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Dating a lady For A Year And She Doesn't Call or show any commitment by MdRabx(m): 5:50pm On Jul 19, 2019
I'm in a distance relationship with a lady i intend to marry, am a graduate still hustling/managing and as well hoping for a better job. It took me a year to get this lady to date me after i had to travel all the way to see her in school, we ve been dating now for almost a year but she does not call me and she's not bothered if i don't call, then when i complain about this she ll always apologize and promise to change then sooner she go back to status quo. She claim she has never been in a relationship and does not know how to love to some extent her friends started arranging dates for her with guys, am scared she don't ve emotions or she has some sort of psychological problem.
She's in her early to mid twenties and still a virgin, please has anyone here been in this situation before and what do you advice a brother, do i leave her and move on? Could it be she's not interested or maybe she is seeing g someone else

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Re: Dating a lady For A Year And She Doesn't Call or show any commitment by Wizklynd23(m): 5:50pm On Jul 19, 2019
MdRabx:
I'm in a distance relationship with a lady i intend to marry, am a graduate still hustling/managing and as well hoping for a better job. It took me a year to get this lady to date me after i had to travel all the way to see her in school, we ve been dating now for almost a year but she does not call me and she's not bothered if i don't call, then when i complain about this she ll always apologize and promise to change then sooner she go back to status quo. She claim she has never been in a relationship and does not know how to love to some extent her friends started arranging dates for her with guys, am scared she don't ve emotions or she has some sort of psychological problem.
She's in her early to mid twenties and still a virgin, please has anyone here been in this situation before and what do you advice a brother, do i leave her and move on? Could it be she's not interested but she is seeung someone else or she's not interested which i doubt

She don't Love you bro..
A girl in love with experience or no experience will show love to you by at least calling..

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Re: Dating a lady For A Year And She Doesn't Call or show any commitment by lilmax(m): 5:54pm On Jul 19, 2019
you've not knacked her

my advice, knack her first, after that see if anything changes if no you should move on immediately

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Re: Dating a lady For A Year And She Doesn't Call or show any commitment by Ahmed0336(m): 5:57pm On Jul 19, 2019
Bro, seem you're dating yourself. that girl is using you to buy time pending when her dream man surfaces.

My advice, keep loving her but get spare tyres just incase to avoid stories that leads to succide.

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Re: Dating a lady For A Year And She Doesn't Call or show any commitment by WorWorBoy: 6:00pm On Jul 19, 2019
MdRabx:
I'm in a distance relationship with a lady i intend to marry, am a graduate still hustling/managing and as well hoping for a better job. It took me a year to get this lady to date me after i had to travel all the way to see her in school, we ve been dating now for almost a year but she does not call me and she's not bothered if i don't call, then when i complain about this she ll always apologize and promise to change then sooner she go back to status quo. She claim she has never been in a relationship and does not know how to love to some extent her friends started arranging dates for her with guys, am scared she don't ve emotions or she has some sort of psychological problem.
She's in her early to mid twenties and still a virgin, please has anyone here been in this situation before and what do you advice a brother, do i leave her and move on? Could it be she's not interested but she is seeung someone else or she's not interested which i doubt

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Re: Dating a lady For A Year And She Doesn't Call or show any commitment by Nobody: 6:02pm On Jul 19, 2019
you have been dating yourself

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Re: Dating a lady For A Year And She Doesn't Call or show any commitment by MdRabx(m): 6:10pm On Jul 19, 2019
Wow, I've been duped
Re: Dating a lady For A Year And She Doesn't Call or show any commitment by MrBrownJay1(m): 6:26pm On Jul 19, 2019
This is called dating a ghost while being SINGLE.... By the time she finds the right dude (from all the dates from her friends), you will now have a clear confirmation of your single status.

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Re: Dating a lady For A Year And She Doesn't Call or show any commitment by pocohantas(f): 6:27pm On Jul 19, 2019
Reverse psychology works like mad.

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Re: Dating a lady For A Year And She Doesn't Call or show any commitment by CosmicPhoenix: 7:23pm On Jul 19, 2019
continue dating yourself,you will soon get married to yourself.

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Re: Dating a lady For A Year And She Doesn't Call or show any commitment by Fountainofyouth(f): 7:28pm On Jul 19, 2019
pocohantas:


Reverse psychology works like mad.



Exactly, slow people can never understand cheesy

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Re: Dating a lady For A Year And She Doesn't Call or show any commitment by Heineken(m): 7:29pm On Jul 19, 2019
MdRabx:
Wow, I've been duped
funny guy.. You're just knowing.

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Re: Dating a lady For A Year And She Doesn't Call or show any commitment by Okokalu: 7:32pm On Jul 19, 2019
Guy u are not serious,u say u go school.u come dey date girl wey dey school.wise up bro.the truth is DAT u are dating her but she's not dating u.try get sense bro naija hard ooh.Berta carry ur money play bet9ja than to dey waste am for DAT girl.

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Re: Dating a lady For A Year And She Doesn't Call or show any commitment by pocohantas(f): 7:33pm On Jul 19, 2019
Fountainofyouth:



Exactly, slow people can never understand cheesy

Lol, I have always been of the opinion that men could want commitment and attention from their loved ones. But they have mastered the act of acting "uninterested", thereby making the woman come at them with all force. It will now look like she is the one desperate for marriage...

Subtly ignore him and watch him come around. Even if he doesn't want it, he will wonder if she is normal.

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Re: Dating a lady For A Year And She Doesn't Call or show any commitment by MdRabx(m): 7:41pm On Jul 19, 2019
pocohantas:


Lol, I have always been of the opinion that men could want commitment and attention from their loved ones. But they have mastered the act of acting "uninterested", thereby making the woman come at them with all force. It will now look like she is the one desperate for marriage...

Subtly ignore him and watch him come around. Even if he doesn't want it, he will wonder if she is normal.
thanks but am a guy, and the person an referring to here is a woman i love but am confused, she don't contribute anything to the relationship, not even call, i had the opportunity to ve sex with her but considering she's a virgin i declined for the love i have for her.
Re: Dating a lady For A Year And She Doesn't Call or show any commitment by ibkayee(f): 7:44pm On Jul 19, 2019
Reciprocate her behaviour and if she continues she definitely isn’t into you

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Re: Dating a lady For A Year And She Doesn't Call or show any commitment by MdRabx(m): 7:53pm On Jul 19, 2019
ibkayee:
Reciprocate her behaviour and if she continues she definitely isn’t into you
Thanks that's exactly what am doing now, haven't called for five days and she hasn't as well.

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Re: Dating a lady For A Year And She Doesn't Call or show any commitment by pocohantas(f): 7:55pm On Jul 19, 2019
MdRabx:
thanks but am a guy, and the person an referring to here is a woman i love but am confused, she don't contribute anything to the relationship, not even call, i had the opportunity to ve sex with her but considering she's a virgin i declined for the love i have for her.

Of course I know you are a guy. It is possible she isn't very good at all that. Tbh, I am not so good at it too, but definitely not this bad.

-She may not be into you, as such wouldn't have that grace to invest anything.

-She may be into you, but you both have different love languages.

-She is into you but playing a game on you. Act uninterested and have you chashing her with love and commitment.

Whichever way it is, the best thing for you to do is retreat at this point. She has to want you as much you want her. Else you will be paddling alone and it would get tiring in the long run.

Lol @opportunity to have sex with her and you declining. I guess I am supposed to consider that a favour to womanity.

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Re: Dating a lady For A Year And She Doesn't Call or show any commitment by ibkayee(f): 7:55pm On Jul 19, 2019
MdRabx:
Thanks that's exactly what am doing now, haven't called for five days and she hasn't as well.
Give it a little over a week (to gauge if she’s playing games), if she doesn’t change bounce from that relationship, no use wasting your efforts on someone who can’t give you the same courtesy

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Re: Dating a lady For A Year And She Doesn't Call or show any commitment by Samphoenix1: 8:02pm On Jul 19, 2019
MdRabx:
I'm in a distance relationship with a lady i intend to marry, am a graduate still hustling/managing and as well hoping for a better job. It took me a year to get this lady to date me after i had to travel all the way to see her in school, we ve been dating now for almost a year but she does not call me and she's not bothered if i don't call, then when i complain about this she ll always apologize and promise to change then sooner she go back to status quo. She claim she has never been in a relationship and does not know how to love to some extent her friends started arranging dates for her with guys, am scared she don't ve emotions or she has some sort of psychological problem.
She's in her early to mid twenties and still a virgin, please has anyone here been in this situation before and what do you advice a brother, do i leave her and move on? Could it be she's not interested or maybe she is seeing g someone else

Knack and Run!!
She dey mad...
Re: Dating a lady For A Year And She Doesn't Call or show any commitment by Nobody: 8:46pm On Jul 19, 2019
MdRabx:
I'm in a distance relationship with a lady i intend to marry, am a graduate still hustling/managing and as well hoping for a better job. It took me a year to get this lady to date me after i had to travel all the way to see her in school, we ve been dating now for almost a year but she does not call me and she's not bothered if i don't call, then when i complain about this she ll always apologize and promise to change then sooner she go back to status quo. She claim she has never been in a relationship and does not know how to love to some extent her friends started arranging dates for her with guys, am scared she don't ve emotions or she has some sort of psychological problem.
She's in her early to mid twenties and still a virgin, please has anyone here been in this situation before and what do you advice a brother, do i leave her and move on? Could it be she's not interested or maybe she is seeing g someone else
Bros the girl is not into you at all at all, forget whatever crap some folks are saying here,that she's using Reverse psychology bla bla bla na lie, the girl no like you.

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Re: Dating a lady For A Year And She Doesn't Call or show any commitment by CyberWolf: 8:52pm On Jul 19, 2019
She gave You kpekus to cruise and you dey do holy holy, don’t worry another niggar is crushing the kpekus as we speak... Get another girl within your location and chill..

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Re: Dating a lady For A Year And She Doesn't Call or show any commitment by Nobody: 8:54pm On Jul 19, 2019
bros, stop deceiving yourself, you arent in any relationship, she doesnt call at all means you are not in her master plan

next time in your next relationship, learn the push and pull method,it works like magic

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Re: Dating a lady For A Year And She Doesn't Call or show any commitment by stinflame: 8:54pm On Jul 19, 2019
Wise Up Local Man. I believe they are ladies numbers In ur phone that u don't call, and when they do call u apologize for not calling and still yet you won't still call. Simply because you not into the person or stuffs like that. Nah watin u be to her be that

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Re: Dating a lady For A Year And She Doesn't Call or show any commitment by Nobody: 9:01pm On Jul 19, 2019
MdRabx:
I'm in a distance relationship with a lady i intend to marry, am a graduate still hustling/managing and as well hoping for a better job. It took me a year to get this lady to date me after i had to travel all the way to see her in school, we ve been dating now for almost a year but she does not call me and she's not bothered if i don't call, then when i complain about this she ll always apologize and promise to change then sooner she go back to status quo. She claim she has never been in a relationship and does not know how to love to some extent her friends started arranging dates for her with guys, am scared she don't ve emotions or she has some sort of psychological problem.
She's in her early to mid twenties and still a virgin, please has anyone here been in this situation before and what do you advice a brother, do i leave her and move on? Could it be she's not interested or maybe she is seeing g someone else
Lol she's not into you, move on with your life. undecided

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Re: Dating a lady For A Year And She Doesn't Call or show any commitment by emkz: 9:21pm On Jul 19, 2019
Bro, what you see during courtship gets multiplied during marriage.

To her, you two, as described by a wise Priest, are in a "peripheral state of courtship" until someone better comes along.

When you meet your real woman, she won't stress you a bit to the point of seeking succour in a public forum.

Leave that girl alone. Shes not yours.

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Re: Dating a lady For A Year And She Doesn't Call or show any commitment by NUJABEZ: 10:02pm On Jul 19, 2019
Why are you panicking like she is the only woman in the world?

1. Is she not calling because she doesn't have money? Highly unlikely. N100 credit is about 40+ minutes of talk time.
2. Is she not calling because she doesn't know how to reach out to people? Again, not true because she does call friends, colleagues, and family.
3. Is she not calling because you are a boring conversationalist and she prefers to talk to you face to face? Check yourself.
4. Is she not calling because she doesn't feel anything for you? Of this I am 90% certain.

You should prepare yourself mentally and check out bro. There are so many women out there looking for someone like you. Women who will love you to pieces, but what you got to do is put yourself out there. Talk to lots of girls. For instance, if you approached forty girls, you can easily sleep with ten, and find true love in the arms of one.

Give yourself brain. Don't force love.

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Re: Dating a lady For A Year And She Doesn't Call or show any commitment by NUJABEZ: 10:06pm On Jul 19, 2019
I experienced something like this a while ago. We dated for about six months. The first few months were really intense, but then, by the third month, I found myself doing all of the work in the relationship while she didn't bother anymore. That was the first sign she'd checked out. I spoke to her about it severally, she promised to change but never did. I got tired of complaining because her attitude was causing me heavy distress. I took stock of the situation and told myself it was time to move on. I didn't call her for six weeks, she didn't make any attempt to reach out to me. I didn't break up with her though, but what I did around the seventh week will shock you.

Now, this ex of mine worked at a certain establishment I liked to frequent. It's a lounge/restaurant. My female cousin who is drop-dead gorgeous came around to visit us, so one fateful day, I took her to the place. When we got in there, I held her waist, led her to a table, and pulled out a chair for her to sit. Luckily, ex was around and viewing the film in full HD. One of the waiters wanted to take our orders, but ex left her station and took over the order. We placed our orders, but when she brought our food and drinks, I introduced my cousin as my new girlfriend and told ex she was now free to totally forget about me. See film!

She went stark mad. Poured pepper soup on cousin, and broke drink bottle and came after me. Her coworkers restrained her. Me, I just called Inspector, a good friend of my family to come and arrest her. She was detained for four days. Lost her job and all. Flawless victory for me.

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Re: Dating a lady For A Year And She Doesn't Call or show any commitment by MdRabx(m): 10:15pm On Jul 19, 2019
NUJABEZ:
Why are you panicking like she is the only woman in the world?

1. Is she not calling because she doesn't have money? Highly unlikely. N100 credit is about 40+ minutes of talk time.
2. Is she not calling because she doesn't know how to reach out to people? Again, not true because she does call friends, colleagues, and family.
3. Is she not calling because you are a boring conversationalist and she prefers to talk to you face to face? Check yourself.
4. Is she not calling because she doesn't feel anything for you? Of this I am 90% certain.

You should prepare yourself mentally and check out bro. There are so many women out there looking for someone like you. Women who will love you to pieces, but what you got to do is put yourself out there. Talk to lots of girls. For instance, if you approached forty girls, you can easily sleep with ten, and find true love in the arms of one.

Give yourself brain. Don't force love.
What suprises me is bro i ve fleet of more beautiful and classy ladies rushing me but i actually want a calm headed lady to end up marrying.
Re: Dating a lady For A Year And She Doesn't Call or show any commitment by MdRabx(m): 10:16pm On Jul 19, 2019
NUJABEZ:
I experienced something like this a while ago. We dated for about six months. The first few months were really intense, but then, by the third month, I found myself doing all of the work in the relationship while she didn't bother anymore. That was the first sign she'd checked out. I spoke to her about it severally, she promised to change but never did. I got tired of complaining because her attitude was causing me heavy distress. I took stock of the situation and told myself it was time to move on. I didn't call her for six weeks, she didn't make any attempt to reach out to me. I didn't break up with her though, but what I did around the seventh week will shock you.

Now, this ex of mine worked at a certain establishment I liked to frequent. It's a lounge/restaurant. My female cousin who is drop-dead gorgeous came around to visit us, so one fateful day, I took her to the place. When we got in there, I held her waist, led her to a table, and pulled out a chair for her to sit. Luckily, ex was around and viewing the film in full HD. One of the waiters wanted to take our orders, but ex left her station and took over the order. We placed our orders, but when she brought our food and drinks, I introduced my cousin as my new girlfriend and told ex she was now free to totally forget about me. See film!

She went stark mad. Poured pepper soup on cousin, and broke drink bottle and came after me. Her coworkers restrained her. Me, I just called Inspector, a good friend of my family to come and arrest her. She was detained for four days. Lost her job and all. Flawless victory for me.

imagine, apologies to ladies but i would say ladies re very confused set of people.

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Re: Dating a lady For A Year And She Doesn't Call or show any commitment by NUJABEZ: 10:18pm On Jul 19, 2019
MdRabx:
What suprises me is bro i ve fleet of more beautiful and classy girls rushing me but i actually want a cakm headed lady to end up marrying.

Well, it appears this calm lady isn't feeling you. Best you can do is move on. Don't stress yourself. That shii can age you.

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Re: Dating a lady For A Year And She Doesn't Call or show any commitment by macho44(m): 10:18pm On Jul 19, 2019
MdRabx:
I'm in a distance relationship with a lady i intend to marry, am a graduate still hustling/managing and as well hoping for a better job. It took me a year to get this lady to date me after i had to travel all the way to see her in school, we ve been dating now for almost a year but she does not call me and she's not bothered if i don't call, then when i complain about this she ll always apologize and promise to change then sooner she go back to status quo. She claim she has never been in a relationship and does not know how to love to some extent her friends started arranging dates for her with guys, am scared she don't ve emotions or she has some sort of psychological problem.
She's in her early to mid twenties and still a virgin, please has anyone here been in this situation before and what do you advice a brother, do i leave her and move on? Could it be she's not interested or maybe she is seeing g someone else
You don't need a soothsayer to tell u d obvious. The ERINMA no even send you, so stop acting like "Broda Wey MUMU" and let her be. Two things which a person should never beg for are;
1. LOVE
2. RESPECT.
If they don't come naturally, then it's not worth it.

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