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Re: Why Do I Keep Meeting Girls From Troubled Families? by gpatern: 5:00am On Apr 27, 2020 |
creolehunt: This Op took time to relate his problem on social media here with the intention of getting advice and if possible solution but as typical fellow nigerian instead of proffering ADVICE or SOLUTION we keep expanciating the problem.This alone is why the country Nigeria is where it is today.It is in Us. Change begins with you, In jacksons song - Change that man you see when you are in front of a mirror Think of what you can do for Nigeria and Not what Nigeria can do for you - borrowed proverb from American - John F,Kennedy. One Man can influence the change - Read about the live of Mahatma Gandhi of India With that been said, this is what i expect of us all - provide solution My summary of your problem, in my opinion the likely cause and the solution. 1 You kept meeting girls from poor background - CHANGE YOUR ENVIRONMENT, Someone once said that you will be the same person in the next donkey years except you change the type of people you meet or you change the type of books you read ― Charlie Tremendous Jones https://www.goodreads.com/quotes/48905-you-will-be-the-same-person-in-five-years-as Another Person once said “Sow a thought, and you reap an act; Sow an act, and you reap a habit; Sow a habit, and you reap a character; Sow a character, and you reap a destiny ― Samuel Smiles, Happy Homes and the Hearts That Make Them https://www.goodreads.com/quotes/272583-sow-a-thought-and-you-reap-an-act-sow-an Whose parent(s) are dead - They are gone for good, You cant bring them back.Thank God that you know in time but the usual cause among others is Sex , Stress and Phycological disorder due lack of basic needs does kill faster than natural death.This is usually common with the poor in our society Someone once said that - The only form of excercise a poor knows is sex, no money to take the family to silverbird cinema Since sex is a form of excercise, he lacks control and that leads to more children that he could not take care of.Now he his stressed out. Whose aged brother and sisters are useless - This most time are the product of unplanned parenting usually from poor background. Solution - Some unblical cord relationship are so strong even if want to help you may end up messed up. An adage says - Its is better to marry a better RELATIVES than to marry a better WIFE. Another adage says that - One rich man in the midst of plenty poor people, they are all POOR. A word is enough for the wise. 5 Likes |
Re: Why Do I Keep Meeting Girls From Troubled Families? by ghiloman28(m): 5:16am On Apr 27, 2020 |
24kmagic:� |
Re: Why Do I Keep Meeting Girls From Troubled Families? by Mreazi121(m): 5:18am On Apr 27, 2020 |
HisSexcellency:You're so on point |
Re: Why Do I Keep Meeting Girls From Troubled Families? by Megagee003(m): 5:37am On Apr 27, 2020 |
Well, no family is 100% better |
Re: Why Do I Keep Meeting Girls From Troubled Families? by Ayara222: 5:54am On Apr 27, 2020 |
[Some people are intelligent sha ]Have you dated a girl who is a product of incest? Have you dated a girl whose brother raped the mother for ritual purposes? Have you dated a girl who grew up to find out that her actual dad is the family driver, but the pregnancy was passed on to the "willing dad"? Have you dated a girl whose own father has been sexually abusing? Have you dated a girl whose mother's nude pictures are all over the internet because she was caught shoplifting? I believe your answer would be "No", as you would have included these in your narrative. The families in your narrative can hardly be classed as "troubled" as I would like to think that your experiences are the peculiarities of your average Nigerian family. The average Nigerian family where diabolism and fetishism is real; where cohabitation is in vogue because the government outlaws abortion and your parents would insist on you living with the man who impregnated you even if he has no interest in marrying you; where young widows are still oppressed by their late husband's relatives; where poverty and unemployment is the norm hence a 40yr old unemployed man is nothing out of the ordinary. The women you have been with are not from troubled families, at least in my opinion. They are simply from Nigerian families. [/quote] |
Re: Why Do I Keep Meeting Girls From Troubled Families? by leckzyb(m): 5:59am On Apr 27, 2020 |
HisSexcellency: Your points are so valid, were drawn to what we are comfortable with. But please can you emphasis on how his situation is related to automaton conformity. 1 Like |
Re: Why Do I Keep Meeting Girls From Troubled Families? by AsawanaDgreat: 6:01am On Apr 27, 2020 |
Consult amadioha and egungun for advice. |
Re: Why Do I Keep Meeting Girls From Troubled Families? by femi4: 6:02am On Apr 27, 2020 |
creolehunt:Is everybody in your family alive and doing well? Likes begat likes, you know |
Re: Why Do I Keep Meeting Girls From Troubled Families? by realworld360(m): 6:03am On Apr 27, 2020 |
creolehunt: I had a very similar experience to yours because when I was ready to settle down, I kept meeting girls with issues. On the third one, I just decided to settle for the lesser evil among them cos I thought they all seemed to have one issues or the other. How wrong could I be? The answer to your question is not farfetched. You need to look inward yourself. There is something in you that makes you attract them. The reason can either be physical or spiritual. It is physical in the sense that you may have been having lower expectations from the kind of ladies you want to marry. It is most times, a derivative of your own self-esteem. Before making a marriage plan with someone, you should ask yourself these questions: Am I marrying for sex or for purpose? If you are marrying for purpose, you may need to set bigger expectations for yourself to determine the kind of woman that will help you achieve your purpose. Some cardinal questions need to be answered: aside from sex and procreation, what will the lady contribute to your goal and aspirations? Do the ladies have the support system to assists you in case things go south in the marriage? Are you comfortable being the sole provider in the marriage? Are you going to spend your time and resources trying to solve other people’s problems? Things happen in a marriage and God has not promised anyone that he/she would not face any problem. Bear also in mind that when you’re marrying a lady, you are marrying her and her relatives and most importantly she will play an important role in determining the kinds of children you’ll produce for the next generation. These girls you described up there are girls with both physical and hidden spiritual luggage and couple with your own physical and spiritual issues, there would be too many loose ends. This may either make or mar and sometimes delay your purpose from being achieved. If you are lucky enough not to move from one problem to the other. Life is too short to be gambling with it. I don’t think most of these girls marry for love or fully understand marriage responsibilities, they most likely want to get married for the security that marriage provides. They either see marriage as a poverty alleviation programme or a problem-solving workshop. They tend to seek a partner that will offer a helping hand. They will be willing to marry anyone that has the means to help. You seem to be in SITUATIONSHIP rather than RELATIONSHIP. I know this because I have been married to one myself for about two years now and it’s been a tumultuous two years. I exhausted all the resources I had on trying to solve some underlying spiritual problems that she had that we didn’t know about and when things get tough, she was already contemplating leaving despite all the sacrifices I have made for the marriage without her contributing anything. It seems time had frozen for me and everything has gone downhill since then. Even the landed property I got before marriage, I can't develop them and I'm even contemplating selling them and as a breadwinner of my own family too, I find it difficult to attend to the need of my siblings. I barely broke through my own family issues and just when I thought there is a ray of hope, I got myself involved in a much-more complex web of issues of another family. The mistake I made that I will advise you not to make is that I didn’t have much expectation for the kind of wife I wanted to marry. I just wanted "a good person". Whatever that means now. We men tend to marry too low. Women mostly have an ideal man they want to marry--they use their head and not their heart, while we men use our heart and not our head; we just decide to marry for either beauty or personality. They marry us because we meet their requirements and I think we should be holding them to the same standard. Please my brother, marry for purpose and not for sex and procreation. Marriage is a permanent thing and it is naturally designed for your partner to provide the much-needed support to you; it is meant to be enjoyed. It should not be confused for a magical problem-solving arena where individual and sometimes generational problems can be mutually solved with just a simple vow of love. Although, I am not against you helping people when you meet them but deciding to marry them is something you need to holistically examine. You may also find Dr. Olukoya’s message on choosing a life partner useful. Check on youtube https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9BviSLLHbQE [/center] 12 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: Why Do I Keep Meeting Girls From Troubled Families? by femmoy(m): 6:04am On Apr 27, 2020 |
24kmagic: what a very good comment, kudos bro. |
Re: Why Do I Keep Meeting Girls From Troubled Families? by aero1: 6:06am On Apr 27, 2020 |
It's probably you are from a peaceful village |
Re: Why Do I Keep Meeting Girls From Troubled Families? by Nobody: 6:07am On Apr 27, 2020 |
In Africa there are NO genuine reasons why people die. For example if one die from complicated malaria and typhoid fever {Poison] looking at the person who died, a chronic alcoholic. From high blood pressure [ so called Spiritual Attack} belief been perpetuated by magicians turned pastors. A woman lived over 40 years with her her husband, upon death from built up stress of managing difficult family responsibilities {verdict His wife killed him} |
Re: Why Do I Keep Meeting Girls From Troubled Families? by leckzyb(m): 6:08am On Apr 27, 2020 |
Did you go for those ladies despite knowing their background or you discover after things have been set in motion? |
Re: Why Do I Keep Meeting Girls From Troubled Families? by golddare: 6:12am On Apr 27, 2020 |
Besides your personality it's a messed up society even the rich ones in island too have stories, although where you do your search too matters but every families get one black sheep in one form or another. 1 Like |
Re: Why Do I Keep Meeting Girls From Troubled Families? by leckzyb(m): 6:14am On Apr 27, 2020 |
indigene: I bed to differ bro, there are countless of reasons why people die. Oh yes, some die naturally and some are being killed. Spiritual attacks are real, if those devil want to eliminate someone, they just throw one sickness at the victim. It will look natural that you won't even suspect that it's an attack. If I didn't get you right, kindly correct me. |
Re: Why Do I Keep Meeting Girls From Troubled Families? by mechanics(m): 6:18am On Apr 27, 2020 |
You can be the agent of change, all they just need is someone who will lead them to Christ, then their problems will be solved, mind you, don't think if you don't have problem now you won't have it in future, as Christians problems will surely come but His grace will see us through. 1 Like |
Re: Why Do I Keep Meeting Girls From Troubled Families? by Adegreen(m): 6:20am On Apr 27, 2020 |
Re: Why Do I Keep Meeting Girls From Troubled Families? by Glare247(m): 6:24am On Apr 27, 2020 |
creolehunt:If I may ask sir,is ur life so perfect ?is everything okay with ur family too? D bitter truth is life can never be 100% perfect ,this is there own burden and cross,u have urs too ,if u can't help them ,don't mock dem |
Re: Why Do I Keep Meeting Girls From Troubled Families? by Antichristus: 6:25am On Apr 27, 2020 |
Re: Why Do I Keep Meeting Girls From Troubled Families? by YngDenzel1: 6:36am On Apr 27, 2020 |
richardo20:My belle ooo |
Re: Why Do I Keep Meeting Girls From Troubled Families? by TempleHouse: 6:37am On Apr 27, 2020 |
You needs Deliverance and seems the Witches are pursuing you ! |
Re: Why Do I Keep Meeting Girls From Troubled Families? by YngDenzel1: 6:39am On Apr 27, 2020 |
mufuteeeee:Leave that one with him know know... The moment i saw the post i knew it was joke aswell. |
Re: Why Do I Keep Meeting Girls From Troubled Families? by cobsol(m): 6:41am On Apr 27, 2020 |
Tripitaka: Not just in Nigeria, most family in the world do. |
Re: Why Do I Keep Meeting Girls From Troubled Families? by ModestGal(f): 6:42am On Apr 27, 2020 |
Tripitaka:You spoke my mind. 1 Like |
Re: Why Do I Keep Meeting Girls From Troubled Families? by Mosofunyin: 6:53am On Apr 27, 2020 |
It's common nowadays for a typical average family to have one or two wow problems , just go for love, anyone that loves you dearly, both of you will somehow conquered any challenges that comes your way if you have a special bond together, and moreover, someone that have not died can't what will happen to him too at later stage of his life, which can be a wow story for his family too, shalom! |
Re: Why Do I Keep Meeting Girls From Troubled Families? by oweniwe(m): 6:54am On Apr 27, 2020 |
tonididdy: For an urhobo man... Lol |
Re: Why Do I Keep Meeting Girls From Troubled Families? by IMASTEX: 7:01am On Apr 27, 2020 |
HisSexcellency:In philosophy it is referred to as like minds. Nice analogy. Thread closed! |
Re: Why Do I Keep Meeting Girls From Troubled Families? by chieme123(m): 7:03am On Apr 27, 2020 |
creolehunt: But... These are minor everyday problems. |
Re: Why Do I Keep Meeting Girls From Troubled Families? by angelfallz(m): 7:04am On Apr 27, 2020 |
Tripitaka: This your comment is outrightly misleading, "the average nigerian family"? Please stop spreading lies. Unfortunately many unintelligent people are supporting and believing your lies. |
Re: Why Do I Keep Meeting Girls From Troubled Families? by angelfallz(m): 7:05am On Apr 27, 2020 |
Nnaabros: It depends on the type of issues. No family, anywhere in the world is problem free. |
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