regrets? Yes, I should have walked earlier
Similar to mine. Was married for 10 years. Couldn't bear the inlaws and their wahala again. No regret whatsoever

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Re: How Did Your Marriage End? Any Regrets? by uuzba(m): 11:59pm On Feb 10
lonelydora:


The main cause of divorce in most marriages is often not said by both parties. It's too heavy to say. Forgot all the blames thrown at each other

The No 1 cause of divorce is Marriage.

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Re: How Did Your Marriage End? Any Regrets? by Griiiiiin(f): 12:04am On Feb 11
highcollide:
She was constantly chatting on the Internet. Kept her phone with her all the time, was going to the bathroom to answer her calls. It all ended the day I saw her send her snapping herself Unclad. I struggled with her and took her phone and saw that she's been bleeping around.... I had to walk out of the marriage.....
















Just kidding grin grin


I'm never getting married.
hmmn
Re: How Did Your Marriage End? Any Regrets? by AlhajaChinyere: 12:12am On Feb 11
BiafraBushBoy:
I think one of the ways of getting over a failed marriage is to heap the blames on the head of your partner.

Morally, it isn't right; but that is the only way to get over the feeling of divorce.

I am gonna get married very soon, and NOTHING will ever lead me to divorce.

I rather play the fool in my marriage than watch it crash.

What happens to my kids?

Personal opinion tho.

Kid talking! I hate young people sometimes.

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Re: How Did Your Marriage End? Any Regrets? by Biglittlelois(f): 12:17am On Feb 11
1StopRudeness:
There's no perfect marriage,
there's no bone of bone, flesh of flesh,
there no made in heaven marriage,
there's no spirit led me therefore, it must be perfect marriage..
Why do I say this.?..marriage isn't one of the compulsory will of God for us on this earth...u marry, u don't marry, it's not a crime or sin... u can still fulfill God's purpose for ur life and make it home...
Evangelist William Franklin Graham was asked, why do you have a great marriage...and he said...

There's no great marriage...just two imperfect people willing to forgive each other no matter what

Lovely

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Re: How Did Your Marriage End? Any Regrets? by AlhajaChinyere: 12:19am On Feb 11
Martinez39:
This is not a rubbish thread. It's for us to learn. We Nigerians like acting like good things are all that is destined for us. We act like bad things don't happen. Bad experience are part of life, we learn from them not run away and treat the discussion of them like a taboo. Don't live your life always wanting to hear positive things. Tragedies are part of life.

Foolish sanctimonious Nigerians. There is nothing tragic about divorce and nobody has to blame anybody. Too many kids here jare.

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Re: How Did Your Marriage End? Any Regrets? by Martinez39: 12:25am On Feb 11
AlhajaChinyere:


Kid talking! I hate young people sometimes.
You can't blame them. Both young people who haven't been to the real world or privileged folks who live in their comfort bubble are detached from the harsh realities of people in the real world. Don't mind him, he will grow up.

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Re: How Did Your Marriage End? Any Regrets? by Nweike1: 12:26am On Feb 11
[quote author=hotspec post=75608544]Wife's parent are d one controlling her. after several attempts to severe her relationship with them was unsuccessful. divorce was successful. shez back with her parents now, and she's d one doing d cooking and washing for them. [/quote
] Gbam!
Re: How Did Your Marriage End? Any Regrets? by Mruwa1(m): 12:30am On Feb 11
Enoch07:
Just here to
omoh i need 1
Re: How Did Your Marriage End? Any Regrets? by fetthu(m): 12:31am On Feb 11
paraltero:


So the man should not be loving, caring, kind, considerate or generally good. He can be whatever the hell he wants, it's the woman that must be good.

The misogyny.


Well, that may be your advice for women that want to marry....to marry a "generally good man, loving caring, kind or considerate".

My advice is for men planning on getting married about things that could lead to a failed marriage....
....ofcourse the man has his own share of responsibility and i mentioned a bit of it.....but i tell you....no matter how loving, kind, caring considerate and generally good you are when you marry the wrong partner (vice versa)..... those qualities would be useless......it is meant for a marriage where there is conscious commitment from both sides to make things work and accept responsibility.

Also children is good in a family, but having beautiful children whom you so much love would make a damaged marriage even more painful as those children may have to grow up in an environment that may not be healthy for there development especially where there are frequent ugly conflict between the spouse......its a bitter experience one should try to avoid if possible......and if you are in it already.....& if it is not life threatening yet,......well, you can work it out with your spouse with help from the right people...

NB:Just replying for clarification sake, am not a misogynist and i am not in anyway saying a man should not take/own up to his responsibilities, as a man's character most times triggers negative response from the wife......the focus of my comment was on what a young man could look for( or what could be a red flag). Thank you.

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Re: How Did Your Marriage End? Any Regrets? by AlhajaChinyere: 12:39am On Feb 11
My wife thinks I was born to come and please her and I am supposed to be happy being her slave. She thought she was the prize (?)

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Re: How Did Your Marriage End? Any Regrets? by koyyes: 12:50am On Feb 11
GREATESTPIANIST:
I am not yet married, but I envision a blissful home , a marriage filled with joy and God's peace....a marriage of wealth, abundance, children (I love children), a marriage of sound mind and all God envisions for his children to have........I believe this is my lot, I anticipate it!!!!!!!! Glory!!!!!!!!!!!! #YouAreWhatYouThink#

This is where problem starts...like building castles in the air.

In life, you can never have it all.

You wish for heaven and earth. But when reality dawns on you, you start hating your partner over very little things.

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Re: How Did Your Marriage End? Any Regrets? by UyaiIncomparabl(f): 1:20am On Feb 11
kiss kiss

BiafraBushBoy:
I think one of the ways of getting over a failed marriage is to heap the blames on the head of your partner.

Morally, it isn't right; but that is the only way to get over the feeling of divorce.

I am gonna get married very soon, and NOTHING will ever lead me to divorce.

I rather play the fool in my marriage than watch it crash.

What happens to my kids?

Personal opinion tho.
Re: How Did Your Marriage End? Any Regrets? by Hed0nist: 1:27am On Feb 11
paraltero:


So the man should not be loving, caring, kind, considerate or generally good. He can be whatever the hell he wants, it's the woman that must be good.

The misogyny.
He said the advice is for men. He also can't include every possible advice na. If you have something to add, then add. Or if you have advice for women then give. It is not every time you have to look for what is wrong with everything.

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Re: How Did Your Marriage End? Any Regrets? by chinyce: 1:38am On Feb 11
husbandsnatcha:
my marriage ended in peace

no regrets

my husband: shud we end d marriage


me: yes swthrt



.my husband: ok


Just like that grin grin grin

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