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Re: My Ten Year Struggle With Sex Addiction Is Ruining me. by iSlayer: 10:44pm On Jan 09, 2020
And my colleagues wonder why I don't patronize prostitutes.




Even my classmate then in secondary school who started visiting whorehouses early on is struggling with this.

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Re: My Ten Year Struggle With Sex Addiction Is Ruining me. by shina49: 10:45pm On Jan 09, 2020
fatymore:
Simple thing to do.

Fast everyday until what you can only think of is godliness and read your holy book constantly.

Also do away with things that might lure you into having sex... Delete all those oloshos number from your phone and change that route that takes you to the hotel you use.


And the best deal is to get married kiss
It works
the fasting and prayer part really works
Re: My Ten Year Struggle With Sex Addiction Is Ruining me. by Roadtorecovery: 10:45pm On Jan 09, 2020
Thanks everyone so far for the practical suggestions given so far.

I needed it so much to motivate myself and I am so grateful I got enough dose of it.

I wont be able to respond to all of you amazing comments and few funny ones.

I will give it my best shot and with God and sincere efforts and commitment, I am confident I will get back up.

I will take time to re-read every bit of comments and see how best I can apply them.

May be I was fighting it on my way and alone. This time, I will let God take the lead and just submit to his leading.

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Re: My Ten Year Struggle With Sex Addiction Is Ruining me. by Mrsserene: 10:46pm On Jan 09, 2020
Roadtorecovery:
Good evening everyone.


I have struggled with sex addiction for the past 10 years with out permanent success especially with regards to visiting and sleeping with prostitutes and keeping my mind off sex.
Presently I cant seem to keep my mind of sex and focus on my life and career.

I have a good Job and a beautiful damsel whom i have promised marriage and I am afraid I might loose any if not both of this if I don't stop,think and act NOW.



Since is a habit I learnt over time, how do I unlearn this habit permanently.

Please has anyone been able to get over sex addiction successfully.


My recent relapse after 10 months of celibacy threw me off balance and presently I have lost touch with God, friends and family because of this demeaning lifestyle.


Today after 2 weeks of relapse and wallowing in self pity, I have decided to restart all over again with strong determination to take into consideration the lesson learnt from my last relapse as I plan to adopt a better approach to ensure I conquer this habit.

I have spoken with one of spiritual director who understands sex addiction above my expectations and he is very supportive.

I have also opened up to my younger Cousin brother who also understands what it feels to suffer addiction.

I also confessed to my lady about my relapse and strong determination to quit and she is helpful and supportive but with the condition that she may not cope if I should suffer another relapse.

My addiction and its resultant consequences have made close family and friends loose their respect and confidence in me.

Above all, i feel so separated by God who have done so much for me .

I want to pick my self up and fight because of

1.God
2.Myself
3. Family
4. My girl friend


At this point I need all the help I can get to snatch out my life out of satanic bait to ruin me forever


Any professional here can please save a frustrated brother. I have not give up.









Salam. I feel for you brother. I advice that you change your mindset about sex. Whenever you feel like going to prostitutes think about all the diseases going round in our society. As my teacher would say, there are diseases worse than HIV AIDS going round. Think about your reputation my brother...do you want to be remembered as a wayward person when you are gone? Think about the future...you are not growing any younger and trust me you won't like to be referred as an irresponsible old man in the future.
Maassalam
Re: My Ten Year Struggle With Sex Addiction Is Ruining me. by Cyrus77(m): 10:47pm On Jan 09, 2020
My brother I feel for you and I want to congratulate you because you really have a standard you want to keep for yourself, it's not about how many times you indulge in the act, it's all about standards.Just to let you know that you are fighting a most noble war.There are spiritual heights, career achievements, financial goals, political interests, marital goals you may not be able to achieve if you don't win this war. Don't mind any popular opinion.
My sincere tips to victory:
1) please be quick to forgive yourself anytime you fall into the act.Never get tired of repenting before God and forgiving yourself.Guilt has a multiplicity effect.
2)Stop seeing sexual immorality as a weakness, sir it's raw battle, spiritually originated and emotionally perpetuated.The battle is targeted at destroying everything that you hold dear to you: spirituality, marriage, finance, status, career, health.If it were just ordinary fun without consequences,you won't be having the concrete reactionary effects you are having.
3) Avoid planting anymore seeds and uproot every seed sown.How? Delete Porn's,Music, Environments that suggest that, undefined female relationship, especially those who are ready to help you satisfy those urge even for free, male friends who think it does not matter who you sleep with,
Alcohol may be a precursor too.Just know that once these seeds are tolerated, the harvest would surely come.Delete! Delete!Delete!
4)When you see yourself planting those seeds, uproot immediately, via prayer and fasting, strong will is not enough.Pray and fast, it's the power bank.
5)life or existence abhors vaccum.fill your gadgets with Christian audio messages. Download much.Buy a wireless earpiece and play on until you choke every thought, every urge.Be seed minded.
6) You can also learn something new, trade crypto, coding writing, anything...man

You are a limit breaker already in this 2020! Enjoy your victory.

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Re: My Ten Year Struggle With Sex Addiction Is Ruining me. by millionboi2: 10:50pm On Jan 09, 2020
nextstep:


What I'm going to say is bound to raise eyebrows.

You like sex. We all do. Some have higher drives than others, and that's natural. Does the male dog, gorilla or rabbit try to avoid sex? No!
Is a dog bad for wanting to bang all the time? No!
What about the rooster? No!
Why then should the human be made to feel bad? "Sexual addiction" or the theory that it's bad is a construct born of human society (arguably by sexless monks and psychologists) that ignores the facts of nature.

I say give in to your urges and enjoy sex with others to your heart's content, just be sure to use protection. If it means losing this lady, then so be it. Better now than later when you're married with kids and your "demon" resurfaces.

I believe if you do so, you will eventually get it out of your system. It's fun and exciting but even cake starts to lose its sweetness after too much. When later you've got it out of your system, and lady is still willing to have you, then continue your relationship.

On the other hand, I believe if you fight it, or pray on it, you will continue to crave it and it will control your mind... even now, you use words like "relapse", which indicates it has a greater hold on you. If you fight it, it will simply hide in the recess of your mind, taunting you, waiting to be unleashed at some later date.

Please "mind over body", "prayer warrior" crowd, hold your peace. Same to those who would take my words of "give in to your urges" and use that as a suggestion that I might condone murder... don't be silly.
hmmm

U r right......dat will b alive time fight
Re: My Ten Year Struggle With Sex Addiction Is Ruining me. by Insectkiller: 10:50pm On Jan 09, 2020
...only one cure for you...

The only cure is result of "you are HIV positive"...

And after few days under watch...and let them tell u it was a fake result..

U will change immediately..u don't need other help..

U will stop fvcking Prostitute naturally..

Mumu!!!
U better kill ur konjii before konjii kill you

shocked shocked cool

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Re: My Ten Year Struggle With Sex Addiction Is Ruining me. by madprophet(m): 10:53pm On Jan 09, 2020
Roadtorecovery:
I have tried many times but failed.
I know a lot of things I can do. But I am still open to learning. May be to ensure that I don't relapse again.

Have you considered going for deliverance??
Prayer and fasting??
Re: My Ten Year Struggle With Sex Addiction Is Ruining me. by abarry001: 10:53pm On Jan 09, 2020
My sincere advice.

1. Always lower your gaze ( control how you look at ladies, control what you watch etc)

2. Cultivate the habit of fasting
3. Pray more.

Roadtorecovery:
Good evening everyone.


I have struggled with sex addiction for the past 10 years with out permanent success especially with regards to visiting and sleeping with prostitutes and keeping my mind off sex.
Presently I cant seem to keep my mind of sex and focus on my life and career.

I have a good Job and a beautiful damsel whom i have promised marriage and I am afraid I might loose any if not both of this if I don't stop,think and act NOW.



Since is a habit I learnt over time, how do I unlearn this habit permanently.

Please has anyone been able to get over sex addiction successfully.


My recent relapse after 10 months of celibacy threw me off balance and presently I have lost touch with God, friends and family because of this demeaning lifestyle.


Today after 2 weeks of relapse and wallowing in self pity, I have decided to restart all over again with strong determination to take into consideration the lesson learnt from my last relapse as I plan to adopt a better approach to ensure I conquer this habit.

I have spoken with one of spiritual director who understands sex addiction above my expectations and he is very supportive.

I have also opened up to my younger Cousin brother who also understands what it feels to suffer addiction.

I also confessed to my lady about my relapse and strong determination to quit and she is helpful and supportive but with the condition that she may not cope if I should suffer another relapse.

My addiction and its resultant consequences have made close family and friends loose their respect and confidence in me.

Above all, i feel so separated by God who have done so much for me .

I want to pick my self up and fight because of

1.God
2.Myself
3. Family
4. My girl friend


At this point I need all the help I can get to snatch out my life out of satanic bait to ruin me forever


Any professional here can please save a frustrated brother. I have not give up.









Re: My Ten Year Struggle With Sex Addiction Is Ruining me. by Chigozie105(m): 10:57pm On Jan 09, 2020
Ur sex life is high but u can still control it. Always try to keep yourself busy with something if u are alone, don't be in doors alone because surely ur mind will go there. Use d energy useful that's is excess energy to make more money. Pray to God to help u channel it in something great
Re: My Ten Year Struggle With Sex Addiction Is Ruining me. by Israelmoney(m): 10:57pm On Jan 09, 2020
True talk.
ZombieTERROR:
Sex addiction kwa..
Just move to Lagos
The stress and hold up alone will reset your brain... It's a promise
Re: My Ten Year Struggle With Sex Addiction Is Ruining me. by Adakintroy2: 10:58pm On Jan 09, 2020
tydi:


You could also try out porn as a career.. You never Could know what is left for you on the other side. grin

He is an addict you idiot. He is already on the other side.
Re: My Ten Year Struggle With Sex Addiction Is Ruining me. by Nobody: 10:59pm On Jan 09, 2020
Nairaland have started again ooo...

Which one is sex addiction again??

Do you mean Prostitute addiction??

Or Masturbation addiction??

I have never heard of Sex addiction oooo!!!

May be because you have never paid 20,000 per hour before or spend your whole salary on a girl since you can always get sex for a token... So, you just pounce on sex at every little libido you have..

Well, you need therapist before you lose all strength available in your body!!!
Re: My Ten Year Struggle With Sex Addiction Is Ruining me. by BlackSeptember: 10:59pm On Jan 09, 2020
fatymore:
Simple thing to do.

Fast everyday until what you can only think of is godliness and read your holy book constantly.

Also do away with things that might lure you into having sex... Delete all those oloshos number from your phone and change that route that takes you to the hotel you use.


And the best deal is to get married kiss
It works
He wants to stop being a sex addict not to lose weight.


Which one be fast again
Re: My Ten Year Struggle With Sex Addiction Is Ruining me. by 1daboi: 11:03pm On Jan 09, 2020
Go for deliverance in a Church like scoan. It is an evil spirit in you that likes formication not you. No matter how you try to stop by yourself, you'll fail because the battle is a spiritual one.
Re: My Ten Year Struggle With Sex Addiction Is Ruining me. by philsbaba: 11:08pm On Jan 09, 2020
Roadtorecovery:
Good evening everyone.


I have struggled with sex addiction for the past 10 years with out permanent success especially with regards to visiting and sleeping with prostitutes and keeping my mind off sex.
Presently I cant seem to keep my mind of sex and focus on my life and career.

I have a good Job and a beautiful damsel whom i have promised marriage and I am afraid I might loose any if not both of this if I don't stop,think and act NOW.



Since is a habit I learnt over time, how do I unlearn this habit permanently.

Please has anyone been able to get over sex addiction successfully.


My recent relapse after 10 months of celibacy threw me off balance and presently I have lost touch with God, friends and family because of this demeaning lifestyle.


Today after 2 weeks of relapse and wallowing in self pity, I have decided to restart all over again with strong determination to take into consideration the lesson learnt from my last relapse as I plan to adopt a better approach to ensure I conquer this habit.

I have spoken with one of spiritual director who understands sex addiction above my expectations and he is very supportive.

I have also opened up to my younger Cousin brother who also understands what it feels to suffer addiction.

I also confessed to my lady about my relapse and strong determination to quit and she is helpful and supportive but with the condition that she may not cope if I should suffer another relapse.

My addiction and its resultant consequences have made close family and friends loose their respect and confidence in me.

Above all, i feel so separated by God who have done so much for me .

I want to pick my self up and fight because of

1.God
2.Myself
3. Family
4. My girl friend


At this point I need all the help I can get to snatch out my life out of satanic bait to ruin me forever


Any professional here can please save a frustrated brother. I have not give up.









guy relax, that's who you are. Stop feeling guilty. Stop opening up to people: they can't save you, they will only use you as topic of discussion

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Re: My Ten Year Struggle With Sex Addiction Is Ruining me. by smailon: 11:09pm On Jan 09, 2020
Nahum 2:2 For God will restore the excellence of Jacob Iike the excellence of Israel. For the emptiers have emptied it and ruined its vine branches.

Most people take sexual addiction and masturbation for granted refusing to incline themselves with spirituality.

Until you understand that the "emptiers" are spiritual demons meant to withhold and delay your breakthrough, glory and excellence, you will never break loose.

Get married. Bible says, 'he who has found a wife has found a good thing and obtaineth FAVOUR from God'

My 2 kobo
Re: My Ten Year Struggle With Sex Addiction Is Ruining me. by gbemiga1(m): 11:09pm On Jan 09, 2020
Roadtorecovery:
Good evening everyone.


I have struggled with sex addiction for the past 10 years with out permanent success especially with regards to visiting and sleeping with prostitutes and keeping my mind off sex.
Presently I cant seem to keep my mind of sex and focus on my life and career.

I have a good Job and a beautiful damsel whom i have promised marriage and I am afraid I might loose any if not both of this if I don't stop,think and act NOW.

go and give your life to Jesus completely. And cry for deliverance.

Since is a habit I learnt over time, how do I unlearn this habit permanently.

Please has anyone been able to get over sex addiction successfully.


My recent relapse after 10 months of celibacy threw me off balance and presently I have lost touch with God, friends and family because of this demeaning lifestyle.


Today after 2 weeks of relapse and wallowing in self pity, I have decided to restart all over again with strong determination to take into consideration the lesson learnt from my last relapse as I plan to adopt a better approach to ensure I conquer this habit.

I have spoken with one of spiritual director who understands sex addiction above my expectations and he is very supportive.

I have also opened up to my younger Cousin brother who also understands what it feels to suffer addiction.

I also confessed to my lady about my relapse and strong determination to quit and she is helpful and supportive but with the condition that she may not cope if I should suffer another relapse.

My addiction and its resultant consequences have made close family and friends loose their respect and confidence in me.

Above all, i feel so separated by God who have done so much for me .

I want to pick my self up and fight because of

1.God
2.Myself
3. Family
4. My girl friend


At this point I need all the help I can get to snatch out my life out of satanic bait to ruin me forever


Any professional here can please save a frustrated brother. I have not give up.









Re: My Ten Year Struggle With Sex Addiction Is Ruining me. by Benprass(m): 11:15pm On Jan 09, 2020
soberdrunk:
Any man that can stay "10 months" without sex isn't a "sex addict". I don't know why some people just like to create imaginary problems for themselves, you are healthy brah, all you have to do is channel that sexual energy to your lady and a few side chics(if you are a variety man) or stay loyal to only your lady and your palms, you will reach a certain age and slow down naturally. Stop looking for what isn't missing, every "normal" man wakes up with erection every single day...... angry
na man you be for almost 22 years I have not have sex most time self control, focus and prayes really help.
Re: My Ten Year Struggle With Sex Addiction Is Ruining me. by NiCurious: 11:24pm On Jan 09, 2020
[i]The Brain That Changes Itself [/i]by Norman Doidge starts with a discussion about a matter similar to yours. It's been years since I read it, but it discusses retraining your brain away from addiction, and almost certainly mentions the kind of therapy that will help.
Best success to you in your quest.
Re: My Ten Year Struggle With Sex Addiction Is Ruining me. by Moneystopnonsen: 11:24pm On Jan 09, 2020
Hahahahhahaha believe you don't have a problem, bros just get married and have at least 2 children, if ure the type that loves quality. by the time you are paying school fees for the eldest and buying pampers, cereal and going for immunization for the last child, na sex go dey beg you, but wen u realise e fit lead to belle you go adjust.
Re: My Ten Year Struggle With Sex Addiction Is Ruining me. by ClassicMG(m): 11:30pm On Jan 09, 2020
fatymore:
is actually simple
though to me I don't think op need any help if you can be celebat for10 months. Then his sexual drive is normal. But at that it's not easy quiting addiction like you quoted
Re: My Ten Year Struggle With Sex Addiction Is Ruining me. by doggedfighter(f): 11:30pm On Jan 09, 2020
ultimate77:


what do you mean by "spiritual Director"?
grin grin grin angry
Re: My Ten Year Struggle With Sex Addiction Is Ruining me. by brainiac007: 11:35pm On Jan 09, 2020
Nn
Re: My Ten Year Struggle With Sex Addiction Is Ruining me. by brainiac007: 11:36pm On Jan 09, 2020
[quote author=brainiac007 post=85659858][/quote]

Honestly, you will not find the help you’re looking for here. One thing that can help is spending time with God using His Word. The more you meditate on God’s Word, the more you get transformed. It’s a process.
Re: My Ten Year Struggle With Sex Addiction Is Ruining me. by Kaypaparino(m): 11:42pm On Jan 09, 2020
My Brother.Nothing is more than God to do and put a stop...kindly contact me on my number then I'll tell you what to do,,,you\ll overcome it God's willing,,,My number is 07061116101....Kay Hope to hear from you...you can send me text too...
Re: My Ten Year Struggle With Sex Addiction Is Ruining me. by balodihno14(m): 11:43pm On Jan 09, 2020
What you need is Jesus! he alone will deliver you from any form of negative addiction. Surrender to his Authority, repent and renounced the bad habits.
Re: My Ten Year Struggle With Sex Addiction Is Ruining me. by Cchuks27(m): 11:44pm On Jan 09, 2020
Can't be worse than masturbation.
Re: My Ten Year Struggle With Sex Addiction Is Ruining me. by Nobody: 11:44pm On Jan 09, 2020
cheesy ur own is good cheesy
u are addicted to sex
that is perfectly normal cheesy
it shows u are a full blooded male
if u were addicted to porn or vaseline then i would have suggestted u go for help
but since u say u just addicted to sex keep on smashing like johnny smasher cheesy

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Re: My Ten Year Struggle With Sex Addiction Is Ruining me. by Nobody: 11:47pm On Jan 09, 2020
balodihno14:
What you need is Jesus! he alone will deliver you from any form of negative addiction. Surrender to his Authority, repent and renounced the bad habits.
Kaypaparino:
My Brother.Nothing is more than God to do and put a stop...kindly contact me on my number then I'll tell you what to do,,,you\ll overcome it God's willing,,,My number is 07061116101....Kay Hope to hear from you...you can send me text too...
see dem..all these ones will be nacking sister amaka dem in the choir on code

Re: My Ten Year Struggle With Sex Addiction Is Ruining me. by Nobody: 11:49pm On Jan 09, 2020
Cchuks27:
Can't be worse than masturbation.
masturbation is worse.it bends ur dick to sickle shape

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