truthsayer009:


You always forget though, you are 1. Which is 00000000.1% of 200Million people. As far as Nigerians are concerned, when you starting dating a girl, she is your responsibility. In my office, I asked this question last month, 2 married women supported that "It's the Boyfriend job to take care of the lady in a relationship". One even said, She met her husband in a Bus & If her husband hadn't paid her T-Fare, she wouldn't have even answered him.

Except maybe you're not knacking her, once knacking enter. Na to carry your load oh, It's to add her to your payslip jejely. HR will do the subtraction.

lyndaway:
What led to her asking her ex for assistance? bro there is something wrong with your relationship already but if you love her so much has you claim I advise that you stop it and try to met up to your responsibility

pocohantas:


I don't understand?
His responsibility?

Lamanii22:



You double it? Does she tell you how much the ex sends to her? Receiving money from an ex isn't a bad thing but there's a clear evidence they would sleep with each other somehow somehow... Except if the guy doesn't want to but it is rare...

iamadonis2:
My Girlfriend still reaches out to her Ex Boyfriend for financial assistance. I admit it gets me really upset.

I want the best for her and want her to grow financially, but I feel help from an Ex is going too far and quite disrespectful.

Please advise, guys, is my anger justified and reasonable?

General0847:
She is getting financial help + dick from him.
How do some of you even tolerate things like this? Put an end to that ASAP.

vingeophysicist:

Guy let me give you an illustration if you don't understand the damage your so called gold digging fiancee is causing you.
Ex = Babe why do you come to me anytime you need money . it seems your Boyfriend is not up to the task.
Your girlfriend = The guy is still struggling and not financially buoyant like you. I really don't want to disturb him .(She will most likely say anything to demean you just to get the money )

Young man she is a LovePeddler and money monger . Dump her at once.

Quality20:
guy dont make d mistake of not trusting ur girl since she isnt doing secretly, mistrust can push her into his arms just b matured and cool. nothing gonna happen bad to u or her

Quality20:
guy dont make d mistake of not trusting ur girl since she isnt doing secretly, mistrust can push her into his arms just b matured and cool. nothing gonna happen bad to u or her

Kfaaji:


Lol, I disagree with this. Some girls will be cheating on you and still be giving you report. A girl will be with another guy that you know cheating with him and will still be calling you that he's with the guy just for you to trust her. If you know you know.

iamadonis2:


I appreciate that you took time out to write this. God bless you. We've had the call-to-order talk severally, no change.

iamadonis2:


True. Lately this has made me hardhearted. I know she's broke and may want to give her cash but I just think to myself:

" Oh well, why bother? She's gonna call him for help"

pocohantas:


He doesn't have to meet up with anything. She has no right to put a young man under (financial) pressure. If she wants the good life, the one her father can't give- she should get a job. He can only assist when convenient.

-A woman who goes back to her ex every other time for assistance has no respect for her man.

-A woman who is greedy will always go elsewhere to makeup for her supposed deficit. Seeing that women are now invalids that men have to be responsible for, even in relationships.

-She isn't doing him a favour dating him, so he has no duty to prove his capability.

BecaciaBarbie:

I don’t think he is going to sleep with her and I really doubt if there is anything serious going between them . He is only helping her out financially to cover up for the disappointment and heartbreaks he put her through and she is taking advantage of it. It will stop , don’t worry yourself ! Once the dude conscience is clear, he’d limit his help for her.

iamadonis2:
My Girlfriend still reaches out to her Ex Boyfriend for financial assistance. I admit it gets me really upset.

I want the best for her and want her to grow financially, but I feel help from an Ex is going too far and quite disrespectful.

Please advise, guys, is my anger justified and reasonable?

General0847:

You don't have to continue, get a new girlfriend. It might be a hard decision but you need your dignity intact, peace of mind and good pvssy.
Save yourself the heartache to come. I know from experience, my ex has a new guy but whenever she comes around i fvck her silly.

Hillzy:
My only question for u is that can you keep helping ur ex financially without no string attached? If you can answer this right, you definitely have the answer to ur question

pocohantas:


I don't understand?
His responsibility?

iamadonis2:


Me, nah. I'd sooner fuuuuuuck her than always give her cash with no strings attached

pocohantas:


He doesn't have to meet up with anything. She has no right to put a young man under (financial) pressure. If she wants the good life, the one her father can't give- she should get a job. He can only assist when convenient.

-A woman who goes back to her ex every other time for assistance has no respect for her man.

-A woman who is greedy will always go elsewhere to makeup for her supposed deficit. Seeing that women are now invalids that men have to be responsible for, even in relationships.

-She isn't doing him a favour dating him, so he has no duty to prove his capability.

irumole1975:


You're a straightforward lady and usually say the truth without bias.


But I observed most nairaland guys don't like you, why?

iamadonis2:
My Girlfriend still reaches out to her Ex Boyfriend for financial assistance. I admit it gets me really upset.

I want the best for her and want her to grow financially,

irumole1975:


You're a straightforward lady and usually say the truth without bias.


But I observed most nairaland guys don't like you, why?

iamadonis2:
My Girlfriend still reaches out to her Ex Boyfriend for financial assistance. I admit it gets me really upset.

I want the best for her and want her to grow financially, but I feel help from an Ex is going too far and quite disrespectful.

Please advise, guys, is my anger justified and reasonable?

vingeophysicist:

okay, his responsibility is to carry her financial burden. You better change your mentality .

pocohantas:


He doesn't have to meet up with anything. She has no right to put a young man under (financial) pressure. If she wants the good life, the one her father can't give- she should get a job. He can only assist when convenient.

-A woman who goes back to her ex every other time for assistance has no respect for her man.

-A woman who is greedy will always go elsewhere to makeup for her supposed deficit. Seeing that women are now invalids that men have to be responsible for, even in relationships.

-She isn't doing him a favour dating him, so he has no duty to prove his capability.

Alexaonfleek:
From what u said op,your bae sounds greedy.id definitely feel bad if my bf is still seeing his ex for favours,either money or anything else.but I'll advise u talk to her and tell her how u feel about it and if she's still seeing her ex again,pls go ahead and dump her sorry ass