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Re: How Can My Parents Evict My Troublesome Uncles? by Nobody: 10:39am On Dec 05, 2019 |
Alashoalash10: Me sef taya for the umuna 3 Likes |
Re: How Can My Parents Evict My Troublesome Uncles? by dejol88: 10:41am On Dec 05, 2019 |
I logged in to chip in . I have a close relative who had similar issue but was not treated when their parent were alive .Today they are suffering from their parent inaction. Please, do not wait for your parent to act since you describe your dad has a peace loving man rather you and your siblings should do the needful immediately. Failure to act now that everyone is still alive , might not go well when they all leave this planet earth . Do not waste anytime further because delay is dangerous. Do not postpone this matter for any reason. Please , discontinue involving ummuna rather use your state tenancy laws through the guidance of a lawyer. A word is enough 8 Likes |
Re: How Can My Parents Evict My Troublesome Uncles? by jemigold: 10:42am On Dec 05, 2019 |
If the house was built in your family compound(your grandfather's compound) he will have serious problem asking them to leave. But if its sited in an entirely different location, he can send them away. 5 Likes |
Re: How Can My Parents Evict My Troublesome Uncles? by urchcherry(f): 10:43am On Dec 05, 2019 |
This the exact situation my dad got us into when we were small, my uncles even use to beat us and one day slapped my mum, to tell you how the house was a funji house of commotion , funny thing is my dad was the one that built the house and gave them one room each just like you narrated, my dad had to buy another land elsewhere immediately the boy's quarter was completed we rushed and packed in there till the main building was completed and till now the drama over there seems not to have an end but we are exempted sometimes any mess up there they come to my parents that is living far away to report the issues. I don't see those ur uncles as those that are ready to vacant if ur papa get the money he should forfeit there and build another for himself, those uncles can kill because of that so it's better he give them some distance. 3 Likes |
Re: How Can My Parents Evict My Troublesome Uncles? by cybug: 10:43am On Dec 05, 2019 |
We've seen cases like this everywhere... If care is taken, those your uncles will kill your father and claimed the house. Your Dad is too soft to handle them. 2 Likes |
Re: How Can My Parents Evict My Troublesome Uncles? by Nobody: 10:43am On Dec 05, 2019 |
tomdon: Lol. My dad is the first son and he built the house solely on his portion of his inheritance as first son. The ownership of the house is not in question. It's just that they do not want to leave, saying that they will take their time to build their own house, and that's only when they'll leave. 3 Likes |
Re: How Can My Parents Evict My Troublesome Uncles? by deebrain(m): 10:44am On Dec 05, 2019 |
Your dad made a very sensitive mistake. Get the police and lawyers to do the obvious. Then after that (this is merely literal--- you should be soaked in God always), follow God like glue and be filled with His power. The battle will most definitely enter spiritual warfare. Do not be afraid. That is of course, if you belong to God vis a vis a believer in Jesus Christ. 2 Likes |
Re: How Can My Parents Evict My Troublesome Uncles? by Nobody: 10:46am On Dec 05, 2019 |
safarigirl: The house has no papers, it's all this house people just build on their inherited land in the village. Again, ownership of the house is not in question. 1 Like |
Re: How Can My Parents Evict My Troublesome Uncles? by Shegzy8(m): 10:47am On Dec 05, 2019 |
Nlearn:Lose the case? Like his own house. |
Re: How Can My Parents Evict My Troublesome Uncles? by gbeseun(m): 10:48am On Dec 05, 2019 |
AceOfRed: Hi guy Please if you still need your father alive,the best is to leave the properties for them Or since their rooms are different from youra,let ur dad use brick to create walland block them to their own side so you wont be having to do anything together aside greeting. Let me.be truthful bro,your dad cannot evacuate these two men and unless God does. So they are your ancestral enemy you will live with till eternity. 7 Likes 1 Share |
Re: How Can My Parents Evict My Troublesome Uncles? by sharone21(f): 10:48am On Dec 05, 2019 |
jaymichael:You talk my heart finish my dear.... But it must be a secret if not this wicked, ungrateful siblings will be praying that there should be no buyer.... Some men have poor mentality and now marry wives like themselves, these ones no like progress. 2 Likes |
Re: How Can My Parents Evict My Troublesome Uncles? by donifez(m): 10:49am On Dec 05, 2019 |
AceOfRed: To be truthful to you. We are in the same dilemma, the same 5 bedrooms. What my Dad wants to do now is to build another house outside their Obi. I guess your Dad house is inside the Obi. But he won't tell them that he has left the house for them ooh. Just build another house for his safety. My Dad half brothers are highly diabolical and my Dad was advised by many people to take that route to avoid future brouhaha. 7 Likes |
Re: How Can My Parents Evict My Troublesome Uncles? by Shegzy8(m): 10:49am On Dec 05, 2019 |
paix: You guys are just saying build another house as if it cost 1k to do that. 8 Likes |
Re: How Can My Parents Evict My Troublesome Uncles? by gbeseun(m): 10:49am On Dec 05, 2019 |
baby124: And they will kill the old.man after abi. You dont know these people.can do and undo. Holywood film.det sence at times. Watch and learn 1 Like |
Re: How Can My Parents Evict My Troublesome Uncles? by Bigcowhorn: 10:50am On Dec 05, 2019 |
madridguy: Are you not aware that some situations, even in a family, cannot be fixed? Trying can kill you. 3 Likes |
Re: How Can My Parents Evict My Troublesome Uncles? by donifez(m): 10:51am On Dec 05, 2019 |
AceOfRed: Your Dad is the first son. That means he has a say. He should make them leave then but should be very careful. My Dad is their half brother and not the first son. That is where the scenario differs. But if he can build another house outside the Obi. That will help against future brouhaha. It's not easy, Land in my village now runs in millions of Naira. 1 Like |
Re: How Can My Parents Evict My Troublesome Uncles? by safarigirl(f): 10:53am On Dec 05, 2019 |
AceOfRed:house has no papers? Is there any proof of inheritance? Because if it has no papers, anyone can claimit. If Your uncles have lived there long enough, they can claim ownership by virtue of having had possession there for a long period of time. 4 Likes |
Re: How Can My Parents Evict My Troublesome Uncles? by MarianaTrench: 10:53am On Dec 05, 2019 |
This is one of the downsides of letting close family member live in your house 4 Likes |
Re: How Can My Parents Evict My Troublesome Uncles? by Osa0(m): 10:53am On Dec 05, 2019 |
If you guys have excess funds get another land else where and build another house. Then sell the property in question about 6 months after packing out. Lastly get very spiritual to combat any diabolic attacks. AceOfRed: 1 Like |
Re: How Can My Parents Evict My Troublesome Uncles? by dejol88: 10:54am On Dec 05, 2019 |
AceOfRed: Involve a lawyer to help regularize your paper through the ministry of lands. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: How Can My Parents Evict My Troublesome Uncles? by hakeemhakeem(m): 10:54am On Dec 05, 2019 |
Tell your dad to rent an apartment somewhere pack in and inform his brothers that the house has been sold with a plan with a real estate firm to act as buyer and rent it out for some years 2 Likes |
Re: How Can My Parents Evict My Troublesome Uncles? by donifez(m): 10:55am On Dec 05, 2019 |
Osa0: I am not sure they can sell out rightly if the house is in the Obi. Does not look right. |
Re: How Can My Parents Evict My Troublesome Uncles? by kid7soccer(m): 10:58am On Dec 05, 2019 |
My dear when juju enter matter it is another thing. If your family is a prayerful one, take charge spiritually, get a lawyer to issue them notice to vacate the place. Another thing is, if you can't fight the battle it better you run for your life. your family should vacate the house for them, Go and build another house, move in and rest. Am sorry to say this too, but you father is not a wise man. he should have sent them packing the day they got married. You can't chase them away now after harbouring for all this year till the first child is 20yrs Your father has to finish what he has started. Shikina AceOfRed: |
Re: How Can My Parents Evict My Troublesome Uncles? by donifez(m): 10:59am On Dec 05, 2019 |
urchcherry: Exactly what I suggested. It is not easy but it is worth it 2 Likes |
Re: How Can My Parents Evict My Troublesome Uncles? by baby124: 11:04am On Dec 05, 2019 |
gbeseun:You watch too much nollywood. OP’s father is too kind. There are some family members you can’t try this nonsense with. Shebi it’s one room each. By the time I remove all the roof, windows and doors. Borrow vicious dogs and let them loose in the compound. They will be the ones begging and crying to leave. 1 Like |
Re: How Can My Parents Evict My Troublesome Uncles? by Nobody: 11:05am On Dec 05, 2019 |
baby124: Funnily enough, I have another uncle, the youngest brother of my dad. He was living in the house too, but when the brouhaha started, he left and built his own house. Now, he sits in the comfort of his own house to support my other uncle's not to leave until they are prepared. My dad once asked him to give one of my uncle's a room in his new house, but he refused. 1 Like |
Re: How Can My Parents Evict My Troublesome Uncles? by baby124: 11:06am On Dec 05, 2019 |
AceOfRed:He’s supporting them because he knows that if they chase them out, they will face his own house. Lol. He’s the smartest of them all. 10 Likes 1 Share |
Re: How Can My Parents Evict My Troublesome Uncles? by BabangidaHamza(m): 11:06am On Dec 05, 2019 |
To be sincere issues like this are very difficult and complex to rectify.. I gave you shelter before you got married and after marrying for over 20yrs you still can't afford to even build a 3bedroom flat? Common man, you dad is treating this issue with a child's hand.. Is either they make peace reign by force or I placed them to where they belong... Bura ubanci ma kenan!!! 1 Like |
Re: How Can My Parents Evict My Troublesome Uncles? by Forumobserver12(m): 11:07am On Dec 05, 2019 |
[quote author=madridguy post=84635419][b]It is true that some mistakes can never be corrected in life. Tell your dad to try and make peace with his brothers and forget about evicting them. You should also try your best to stay neutral so your relationship with your cousins will forever remain intact. Nice advise, it's a very delicate situation and the Dad need to apply wisdom, if no be say money dey yab man the man for even leave the house for the troublesome brothers go build another elsewhere.. To give monkey water with cup dey easy but na to collect the cup back be problem.. 1 Like |
Re: How Can My Parents Evict My Troublesome Uncles? by Nobody: 11:07am On Dec 05, 2019 |
donifez: Exactly, my dad is the first son, and built the house in the obi. There's no way he can uproot from such a place. It's unheard of. 1 Like |
Re: How Can My Parents Evict My Troublesome Uncles? by NICOGRAVITY: 11:08am On Dec 05, 2019 |
My honest advice to you is this. 1 Make peace first before involving the Police, lawyer or any other institutions. 2 Tomorrow is pregnant, nobody knows what it will give birth to. You might be in need that only your cousins can solve. 3 Ask your father to call a meeting with his siblings. Let him make peace with them. And if he can help them build or rent he should do so. 4 For your father to have given them rooms, means that the entire family used to be in harmony, peace, joy and happiness and they all wished your father well. 5 Go and find out the Genesis of the problem and resolve it from there. 6 Remember, it's just an ordinary house. Don't let it take anyone's life. People can do anything possible when under pressure and without alter. 7 Be the person that unites the family. Always speak PEACE. Don't ever speak derogatory to any party involved so you are not quoted tomorrow. 8 Ask your mum to love and keep peace with other wife's, their children and the family. 9 Prayer prayer prayer prayer prayer prayer prayer 10 PEACE PEACE PEACE PEACE PEACE PEACE PEACE PEACE PEACE PEACE PEACE PEACE PEACE PEACE PEACE PEACE PEACE PEACE PEACE PEACE PEACE PEACE PEACE PEACE PEACE PEACE PEACE PEACE PEACE PEACE PEACE PEACE PEACE PEACE PEACE PEACE PEACE PEACE PEACE PEACE PEACE PEACE PEACE PEACE PEACE PEACE PEACE 4 Likes |
Re: How Can My Parents Evict My Troublesome Uncles? by Nobody: 11:09am On Dec 05, 2019 |
For those of us saying call lawyer, call police, evict them etc, igbo culture handles cases like this differently. First, the guy didn't tell us if the land his father built on is a generational land, if the family has generational house before, if their father divided land among the brothers( That's his father and his brothers) Now, if the house is a family house ie the main house which the first son or whoever that has money usually build for the family, my dear, the customary court will rule against your father, the police will blatantly tell u to go home and settle the case and u cannot remove the roof over their head. The first son automatically become father once their dad dies and if their dad didn't build family house or the one he built was pulled down and the first son built another one, it's expected the the rest of the family will join him Now, to avoid trouble, he can build smaller ones for his brothers if they don't have the money to build. That is how it's done. U don't drive your brothers out of the house because u hate one another. Make peace or work hard to build something for them in their own part of the family land. U want to evict them to go and live where? And as for you the @op, u the kids and especially you the first son will know better that continuing in this madness that may destroy generations to come. Your dad made that mistake, don't repeat it. Your unborn kids might inherit what they don't have idea when it started. Lives lost because of one house, yes, people can go that far. Wisdom is profitable to him who has ear. You all should call for peace and hustle to make your own money, go somewhere and build your village house and leave that house for them. U should learn from your dad's mistake. Peace and avoiding stuffs like this is always the best way out. Ignore all the police, court whatever as they will rule against u and deepen the strife and hatred. That is why the ùmùnna is stalling. U don't chase a brother out from a supposed family house because u are the one who built it unless there is need for that e.g. if he is a thief or a killer in which case the ùmùnna will proudly and boldly do that for u. Be wise and save your generation. 8 Likes 1 Share |
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