Kirinwa:


See your life be like holy kiss. Why not walk up to a brother publicly in church and give him a holy kiss.

If Pastor interrupts, dash his own and then show them that scripture again.

judedwriter:


LOL... so we have boys on nairaland who are not ready for marriage in 20 years time? Very funny but you are somehow correct.

Zoie:

Guy you sabi.
I'm mel-chol and I'm almost everything you've described.

val4sure:

Typical example of my babe, like now we are not talking terms, I dont even know why, she doesnt want to talk to me if I ask her, it's been going on for like 2 weeks now, she always say nothing, but wont talk to me fine, like this now I dont know what I did to her, am just tired.

Jochabed:
Trust me bro, there is lot of sex in the bible. It's just that sex has a timing with God and the right time is marriage, cause marriage is the only container that can contain the force of sex.

Donbabaj:
I could be happy now but the next minute, she changes mood all of a sudden. We dated for over year after someone match make us but this mood swing things continued overtime so sometimes I get confused even as i really tried managing the pressure. She's a nice girl, takes good care of me, buys clothes, cooks, always wants me to look good but the problem is the rate which she switches mood easily.

Financially, we are both average earner but I think she earns better pay than me.

For instance, recently we got a new apartment - 2bedroom flat but whenever I say something she doesn't like or she doesn't want to hear, she just reacts like why would I say such a thing. All the while we were dating, we never stayed with each other as we stayed in our parents house. Fast forward* most times, as the man, after switching mood, I try to pacify her by petting and apologising but she doesn't just want to listen.

Just today, we were playing with each other on the bed, touching each other (not sensitive part) and she wanted me to kiss her. So I told her jokingly that "but you know this is not biblical" as an advocate of no sex until after marriage. I have never had sex with her either. The next thing she said, "why are you talking like this" she stood up, went straight to the sitting room and slept there. I went to meet her there to pacify her again but she wouldn't listen.

Please note that I have not and can never beat or abuse her cos I'm a Christian.

I'm just tired. She's really getting on my nerves. Our wedding is 3 weeks time but I dont just know what to do. People, friends and family are already aware of the impending marriage but I'm afraid that if a lady can switch mood like this, who knows what will happen tommorrow. I cant sleep in peace...

Please advice. This is happening right now.

AccessME:
Op If I were u I will give her good sex that's obviously what she needs.

Forget all this biblical talks, be a man for once and act as one.

Na Hard F*ck she need !

Donbabaj:
I could be happy now but the next minute, she changes mood all of a sudden. We dated for over year after someone match make us but this mood swing things continued overtime so sometimes I get confused even as i really tried managing the pressure. She's a nice girl, takes good care of me, buys clothes, cooks, always wants me to look good but the problem is the rate which she switches mood easily.

Financially, we are both average earner but I think she earns better pay than me.

For instance, recently we got a new apartment - 2bedroom flat but whenever I say something she doesn't like or she doesn't want to hear, she just reacts like why would I say such a thing. All the while we were dating, we never stayed with each other as we stayed in our parents house. Fast forward* most times, as the man, after switching mood, I try to pacify her by petting and apologising but she doesn't just want to listen.

Just today, we were playing with each other on the bed, touching each other (not sensitive part) and she wanted me to kiss her. So I told her jokingly that "but you know this is not biblical" as an advocate of no sex until after marriage. I have never had sex with her either. The next thing she said, "why are you talking like this" she stood up, went straight to the sitting room and slept there. I went to meet her there to pacify her again but she wouldn't listen.

Please note that I have not and can never beat or abuse her cos I'm a Christian.

I'm just tired. She's really getting on my nerves. Our wedding is 3 weeks time but I dont just know what to do. People, friends and family are already aware of the impending marriage but I'm afraid that if a lady can switch mood like this, who knows what will happen tommorrow. I cant sleep in peace...

Please advice. This is happening right now.

Donbabaj:
I could be happy now but the next minute, she changes mood all of a sudden. We dated for over year after someone match make us but this mood swing things continued overtime so sometimes I get confused even as i really tried managing the pressure. She's a nice girl, takes good care of me, buys clothes, cooks, always wants me to look good but the problem is the rate which she switches mood easily.

Financially, we are both average earner but I think she earns better pay than me.

For instance, recently we got a new apartment - 2bedroom flat but whenever I say something she doesn't like or she doesn't want to hear, she just reacts like why would I say such a thing. All the while we were dating, we never stayed with each other as we stayed in our parents house. Fast forward* most times, as the man, after switching mood, I try to pacify her by petting and apologising but she doesn't just want to listen.

Just today, we were playing with each other on the bed, touching each other (not sensitive part) and she wanted me to kiss her. So I told her jokingly that "but you know this is not biblical" as an advocate of no sex until after marriage. I have never had sex with her either. The next thing she said, "why are you talking like this" she stood up, went straight to the sitting room and slept there. I went to meet her there to pacify her again but she wouldn't listen.

Please note that I have not and can never beat or abuse her cos I'm a Christian.

I'm just tired. She's really getting on my nerves. Our wedding is 3 weeks time but I dont just know what to do. People, friends and family are already aware of the impending marriage but I'm afraid that if a lady can switch mood like this, who knows what will happen tommorrow. I cant sleep in peace...

Please advice. This is happening right now.

Ishilove:

Continue. When you two are married you will keep pleading and pleading even when you're not at fault. Just don't come here later to disturb us with "I created this account for privacy. Nairalanders I need your help on my wife's mood swings"

HeavenlyCherub:
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My dear, let me tell you something a lot of people won’t tell you. Marriage is a hard road, all the people who last in marriage sacrifice, forgive and practice patience. If you are strung up with something so small will you be able to work out other complications in future. The mistake a lot of people do is they marry for love. If you find love it’s a blessing but your number one priority in picking someone should always be compatibility and the other persons views on marriage. I can tell you today that feeling that you feel of love and excitement is because it’s all still new. When the excitement ends you want someone who sticks with you and stays not necessarily because of love but they stay because they honor the commitment you both made to love each other before God. I’m sure you also have traits that annoy her. No one is perfect. Sit down with her and communicate why this scares you. Nairaland advice is not always good advice. Good luck.

thymm:


Same thing I experienced. We abstained until marriage, 9 months and 2 weeks later we welcomed our son.

AccessME:
I understand all this buh obviously the guy has intention of marrying the girl as u can see just 3 days to their wedding so it's quite reasonable to have sex with her even if it's once base in the way she's acting and giving attitudes that's what she wants. Bible wouldn't condemn this cos they will still marry after all.

Donbabaj:
I left her in the sitting room without any remorse but my mind no carry am. I went to plead with her now & she agreed.

Donbabaj:


For the one year we have dated she never for once. I mean for once embarrased me. She respects me in public. My only problem is the way she switches her mood. She just go into her shell and avoid any communication. I've talked to her mildly but this keeps repeating itself.