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Re: My Ten Year Struggle With Sex Addiction Is Ruining me. by wiseone28: 6:06am On Jan 10, 2020
lefulefu:
verily i say to u a hole will visit u this night
I have been having free hole offer but turned it down
Re: My Ten Year Struggle With Sex Addiction Is Ruining me. by soberdrunk(m): 6:07am On Jan 10, 2020
cococandy:
That’s not how addiction works

As with drugs, alcohol, etc, sex addicts can stay “clean” for extended times before relapsing. His 10 month “sober” state doesn’t mean he doesn’t still have the problem.

I see how many folks liked your post. Shows the need education that is sorely lacking.




No sir! You are the one missing the point, we all understand 'addiction" very well and even some of us that don't qualify as "sex addicts" can't stay that long without sex, this individual seems to be mistaking "unfaithfulness" for "sexual addiction" angry

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Re: My Ten Year Struggle With Sex Addiction Is Ruining me. by Chuvin22(m): 6:10am On Jan 10, 2020
You are not a sex addict,
Since you already have a girlfriend, spend more time with her, you guys should have lots of sex, together, more talk time, do things together, you will realize sex is overrated and you will barely think of sex.
Re: My Ten Year Struggle With Sex Addiction Is Ruining me. by pomide(m): 6:19am On Jan 10, 2020
Impregnate your wife, then cut off your dick lol

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Re: My Ten Year Struggle With Sex Addiction Is Ruining me. by Hullabaloon: 6:26am On Jan 10, 2020
ogianyo:
Self control and building up your self esteem is all you need. I cant imagine myself in a brothel. Supposing someone I know come see me?.
I love sxx and would find it diff. to hold body for more than two weeks. But I consider myself very normal. I'm in my fifties and from my early twenties have had a vibrant sxx life but not from brothel. In fact if I know the girl to be a confirmed olosho, body fit no respond sef. It's the value you put on yourself.
You seem to know the solution. Add a massive dose of self control. Regular babe can help a bit but self control is the key.

Nna mhen, you are in your fifties, Old men dey this forum sha.

And I'm sure one teenager must have quoted you sometime in the past to insult you grin

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Re: My Ten Year Struggle With Sex Addiction Is Ruining me. by prolifik83(m): 6:28am On Jan 10, 2020
Roadtorecovery:
Good evening everyone.


I have struggled with sex addiction for the past 10 years with out permanent success especially with regards to visiting and sleeping with prostitutes and keeping my mind off sex.
Presently I cant seem to keep my mind of sex and focus on my life and career.

I have a good Job and a beautiful damsel whom i have promised marriage and I am afraid I might loose any if not both of this if I don't stop,think and act NOW.



Since is a habit I learnt over time, how do I unlearn this habit permanently.

Please has anyone been able to get over sex addiction successfully.


My recent relapse after 10 months of celibacy threw me off balance and presently I have lost touch with God, friends and family because of this demeaning lifestyle.


Today after 2 weeks of relapse and wallowing in self pity, I have decided to restart all over again with strong determination to take into consideration the lesson learnt from my last relapse as I plan to adopt a better approach to ensure I conquer this habit.

I have spoken with one of spiritual director who understands sex addiction above my expectations and he is very supportive.

I have also opened up to my younger Cousin brother who also understands what it feels to suffer addiction.

I also confessed to my lady about my relapse and strong determination to quit and she is helpful and supportive but with the condition that she may not cope if I should suffer another relapse.

My addiction and its resultant consequences have made close family and friends loose their respect and confidence in me.

Above all, i feel so separated by God who have done so much for me .

I want to pick my self up and fight because of

1.God
2.Myself
3. Family
4. My girl friend


At this point I need all the help I can get to snatch out my life out of satanic bait to ruin me forever


Any professional here can please save a frustrated brother. I have not give up.









My brother, na mfm sure pass for you.
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Re: My Ten Year Struggle With Sex Addiction Is Ruining me. by samteebiz3: 6:43am On Jan 10, 2020
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Re: My Ten Year Struggle With Sex Addiction Is Ruining me. by SangoOlukosoOba(m): 6:58am On Jan 10, 2020
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Re: My Ten Year Struggle With Sex Addiction Is Ruining me. by whirlwind7(m): 7:02am On Jan 10, 2020
soberdrunk:
Any man that can stay "10 months" without sex isn't a "sex addict". I don't know why some people just like to create imaginary problems for themselves, you are healthy brah, all you have to do is channel that sexual energy to your lady and a few side chics(if you are a variety man) or stay loyal to only your lady and your palms, you will reach a certain age and slow down naturally. Stop looking for what isn't missing, every "normal" man wakes up with erection every single day...... angry

I want to sit with you and buy you your favorite drink.
Did you see how the attention seeker replied almost everyone who commented on the first page, but carefully avoided your input? grin
Guy's an asswipe looking for attention. Someone who went celibate for 10 months still thinks he's a sex addict grin grin grin
Oloshi ọmọ.
I can't be celibate for a month, yet I don't consider myself as too sexually active, much less an addict.
Leave the yeye pikin to keep moping.

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Re: My Ten Year Struggle With Sex Addiction Is Ruining me. by dexmond: 7:03am On Jan 10, 2020
Hello Op. Jesus saves. Magdalene was a public prostitute, but when she encountered Jesus her life never remained the same. Go to Jesus, let him heal your mind.
Re: My Ten Year Struggle With Sex Addiction Is Ruining me. by proff010: 7:04am On Jan 10, 2020
Am married for 11 years now dated for 9 years altogether 20 years and I have. Sex 3 times a week, even more at time and am enjoying myself. Will u call that addition no its just how my natural body is.

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Re: My Ten Year Struggle With Sex Addiction Is Ruining me. by Kay25(m): 7:10am On Jan 10, 2020
[quote author=Roadtorecovery post=85660375]I will appreciate your opinion.
I am not happy with what I am doing to my self and others. I honestly want to be a changed man. I have goals and plans for the future.okay good you are broken from it In JESUS name believe it but there must be ultimate desire to and a work to be done.it's not a day's job which is while you think you are failing.Don't see yourself as failing when you step back from your commitment rather readjust and move on you will see you are getting better.One sexual desire is natural God given its no crime Bro but in life anything you can't subject will rule over you.take yourself out of those things that spikes it up.stop being alone socialise one of the strength to your issue is you being more to yourself making you think you can always satisfy yourself.Get counsel.But learn to observe your thoughts,body system and try to see the strength of the desire why it grows so much once you know it ,what spikes it I bet you you can gradually break loose from it.Don't be perfect in one day it takes time but I tell you you already on journey.allow pains to help you too don't take too much of pleasure in it you get there Bro.
Re: My Ten Year Struggle With Sex Addiction Is Ruining me. by ezenwajosh(m): 7:14am On Jan 10, 2020
soberdrunk:
Any man that can stay "10 months" without sex isn't a "sex addict". I don't know why some people just like to create imaginary problems for themselves, you are healthy brah, all you have to do is channel that sexual energy to your lady and a few side chics(if you are a variety man) or stay loyal to only your lady and your palms, you will reach a certain age and slow down naturally. Stop looking for what isn't missing, every "normal" man wakes up with erection every single day...... angry

And I said your not affected by religion.... That's the only way you're this SOUND
Re: My Ten Year Struggle With Sex Addiction Is Ruining me. by Roadtorecovery: 7:16am On Jan 10, 2020
I am going to allow your negative energy to fuel my resolve to become a better person. It is easier to judge people in a faceless forum like this because you don't have an idea what they are going through.
I am seeking for help but that doesn't mean i will swallow every suggestion hook line and sinker. At the end, I will be alright.
whirlwind7:


I want to sit with you and buy you your favorite drink.
Did you see how the attention seeker replied almost everyone who commented on the first page, but carefully avoided your input? grin
Guy's an asswipe looking for attention. Someone who went celibate for 10 months still thinks he's a sex addict grin grin grin
Oloshi ọmọ.
I can't be celibate for a month, yet I don't consider myself as too sexually active, much less an addict.
Leave the yeye pikin to keep moping.

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Re: My Ten Year Struggle With Sex Addiction Is Ruining me. by Evangkatsoulis: 7:18am On Jan 10, 2020
Roadtorecovery:
Good evening everyone.


I have struggled with sex addiction for the past 10 years with out permanent success especially with regards to visiting and sleeping with prostitutes and keeping my mind off sex.
Presently I cant seem to keep my mind of sex and focus on my life and career.

I have a good Job and a beautiful damsel whom i have promised marriage and I am afraid I might loose any if not both of this if I don't stop,think and act NOW.



Since is a habit I learnt over time, how do I unlearn this habit permanently.

Please has anyone been able to get over sex addiction successfully.


My recent relapse after 10 months of celibacy threw me off balance and presently I have lost touch with God, friends and family because of this demeaning lifestyle.


Today after 2 weeks of relapse and wallowing in self pity, I have decided to restart all over again with strong determination to take into consideration the lesson learnt from my last relapse as I plan to adopt a better approach to ensure I conquer this habit.

I have spoken with one of spiritual director who understands sex addiction above my expectations and he is very supportive.

I have also opened up to my younger Cousin brother who also understands what it feels to suffer addiction.

I also confessed to my lady about my relapse and strong determination to quit and she is helpful and supportive but with the condition that she may not cope if I should suffer another relapse.

My addiction and its resultant consequences have made close family and friends loose their respect and confidence in me.

Above all, i feel so separated by God who have done so much for me .

I want to pick my self up and fight because of

1.God
2.Myself
3. Family
4. My girl friend


At this point I need all the help I can get to snatch out my life out of satanic bait to ruin me forever


Any professional here can please save a frustrated brother. I have not give up.









You have no issues at all, bro.
How sex addiction go make you lose your job?

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Re: My Ten Year Struggle With Sex Addiction Is Ruining me. by patani(m): 7:32am On Jan 10, 2020
fatymore:



It does... Except yours is beyond redemption

Are u sayin there are things word of God can not do? Ure contradicting urself madam.. Meanwhile try n aurgue without insult n be civil
Re: My Ten Year Struggle With Sex Addiction Is Ruining me. by Nobody: 7:35am On Jan 10, 2020
@op channel that sexual energy to something more fulfilling.Like are you doing work you love to do or are you just working to earn a living?I would advise you to choose the former,that is the only thing that can contain your energy.
Re: My Ten Year Struggle With Sex Addiction Is Ruining me. by dengrimsef(m): 7:38am On Jan 10, 2020
My brother... To be really sincere with you..this is a fight that would take a long time to end and there is a high probability it destroys your future marriage and also make you very unproductive in terms of thinking...

The solution is giving yourself to prayer,fasting in other to bring your flesh to subjection..Also give yourself more to the things of GOD... AND help yourself too...heaven help those who help themselves... Shun watching indecent things that would want to stimulate those thoughts through your phone, what you hear...because even if you like pray the whole of this year and keep seeing things that would stir up those thoughts.. My brother you would remain hooked forever...10 years addiction no be bean!!!.

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Re: My Ten Year Struggle With Sex Addiction Is Ruining me. by Kescott(m): 7:43am On Jan 10, 2020
@Poster this is my one cent but I hope it helps. Your issue is more spiritual than it is physically because the spiritual controls the physical so first thing is to work on the spiritual aspect first.
Secondly, you have an unusual sex drive (Lidibo) and it is completely natural in most cases. I also suffer from a habit that I am not proud of but I am a work in progress.
If I were to be in your shoes, what would I do?
First I will go back to God. Talking to God is the simplest thing to do in life because He is always listening however hearing from God is the most difficult because of too many distractions as you already know I presume. Now talk to God as you would talk to your earthly father, let Him know your challenge but this time, don't try to help God to help you. Allow Him to help you through it completely. You need to stop helping God to help you. Finding things to distract you is only temporary. I had a friend that told me how he cured masturbation was first to avoid the triggers and then He prays and kabash every time a thought of it comes to him, and one day he realised he doesn't feel the urge anyone.
I also need to point out that in your journey to abstainence you will have relapse, you will fall but don't allow the devil trick you into believing that you are irredeemable. Don't remain down when you fall, rise up, ask God for forgiveness and each time, the lessons learnt, the triggers, and more importantly prayers can do a long way to solving the issue.

I just found answers to the habit I wrote about (Masturbation). I also need to mention that I started masturbating about six years ago and it is not frequent, sometime, I won't for months until I let my guards down and I have not slept with any woman for over 19 years because I made that commitment (Vow) to God until marriage.

Thank you for sharing your story and I appreciate the efforts to get right with God because that's the ultimate goal

Roadtorecovery:
Good evening everyone.


I have struggled with sex addiction for the past 10 years with out permanent success especially with regards to visiting and sleeping with prostitutes and keeping my mind off sex.
Presently I cant seem to keep my mind of sex and focus on my life and career.

I have a good Job and a beautiful damsel whom i have promised marriage and I am afraid I might loose any if not both of this if I don't stop,think and act NOW.



Since is a habit I learnt over time, how do I unlearn this habit permanently.

Please has anyone been able to get over sex addiction successfully.


My recent relapse after 10 months of celibacy threw me off balance and presently I have lost touch with God, friends and family because of this demeaning lifestyle.


Today after 2 weeks of relapse and wallowing in self pity, I have decided to restart all over again with strong determination to take into consideration the lesson learnt from my last relapse as I plan to adopt a better approach to ensure I conquer this habit.

I have spoken with one of spiritual director who understands sex addiction above my expectations and he is very supportive.

I have also opened up to my younger Cousin brother who also understands what it feels to suffer addiction.

I also confessed to my lady about my relapse and strong determination to quit and she is helpful and supportive but with the condition that she may not cope if I should suffer another relapse.

My addiction and its resultant consequences have made close family and friends loose their respect and confidence in me.

Above all, i feel so separated by God who have done so much for me .

I want to pick my self up and fight because of

1.God
2.Myself
3. Family
4. My girl friend


At this point I need all the help I can get to snatch out my life out of satanic bait to ruin me forever


Any professional here can please save a frustrated brother. I have not give up.









Re: My Ten Year Struggle With Sex Addiction Is Ruining me. by Sirmuel1(m): 7:49am On Jan 10, 2020
[quote author=ABCthings post=85656494]
2) Pray, pray, pray and keep praying till eternity.

Re: My Ten Year Struggle With Sex Addiction Is Ruining me. by oyepaulkay(m): 7:54am On Jan 10, 2020
Find another addiction to commit your mind to but this time around, a positive one.

You can only use one addiction to overcome another.
Re: My Ten Year Struggle With Sex Addiction Is Ruining me. by Nobody: 7:58am On Jan 10, 2020
Roadtorecovery:
Good evening everyone.


I have struggled with sex addiction for the past 10 years with out permanent success especially with regards to visiting and sleeping with prostitutes and keeping my mind off sex.
Presently I cant seem to keep my mind of sex and focus on my life and career.

I have a good Job and a beautiful damsel whom i have promised marriage and I am afraid I might loose any if not both of this if I don't stop,think and act NOW.



Since is a habit I learnt over time, how do I unlearn this habit permanently.

Please has anyone been able to get over sex addiction successfully.


My recent relapse after 10 months of celibacy threw me off balance and presently I have lost touch with God, friends and family because of this demeaning lifestyle.


Today after 2 weeks of relapse and wallowing in self pity, I have decided to restart all over again with strong determination to take into consideration the lesson learnt from my last relapse as I plan to adopt a better approach to ensure I conquer this habit.

I have spoken with one of spiritual director who understands sex addiction above my expectations and he is very supportive.

I have also opened up to my younger Cousin brother who also understands what it feels to suffer addiction.

I also confessed to my lady about my relapse and strong determination to quit and she is helpful and supportive but with the condition that she may not cope if I should suffer another relapse.

My addiction and its resultant consequences have made close family and friends loose their respect and confidence in me.

Above all, i feel so separated by God who have done so much for me .

I want to pick my self up and fight because of

1.God
2.Myself
3. Family
4. My girl friend


At this point I need all the help I can get to snatch out my life out of satanic bait to ruin me forever


Any professional here can please save a frustrated brother. I have not give up.










Were you disvirgined by a prostitute?
Re: My Ten Year Struggle With Sex Addiction Is Ruining me. by fatymore(f): 8:01am On Jan 10, 2020
patani:


Are u sayin there are things word of God can not do? Ure contradicting urself madam.. Meanwhile try n aurgue without insult n be civil

Good Morning.

I know fasting and praying makes us abstain from things a lot...


So try it
Re: My Ten Year Struggle With Sex Addiction Is Ruining me. by chudez0147(m): 8:05am On Jan 10, 2020
Baroba:



Could be omlow testosterone bro, go check your levels..
What does that mean ? Is it a problem??
Re: My Ten Year Struggle With Sex Addiction Is Ruining me. by quentin06: 8:06am On Jan 10, 2020
just cut of your prickk already, your damsel will understand.
Re: My Ten Year Struggle With Sex Addiction Is Ruining me. by salt1: 8:25am On Jan 10, 2020
Roadtorecovery:
I am going to allow your negative energy to fuel my resolve to become a better person. It is easier to judge people in a faceless forum like this because you don't have an idea what they are going through.
I am seeking for help but that doesn't mean i will swallow every suggestion hook line and sinker. At the end, I will be alright.

So good to see that in a society that's normalizing immorality, there are still people who want to do the right thing.

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Re: My Ten Year Struggle With Sex Addiction Is Ruining me. by salt1: 8:27am On Jan 10, 2020
Kescott:
@Poster this is my one cent but I hope it helps. Your issue is more spiritual than it is physically because the spiritual controls the physical so first thing is to work on the spiritual aspect first.
Secondly, you have an unusual sex drive (Lidibo) and it is completely natural in most cases. I also suffer from a habit that I am not proud of but I am a work in progress.
If I were to be in your shoes, what would I do?
First I will go back to God. Talking to God is the simplest thing to do in life because He is always listening however hearing from God is the most difficult because of too many distractions as you already know I presume. Now talk to God as you would talk to your earthly father, let Him know your challenge but this time, don't try to help God to help you. Allow Him to help you through it completely. You need to stop helping God to help you. Finding things to distract you is only temporary. I had a friend that told me how he cured masturbation was first to avoid the triggers and then He prays and kabash every time a thought of it comes to him, and one day he realised he doesn't feel the urge anyone.
I also need to point out that in your journey to abstainence you will have relapse, you will fall but don't allow the devil trick you into believing that you are irredeemable. Don't remain down when you fall, rise up, ask God for forgiveness and each time, the lessons learnt, the triggers, and more importantly prayers can do a long way to solving the issue.

I just found answers to the habit I wrote about (Masturbation). I also need to mention that I started masturbating about six years ago and it is not frequent, sometime, I won't for months until I let my guards down and I have not slept with any woman for over 19 years because I made that commitment (Vow) to God until marriage.

Thank you for sharing your story and I appreciate the efforts to get right with God because that's the ultimate goal


The God Whom you seek to please will abundantly reward you for honouring your body which is His temple.
I hope you're planning to get married soonest

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Re: My Ten Year Struggle With Sex Addiction Is Ruining me. by whirlwind7(m): 8:46am On Jan 10, 2020
Roadtorecovery:
I am going to allow your negative energy to fuel my resolve to become a better person. It is easier to judge people in a faceless forum like this because you don't have an idea what they are going through.
I am seeking for help but that doesn't mean i will swallow every suggestion hook line and sinker. At the end, I will be alright.

Hehehehehe.

Negative energy? Me?
Says someone who put his dick in check for nearly a year, yet feels he's addicted to sex grin grin
Your problem isn't addiction; you're delusional.

If you think my comment will help build your resolve to be a better person, then I'm glad it helped.
As for sympathizing on your imaginary addiction, no dice from me.
In my late teens and early twenties, there are days I had sex twice daily. Nowadays, I can do thrice a week....and it has in no way interfered with my physical, emotional or spiritual wellbeing.

Perhaps you evolved from a lineage of low libidinous hombres, and having sex once in a month is considered an addiction among you grin
Which could be the reason you went 10 months without, and still believe yourself addicted to sex.

Take a back seat, man!

Let me add this: You don't fight such "addiction" by deciding to be celibate. Not saying you have an addiction, but for the purpose of this baseless thread, let's agree that you're an addict (at least that concession would make you happy grin)

An addict, apart from going for counseling, is not expected to become celibate. It is not like a substance addiction which is destructive. Sex is beneficial and even healthful for matured folks.
A sex addict is still expected to have a measured, planned sex life. Practicing abstinence isn't the logical route to counter it. No sire.

Anyhow, its good to fuel your imagination. A sex addict is what you are aspiring to become in 2020 grin grin grin

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Re: My Ten Year Struggle With Sex Addiction Is Ruining me. by frozen70(f): 8:47am On Jan 10, 2020
Roadtorecovery:
I am very serious with her and she is very open and ready to help. I just want to do the right thing before this ruins me permanently.

Be determined, go to God with prayers

You already know where your problem is

Get married and settle down quickly

By the time you have school fees, house rent, utility bills to pick up and feeding

Your dick will go flaccid

From there you will be too busy to go out to meet them

You are behaving this way because you don't have responsibilities that waits family men

If you like, three months after your wife puts to bed, impregnate her again and again

When those kids starts their wahala, your dick will be calm

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