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Should I Continue This Relationship Or Just End It.. Matured Advice Only / Ladies Your First Visit And You Saw Him Like This Will You Continue Or Quit? / Should I Marry Her Or Quit? (2) (3) (4)
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Re: Should I Continue This Relationship Or Quit? by Bbbwings: 7:33pm On Oct 30, 2019 |
912:I feel like giving op e-slap 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Should I Continue This Relationship Or Quit? by Tapout(m): 7:33pm On Oct 30, 2019 |
MrCork: yo which cage did they release u from..thought u had deactivated |
Re: Should I Continue This Relationship Or Quit? by Realhommie(m): 7:34pm On Oct 30, 2019 |
liberalchick:I accede to everything you've said. So on point, especially the bolded.. 1 Like |
Re: Should I Continue This Relationship Or Quit? by Kingininge(m): 7:34pm On Oct 30, 2019 |
LilMissFavvy: Love alone cannot sustain marriage.Simple! 1 Like |
Re: Should I Continue This Relationship Or Quit? by Nobody: 7:34pm On Oct 30, 2019 |
Let me respond like a typical Nigerian niralander will do, did you ask for our consent first here in Nairaland before asking her out so why bother us with your issues with her? That's the typical Nairaland problem solving way. Back to the issue you raised. Your concerns are very valid and you deserve the answers you seek for because it means a lot to you which is why you asked in the first place. You alone can determine if her responses constitutes a red flag for you since you are the only one that knows her and you are the one currently dating her and you are the only one that sees her mannerisms and you alone knows by what you have seen from her if you guys are compatible and if she will be a good fit for you as a wife. Back to typical Nairaland mode Someone earlier on advice you to go and smoke some weeds and then come back and answer your own questions and I agree with him only on the part that says you should answer your own question because you are the only one that knows her and should be in a better position to know if she is a wife material irrespective of her being from a broken home after all you ain't proposing to her mother but to her that has never been married to anyone before. Wishing you the very best. 5 Likes |
Re: Should I Continue This Relationship Or Quit? by kelvindj98: 7:35pm On Oct 30, 2019 |
Which kind mumu be dis. Na by force. Free d babe if you no do again. 2 Likes |
Re: Should I Continue This Relationship Or Quit? by LilMissFavvy(f): 7:37pm On Oct 30, 2019 |
Yes of course, but love is the most important. Kingininge: 1 Like |
Re: Should I Continue This Relationship Or Quit? by Bahddo(m): 7:37pm On Oct 30, 2019 |
How do you immature people even even convince yourselves that you are ready for marriage? You can't even look at issues objectively and reach an independent decision. So if you marry a lady whose parents aren't separated, it guarantees that your own marriage wouldn't end in divorce? 12 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Should I Continue This Relationship Or Quit? by midnighter(f): 7:38pm On Oct 30, 2019 |
emmysoftyou: Yes, it's very important to investigate very well so that you won't be in for any nasty surprises after the wedding. But that doesn't mean you have to be insensitive about it. Or you haven't seen an elder get offended by certain questions before? They will get irritated, especially if such a thing is coming from a young person It's not her fault if her mother avoids answering her so he should still giver her some time because it's not as easy as "just go and ask her". It's even worse to open up the past of an elderly person because the emotions can be much when they look back and remember 1 Like |
Re: Should I Continue This Relationship Or Quit? by Kingdollar28(m): 7:39pm On Oct 30, 2019 |
frankyskyboi: You are very weak.... Until u realize that you are already a grown ass man....and you have a say of your own, and whenever you say something,you stand on it, then you start thinking about marriage!! U re too weak for marriage now bro.. #bitter_truth! 11 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Should I Continue This Relationship Or Quit? by bongo4real(m): 7:39pm On Oct 30, 2019 |
frankyskyboi: Bro why bothering her about her family issues? We pray for change and good in Life, no reasonable person will want to make same mistakes their parents made. Honestly I don't really know the real reason why my dad didn't marry my mom and I haven't seen her for 22 years now and don't know how to trace her. My advice, if she is a good girl as you said in your write-up then don't bother her much with her parents issue, don't remind her of her past because you want to get answers for your parents. Be mature enough to handle issue yourself without without thinking what your parents will say. 4 Likes |
Re: Should I Continue This Relationship Or Quit? by maya007: 7:42pm On Oct 30, 2019 |
U destest a broken home? Ha! D nerve! So cause ur parents r still togeda now makes dem d most perfect plp on earth? My dear if ur a product of both parents den I tink being raised by a single mom or dad is d best....ur a very naive person biko I wish I had d girls number or somtin so ild beg her to dump ur ass...if she was from a broken home with otedola or dangote as parents u n ur parents no go judge am na abg gerarahere mehn....n dont spoil my mood this night o 14 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Should I Continue This Relationship Or Quit? by TGM2015: 7:42pm On Oct 30, 2019 |
frankyskyboi:If I am a friend to that lady, I will advise her to run from you because you never trust her word. She has taken a good step asking reason for her parents separation, she knows her father and trusted him. Her father words was collaborated with some else, who possibly she trusted. Are you telling me that her father and aunt are liars? ,And that she is too stupid to have accepted the "unreasonable reasons" (because that is what you are implying) excuse given by her father? Do you know her mother more than her? She has her reasons for limiting her visit to her mother and decided not to speak with or ask her mother about what causes their separation. Hey guy, we have seen couple divorce because the wife didn't know how to press toothpaste. I have had encountered with a friend that did not married a lady because the lady own an opinion never to be full housewife. Though his current wife is working, his reason then was, what if in the near future, there arise a situation for her to resign from her work to pay closer attention or care to their children or relatives? That was just the period where a DGM in one of the leading banks, resign from work to attend to and take care of her children. We heard she visited her children school one day because they have a meeting very close to the school and the meeting was delayed for 2 hours. When met her 3 children absent and was told that they are regular absentees. She voluntarily resigned. Please, allow this lady to find a man that can trust her word, accept and judge her for who she is. At least, it was from a black pot that white pap/"agidi" is made. 11 Likes |
Re: Should I Continue This Relationship Or Quit? by Chapelbeatz(m): 7:42pm On Oct 30, 2019 |
Hehe.We want posts like this on fp atleast make we dy laff.Buh i suggest u hihihahahohehahahaha.No reason am 2 Likes |
Re: Should I Continue This Relationship Or Quit? by Realhommie(m): 7:43pm On Oct 30, 2019 |
mistijude:Seconded. 4 Likes |
Re: Should I Continue This Relationship Or Quit? by Newboss(m): 7:44pm On Oct 30, 2019 |
Why not also ask her if her mother has ever sucked her dad's dick? That girl should dump your sorry ass ASAP! What nonsense 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Should I Continue This Relationship Or Quit? by Nobody: 7:44pm On Oct 30, 2019 |
Op, what exactly is your business with her parents separation? Are you getting married to her or her parents? 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Should I Continue This Relationship Or Quit? by Kingininge(m): 7:45pm On Oct 30, 2019 |
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Re: Should I Continue This Relationship Or Quit? by Realhommie(m): 7:45pm On Oct 30, 2019 |
Op while i understand your point, I do not think you have any issues worth worrying about. But it is very obvious to me that you're not yet ready for marriage. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Should I Continue This Relationship Or Quit? by VicM6: 7:45pm On Oct 30, 2019 |
Pubichairs:i tire 4 dis matter o, na another person family the guy wan investigate when him own family problem dey ground also.... He is telling the poor girl to find out why her parents separated as if he has ever sit the girl down and tell her abt his own family too...... All what i know is that Family problem mostly comes up from the husband part.... 7 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Should I Continue This Relationship Or Quit? by bayobabe(f): 7:46pm On Oct 30, 2019 |
Bahddo:I just wonder ooo. Mr Op, if that girl is good and because you can't think for yourself lose her, you might end up with one that you would by yourself hand her a divorce letter and mind you the parents would be together. My Mum was told by her father's family that she wouldn't last in her marriage because she is from a seperated family and she was very troublesome, naa there she give herself brain and became determined that whenever she married,she would make sure it worked. She still dey my papa house ooo, and she is a grandma now. So do guesswork and calculate the number of years she had been married. 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Should I Continue This Relationship Or Quit? by Bahddo(m): 7:46pm On Oct 30, 2019 |
frankyskyboi:wise choice. Just let her go. She likely deserves better than getting into a judgemental family that would make her marital life hell, while her indecisive husband watches on helplessly. 10 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Should I Continue This Relationship Or Quit? by rahztafari(m): 7:47pm On Oct 30, 2019 |
This is why some people will turn 50 and remain single all because you are looking for someone that fits your description. @op, if you have reached marriageable age, you don't need anyone to tell you that life doesn't work that way. Anyways, since you still believe that there are plenty fishes in the river, I will suggest that you find yourself another opeke. I hope the next one does not have any comma ooo 5 Likes |
Re: Should I Continue This Relationship Or Quit? by Oduduwa707: 7:47pm On Oct 30, 2019 |
RedCreme21: Very true... 1 Like |
Re: Should I Continue This Relationship Or Quit? by Babygal2020(f): 7:47pm On Oct 30, 2019 |
Freemanbobble:Lol 1 Like |
Re: Should I Continue This Relationship Or Quit? by Duggedised12(f): 7:49pm On Oct 30, 2019 |
So let me get this ,not being from a broken home guarantees the marriage won't end in divorce ? Things we see on nairaland. You and your parents need to get down from your high horse. Any small misunderstanding now in the marriage your parents will start saying "i told you that is how people from broken homes behave" . Kuku end the relationship abeg. Make sure you ask the next lady if her parents are together before you waste her time. 6 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Should I Continue This Relationship Or Quit? by abdullkabar(m): 7:49pm On Oct 30, 2019 |
Make a decision and live with it's outcome |
Re: Should I Continue This Relationship Or Quit? by Nobody: 7:50pm On Oct 30, 2019 |
The kind of things that matters to people sha! Only in Nigeria, a man is more interested in the moonlight stories about how your parents became single than what you're bringing to the table. My country man would LEAVE a working class lady that's got her shit together, can pay her bills, BUT comes from a broken home FOR a jobless, can't pay her bills, got nothing to add to the relationship BUT got her parent still together! How this sh!tty bullcrap criteria determines a successful marriage baffles me. Una go soon learn!. Backward bunch!!!! 11 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Should I Continue This Relationship Or Quit? by Newboss(m): 7:51pm On Oct 30, 2019 |
adaperry25: He's not being logical. Her parents are divorced, and so what? People are always looking for something to gossip about. Her parents deserve some privacy. Some things should never be your business. Tying the knot indeed. No be only knot 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Should I Continue This Relationship Or Quit? by Nobody: 7:52pm On Oct 30, 2019 |
Ask her mother what? Amebo. Why should she go through the agony of finding that out when she has her whole life ahead of her to live? You and your family want to sit down and discuss something that happened years ago and start scrutinizing her. Is the divorce her fault? Who are you to judge? Na her family you dey marry? Left to me, its mostly males from broken homes that have issues not the females. Yet, you see the males getting hitched while the females have to face all these bullsh1t scrutiny. If you are forming all prim and proper, commot for road with your odour make the poor girl see her front and smell fresh air. 13 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Should I Continue This Relationship Or Quit? by Nobody: 7:54pm On Oct 30, 2019 |
frankyskyboi: are u insinuating that the reason why her dad and mum separated will also make you and her separate in the future? Oga, you better let her be... you no serious at all 8 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Should I Continue This Relationship Or Quit? by Nobody: 7:55pm On Oct 30, 2019 |
Newboss: no mind the OP you better let the poor girl be 2 Likes 1 Share |
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