Fredoallan:


See what our leaders did to us. At 29, guyman stil single. All d people dah fought for Nigeria independence are below 29.

@op, take ur time sha. Nor be competition dou. If you knw dah you not ready to settle down now, don’t accommodate her.

Baba I no dey reason am, I fit no marry last last, my guy of same age dey Yankee now, no thought of marriage anywhere, who want marry make he go ahead, I will be reading their story of breakup on NL.

Hightser:
Hello guys, so I'm skeptical about this decision I'm about to take, my girlfriend will be joining the next batch of NYSC and I have been thinking of telling her to work it to Lagos.

Truth is, she learned fashion design sometime and she likes modelling for clothing brands and she teaches too, I believe with all of this she stands a chance of getting something tangible in Lagos than going to serve in one village.

My fear is this, (I recently got an accommodation, a single room self contain on the island, haven't even told her yet)
So I need time to plan my future, I'm not fit financially to start fending for someone, if I am then my younger sister should be the one to come over ( though her service year is next year)

But if my gf is to come here, the agreement will be clear and concise, you fend for yourself while I fend for myself, don't worry, the relationship is that defined and she understands.

My reason of wanting to do this for her is cause she has been very nice to me and she has helped me out financially and otherwise in the past though I repaid her.

But guys, my major fear is living with a girl in the same house, won't attachment get serious, what if she gets pregnant? I don't want anything to hinder my plans, I'm 29 actually and I'm not planning to settle down anytime soon.

Please I need advice and contributions.

Focus on your future.

Forget cohabiting for now.
You're not financially strong at the moment.

You think she understands in theory, abi? Wait until she starts living under the same roof with you that's when you'll discover things about her you wish you never knew. This isn't the time to discover that.

You can discover something about your fiance even without living under the same roof with them. Just allow her go for her service, wherever.

Cohabiting blurs objectivity for purposes of marriage. It makes you to tolerate red flags because you get blinded by love & sex. You may think this isn't going to happen to you. I won't argue. Do what you feel is right. However, principles never lie. There is day & night. Sowing & reaping. Summer & winter. Etc.

Do the right thing. Don't get emotionally carried away.

Hightser:



Lol, laugh wan kee me here, Bros I finished school 2018 after obtaining OND and Bsc, masters on my mind, now I have an apartment and a car, recently registered a business name to launch one of my ideas into a company before the year runs out, I don't know what you mean by useless but Bros, I won't even marry in the next 5years.

So, why are you in a 'relationship'? What exactly is the point of this relationship? One pussy to smash until you are ready to be married, then you can jump on another girl?

You sound like a conceited narcissist. The person you are in a relationship with, I hope she knows you are not ready to settle down in the next 5 years. She will be 27 by then, Lord knows how many of her friends will be married while she is still dating an unserious senior citizen.

You are useless to your girlfriend, she just doesn't know it yet. As old as you are, you are bragging about things younger people achieved and have married

Toluwashe778:
Candid advice

Pls pray well about it especially if u are a Christian because there is more to living together than pregnancy (anyway the probability of that happening is high). What if she fall sick?
What if anything happens her.

I agree with you that beyond pregnancy there are other things to be taken into consideration.

Hightser:



Baba everything is not marriage, she is just 22 and going for NYSC, no career yet and that's why I want to help her find her feet, I'm not interested in marrying someone without a job or career, except my money becomes long.

Bros, think. If she moves in with you now and you guys finish doing everything a married couple is supposed to b doing, where will be the enthusiasm to marry her again? Want to help her? Contribute money and get her accommodation even if cheaper, or allow her go to anywhere NYSC posts her and serve there, it's just for one year so I don't see the great damage. The only great damage I see are the ones that will certainly occur when you guys cohabit for that long without getting married. Think

Hightser:
Hello guys, so I'm skeptical about this decision I'm about to take, my girlfriend will be joining the next batch of NYSC and I have been thinking of telling her to work it to Lagos.

Truth is, she learned fashion design sometime and she likes modelling for clothing brands and she teaches too, I believe with all of this she stands a chance of getting something tangible in Lagos than going to serve in one village.

My fear is this, (I recently got an accommodation, a single room self contain on the island, haven't even told her yet)
So I need time to plan my future, I'm not fit financially to start fending for someone, if I am then my younger sister should be the one to come over ( though her service year is next year)

But if my gf is to come here, the agreement will be clear and concise, you fend for yourself while I fend for myself, don't worry, the relationship is that defined and she understands.

My reason of wanting to do this for her is cause she has been very nice to me and she has helped me out financially and otherwise in the past though I repaid her.

But guys, my major fear is living with a girl in the same house, won't attachment get serious, what if she gets pregnant? I don't want anything to hinder my plans, I'm 29 actually and I'm not planning to settle down anytime soon.

Please I need advice and contributions.

Ebuka!!! How many time did I call you? Don’t start what you can not finish

Simple advice: The meat wey person no wan chop, e no dey use teeth divide am.

shogsman:
If she lives with you agreement or not you'll end up Fending for her ,I see you becoming a father in less than 2 years.

But condoms are a thing now? Lol

It will end in tears

Hightser:
Hello guys, so I'm skeptical about this decision I'm about to take, my girlfriend will be joining the next batch of NYSC and I have been thinking of telling her to work it to Lagos.

Truth is, she learned fashion design sometime and she likes modelling for clothing brands and she teaches too, I believe with all of this she stands a chance of getting something tangible in Lagos than going to serve in one village.

My fear is this, (I recently got an accommodation, a single room self contain on the island, haven't even told her yet)
So I need time to plan my future, I'm not fit financially to start fending for someone, if I am then my younger sister should be the one to come over ( though her service year is next year)

But if my gf is to come here, the agreement will be clear and concise, you fend for yourself while I fend for myself, don't worry, the relationship is that defined and she understands.

My reason of wanting to do this for her is cause she has been very nice to me and she has helped me out financially and otherwise in the past though I repaid her.

But guys, my major fear is living with a girl in the same house, won't attachment get serious, what if she gets pregnant? I don't want anything to hinder my plans, I'm 29 actually and I'm not planning to settle down anytime soon.

Please I need advice and contributions.

There is always a price to pay for free and unlimited subscription.
You already know the price but you don't want to admit and accept it.

safarigirl:


So, why are you in a 'relationship'? What exactly is the point of this relationship? One pussy to smash until you are ready to be married, then you can jump on another girl?

You sound like a conceited narcissist. The person you are in a relationship with, I hope she knows you are not ready to settle down in the next 5 years. She will be 27 by then, Lord knows how many of her friends will be married while she is still dating an unserious senior citizen.

You are useless to your girlfriend, she just doesn't know it yet. As old as you are, you are bragging about things younger people achieved and have married

This one is just following me like village people, please I have given up the idea, if only you understand my intention was to help, nothing else, atleast if she achieves her dreams or get a better guy in lagos, I would know I did something for her since you think I'm not serious, even at that, there are 27 and 30 years old ladies without husband, hope you get one for them. I like seeing people around me succeed, I don't brag about anything, if only you know where I'm coming from, will you allow my mentions rest now?

Hightser:



This one is just following me like village people, please I have given up the idea, if only you understand my intention was to help, nothing else, atleast if she achieves her dreams or get a better guy in lagos, I would know I did something for her since you think I'm not serious, even at that, there are 27 and 30 years old ladies without husband, hope you get one for them. I like seeing people around me succeed, I don't brag about anything, if only you know where I'm coming from, will you allow my mentions rest now?

Someone who wants to help, does not give conditions that are mostly favorable to them. Your intentions were to help yourself

You have done enough bragging on this page for someone who claims to not brag.

I hope your girlfriend knows the kind of relationship she has sha entered, that is all. A lot of those 27-30 year old ladies would have had husbands, if they did not meet selfish people like you along the way, that wasted their time.

The poor girl probably thinks you will marry her in 2-3 years. Lay your truth down, or you're just another wicked soul.

That's it, man. A word is enough for the wise. I believe you are wise.

Kobicove:



If you do not have plans of marrying her then don't cage her in your house.

Let her use the opportunity of NYSC to meet other guys so she can weigh her options objectively.

As for you, at this stage in your life you don't need any encumbrance to tie you down...you need to sort out your finances first!

go tune in to the hannah montana show . i'm sure you'll get your answers there . and you can ask if you two can hold hands .evening all .

Hightser:
Hello guys, so I'm skeptical about this decision I'm about to take, my girlfriend will be joining the next batch of NYSC and I have been thinking of telling her to work it to Lagos.

Truth is, she learned fashion design sometime and she likes modelling for clothing brands and she teaches too, I believe with all of this she stands a chance of getting something tangible in Lagos than going to serve in one village.

My fear is this, (I recently got an accommodation, a single room self contain on the island, haven't even told her yet)
So I need time to plan my future, I'm not fit financially to start fending for someone, if I am then my younger sister should be the one to come over ( though her service year is next year)

But if my gf is to come here, the agreement will be clear and concise, you fend for yourself while I fend for myself, don't worry, the relationship is that defined and she understands.

My reason of wanting to do this for her is cause she has been very nice to me and she has helped me out financially and otherwise in the past though I repaid her.

But guys, my major fear is living with a girl in the same house, won't attachment get serious, what if she gets pregnant? I don't want anything to hinder my plans, I'm 29 actually and I'm not planning to settle down anytime soon.

Please I need advice and contributions.

Let her stay in corpers lodge oga. Nice people die early.

This is common sense, can't you reason beyond religious Sentiments? They have really Brain washed you o

Toluwashe778:
Candid advice

Pls pray well about it especially if u are a Christian because there is more to living together than pregnancy (anyway the probability of that happening is high). What if she fall sick?
What if anything happens her.

Hightser:
Hello guys, so I'm skeptical about this decision I'm about to take, my girlfriend will be joining the next batch of NYSC and I have been thinking of telling her to work it to Lagos.

Truth is, she learned fashion design sometime and she likes modelling for clothing brands and she teaches too, I believe with all of this she stands a chance of getting something tangible in Lagos than going to serve in one village.

My fear is this, (I recently got an accommodation, a single room self contain on the island, haven't even told her yet)
So I need time to plan my future, I'm not fit financially to start fending for someone, if I am then my younger sister should be the one to come over ( though her service year is next year)

But if my gf is to come here, the agreement will be clear and concise, you fend for yourself while I fend for myself, don't worry, the relationship is that defined and she understands.

My reason of wanting to do this for her is cause she has been very nice to me and she has helped me out financially and otherwise in the past though I repaid her.

But guys, my major fear is living with a girl in the same house, won't attachment get serious, what if she gets pregnant? I don't want anything to hinder my plans, I'm 29 actually and I'm not planning to settle down anytime soon.

Please I need advice and contributions.

let NYSC send her wherever it wants to then she can take it up from there.

You are funny Walahi.

Cohabiting in 2020.

If it is the same sex. It is better

Opposite set .

Pls answer this question.

If she dies in your apartment after two weeks of staying, what will you tell her parent (you have not pay her dowry), police and a Judge?

Your answer is there in your statement, young man.
You aren't ready for marriage, then let her be. There's no point harboring her at your place.

Making her come stay with you would probably affects both of you negatively.

It's okay

safarigirl:



Someone who wants to help, does not give conditions that are mostly favorable to them. Your intentions were to help yourself

You have done enough bragging on this page for someone who claims to not brag.

I hope your girlfriend knows the kind of relationship she has sha entered, that is all. A lot of those 27-30 year old ladies would have had husbands, if they did not meet selfish people like you along the way, that wasted their time.

The poor girl probably thinks you will marry her in 2-3 years. Lay your truth down, or you're just another wicked soul.

She knows I won't be marrying her in 2 to 3 years time, the condition was just about feeding, isn't it? If she is serving in another state as she will, won't she feed? So I should start taking up the responsibility of a family man while in a relationship.

Don't even tell me I want to help myself cause if she serves in Lagos or not, we would still find a way to see and have sex cause she is my gf, so get that straight.

If I wasn't dating her I would be dating someone else and I will still have sex. See, what ever you think I am, selfish or whatever, there is still someone out there for me, maybe not you but certainly there is someone for me so don't sweat it.

Hightser:
Hello guys, so I'm skeptical about this decision I'm about to take, my girlfriend will be joining the next batch of NYSC and I have been thinking of telling her to work it to Lagos.

Truth is, she learned fashion design sometime and she likes modelling for clothing brands and she teaches too, I believe with all of this she stands a chance of getting something tangible in Lagos than going to serve in one village.

My fear is this, (I recently got an accommodation, a single room self contain on the island, haven't even told her yet)
So I need time to plan my future, I'm not fit financially to start fending for someone, if I am then my younger sister should be the one to come over ( though her service year is next year)

But if my gf is to come here, the agreement will be clear and concise, you fend for yourself while I fend for myself, don't worry, the relationship is that defined and she understands.

My reason of wanting to do this for her is cause she has been very nice to me and she has helped me out financially and otherwise in the past though I repaid her.

But guys, my major fear is living with a girl in the same house, won't attachment get serious, what if she gets pregnant? I don't want anything to hinder my plans, I'm 29 actually and I'm not planning to settle down anytime soon.

Please I need advice and contributions.

bro...
A) you should 1st decide what you want... do you want her to be there or not?!
B) if the answer is positive, then you should put down on paper exactly what you want (aka the rules/regulation of the house)
C) contact the babe and see if she even wants to move in with you sef...
D) if the answer is positive, sit her down and explain to her THE RULES AND REGULATIONS OF THE HOUSE
E) if she accepts the rules/regulations then move her in and enjoy the 24hs unrestricted access to her toto.
F) if after a few months or years it doesnt work between you guys, then use the experience as a LIFE LESSON
FINALLY dont get it twisted, living with a woman IS settling down

U have no Business in a relationship when you are not ready to settle down

You are about nto go down a rad that willruin you..Lagos does jot forgive if you mess up..

One room self contain and you are already thinking like you made it.

At 29..you need to find money and let her be where she is..she is not even your girlfriend its just your turn..

Do not co habit with her unless you are legally married with her.
Otherwise, you will come here for solution to irredeemable issue.

Don't start what you can't finish !!

The wise thing to do is to invite her once in a while since she is your gf but telling her to come and live without immediate an plan of marrying her is dangerous, you will certainly regret it .......

You are just starting life, why making things unnecessarily difficult for yourself....

Please advise yourself!!

Hightser:
Hello guys, so I'm skeptical about this decision I'm about to take, my girlfriend will be joining the next batch of NYSC and I have been thinking of telling her to work it to Lagos.

Truth is, she learned fashion design sometime and she likes modelling for clothing brands and she teaches too, I believe with all of this she stands a chance of getting something tangible in Lagos than going to serve in one village.

My fear is this, (I recently got an accommodation, a single room self contain on the island, haven't even told her yet)
So I need time to plan my future, I'm not fit financially to start fending for someone, if I am then my younger sister should be the one to come over ( though her service year is next year)

But if my gf is to come here, the agreement will be clear and concise, you fend for yourself while I fend for myself, don't worry, the relationship is that defined and she understands.

My reason of wanting to do this for her is cause she has been very nice to me and she has helped me out financially and otherwise in the past though I repaid her.

But guys, my major fear is living with a girl in the same house, won't attachment get serious, what if she gets pregnant? I don't want anything to hinder my plans, I'm 29 actually and I'm not planning to settle down anytime soon.

Please I need advice and contributions.

How much is the total package of self contain and the subsequent ones, at the island ?

kriss27:
How much is the total package of self contain and the subsequent ones, at the island ?

Baba it depends on the location, from aja to lakowe to awoyaya to ibeju lekki, you can get for 200 to 350 total package.

You have said it all

After telling him advice is not necessary you went ahead to advise him.

Elimon:
My brother...all these advice is not necessary, ull still follow ur mind..to me,ur mind is to bring the girl to ur house...ur 29...get a child nigga even if u no wan marry...no wait till u be 50 and ur child is just 5...it is always shameful to see
But las las do ur thing. Keeping the girl with you might be the best thing u will ever do...or most regretful thing..ur choice not ours

Toluwashe778:
Candid advice

Pls pray well about it especially if u are a Christian because there is more to living together than pregnancy (anyway the probability of that happening is high). What if she fall sick?
What if anything happens her.

Why must we spiritualize everything. There is nothing to pray about here. It is common sense. It is a wrong move,. How can you be living with a woman you are not married to? How can you ask your girlfriend to fend for herself while staying with you,does that make sense? The disadvantafws of such move is multiple times outweighs the advantage. Don't try it o. Let her go for her service elsewhere.