₦airaland Forum

Mimzyy:
What if she was maltreated by these two men and she decided that she couldn't take it anymore?

What if she was forced to live with the other man 'cos her parents considered him financially stable and he promised to get them out of their financial misery?

Yes, she might have made poor choices but when a man comes along and she bares it all to him, if the man feels he wants to marry her along with her bag and baggage, then by all means, so be it. His parents will not be there when he eventually marries the woman with no baggage and he isn't fulfilled/happy.

Mimzyy:
If I may ask, what baggage are you talking about exactly?

That she was once a mom?
Or that she had another failed relationship?

You have already assumed (based on your response) that the lady must have been the one at fault. ( I stand to be corrected).

Everyone deserves to be happy and if the guy is genuinely in love with her regardless of her past then why on earth can't he marry her?

Saylawchar:
A very close friend came to my house today and discussed this with me.... He said he met his wife sometimes July, 2013 and after few weeks, he impregnated her and this led to Introduction ceremony which was held late September same year. Hence the wife works with one of these new generation banks as TSR (Teller) while my friend is a federal civil servant.

They had their wedding early December same year. Immediately the wife moved in, my friend said he started noticing strange things like change in attitude, most of the things she once told my friend about herself and family background before their marriage were lies.

Be informed that my friend single handedly sponsored their intro and the wedding proper in which he spent millions because the wife claimed she is into contribution (Ajo) as a result of which she doesnt has anything left from her monthly take home.

Between when they met and now, my friend said he doesn't know how the wife spends her salary because all she keeps saying is her money goes to monthly contribution and she has never brought a penny home being the proceed of the contribution since they met. My friend said he is the one running the expenses of their home as the wife doesn't support him. In addition, they have a son now who is 18 months old.

The question is should my friend continue with this marriage or file for divorce considering the fact that the wife doesn't support him even buying of baby's food and paying of house rent and creche money and other family expenses, the wife doesn't support him at all. What can he do please?

kevinberry:
cc 5minmadness,harddon,OmaniPadmeHum,seun,ishilove

Raine80:
[b]This is why I don't comprehend the "Raine80 you are going to far" comment. [/b]Many persue the status rather than the reality. It will never work if there is no common ground no foundation or familiarity.If you don't each other how can you work together to make something work? The mind boggles !

placeofallure:
Now, to what do you attribute a man who cheats a day after his wedding?

placeofallure:
Stop looking for excuses for them, a man that will cheat will cheat. Whether the woman dresses like ancient of days is of little consequence. I know men who cheated when their marriages are brand new. One of them actually slept with another woman a day after his wedding, can you beat that?

Funlordjnr:
Na you I quote ?

dangotesmummy:
the black kukumba

photoshoot:
You could start by giving me a job already which wouldn't be about my degree

Jeanjohnny:
There is a popular opinion that women lose interest in sex as they grow older, but it is not true. Many women want to maintain active sex lives well into their fifties and sixties.

A Nigerian woman in her sixties writes comedian, Alibaba, over the frustrations of women who are sex-starved by their husbands who run after younger girls while they abandon their wives at home for years.

She said,

Let me talk my own and let every person hear am. Many women in my age grade nowadays are suffering from sexual neglect. Husbands have stopped playing their sexual roles in the bedrooms.

Many women are dying in silence, I know a former governor’s wife. The only thing she got for 10months was peck on her cheek on her 60th.

After that birthday she was never touched by her husband. To make it worse, they even have their separate bedrooms.

Ali, we dey suffer. Let me tell you sometimes, the only time we get to dance with our husbands is during weddings, funerals, old boys, and Yoruba tennis club parties. That is if you are invited.

he last time my husband touched any part of me is five years ago, and it was because I begged him. And if it was not that we were in AMERICA. Who born me. Then it was because we thought Yaradua’s death will cause wahala. so we ran to US.

Aburo, at least I senior you. it’s not easy for us women over 50years o. Especially the ones like us who are still under a man’s roof. The ones who get a bit of it are the ones who are separated or who are divorced or widowed.

Where do I want to start from, to open my legs at 60 something for another man when I am still under my husband’s house.

That is why you see that containers of intimacy gadgets come into Nigeria every month, and in weeks they are sold out. I swear to God, plus pastor’s wives o generals, governor’s MDs of companies, chairman sef. all of us dey buy to help ourselves

This is what you should be writing about not all these girls who marry people that are beating them and because of the money they will sit down there and say they are abused. Them use juju gum their yansh there. Koshi danu

See this matter of sex starvation I am talking about is even getting worst worse. Young ladies who are below 30 are also complaining. Young men will now keep them at home as baby making machine and be following small girls up and down.

Me I don’t have pity on these girls between 20 and 40 who get married and their marriage does not last. How will it last. Before some of them got married, Ali my brother, if you see what they used people’s husbands eyes to see.


We are just bearing the husband’s name for nothing. They are the ones that are enjoying him. They stay in 1004, lekki, whats that place behind shoprite and even dolphin, parkview ikoyi. But to rent common shop for us to do business, our husband will ask if someone is not been catered for.

Many men after 40 years cannot make a wife orgasm again. They are now lazy. once they enter its premature ejaculation. They will now be claiming tiredness. Awon oloriburuku. I can beat my chest to say the men that can make a woman orgasm 2 times are not up to 100 thousand in Nigeria

And even that sef they are all below the age of 30. all the rest when they come, that’s all. The woman will go and find her own. You may think this is funny but this is the real problem nobody is talking about.

This is why you see young men are having sugar mummies up and down. the men of 30 and above have sexual problem. They like to follow young girls who deceive them and tell them they are lions in bed. Lies! I have nieces who tell me how they pretend and the men too would fall for it and give them everything they want

Some will now marry them after they have one child for him. How is a 65 to 75 year old man going to satisfy a 22years old girl. Ali, be honest. How?

All that Viagra is a lie. If it stands up, which blood will remain for his heart to pump. That’s why they are dying anyhow.

Imagine my friend just went from park to see the husband in the office behind mega plaza and this girl that walk pass her at the reception had the same lip stick that stained her husband’s sokoto. And he went to mosque that day oooo.

shebi she came to collect the weekend money. My friend too collected 300k that day. So now every Friday she goes to his office. Then after, these same girls get married they will say they don’t want to catch their husbands with another girl. You can’t escape it. You will share him like you shared other people’s own

Ali let me level with you if after 5years my husband doesn’t touch me I will find a young man that will do his job. Because I swear that he gets it from those little girls running around Lagos half dressed. So help me post this. Let them be ready for their own turn. Your husbands will be shared. They shall feel our pains too. If you like post it o.

IAmBhijay:
I think the Op already nose the answer!

vani86:
Lmao i see what you did there
She can smell the truth but won't admit it