Oluwatunmise529:
Hi people

I live with my aunt who is a pastor's wife. I got there four months ago due to the fact that my dad had some problems then.

But the first day I got to my aunt's place, I got the shock of my life. The house was totally dirty, even the sink in kitchen was removing maggots. She told me to clean and wash everything but being my first time with her. I told her I can't do them. Then she said she would slap me if I don't do her wish. I ended up doing them and since then am being used like a slave.

When I told my dad about everything.. She told my dad I need home training that I can't do anything and my dad told me to stay since he doesn't want it to cause a rift between them.

My aunt am talking about is an elder sister to my late mom but the same father and different mothers. There was a day she told me my grandmother was a witch and she killed one of her children before she died and she uses my witch grandmom to describe me to people in the neighborhood. I always feel ashamed.

She has a daughter who doesn't cook and clean or do anything... I end up doing everything and still it isn't enough, at the end of the day she tells me am lazy... Am always afraid to look when I pass by a mirror because I always look so dirty and haggard. Just yesterday rain fell here and she left some things outside. I ran outside to take those things inside and the next thing she did was rain insults on me because of that..

She has never raised her hands on me but only maltreat me.. I cried myself to sleep..I was always a jovial person before but now am always crying and moody and am beginning to hate her.

I don't laugh at all anymore even at funny things.. I only have hatred for her and her family...I don't want to hate anyone and I want to go back home and be myself again....am planning to run away now but am really scared of the outcome...
Worst is everyone thinks she is a good person because she is a pastor wife....

Am so fed up and always unhappy... Someone pls help me

NextD18:
Parents should stop bringing kids to this world if they can't cater for them.

Them go just dey born anyhow as investment come dey suffer am unnecessarily.

Look at this lady suffering emotionally and psychologically in the hands of another woman when she has parents, but her parents will be the first to open their hands should a rich man come to marry her.

AfroKnight:


Exactly.

She has not replied one person since. Just post lie for people to be commenting and fighting over.

OP come tell us another lie.

How can a sink bring out maggots? Haba! Does that mean they have not washed plates in 5 days? Is it possible? So no cooking in 5 days? No eating? This your lie is too stupîd.

Most of these stories are fake. But Nairalanders must react and will keep reacting till eternity.

LordKO:
You've a very bad character. Eschew conceit if you wish to progress in life. I don't care whether your aunt intentionally left her house dirty or not prior to your arrival there - I don't hold brief for her in anyway though - but the fact that you disobeyed her request to clean the house, out of conceit, says a lot about how bad your character is. Obedience is better than sacrifice hence more glorifying.

Citing your said conceited attitude a lone, I don't have any reason to believe that your aunt is evil as you've painted her - only her husband can make me to believe otherwise in this regard.

crackkhaus:
Go back home, you're not an orphan.

What an advice!

Reelmii:
and her father will blame buhari

LordKO:


How you and me go take know say she be young adult as she no come tell us her age. And if she be young adult self na that one go vex me pass citing her conceited attitude. Whatever she has passed through afterward that incident is punishment proceeds of her first offense.

I don't still hold brief for the aunt

LordKO:


Two wrongs don't make a right. Once more, obedience is better than sacrifice hence more glorifying. Assuming that she cleaned the house as the aunt requested or diplomatically turned her down, I wouldn't have had any reason to doubt her reasonableness. So citing her stated conceited attitude, it's very obvious to me that every other negative thing she said about the aunt may not be true.

I don't hold brief for the aunt, like I said before.

donbachi:
Yes...run come my house.

Oluwatunmise529:
Hi people

I live with my aunt who is a pastor's wife. I got there four months ago due to the fact that my dad had some problems then.

But the first day I got to my aunt's place, I got the shock of my life. The house was totally dirty, even the sink in kitchen was removing maggots. She told me to clean and wash everything but being my first time with her. I told her I can't do them. Then she said she would slap me if I don't do her wish. I ended up doing them and since then am being used like a slave.

When I told my dad about everything.. She told my dad I need home training that I can't do anything and my dad told me to stay since he doesn't want it to cause a rift between them.

My aunt am talking about is an elder sister to my late mom but the same father and different mothers. There was a day she told me my grandmother was a witch and she killed one of her children before she died and she uses my witch grandmom to describe me to people in the neighborhood. I always feel ashamed.

She has a daughter who doesn't cook and clean or do anything... I end up doing everything and still it isn't enough, at the end of the day she tells me am lazy... Am always afraid to look when I pass by a mirror because I always look so dirty and haggard. Just yesterday rain fell here and she left some things outside. I ran outside to take those things inside and the next thing she did was rain insults on me because of that..

She has never raised her hands on me but only maltreat me.. I cried myself to sleep..I was always a jovial person before but now am always crying and moody and am beginning to hate her.

I don't laugh at all anymore even at funny things.. I only have hatred for her and her family...I don't want to hate anyone and I want to go back home and be myself again....am planning to run away now but am really scared of the outcome...
Worst is everyone thinks she is a good person because she is a pastor wife....

Am so fed up and always unhappy... Someone pls help me

franchasng:



I can also remember praising my sister for treating her numerous helps like her daughters and sons......while majority of my brothers' wives treat theirs like slaves.

LordKO:


How you and me go take know say she be young adult as she no come tell us her age. And if she be young adult self na that one go vex me pass citing her conceited attitude. Whatever she has passed through afterward that incident is punishment proceeds of her first offense.

I don't still hold brief for the aunt

Reigning2020:


The way and manner we reason in this part of the world never cease to baffled me this is not about 2 wrong or 2 right or whatever you wish to call it , its about her sanity and peace of mind and you people want her to trade that for what exactly ?. let's assumed op is a lazy *ss bitch as you have imagined her to be because she said she wouldn't clean wish she later did , she is being subjected to verbal abuse and traumatized with the name calling and you said ordinary name calling ? I have bn in a situation like this and I would rather i got caned any time i was been abuse verbally to been call names even as young as I was then . I pray you never have to experience it or any of your children or loved ones it makes you feel less human and erode your self worth and confidence I would rather drink garri with peace of mind at my parent's than eat rice and chicken in fear and sorrow in a house of any relative most people don't know what it feels like to be abuse in any form so we just look at it as nothing .my greatest fear in life is not even poverty itself but imagining any of my children living with ANYONE I mean anyone for whatever reason not even my own mum or any siblings or relations however close they are or nice they appeared to be believe me I know what it feels like aside myself and their mum the thought alone kills me inside

pocohantas:


Of course, your sister, mother and wife are different. Your brothers wives are the problem.

Naso!

Friendz4blue:
I understand ur plight my dear...plz don't run away ...I will advice u to listen to ur father..I know u are suffering and being maltreated but I'm telling u from experience u will b the woman any man will wish for at the end while her daughter will be nothing to write home about...I know u are unhapi...try to put a smile on ur face..whatever she says to u don't get angry..don't b sober b hapi at all cost...don't make her c the pain in u...she is not worth ur tears...u will c dat it wil end in praise for u....above all I pray God gives u the strength to weather the storm.

omobak:
My sister, i don't blame you, why bcs me and one of my cousin was once in your shoe. sometimes in 2001 after my secondary school i decided to go for holiday in Lagos to stay with My mum younger sister. i meet that my cousin there she has been living in the hell before i came and the very day i came i was posted to kitchen permanently and my cousin to wash cloth and the person we were staying with can change cloth............... she can wear 3 in a day and on saturday my cousin will wash and wash at times from 9:00am till around 2:00pm, but when i cannot stand her facing these stress alone i joined her in washing sebi my own na to cook. to cut the long story short, no friends, its from house to shop and from shop to church....it was hell but me that i loved football for where my leg become so swollen but as destiny will have it we parted in peace but today see am on my own and that my cousin is married too.......the irony of life she is not too feeling fine now and no body feel free to go to her.. my advice, it might seem abusive now but i can tell you from experience that you will have a good story to tell. thanks mam

Reigning2020:


The way and manner we reason in this part of the world never cease to baffled me this is not about 2 wrong or 2 right or whatever you wish to call it , its about her sanity and peace of mind and you people want her to trade that for what exactly ?. let's assumed op is a lazy *ss bitch as you have imagined her to be because she said she wouldn't clean wish she later did , she is being subjected to verbal abuse and traumatized with the name calling and you said ordinary name calling ? I have bn in a situation like this and I would rather i got caned any time i was been abuse verbally to been call names even as young as I was then . I pray you never have to experience it or any of your children or loved ones it makes you feel less human and erode your self worth and confidence I would rather drink garri with peace of mind at my parent's than eat rice and chicken in fear and sorrow in a house of any relative most people don't know what it feels like to be abuse in any form so we just look at it as nothing .my greatest fear in life is not even poverty itself but imagining any of my children living with ANYONE I mean anyone for whatever reason not even my own mum or any siblings or relations however close they are or nice they appeared to be believe me I know what it feels like aside myself and their mum the thought alone kills me inside

franchasng:



Cc: pocohantas


See poco, almost every Nigerian child have a bad story to tell about a wicked married aunt who treated him or her badly like a slave when he or she lived with them or went for holiday,

Mizwisdom:
Ordinary insult? something you can be humming tunes in your heart while she's talking without her hearing it? you better get a hold of yourself. Find out what her plans are for your future. If your Father can't afford to feed you, you better relax and endure for now don't go and fall into wrong hands o, it's better than servicing 10 men in one day, be wise

pocohantas:


Very true. Just like almost every lady has a molestation/rape story. But these men/women are hardly ever our nuclear family members.

One would think they self/destruct after committing these evil acts. After all, everyones mother is an angel, who married as a virgin.

Oluwatunmise529:
Hi people

I live with my aunt who is a pastor's wife. I got there four months ago due to the fact that my dad had some problems then.

But the first day I got to my aunt's place, I got the shock of my life. The house was totally dirty, even the sink in kitchen was removing maggots. She told me to clean and wash everything but being my first time with her. I told her I can't do them. Then she said she would slap me if I don't do her wish. I ended up doing them and since then am being used like a slave.

When I told my dad about everything.. She told my dad I need home training that I can't do anything and my dad told me to stay since he doesn't want it to cause a rift between them.

My aunt am talking about is an elder sister to my late mom but the same father and different mothers. There was a day she told me my grandmother was a witch and she killed one of her children before she died and she uses my witch grandmom to describe me to people in the neighborhood. I always feel ashamed.

She has a daughter who doesn't cook and clean or do anything... I end up doing everything and still it isn't enough, at the end of the day she tells me am lazy... Am always afraid to look when I pass by a mirror because I always look so dirty and haggard. Just yesterday rain fell here and she left some things outside. I ran outside to take those things inside and the next thing she did was rain insults on me because of that..

She has never raised her hands on me but only maltreat me.. I cried myself to sleep..I was always a jovial person before but now am always crying and moody and am beginning to hate her.

I don't laugh at all anymore even at funny things.. I only have hatred for her and her family...I don't want to hate anyone and I want to go back home and be myself again....am planning to run away now but am really scared of the outcome...
Worst is everyone thinks she is a good person because she is a pastor wife....

Am so fed up and always unhappy... Someone pls help me

Oluwatunmise529:
Hi people

I live with my aunt who is a pastor's wife. I got there four months ago due to the fact that my dad had some problems then.

But the first day I got to my aunt's place, I got the shock of my life. The house was totally dirty, even the sink in kitchen was removing maggots. She told me to clean and wash everything but being my first time with her. I told her I can't do them. Then she said she would slap me if I don't do her wish. I ended up doing them and since then am being used like a slave.

When I told my dad about everything.. She told my dad I need home training that I can't do anything and my dad told me to stay since he doesn't want it to cause a rift between them.

My aunt am talking about is an elder sister to my late mom but the same father and different mothers. There was a day she told me my grandmother was a witch and she killed one of her children before she died and she uses my witch grandmom to describe me to people in the neighborhood. I always feel ashamed.

She has a daughter who doesn't cook and clean or do anything... I end up doing everything and still it isn't enough, at the end of the day she tells me am lazy... Am always afraid to look when I pass by a mirror because I always look so dirty and haggard. Just yesterday rain fell here and she left some things outside. I ran outside to take those things inside and the next thing she did was rain insults on me because of that..

She has never raised her hands on me but only maltreat me.. I cried myself to sleep..I was always a jovial person before but now am always crying and moody and am beginning to hate her.

I don't laugh at all anymore even at funny things.. I only have hatred for her and her family...I don't want to hate anyone and I want to go back home and be myself again....am planning to run away now but am really scared of the outcome...
Worst is everyone thinks she is a good person because she is a pastor wife....

Am so fed up and always unhappy... Someone pls help me

WILLuKPquiet:
You didn't say how old you are.

So I wouldn't know if its the age at which you can disobey your dad small.

If already eighteen or close to it. Pack your loads and leave that place. There is always a time to say No to parents even if you respect them so much.
I believe why your dad kept saying you should still stay there is because "e never enter your body" if the thing pain you seriously and you are truly fed up you won't ask anyone for advice before you pack out.

Your dad doesn't want her to feel he is the one that encouraged you to leave. But if you leave by yourself and dare the consequence, your father won't have any option to let you have your way.

After you have left back to your house, stand your ground you are not going back. Even if you are beaten by your dad maintain your stand and Finally sound a warning to your dad that if you are forced to go back you might commit suicide (Just to scare your dad ni o)

No parent wants to hear DAT one especially these days that suicide is rampant.

Eventually your dad will leave you alone or find another place for you if the problem he has doesn't allow you to stay at home.

Dont be afraid to tell your dad and everyone who cares to listen all the evil she did to you, even to her face.

Don't be scared be bold.

And if dad still maintain you must go back , come live with me, I won't touch you.

Only to tell you short short stories before you sleep every night.

days on a lighter mood.

ORIJIN201:
You sound like an unforgiving person. Young people make mistakes, just like you did. But if you were treated the same way just like in your post, then you had a troubled upbringing. I'll never call someone else's grandmother a witch just because he/she refused to do what I had asked. Life is forgiving.

LordKO:
You've a very bad character. Eschew conceit if you wish to progress in life. I don't care whether your aunt intentionally left her house dirty or not prior to your arrival there - I don't hold brief for her in anyway though - but the fact that you disobeyed her request to clean the house, out of conceit, says a lot about how bad your character is. Obedience is better than sacrifice hence more glorifying.

Citing your said conceited attitude a lone, I don't have any reason to believe that your aunt is evil as you've painted her - only her husband can make me to believe otherwise in this regard.

Mizwisdom:
Ordinary insult? something you can be humming tunes in your heart while she's talking without her hearing it? you better get a hold of yourself. Find out what her plans are for your future. If your Father can't afford to feed you, you better relax and endure for now don't go and fall into wrong hands o, it's better than servicing 10 men in one day, be wise

franchasng:
Hello Sanusi Lamido Sanusi, is that you, how is Toto village people