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Re: How Can My Parents Evict My Troublesome Uncles? by paix(m): 12:51pm On Dec 05, 2019 |
Shegzy8:Thank you sir, for understanding me. It's not easy I know. |
Re: How Can My Parents Evict My Troublesome Uncles? by Brightgem(f): 12:52pm On Dec 05, 2019 |
sassysure:Everybody, here is one of the uncles on Nairaland o! |
Re: How Can My Parents Evict My Troublesome Uncles? by Alexanity(m): 12:58pm On Dec 05, 2019 |
We are yet to hear both side of the story, 1. Did your father demolish the main family house while building his house, becuase it usually happens with first born, if your father built his house in the main compound where your grandfather lived and he demolished the house, your father should get ready for a big battle becuase they can claim that's their general house what your father could have done is not share the main plot and build another house for his own plot, that main building could belong to every Okpara of the family he should use his sense while there is still time. 2 Likes |
Re: How Can My Parents Evict My Troublesome Uncles? by DEBJOCH1(m): 1:01pm On Dec 05, 2019 |
AFRICAN MAGIC COME TO MIND, NKEM OWO VISIT OKE DIBIA CHIWETALU AGWU, AND YOUR UNCLE EVIL WIFE PATIENCE EZEKWU BY THE SIDE GIVING YOUR MUM AND SIBLINGS HARD TIME AND THE TITLE OF THE MOVIE IS " THE MISTAKE OF MY FATHER" WATCH OUT FOR PART TWO 1 Like |
Re: How Can My Parents Evict My Troublesome Uncles? by loganx: 1:03pm On Dec 05, 2019 |
If the judiciary was not lame, they will all down tools and take a stand against executive bullying. until federal government calls one of its attack dogs which is the DSS to order |
Re: How Can My Parents Evict My Troublesome Uncles? by damoobaba: 1:05pm On Dec 05, 2019 |
AwkaetitiBabe: Why should the dad be the one to encourage them to build? Their brains should have told them that the house doesn't belong to them. Thank God its not someone like me that they are messing up with. You don't leave that house in a week, na army I go tell make them come flog any LIVING THING in any of those rooms. What's my business with umunne, na them give me money build the house? |
Re: How Can My Parents Evict My Troublesome Uncles? by koning: 1:07pm On Dec 05, 2019 |
sassysure: This building of house in the Obi is a very strong issue in Igboland. Sibling entitlement is strong. My dad built a bouse in the village in the early 80s. We have never slept one night in that house. It was completely taken over by his brothers, sister and their family. This is because we have always lived in the city. Goes home like once in a year. Dad later built another one is his own personal piece of land given to him by the Umunna. The flip side to this is that he is held in very high regard by the rest of the family. He can do no wrong. So i sometimes understand the rational behind not chasing your brothers out of your house built on the ancestral land. It's a very delicate issue in Igboland. 2 Likes |
Re: How Can My Parents Evict My Troublesome Uncles? by madridguy(m): 1:09pm On Dec 05, 2019 |
Re: How Can My Parents Evict My Troublesome Uncles? by extremelygolden: 1:19pm On Dec 05, 2019 |
SmileDance: Op, please here, SmileDance has giving you the answer to your question. You see, the issue of land or house dispute, as the case may be, is always a dicey one. Tell your dad to thread cautiously and you too. In fact, you and your siblings must not get involved in the matter at all. Tell your dad to go source for loan from the bank, use the house as collateral, with the intent not to pay back and use the money to build another house somewhere outside the family compound. And the building of the new house must be kept secret. Bunch of wicked uncles married to unreasonable wives. |
Re: How Can My Parents Evict My Troublesome Uncles? by Nobody: 1:19pm On Dec 05, 2019 |
AwkaetitiBabe:At my place. Can u DM 4 location? |
Re: How Can My Parents Evict My Troublesome Uncles? by Nobody: 1:26pm On Dec 05, 2019 |
damoobaba:The man made a mistake, he should have sound it into their eardrums that they moving out once married. Close relationships are strained when people from different backgrounds get involved 1 Like |
Re: How Can My Parents Evict My Troublesome Uncles? by Nobody: 1:27pm On Dec 05, 2019 |
Luiz1:I no need that kinda gift jarey. Thank u |
Re: How Can My Parents Evict My Troublesome Uncles? by Nobody: 1:30pm On Dec 05, 2019 |
AwkaetitiBabe:Okay o. But my intentions are pure |
Re: How Can My Parents Evict My Troublesome Uncles? by adanny01(m): 1:31pm On Dec 05, 2019 |
AceOfRed: To the wicked, peace is temporal. To the good hearted, a peace offering seem a solution but ends up futile. I say the only peace you can get is if there is no confrontation. The only way to provide for zero confrontation is to remove one party from the picture. As long as you people stay in the same house and your uncles donot want peace, there is nothing else to do. I don't suggest lawyers, court or the police as a peace measure when these people have diabolical plans. I suggest that your dad build say rooms like a hostel that will be affordable to him. These rooms will be seen as an upgrade to their single rooms. The trick is to get them out of the main flat. The hidden trick is that, your father should build to fence them out. The building should be place strategically as a sacrifice of the land it sits on. Drag them out peace fully then lock them out. Be carefull not to be out played by the wicked. If your dad builds for them, do not hand over the building without a commitment from them to move out (umunna's as witness and enforcers). If they refuse to move out, set up the place as a business place and temporary move out. Sell the property as last resort. Your father made a huge mistake from the on set while having very wicked siblings. From where I come from, building an apartment in the village means building extra rooms for siblings and old parents else your own house will be overtaken. My father build his village house and built 6 adjoining rooms in a hostel style. The main flat is 3 bedroom with a kitchen. The hostel rooms where allocated 1 for our grandma/daughters and 1 for step grandma/daughters and 2 for uncles. My dads cousin did a big 6 bedroom mansion in the village, he has 8 rooms hostel behind the big mansion. My father inlaw is a sibling to a retired military General. The General built is house and fence it detached from a 16 room hostel for his brothers. 3 brothers have their own flats now. And plenty empty rooms are available. Thats the way to go. |
Re: How Can My Parents Evict My Troublesome Uncles? by Nobody: 1:31pm On Dec 05, 2019 |
koning:Yes, it's a very sensitive issue in igboland which is always handled with caution. What people normally do is help their brothers to build theirs even if two rooms without kitchen etc to avoid cases like this. Obi belongs to the first born but if others don't have a place to call their own yet, they are stuck with you. Anytime their children made money to build house, they know what to do. If it's the first sons son that made money, he will build a house close to that one and leave that one to the rest of the family members Eventually that house will become theirs though it will take time |
Re: How Can My Parents Evict My Troublesome Uncles? by Nobody: 1:40pm On Dec 05, 2019 |
ImaIma1: If u are igbo, u will understand the dynamics. It doesn't matter who built it. It's called THE FAMILY HOUSE aka the obi. Obi house belongs to everybody until others can find their feet Constitutionally and traditionally, he can't evict them. The court wilk tell them.to go and settle in peace likewise the police. I have never heard of somebody being evicted from the family house. Being the first son, u are giving more privileges than others because of instances like this. Igbo people here understands what I'm talking about. 1 Like |
Re: How Can My Parents Evict My Troublesome Uncles? by Dechymmytv(f): 1:40pm On Dec 05, 2019 |
AceOfRed:relax your dad is protecting you guys.... They should find a way to make peace... But if he have to evict them, he should do it sense so that he will not leave a life long badbelle for you and your siblings... Something like renting another place for them that you want to use the rooms for something else, or even that you want to break it down and build another one or renovate.. Something that won't make people think your father is wicked without hearing the two sides of the story.. |
Re: How Can My Parents Evict My Troublesome Uncles? by Nobody: 1:46pm On Dec 05, 2019 |
Alexanity:U have a valid point. If he demolished the main.building to build this one, then it's for everybody. It's only if the other building by their grandfather is still standing and they are claiming this one with him, the ùmùnna alone will evict them. He should have build even one one room each for them. As he didn't do so, they are stuck together. His son has come to start dragging an old house when he should chose peace. If he has made money, who cares about an old house in the village? Build yours and build for those two also |
Re: How Can My Parents Evict My Troublesome Uncles? by Jamersirwin1971: 1:47pm On Dec 05, 2019 |
Your dad should let them Have the two rooms and you guys stick to the three bedroom flats . My friends dad also has the same issue he just left them with where his brothers are and he had to do few court papers so in future the brothers won’t claim the house . According to what my friend said the lawyer prepared a will that his uncles would have the flats at the back and his wife and children would have the other flats .. Even if any happens to them in the future the house and land would be sold and money giving out to charities . So it’s a 50/50 check .. the uncles can’t harm the children in future when my friends dad is no more or come say then want to take the house in future . At the end my friend dad sold the house and bought another one . That’s how he and his brothers went different ways |
Re: How Can My Parents Evict My Troublesome Uncles? by harry2sexy(m): 1:51pm On Dec 05, 2019 |
I seldom comment on nairaland but I will do you the honour. @Op, like it or not, this fight will go beyond the house ownership or whats not and you might win in the eyes of the law but trust me, when jazz kills a man, there's no court in the world that can judge such a case. Like I'll always say, EVERY MAN IN THIS WORLD IS USING SOMETHING, so here's what you do and I'm assuming you're a christian, get policemen to evict them, but that's the easy part. Have you heard all those mountain of fire prayer point where they pray against enemy in my father's house, that's the kind of prayer you'll engage in until You see result cos trust me, your uncles and their families will never back down, blood must rush so no need praying gentle man prayer. Mind you, I'm not religious, but I have small understanding of spiritual things and I know that juju is very real but Jehovah God is the head of all. Op, make sure if you eventually get them ejected, you fight all unseen battles spiritually, wish you God's protection |
Re: How Can My Parents Evict My Troublesome Uncles? by Okikaneseokwu: 1:54pm On Dec 05, 2019 |
AceOfRed:Brother I feel ur pain, I'm in a similar situation, though we stay in different apartments in the same compound but their problems are much.They are the evil ones here,but they will be accusing in return.Only God can deliver our fathers from wicked siblings. |
Re: How Can My Parents Evict My Troublesome Uncles? by barristerbiodun(m): 1:55pm On Dec 05, 2019 |
Your uncles cannot be served a notice to quit as they are not tenants and so do not pay rent. The more appropriate word would be Licensee because your father voluntarily gave them the permission to occupy those rooms. In a normal case, Self-Help would have sufficed but because of the familial ties it will not be advisable as the law also frowns at it.. The best and effective way to achieve their eviction will be by applying to the customary court within the jurisdiction the property is located. They will deal with the issue appropriately and will also be able to apply lawful force to execute their court orders where and when necessary to guarantee eviction. The Police may intervene though, if it has degenerated to reasonable apprehension or actual assault or threat of violence. |
Re: How Can My Parents Evict My Troublesome Uncles? by Influential101: 1:57pm On Dec 05, 2019 |
AceOfRed:Unfortunately the land is their Obi thus your dad can't send them out until they've built their own house.. that's the rule in Igbo land. The obi is like the family house even though your father owns the land/house because he's the first son. You'll have to report the threats to the police though. |
Re: How Can My Parents Evict My Troublesome Uncles? by Buffalo2(m): 1:57pm On Dec 05, 2019 |
Chairman, please work hard and leave that enclave and take the lesson learnt with you. It is very important so that you wont repeat the mistakes of your father. I wish you all the best as you try to do so. 1 Like |
Re: How Can My Parents Evict My Troublesome Uncles? by Ogegod87: 2:06pm On Dec 05, 2019 |
Nlearn: I'm shocked to read this. Emwanta? |
Re: How Can My Parents Evict My Troublesome Uncles? by saintneo(m): 2:08pm On Dec 05, 2019 |
AceOfRed: As onye Igbo, you parents know the solution to this problem. If your Dad built a house in the 80's which he allowed his younger ones to occupy some parts, the best thing he can do is to UPSCALE - build a bigger and better mansion elsewhere then move his family there. Secondly, your family needs to be undergo deliverance and strengthen yourselves in God (MFM style) - note that if your Dad embarks upon building a new house, he could be speared diabolically so as to prevent him from completing the house. Eviction will never work, because from your description these uncles are not well to do; thus, they do not have the means to build their own house. I have being in this situation, I and my sibs underwent lots of diabolical attacks - our parents passed away in terrible ways; nevertheless, we are stronger now (with God on our side). 2 Likes |
Re: How Can My Parents Evict My Troublesome Uncles? by Worksunlimited: 2:12pm On Dec 05, 2019 |
AceOfRed: Small change and police will come do the needful. |
Re: How Can My Parents Evict My Troublesome Uncles? by ImaIma1(f): 2:14pm On Dec 05, 2019 |
sassysure: The best thing would be to sell the house and finally allow them find their feet. The new owners can evict them. At least the tradition will not forbid that. |
Re: How Can My Parents Evict My Troublesome Uncles? by Nobody: 2:16pm On Dec 05, 2019 |
Your dad should have just built a little family house for them separate from his own house. Now look, there is nothing for you his kids to enjoy. When he dies, they will give your mum headache. Let him involve a lawyer and police fast!!! |
Re: How Can My Parents Evict My Troublesome Uncles? by vincoye: 2:18pm On Dec 05, 2019 |
I can see brothers living happily and friendly until women entered in the name of marriage. P Square is a good example of what i am saying. Under rate women and what they can do at your own peril. Judges 14 is the bible lesson today. |
Re: How Can My Parents Evict My Troublesome Uncles? by Okikaneseokwu: 2:24pm On Dec 05, 2019 |
As long as it's a village house,don't expect the umunna to side ur father in evicting them. The normal anthem will always be "they will leave when they build their own houses or u build one for them" Especially if the said building is in the family land. My advice is to take it easy with them and hand everything over to God. Evicting them forcefully from that house is a war that won't end even in the fourth generation coming. Take solace in the fact that u will make it big in life,by then u build a house for them no matter how small, by then any action ur family takes in evicting them will be justified. |
Re: How Can My Parents Evict My Troublesome Uncles? by sarutobi: 2:33pm On Dec 05, 2019 |
like1: ok, we get it, your family is successful now. BUT the point is, when you are living in another man's house, you need to behave yourself. Your brother should not be shitting everywhere and you mum should be cooking in the right place. I am not saying your relatives don't have any blame, i am just pointing out some things in your story. My mum's sister's kid shits on the floor and uses our curtains to clean his ass! My mom scolds the boy and then lectures her sister on why her kids are not well trained. This boy was 6 years old at the time. I hated anytime they were around. |
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