emmaodet:


Because Good guys get Bad/Over-used girls when they want to marry.
You want to know the problem? Inexperience.
Most times inexperience.
It is very easy for a womaniser to spot a cool, calm and reserved girl in a gathering from years of carrying, picking and interacting with women because with age comes Experience.
So also to women, Prostitutes/Slaymamas easily spot quiet guys and keep them while they keep fvcking sugar daddies etc
All in All, Life is Unfair to Most Good people and that is why am sometimes Annoyed with God bcus it seems there is a deliberate intention for people to be bad by rewarding Bad people with good life, jobs and partners yet threatening to throw people to Hell fire when the whole system encourages Immorality.

victorian:







I'm. Not saying she should treat men badly.

I simply said she shouldn't use Her money to feed a guy.

If the guy wants a meal, let him provide the necessary ingredients for it with his own money, then she can cook if she want but not with her money.

Does it now mean that's treating badly?

It's not.


She will simply protect herself from being used as mother Christmas and sucked dry.

HMarshal:


I beg to differ on numb2,3&4
Weather she gets the "" sooner or later, if the fella is a player she will get the heart break

Slong as he has a job/bizness Wich u contribute idea-wise to,there is nothing wrong in financially helping him.its only a spineless man that will sleep well knowing he is owing his wife.(in other words,if he doesn't show urgency to pay u back or actually does,don't ever give him again)

Good,bad,wise,stingy,etc ,if a guy wants to play you,he will.unless u Neva open ur heart to him.it strts wit TRUST & ends with it.cos even the wise,bad,stingy,etc have to let thier gaurd down if they Eva want to find a life patner

Saintmary:

I don't know who hurt you, but please start your own thread.

Saintmary:

Males, and all proponents of patriarchy, both males and females have an irrational fear of bold women. They are comfortable with coy, cowering, simpering women who will gladly lay down and be their happy doormats.
Ladies like you and I are the odd ones out, we are the "Feminists". We are not their favourites because we challenge their lazy intellects, we make them feel that there is more to the simple little boxes their parents and pastors have constructed for them- make money, get a pretty, barely legal child to make your wife and start popping babies because that is why you were born!
They will do everything in their power to silence you, they do not like dissent, they will not leave you alone. You need to brace yourself for that.
They will target you, watch out for you.
Don't get scared.
This is how you can take advantage of the situation, build strength, you can draw strength from opposition.
Aim high in life, that is the essence of feminism, opportunity for women to become all that they want to be without suppression. They will stop insulting you when your life shows brilliant results.
Good

Phadg:
Hi guys i just joined NL and from what have been reading on here bfor i sign up i feel i might get a response from nairalanders

Am a lady that believes in building with a man and not looking for an already made guys am also an independent lady so i dont really need your money,i work for what i spend, Atimes i end up giving out of the little i earn to my partner, now this is the sad part these guys take me for a fool some just start acting up like some1 with psychosis{apologies} but it the truth well i just broke up with my boyfriend cause i cant deal with his bullshit anymore. now my question is
1. IS IT BAD FOR ME TO SHOW YOU I LOVE YOU?
2. IS IT A SIN FOR ME TO WANT TO BE INVOLVE IN YOUR LIFE{I BELIEVE WE ARE SUPPOSE TO BE THERE FOR EACHOTHER}?
3.IS ASKING FOR A LITTLE TRANSPARENCY A SIN?
4.WHY DO GOOD GIRLS HAVE BADLUCK WHEN IT COMES TO GETTING A GUY?

APOLOGIES FOR THE LONG POST.

Phadg:
Hi guys i just joined NL and from what have been reading on here bfor i sign up i feel i might get a response from nairalanders

Am a lady that believes in building with a man and not looking for an already made guys am also an independent lady so i dont really need your money,i work for what i spend, Atimes i end up giving out of the little i earn to my partner, now this is the sad part these guys take me for a fool some just start acting up like some1 with psychosis{apologies} but it the truth well i just broke up with my boyfriend cause i cant deal with his bullshit anymore. now my question is
1. IS IT BAD FOR ME TO SHOW YOU I LOVE YOU?
2. IS IT A SIN FOR ME TO WANT TO BE INVOLVE IN YOUR LIFE{I BELIEVE WE ARE SUPPOSE TO BE THERE FOR EACHOTHER}?
3.IS ASKING FOR A LITTLE TRANSPARENCY A SIN?
4.WHY DO GOOD GIRLS HAVE BADLUCK WHEN IT COMES TO GETTING A GUY?

APOLOGIES FOR THE LONG POST.

samtinx:
kelvin Onyebuchi,5ft6, Electrical technician,27yrs,0812 427 8540, you are never wrong I have been I a similar situation as you, just that different strokes for different folks

ibkayee:
What’s wrong with looking for an already made man when according to you, you’re independent and already have your own?

You can focus on ‘building’ when you’re equally yoked, meaning both starting from the grassroots for example and in the same position, or if you’re already married.

Nothing wrong with helping anybody put but don’t feel bad for having a certain standard when you match that standard yourself and hold up your own end of the bargain well

I also think you’re way too nice, which doesn’t always work out well in this crazy world we live in

inside life, all the girls wey I bin dey date em be gold diggers.....any small thing give me give me that....look at this one now na em men dey scam her....indeed it's inside life .....95% naija girls are gold diggers while few men are gold diggers....one way or the other they gold dig....

Wisefellow:
Hello dear, I read your post and feel its necessary to remind you that love is real and will locate you but you must be well prepared to receive it. On this platform, you should be mindful of advise flying around! Thoroughly read, filter and possibly pray before digesting any, needfully.

Whatever disappointment you may have experienced from the previous relationship, remain focus and true to self with right attitude. Do not relent building self mentally, financially and spiritually because luck is what happens when preparation meets with opportunity. As humans, we can be emotional to issues but I indulge you to allow your sense of reasoning to stay afloat for better days ahead.

I am sure you are beautifully created, nurtured for greatness and deserve to be happy. Do not throw away the good qualities you exhibit out of love for God and humanity, rather, improve on them in the right way and what you seek shall find and remain with you till death. As for your weakness, work and pray about it; for sure, your goodness will keep you going. Hence, go about your day to day activities in good spirit and out of happiness, someone is observing with keen interest unknowingly. And to blow your bubbles, all you think are issues would become history in no distant time when you eventually find the bone of your bone. Please, do not ask me how?

I know because I am a living testimony and grateful for God's guidance.

Stay blessed!

Edyice:
Showing that you love someone is cool
Showing that you are interested in someone is cool .
Showing that you want to give love a trail is cool

But

When the person showing love to is not doing same , then you need to bounce ... No time to waste time on someone that's joking or playing you around...

That's why I always advice people to decide on what relationship they wanted before embarking on the journey ... Although many won't tell the truth but there is always body language

Phadg:
Hi guys i just joined NL and from what have been reading on here bfor i sign up i feel i might get a response from nairalanders

Am a lady that believes in building with a man and not looking for an already made guys am also an independent lady so i dont really need your money,i work for what i spend, Atimes i end up giving out of the little i earn to my partner, now this is the sad part these guys take me for a fool some just start acting up like some1 with psychosis{apologies} but it the truth well i just broke up with my boyfriend cause i cant deal with his bullshit anymore. now my question is
1. IS IT BAD FOR ME TO SHOW YOU I LOVE YOU?
2. IS IT A SIN FOR ME TO WANT TO BE INVOLVE IN YOUR LIFE{I BELIEVE WE ARE SUPPOSE TO BE THERE FOR EACHOTHER}?
3.IS ASKING FOR A LITTLE TRANSPARENCY A SIN?
4.WHY DO GOOD GIRLS HAVE BADLUCK WHEN IT COMES TO GETTING A GUY?

APOLOGIES FOR THE LONG POST.

Luizkid:

How many ladies will stay if you honestly tell them you just want a fvcking relationship??

Vortex369:
You are assuming that all your questions, have different answers, but what you did not expect, is that all those questions, have just one common answer.

You do not need a lover -

Yes, you are complete, and need no other else to complement you.

Why you feel you need someone, is the sensation from hormonal imbalances masquerading as loneliness and need to be with someone.

The need to be with someone must be taken as such. When you understand that, then you can begin to evaluate who you want to be with outside the periscope of romance.

No sex relationships will keep your cerebral cortex on alert without interference from the lympic system that controls your emotion.

In essence, if you need a friend, find a friend, if you need sex find some sex, but if you need sex from a friend, then first of all have a great friend and convert such to sex friend or lover.

Anyone can have sex, but not everyone can be intelligent and emotionally mature and up to par, so first find an up to par personality before diving into sex.

Did I mention that you do not need love? If I didnt mention, then I must have forgotten. No one needs love, but you want some once in a while to reset your minds from stress, but not all the time.

Saintmary:

You have your point, but the rule is to never lose guard, once you're not ready to settle down.
So, any lady who wants to settle down should look for the right signs, else, she'll most likely get played.

HMarshal:


I agree, but we all humans, need for companionship is a default.besidee how wuld u Meet the right patner if u don't date(lose guard?.life is complicated.

ibkayee:
What’s wrong with looking for an already made man when according to you, you’re independent and already have your own?

You can focus on ‘building’ when you’re equally yoked, meaning both starting from the grassroots for example and in the same position, or if you’re already married.

Nothing wrong with helping anybody put but don’t feel bad for having a certain standard when you match that standard yourself and hold up your own end of the bargain well

I also think you’re way too nice, which doesn’t always work out well in this crazy world we live in

Martinez39s:
Lol. Any man who falls for the OP's nawalt signalling is far from taking the red pill on female nature. As I was reading the OP, I just kept laughing. Who does she think she is fooling? OP had cleverly cooked some lies with high grade spice, and simps on this thread are falling for it.

ichidodo:
She's like that spider that entices willing male spiders for mating afterwhich she bites off the head of the unfortunate victim then she stores the rest to feed her offsprings...And she's doing a great job of it,observing as how many thirsty simps here are falling over the themselves to reach her. Observe how she spun her own attraction via self promoting "My friends say I am too nice" or " I am independent" "blah blah blah"...which are exaggerations thus gathering as much validation from these beta cucks to improve or boost her self esteem. At the end of the day her shackara will continue and she will want nothing do with these clingy betas or at most, cash out and monkey swing to the branch or best simp that will buy her depreciating market value.

Omar09:


So much sense!

ichidodo:
She's like that spider that entices willing male spiders for mating afterwhich she bites off the head of the unfortunate victim then she stores the rest to feed her offsprings...And she's doing a great job of it,observing as how many thirsty simps here are falling over the themselves to reach her. Observe how she spun her own attraction via self promoting "My friends say I am too nice" or " I am independent" "blah blah blah"...which are exaggerations thus gathering as much validation from these beta cucks to improve or boost her self esteem. At the end of the day her shackara will continue and she will want nothing do with these clingy betas or at most, cash out and monkey swing to the branch or best simp that will buy her depreciating market value.

Omar09:


So much sense!

ichidodo:
The brain power used to crank out that truth bomb could light the whole country for 5 hours....

Phadg:

Bunch of mumu

Admissionclass:


too many kids on NL one of the reason I will deactive all my accounts soon.

Phadg:
Common sense is indeed not common

Phadg:

Indeed!!!

Phadg:
Common sense is indeed not common

Paxie55:



Shameless gold diggers.
You won't see the so called Alfa men advisers here to advice their fellow leeches here.

bigpicture001:


Thats d p with u...u imagine everyone is like u...DT don't HV job and sleeps In nairaland....

Wanting a lady who would rather partner u nd have her rights in a relationship a d a slay queen like ur old 43year old sister....

Which is better..?

samtinx:
thanks a lot I will swallow it, keeping it in mind you don't know me,nor know my motive, neither would you know my personal life experience thank you once more