Acidosis:
Take the recommendations on the first page from immature boyfriends and girlfriends at your own peril.

Better move on with your life if she's not going to talk or act.


You would be a very stup!d person to marry someone you have little or no information about her background and family.

Marriage is not a joke. Don't open this kind of thread on romance section again.

Acidosis:


That's why you shouldn't take them and their words seriously. It is better to marry SATAN, than end up with bad in-laws. Take your time to know your in-laws and why they're separated.

frankyskyboi:
Thanks for your opinions.. I'm sorry I can't move ahead with such relationship until I know my woman and where she's coming from in totality. We may underrate this but it's very vital especially in my family. I can't take a one sided story and even if she pops up an answer tomorrow, I'll still do my background investigation. Before presenting her to my parents, they'll ask her same questions I'm asking her so to save the headache, it's better she does the needful.

frankyskyboi:
Thanks for your opinions.. I'm sorry I can't move ahead with such relationship until I know my woman and where she's coming from in totality. We may underrate this but it's very vital especially in my family. I can't take a one sided story and even if she pops up an answer tomorrow, I'll still do my background investigation. Before presenting her to my parents, they'll ask her same questions I'm asking her so to save the headache, it's better she does the needful.

frankyskyboi:
I started a relationship with a lady in March this year and it's been going on well though she works in Lagos while I'm in the eastern part of the country.

When we were at the introductory part of the relationship, I asked about her family and she told me they are separated. I asked what's the reason for the separation and she said its due to irreconcilable differences and they separated when she was a toddler that it's her dad that raised her up tho she keeps contact occasionally with her mum.

She stays with her aunts in Lagos. I asked if she asked both parents to know why and she said she only asked her dad and he said he doesn't want her mum to be working class and she insisted to be One that he wants her to be a stay at home wife. I asked if she heard from her mum and she said no. She also said her aunts said same thing her dad said.

The reason really didn't go down well with me as it's too flimsy and I've told her to ask her mum and she keeps procrastinating or giving one excuse or the other. It beats my imagination how a grown up adult can't know with conviction why her parents separated or I guess the truth is being hidden.

I'm bringing this up here because my brother married from a separated home and it was war before my parents gave consent. If she can't give me concrete reason why the parents broke up which I'll present before my parents, I really don't know how the relationship can move forward because we detest divorce in our family.

Please I need your advice if I should continue or quit.

frankyskyboi:
Thanks for your opinions.. I'm sorry I can't move ahead with such relationship until I know my woman and where she's coming from in totality. We may underrate this but it's very vital especially in my family. I can't take a one sided story and even if she pops up an answer tomorrow, I'll still do my background investigation. Before presenting her to my parents, they'll ask her same questions I'm asking her so to save the headache, it's better she does the needful.

benzene00:
Go and smoke weed

It's better to give him the correct advice.

then come back and answer that question by yourself

Saintbusco1:
you want to follow your brother by marrying from a separated home... its not a good idea bro + she can as well separate with you for irreconcilable differences

johnwell:



Before you embark on any journey with her, PLEASE do yourself good by investigating her, conduct a thorough background check. You have to dig deep into their marriages and life generally, from her grandparents, her uncles and aunts (from both paternal and maternal) so that you will not got yourself into any EVIL FAMILY PATTERN.

Few examples of evil family pattern
- marital failure
- Chronic sickness/diseases
- Poverty
- Sudden death
- Rising and falling
- Rejection
- Witchcraft

Hebrews 13:4-6 (KJV)
Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge.

Sir, you can never achieve a Honorable marriage with anyhow woman, NEVER.
she must be a woman with a Honorable foundation, Honorable past, Honorable character and a Honorable future. If she had many sexual partners, quit. There's no remedy here, the mystery of sex is deep.

Many Women don't know that any man that have sexual intercourse with them sows strange spiritual seeds in them, so imagine if she has slept with 10 men or more, what kinda children will come out of such a polluted and defiled womb? Apart from children, you the husband that sleeps with her will be polluted and defile as well. The marriage covenant doesn't destroy but it activates any pending covenant between both couples, that's why some get richer or poorer or die untimely after marriage.

Let me tell you one mystery of sex; do you know that one occult man can sleep with a woman and convert her womb to his incubator or warehouse irrespective of where he is? Or some use the glory of that womb which means the children that will come out of that kinda womb have lost their glory even before they were born? See this strange scripture below...

Genesis 49:25 (NKJ)
By the God of your father who will help you,
 And by the Almighty who will bless you
 With blessings of heaven above, blessings of the deep that lies beneath, 
Blessings of the breasts and of the womb.

That means to every womb and breast God has attach blessings to them for her husband and children, but it's unfortunate that lots have lost it, they allow all manner of men to suck their breast and sleep with them. Where there's no blessing the opposite will be in abundance.


Psalm 11:3 (KJV)
If the foundations be destroyed, what can the righteous do?

Sir, is her foundation destroyed? You and I knows the answer.
You have to pray prayers of inquiry. I see many commenting out of the abundance of their ignorance, advising you to ignore your findings and proceed if you love her, my prayer for them is "May the Almighty God damage their ignorance".

Love is not a VISA to a successful marriage, you need more than love. Many marriages are suffering today because of faulty foundation, they ignored a lot of things because of love and now that love is far from them, the only thing such marriages have in abundance is ENDURANCE, LONG-SUFFERING, PERSEVERANCE, etc. may this not be your portion.

You have to pray the following prayers:

Jeremiah 33:3
Call to Me, and I will answer you, and show you great and mighty things, which you do not know

Daniel 2:22
He reveals deep and secret things; He knows what is in the darkness, And light dwells with Him.

- O God my Father, by your mercy, show me the mystery of sister (mention her name) daughter of (mention the mom's name)
- My Father, what will my life/future be if I marry her?
- Holy Spirit, show me the true/spiritual identity of sister (mention her name)
- Will she bring subtraction, or addition, or a multiplication to my life? Father show me.

God will answer you through dreams, whatever you dream about her you can share with me then I will give you the interpretations.

The conclusion of the matter is;
- Marriage was made for enjoyment not endurance
- Those that miss it will always tell you that marriage is to be endured
- Avoid people that says "I need someone that will love me the way I am" (Romans 12:2 says; And be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what is that good, and acceptable, and perfect, will of God.) if there's no elements of change in he/she, quit.

God bless you!

frankyskyboi:
Well, once again, I appreciate your opinion. The fact is that I love her very much. So even if she had told me infidelity caused the parent's separation, I would still go ahead at least for being honest. It's the Igbo tradition to do necessary enquiries before marrying your spouse and I respect it. So all those saying be mature,you don't love her and you're not ready bla bla bla.. you're entitled to your opinion. If something comes up later in the marriage and i bring it up, the same hypocrites would still ask me why didn't I investigate well before marriage and start giving me yeye marriage counseling. Thank you all. Criticism is highly welcome

Acidosis:


That's why you shouldn't take them and their words seriously. It is better to marry SATAN, than end up with bad in-laws. Take your time to know your in-laws and why they're separated.

NerdyNedu:


I think you have to see the movie Crazy Rich Asians.

She was never a part of whatever transpired then, don't hold it against her. Because by doing so, you focus on what had happened, rather than what is happening.

What has happened wasn't her fault, but what's happening is solely yours bro.

frankyskyboi:
I started a relationship with a lady in March this year and it's been going on well though she works in Lagos while I'm in the eastern part of the country.

When we were at the introductory part of the relationship, I asked about her family and she told me they are separated. I asked what's the reason for the separation and she said its due to irreconcilable differences and they separated when she was a toddler that it's her dad that raised her up tho she keeps contact occasionally with her mum.

She stays with her aunts in Lagos. I asked if she asked both parents to know why and she said she only asked her dad and he said he doesn't want her mum to be working class and she insisted to be One that he wants her to be a stay at home wife. I asked if she heard from her mum and she said no. She also said her aunts said same thing her dad said.

The reason really didn't go down well with me as it's too flimsy and I've told her to ask her mum and she keeps procrastinating or giving one excuse or the other. It beats my imagination how a grown up adult can't know with conviction why her parents separated or I guess the truth is being hidden.

I'm bringing this up here because my brother married from a separated home and it was war before my parents gave consent. If she can't give me concrete reason why the parents broke up which I'll present before my parents, I really don't know how the relationship can move forward because we detest divorce in our family.

Please I need your advice if I should continue or quit.

LilMissFavvy:
You do not love her, simple.

frankyskyboi:
I started a relationship with a lady in March this year and it's been going on well though she works in Lagos while I'm in the eastern part of the country.

When we were at the introductory part of the relationship, I asked about her family and she told me they are separated. I asked what's the reason for the separation and she said its due to irreconcilable differences and they separated when she was a toddler that it's her dad that raised her up tho she keeps contact occasionally with her mum.

She stays with her aunts in Lagos. I asked if she asked both parents to know why and she said she only asked her dad and he said he doesn't want her mum to be working class and she insisted to be One that he wants her to be a stay at home wife. I asked if she heard from her mum and she said no. She also said her aunts said same thing her dad said.

The reason really didn't go down well with me as it's too flimsy and I've told her to ask her mum and she keeps procrastinating or giving one excuse or the other. It beats my imagination how a grown up adult can't know with conviction why her parents separated or I guess the truth is being hidden.

I'm bringing this up here because my brother married from a separated home and it was war before my parents gave consent. If she can't give me concrete reason why the parents broke up which I'll present before my parents, I really don't know how the relationship can move forward because we detest divorce in our family.

Please I need your advice if I should continue or quit.

AryaSand:


Yen, Yen, Yen, Yen, Yen. Jargons!
FYI, children from broken homes makes the best spouses because they never want to put their kids through what they went through. They put in Double Extra effort to make their Marriage WORK!

Bahddo:
How do you immature people even even convince yourselves that you are ready for marriage? You can't even look at issues objectively and reach an independent decision.

So if you marry a lady whose parents aren't separated, it guarantees that your own marriage wouldn't end in divorce?

frankyskyboi:
Thanks for your opinions.. I'm sorry I can't move ahead with such relationship until I know my woman and where she's coming from in totality. We may underrate this but it's very vital especially in my family. I can't take a one sided story and even if she pops up an answer tomorrow, I'll still do my background investigation. Before presenting her to my parents, they'll ask her same questions I'm asking her so to save the headache, it's better she does the needful.

RedCreme21:
It doesnt mean history would repeat itself. The issue might be personal for her (i was raise by my mum alone. Although she's a widow, i hate talking about my past, too many bitter memories). Might be the same with her. Or its as she said. If she's a good girl, dont hesitate to marry her. All that 'children raised by single parents are bad' rubbish aint true. Infact we grow up with more determination not to make the same mistakes as our parents. Thats why we excel

Elliot2:
A sensible man will still ask how the parents managed to stay together,in order to see her orientation. Na una go still blame the op if tomorrow wahala happen,why him no ask questions before marrying. Tueh! Na follow follow dey worry una for this nairaland. Cos once the first comment drop, una don run with am.

frankyskyboi:
I started a relationship with a lady in March this year and it's been going on well though she works in Lagos while I'm in the eastern part of the country.

When we were at the introductory part of the relationship, I asked about her family and she told me they are separated. I asked what's the reason for the separation and she said its due to irreconcilable differences and they separated when she was a toddler that it's her dad that raised her up tho she keeps contact occasionally with her mum.

She stays with her aunts in Lagos. I asked if she asked both parents to know why and she said she only asked her dad and he said he doesn't want her mum to be working class and she insisted to be One that he wants her to be a stay at home wife. I asked if she heard from her mum and she said no. She also said her aunts said same thing her dad said.

The reason really didn't go down well with me as it's too flimsy and I've told her to ask her mum and she keeps procrastinating or giving one excuse or the other. It beats my imagination how a grown up adult can't know with conviction why her parents separated or I guess the truth is being hidden.

I'm bringing this up here because my brother married from a separated home and it was war before my parents gave consent. If she can't give me concrete reason why the parents broke up which I'll present before my parents, I really don't know how the relationship can move forward because we detest divorce in our family.

Please I need your advice if I should continue or quit.