Report this issue to her parents

beat that guy up real bad and lash your sister too...and talk some sense into her..but talk alone no go do this one beat the two of them up well with a stern warning to continue the beating if that silly behavior no stop...threaten that guy with a court case and jail since ur sis is a minor

classc25:
Why does your14 year old sister have a Facebook account? What is she using it for? Social media is not for her especially in this stage of her life.

Don’t let the authorities hear this from u in saner, civilized countries....how can u say a 14year can’t use the internet, what they need is monitoring and guidiance....the Op’s Sister doesn’t even have a phone and she’s on face book...what of the ones that now have personal phones

Some guys d f up big time. 14 years! It's happening everywhere. 30 yr old guys be trying to lure small girls into their rooms. At 18 or 19, the girl would have mastered the art of sex that will shock their male counterparts

Snooping into other peoples Business is a bad habit. Now that you have seen what you are looking for, beating her won't solve it, it will only make it worse. Sit her down and explain to her. Make valid points like,
1) she's too young.
2) the guy doesn't like her he just wants to take advantage of her.
3) she can get pregnant
4) she can get STDs
5) she can even be used for ritual
Beating it not the way. But find that pedophile, and beat him half to death

let her know the implications that it may have on his life spans,you need to educate and counsel her,let her understand that she has been selling her bride price so cheaply from teenage,let her know that she too little for such thing.

smat101:
I Am Planing To Seriously Beat My Kid Sister 2moro Morning

What I was scared of is finally happening...
I've a lot to say but let me try to be brief...

It's been 4years+ since I last went home to see my mum and siblings. I really love my kid sister so much even more than my mum.

There is a lot to say but to cut the long story short, when I came back she had already developed breast but she is just 14 years.
Just today I talked to her about sex, boyfriends, pornography relationship, sex, everything in that area.

Recently she was using my phone for Facebook, then I asked her consent to read some of her messages which she agreed. As I was reading through she dragged the phone from my hand when I wanted to click a particular chat. I became inquisitive but respected her privacy. I then asked her to log out when she is done...

Just this night I wanted to login to my Facebook then I clicked the Facebook icon her account was still logged in... What I saw broke my heart, she was planning to send nudes to a guy and the guy was planning to have sex with her this weekend, she kept on telling him that she was afraid, but he kept on telling her he will use condom, that she should not be afraid...

My problem is that she is a minor and this guy is 27...

So this is what I plan to do, Flog her thoroughly very early tomorrow, then later talk to her again...
Then that bastard beat him up in the evening with two other guys...

I really love this girl and Want the best for her pls parents preferably how should I handle this matter .

supported

Most times , we are stubborn till what we are meant to avoid catch up with us or nails us red handed

(1) Not until your bf or gf gets u life and direct (red-handed), You will still flirt or cheat
(2) Not until the doctor scares you that u have signs of HIV after a test, You will still knack without protection.
(Knack with clean babes you are very sure of. Go for a test. of cos u r clean, but if the doctor jokes with u. before telling u the truth, u will feel like reversing the hands of time. infact after telling u, u r not HIV Positive, u wont sex without protection again.

(3) Not until robbers rob you at late night, you will still come back late at night OR feel your area is safe.
(4) Not until you get an accident because u didnt use the pedestrian bridge, you will keep ignoring pedestrian bridge.

ETC.

Bro, what you will do is admonish her very well. tell her more about LOVE and SEX. the d angers etc. Tell her about fuckboys.
Then track her both on whatsapp and facebook to the paedophiles house, while they are naked and about to open the door, use someone else to bang in and take pictures of them both,. (Dont go yourself, else she wont be scared of next time).

Then let the guy you use threaten her till she gives up that programme.

Dont you have a mum
Y are u doing ur mom's job

Bro... that's what 14 year olds do.... rush for experience... after seeing sex glorified.... hearing from her peers ... everybody around her has some experience to share... why should she be left out? You would be telling one thing... the guys and her peers be telling her another... you against them... battle for the mind. Take violence against her out. It is for you to keep talking to her about the consequences and her loss of respect and value in the future. Always give references to others who she knows.... who rushed into sex.... got pregnant and were dumped... now baby mama.... who has 3 kids 3 different fathers... was never in the plan... who got HIV.... what if the guy set a trap and have her gang raped?.... what if the guy wants her for body parts?...etc.... these kind consequences that she can relate to.... what would become of her higher education?
For the guy... depending on the local Police and how serious they consider sex with minors. If not.... should you ehmmm..... shake up the guy... word would get around to others that your sister is trouble to mess with. I hope you see from her side... and really think on how to approach this matter. She need to have confidence that she can relate any such matters to you to get advice.... you must be her go to person. Do not let her fear you... that's the worse that can happen if you beat her.

Counsel her first sir.

Those of you telling him to beat up the guy or report him are not helping at all. The guy too may have his own group of thugs and may no how to handle the matter when things didn't go as planned.
Your sis is the main problem here? Don't you have parents or elders that could sit her down and talk sense into her head? Religious leaders could help too.
The way girls in secondary schools love sex these days is disheartening. I once have guy who is about 30 who do that to small girls. He has a 16yrs old girlfriend who love her so much. The girl is very brilliant that none of her people were able to find out. I tried to talk to her privately about how the guy sleep with different girls both old and young but she never stopped seeing the guy. According to the guy, the girl don't let her fog, they only suck each other because she wants to do it when she is 18. I have no other choice than to let them be.
As for the guy, go with people to warn him severally before taking any action and save the chats because you may need them as evidence. It's crazy world!

Arrange the beating for Toto terrorist and give him injury to remember then talk to your sister meanwhile don't let your sister know your move or else she will be hiding from you

@Op

Believe me, beating up anybody won't help matters. Understand that your sister's safety is the most important thing here and what you want to ignore is the fact that the rebellion is already in her.

Whadayadou??

Give her the attention she needs. That what teens lack. Listen to her. How she feels about sending the pics. At this stage, it is best to talk about the guy. It is even best to stop talking with your emotions. Just listen.

If you can do this, you will know how to move further. Try as much as possible to stop being emotional.

The world today is all messed up. Kids and teens are taught to embrace whatever they do regardless of consequences. This is why your talks of beating won't help the situation. She is now an adult and she feels old enough to make her decision. Stop seeing her as your 'kid sister' She is now an adult. Take her as a friend

I agree with you, best so far.

Enwhen:



Very simple , leave that idiot 27 years old fool, it's more important to work on your own sister, if u beat the both of them , u would regret it, u will just only poison the mind of both mostly the stupid 27 year old..


Now , your sister is learning fast, all u need to do , reset her mind set with enough slap, don't flog her pls, just be give her hot slaps on her face... There after seat her down talk to her , counsel her with good examples , ask what she wants to be and how she is planning to achieve it , talk to her very well, thereafter , try by all means possible , take her out to a cinema and buy ice cream , CHK, spoil her with anything she want make her happy and during this period be telling her how much u like her and only trying to protect her from evil guys who want to destroy her future and dump her , if u have any close bad example I've it to her , also help her by setting a time that I would love to see her with a reasonable guy , maybe after university of possible.... She needs more talk therapy than beating ..sip it.

If anyone deserves beating here, it should be the agbaya that wants to sleep with a minor. I strongly advise you let the authorities sort him out. But who am I to judge you if you pay a couple of "area boys" to deal out some "gbas gbos."

As for your sister, forget that flogging levels. Instead have a heart to heart but very firm talk with her. Cultivate a trusting friendship with her so that she will be able to confide the most intimate details to you. That way you will be able to provide the necessary guidance and fight off the wolves where necessary.

If you start by beating her, you force her into her shell and lose the plot. Involve your parents too so they can keep a closer eye on her not just physically but digitally too. A lot of parents physically watch and protect their kids but forget that social media is a different exposure all together. They forget to keep an eye on their children's digital footprints. Big mistake!

Let them mate! just make sure she knows why is a bad idea.

Balance might do the trick. Don't paint it bad, let her see the sides. Let her know its something good that can be abused. Let her know how beautiful it is to preserve it for someone who deserves it not a trickster.

Have a conversation about what love feels like and how to sense it better from others. Discuss what relationship is, and what the ideal version is. What she's doing is normal for her age, let her know how to go through it more responsibly. She's doing the right thing the wrong way, it doesn't call for a beating.

Discuss these ideas with her.

Or

Introduce her to something better to do.
If you can provide a worthy exchange, you solve the problem. Right now, nothing sounds better to her than to hop on his ...

Hollup Hollup
Yea Hollup


If you have beaten her already am very sorry bro but you have bleeped up big time ...if u haven't
Here's is my
Ask her if she loves the Guy
if she says yes ...tell her does she think the guy loves her
Coz if he does he won't ask for sex straight up or want anything to do with her nudes for now ..
She is still too young to even be having such thoughts .. Don't try slapping her ..
Tell her that her mates are suppose to be trying to know which class they should be in ...Art or science ...not about flirty adults stuff....And then tell her that the guy is too old for her ...She should rather stay off the Facebook for now in general..
I hope u win this battle coz your sis might be the next olosho of ur area

Nooo, beating her will do more harm than good. You can beat her if she does something else but not in this situation. Pure psychology is needed here, pull her closer talk to her. Let her know more about sex, let her know sex is for reproduction, you are more experienced, you can even put fear in her by telling her condoms may not stop her from getting pregnant. But once you beat her up, you may never get her head again. Pulling her close is the best thing you can do for now. Thank God you got to know this now that it has not gotten out. Congratulations

14yr old girl na im person wan sleep for this country!!!
That girl is very young so she is still close to salvation if you start on her matter now!!

But pls, make sure you Bleep up that 27yr old bastard!

LINTUNE:
are u sure ur grandma said that

Something like that but she said it in igbo. This is the translation of my understanding of her words

Na wa! Things have changed.Look at people saying beating would do more harm? Like,what happened to the way our parent trained us?
So y'all saying parent did not beat us ?
See, You should know the Kind of Girl that she is? The one you Talk too and the one you use Iron hand for. Beat her( If she is that type) Punish her(if she is that type) Talk to her(If she Is a soft person. then tell her the implications of these things and stand by your words! Also ,try check around? What changed? Cause you not been around for a year+ ,Something might have happened. E.g her kind of friends, neighbors ,Too much Frictional movies. Too much time on social media ? Bad or not so good Parenting? Social media? Etc. God bless you.

that guy would definitely be jailed if it were to be in the UK......SIMPLE..he has committed an offence to be a convict for life already

czarina:
Report the 27yr old idiot to the authorities. Your sister is a minor. You have evidence.


After that you can focus on talking properly to your sister. She needs counseling.