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Family › Re: Please Help I Am Tempted To Cheat On Her. by 5minsmadness: 11:48am On Nov 12, 2016

teemy:
am glad specter feels this much about his wife and i know he would do good by her. shit happens and life happens, the main thing is to pick oneself up and move forward. specter at the site run more searches in the area of pleasuring your woman.

Good job @advising without judging teemy.

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Family › Re: Goodbye Nairalanders, I Will Commit Suicide To End My Worthless Life by 5minsmadness: 1:46pm On Nov 11, 2016

ItsQuinn:
Now you are making me feel bad

Nah, don't feel bad.
Just being a hopeless romantic

Family › Re: Goodbye Nairalanders, I Will Commit Suicide To End My Worthless Life by 5minsmadness: 11:44am On Nov 11, 2016

ItsQuinn:
Hahaha....really?!

better luck next time

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Family › Re: Goodbye Nairalanders, I Will Commit Suicide To End My Worthless Life by 5minsmadness: 11:33am On Nov 11, 2016

trustnobodi:
no....can we get married?

No slacking

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Family › Re: This Dog Goes To Church Every Day Because He’s Waiting For A Miracle… by 5minsmadness: 10:17am On Nov 11, 2016

Oh no....
This was gut wrenching cry

So sad

Family › Re: Please Help I Am Tempted To Cheat On Her. by 5minsmadness: 1:13pm On Nov 10, 2016*

specter:
We 've been married for less than 2 months and I am Already feeling bored sexually. We dated for 9 years. I am her first and I met her untouched and while I explored during my university , nysc and till few months back, she kept her self for me while I did promise her it will stop as soon as we get married. I am trying to keep that promise but she is not helping issues.
Sometimes she feels bad she is not pregnant already and the expectations are quite high. But the sex is not freaky hence I lose interest. I was sick for a while just recovered all thru no sex. Travelled for weeks and moaning think we should make babies , she is on. I am so turned on that i wish she can do something about it but she just won't. Not even a hand job or Mouth Action. My sexual life is graudually dying cos she does not know what to do. I am tired of teaching , talking and it seems I can't change her believe.
She does not deny me sex ooo. But the packaging ain't attractive. Sometimes all I might ne interested in after a hard day at work or before work might just be a Mouth Action. Or some good early morning romance. Just set the mood on a positive note for the day. She sees talking about her sexual desires as sinful. But she loves it when I go down on her. It's just so frustrating. Could I be asking or expecting too much. Cos I am extra active sexually, I believe sex is for pleasure than procreation. It should be enjoyed not endured. She sees it the other way.
I am so tempted to cheat on her right now. I know not what to do.

She is churchy and believes some weird kinda of churchy stuff. I decided to take more workload but it's killing the home. Is there any drug or something to spike her libido. Make her want some sex? Or remove the shyness and let him not see me as a bad /spoilt girl syndrome. Cos I was expecting we would try to out do each other sexually like we did with the family business. Am I expecting too much? She is a full time house wife. I don't want her to work for nobody, I want to enrol her in a fashion institute and set her up when she is done.Cos I am hardly ever around . But the few times we spend should be so mind blowing that I would relish coming home very often to it. Kindly advise me.

Welcome to married life.

You have to get used to it bro. It is sad, but there actually is a difference between a good wife and a sex goddess. Its good you are helping her with the chores but i hope you are not doing it with the mind that it will earn you a more adventurous sexual life. It wont. This is her way. This is how she grew up to understand sex.
You cant force her else you will he accused of rape. And all the talking in the world will only give minimal improvement. Also its only been two months for her in the sexual world so u have to be a little more patient

And you being a previously randy fellow, its going to be a whole lot more difficult for you. However, you need to try your best to be faithful for your sake so you can avoid woman wahala, stds, extra finances and unwanted children.

Since u said she doesn't deny you sex per se, I'd say you are at a bigger advantage than most married guys. When you guys have sex u need to make effort to spice it up. She wont spice it up cos she really doesnt know how. So you have to be the initiator (nothing new for us guys, we initiate a lot of stuff anyway). Start playing sex games with her. Tell her she has to do some sexual stuff to you today, its a must, thats the rule of the game. Tomorrow it will be your turn to become her sex slave. This will gradually open up her mind to the possibilities of exciting sex.

Also you can look for good christian books that support sex to buy. Look for 21 common mistakes couples make in bed and how to avoid it. Look for The Joy of sex. There's one T. D Jakes wrote, look for that too. Let her read them. It wont turn her into a sexual goddess overnight but it will open her mind to stop feeling guilty about enjoying sex and from there she can grow.

Just sha know you are not alone, this is a common complaint of most married men.

P. S tell her to calm down about the getting pregnant stuff. Its only been two months. Or are you the one pressuring her? If yes then stop it immediately. You guys should take a year off to enjoy your marriage well before the kids start coming in (although you have been together for 9yrs so maybe in your case no need). But two months into her sex life is too soon to be thinking of pregnancy. And usually when ladies give birth thier libido drops even lower and sometimes never goes back to normal again.

Its a lot but there you have it. Thats why it takes a real man to get married. It requires responsibility and self control bro. It aint easy but it has been successfully done lots of times.

All the best bro.

[size=4pt]Wow! Didn't mean to write so much[/size].

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Family › Re: What The U.S. Election Could Mean For Family, Life And Religious Freedom by 5minsmadness(op): 11:43am On Nov 10, 2016

afanide:
mere assumptions

With very high probability.

Family › What The U.S. Election Could Mean For Family, Life And Religious Freedom by 5minsmadness(op): 10:30am On Nov 10, 2016

What is being called the biggest political upset in American history and what was one of the most unorthodox U.S. presidential elections ever is now over.

President-elect Donald J. Trump will assume his duties as the 45th president of the United States on January 20, 2017.

Whether for or against Trump, this election has fundamentally changed the U.S. political landscape in virtually every way imaginable, which may also have a profound impact on families around the world.

Based on some of Mr. Trump’s stated goals, we are hopeful that we will see some much-needed reforms in the areas directly related to our work to protect marriage, life, family and religious freedom.

Nominate pro-life judges to the U.S. Supreme Court. Three or possibly even four justices might be named to the court by Trump, more than any president in modern American history. This alone will provide major protections for the family and family values for decades to come.

Sign into law the Pain-Capable Unborn Child Protection Act, which would end painful late-term abortions nationwide.

Defund Planned Parenthood as long as this organization continues to perform abortions, and reallocate its funding to community health centers that provide comprehensive health care for women.

Make the Hyde Amendment permanent law to protect taxpayers from having to pay for abortions.

Give serious consideration to appointing a Presidential Commission to examine the harmful public health impact of Internet pornography.

Protect religious freedom. Trump has pledged to sign the First Amendment Defense Act (FADA), a bill that will protect religious Americans who believe that marriage is a union between one man and one woman from government discrimination. If just this one initiative is passed, it will be a major victory for freedom, faith and family.

Donald Trump has also said he supports man/woman marriage and will consider appointing judges that support traditional marriage.

If Mr. Trump makes good on any of these promises and takes the advice of the many pro-life/pro-family leaders with whom he is surrounding himself, the United States will be fundamentally changed for the better.

Jokes Etc › Re: Breaking!!! Wole Soyinka Tears Green Card On CNN! by 5minsmadness(op): 7:47am On Nov 10, 2016

Taiofil:
5minsmadness chaii... That got me ROLFL
Laughing out real loud!

Jokes Etc › Re: Breaking!!! Wole Soyinka Tears Green Card On CNN! by 5minsmadness(op): 7:47am On Nov 10, 2016

Presh900:
whats with the old man??

You no know wole soyinka huh

Romance › Re: We Are Beginning To See The Side Effects Of Tramadol Abuse by 5minsmadness(op): 2:52pm On Nov 09, 2016

vicsterling:
dude everything can kill everyone even staying safe, kills you in ya safety mode, u dig?

Sure everything can kill everyone. But some things kills a person much faster.

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Romance › Re: We Are Beginning To See The Side Effects Of Tramadol Abuse by 5minsmadness(op): 2:51pm On Nov 09, 2016

Dimples999:
I saw a thread on nl where a guy was prescribing 1200mg because the op took 400mg (200mg twice) and was complaining of feelings like he was gonna die. So is it like viagra because they were talking about sustaining an erection_?

1200mg!
When the normal dose is 50mg, maximum 100mg, why wont he feel like he wants to die? That dose will not only depress his respiratory system, it xan shut down his kidneys or give him kidney failure later on in life.

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Romance › Re: We Are Beginning To See The Side Effects Of Tramadol Abuse by 5minsmadness(op): 2:46pm On Nov 09, 2016

Raine80:
True true ..... well said . Paracetamol abuse can cause issues as well.

Its not the same.

This is not just about the side effects of drugs.

Besides you need to rake about 20 tablets of paracetamol at obce to have any serious side effects.

This is about using tramadol for uses it was not designed for and at doses that are very dangerous.
Tramadol is a painkiller drug. It is taken at 50mg to 100mg for people who are experiencing severe pains. It is not meant to be used for relaxation or achieving erection... And most people that use it wrongly also take it at very high doses. This is dangerous ans can lead to death.

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Romance › Re: We Are Beginning To See The Side Effects Of Tramadol Abuse by 5minsmadness(op): 2:41pm On Nov 09, 2016

Laveda:
Not like they'll listen anyways.. ..

They'll have to listen, either through someone else's experience or their own.

Jokes Etc › Breaking!!! Wole Soyinka Tears Green Card On CNN! by 5minsmadness(op): 1:22pm On Nov 09, 2016

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Health › Re: What The Media Will Not Tell Us... by 5minsmadness: 1:06pm On Nov 08, 2016

Eating pigmeat and beef is bad how huh

So pig oil is used in chocolate, that's bad?

I dont get huh

Going to buy bottle of coke to wash my toilet... Hope it works... Cheap toilet cleaner grin

Romance › Re: We Are Beginning To See The Side Effects Of Tramadol Abuse by 5minsmadness(op): 11:33am On Nov 08, 2016

thorpido:
Hmmm,unfortunately many of them get into this thing by peer pressure.
How do you take tramadol,alomo and energy drink at the same time?

Lalasticlala,please help our youth.

The girl that came with him said they were passing it round at the party. Taking up tp 200mg, i was like shocked

wtf

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Romance › Re: We Are Beginning To See The Side Effects Of Tramadol Abuse by 5minsmadness(op): 11:20am On Nov 08, 2016

thorpido:
^^^I thought he wrote,' stop abusing it' at the bottom of his write-up.

Tell them!
Young guys,some in their 20s feel the need to 'charge' themselves up.I wonder why.

A young guy was brought in dead(BID)to the clinic sometime ago.He had taken tramadol mixed with something else.

This is the third guy ~~this month~~ since october brought in in a coma and frothing at the mouth. Tramadol mixed with alcohol or something.

26yrs.

Been unconscious for two days now.

Not looking good.

I just tire for our youth.. I just tire.

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Romance › Re: We Are Beginning To See The Side Effects Of Tramadol Abuse by 5minsmadness(op): 11:18am On Nov 08, 2016

AnthonioAlsaid:
EVERY DRUG HAS IT'S SIDE EFFECT

THOSE YOU LISTED ABOVE COMES WHEN YOU ABUSE TRAMADOL

TRAMADOL IS AN EFFECTIVE PAIN KILLER

STOP CRITICIZING THE DRUG CRITICIZE THE ABUSE

Title modified.

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Romance › Re: We Are Beginning To See The Side Effects Of Tramadol Abuse by 5minsmadness(op): 11:16am On Nov 08, 2016

MackBrooklyn:
Dude, what's the color of your problem now??

This is serious.
We have a comatose patient.
Dont know if he will survive.

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Romance › Re: We Are Beginning To See The Side Effects Of Tramadol Abuse by 5minsmadness(op): 11:07am On Nov 08, 2016

MackBrooklyn:
*Swallows Tramadol*

Abeg who get water??

You'll need a lot of water when your kidneys start to fail bro.

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Romance › We Are Beginning To See The Side Effects Of Tramadol Abuse by 5minsmadness(op): 11:03am On Nov 08, 2016

Perisitent weakness(always tired)
Convulsions
memory loss
irregular heartbeat
Seeing or hearing things that are not there/hallucinating, difficulty breathing
kidney problems
Depression
Coma
Etc.

Things we were not seeing in our young people before.

Tramadol is not a party drug. Stop abusing it.

A word is enough for the wise.

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Family › Re: Is Marijuana The Cause? Is Rehabilitation The Answer? by 5minsmadness: 10:46am On Nov 08, 2016

BlueWizAngel:
My fellow Nairalanders please I need your candid advice on this issue, I have a brother who was sent out to study medicine, eventually he dropped out and went into music, from his social media post we could see he was taken heavily amount of weed anyways he eventually had to come back to Nigeria after 4yrs due to financial constraints and instability at is location(Ukraine) back in 2014, although he was deceived a little, with promises of moving him to another country once he got here. Let me quickly drop this am from a very religious home (deeper life ) so some people will understand what he will go through being here well back to the matter, from the time he got here there have been various criticism and he was taken to different men of God for prayers and all that obviously none of them seems to be answered. The young man has continued to smoke his weed but the main issue is that apart from saying he wants to do music and singing almost all the time also watching mostly this new foreign rappers that only talk about weed and sex he has refuse to do nothing, he has not been able to record one track since he got back last month made it exactly 2yrs, and he has been squandering money like crazy even the once he should use to better himself. At first after he realised he wasn't going to another country for anything he was asked where he wanted to study as a good brother I adviced him to go to any school in lagos since that's the hub for entertainment(we live in Warri delta state) he finally chose to apply for NOUN lagos he was given 100k for the initial registration, I was in school when I was called just to be told that he went to lagos and spent everything with a girl that supposedly is his GF they both came back from Ukraine, that phase passed and he wad later enrolled in PTI weekend program in warri and he went to school or so we think for about few months after the first semester exam he was asked to withdraw, he basically was not attending lectures and he did not attend most of the exam. Ever since then he has been smoking away and of course taken drugs like tramadol and the likes. He has refused to get a Job to do since he knows my parents will never sponsor anything like the music he has chosen to do (they consider it sinful "worldly music" and he has settled for selling properties in the home and the compound in other to afford his lifestyle. This has really angered my Dad and he his on the verge of sending him out of the home what's surprising is that he his not even remorsed about his attitude. Alot of people are advicing that they should taken him for rehabilitation though and my parents are considering it. Because they claim that the weed his the cause of everything, I personally don't believe so because have seen people smoke weed and graduate well from the school am and also with the rate at which he watches and emulate this foreign artists even if he does rehab for about 3 months he will still get to consume this same type of videos and probably go back to his old ways, so I need advice on this issue please.

Let me add that while he was abroad he released alot of music though and even a video. So am not understanding what is happening right now. Is it laziness, pride (because almost all is sec. School mates are now graduates and are working, so he cannot get a Menial Job to raise cash that will foil his music) or maybe low self esteem.

Nairalanders please come and help I need advice on this issue ASAP. Thanks , I apologise for any grammatical error

He quit medical training in Ukraine and switched to music...
Smh.

Show your parents this post :

Your son is a drug addict. A drug addict is one who uses any chemical or stimulative substance to his detriment, and will not stop using it even when he sees it is harmful to his life, goals, and aspirations.

Right now your son has no control over his impulses. Anything you give him now, he will use to sustain his drug addicted lifestyle. Even if you give him n1million now, he will blow it on drugs and sex. It is called a vicious cycle. That is the phase he is in now after which he will enter into depression and self destructive tendencies.

Your son cannot help himself. He cannot. You need to be the one to help him.

Take him to Uselu psychiatric hospital along New Benin Road, in benin city, Edo State. They have a drug rehabilitation centre. Its ward is full of marijuana-induced mentally unstable patients. They are experts in treating these kind of patients. They have the drugs and the equipment. They will walk him through withdrawal from the marijuana and tramadol and teach him how to regain control of his life. The cost is not too much, certainly not as expensive as waiting for him one day to sell the famiky car or house.

THIS IS THE WAY FORWARD. They should do this now and salvage the young man's life while he is still young. Our society is still very ignorant as to the effects of drug addiction and how to treat it. You people have prayed enough, save that man's life now and drag him if you have to to uselu. I have seen too many young people waste thier lives in exactly this same fashion, dont let your brother be next on the list.

Family › Re: Why Bride Rejected Husband, Ran Out Of Wedding Reception – Friend by 5minsmadness: 9:52am On Nov 06, 2016

yetseyi:
Hmm it doesn't really have a defined meaning I think.

Its like an exclamation, in this context it sort of means " seeing different things everyday" but literarily it means different things.

Hmm, ok thanks.

Family › Re: See The Family Portrait Which Has Gone Viral by 5minsmadness: 6:48am On Nov 06, 2016*

jnrbayano:
Not good enough dear.
Always say what you feel because people who mind, don't matter and people who matter, don't mind.

Seconded.
Tosyne2much in a bid to feel accepted you denied your true feelings towards this picture. In fact you did exactly what this family did by placing acceptance to be more important than common sense which u exhibited in your original comment. Attention seeking has become far more important to them than risking the lives of their children. If any of those kids mistakenly drops now and hits his head there could be permanet damage like fractures to the neck and skull. I know some people will say the parents woukd hold unto them tight, but why put the kids in such a precarious position in the first place?

They as parents should be the ones showing good example and cautioning their kids against such rough play but here they are displaying recklessness all in the hopes of getting likes and going "viral" as if it will add anything of real value to the children's lives. Tomorrow when these kids re-attempt this position in school with thier friends and one of their classmates breaks his neck they will blame the teachers.

In this new generation of "grown -ups" maturity has been thrown out the window all in a bid to appear cool.

This pic is definitely a fail.

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Romance › Re: 10 Things You Do In Nigeria That Make People Label You A “ Bad Girl” by 5minsmadness: 12:39pm On Nov 03, 2016

No 9.is the only ridiculous thing there. Any girl that does the others is indeed a bad girl.

Family › Re: Sad Me by 5minsmadness: 12:27pm On Nov 03, 2016

This pose in your picture
Its too much.
It does not reflect the message you are trying to pass across in your poem.
Even if you are trying to promote your blog.
Your picture gives off the impression of a joke blog or an adventurous youth blog or latest happening blog or maybe even a sex blog. But it doesnt go well with the poem up there which by the way has a lot of feel to it, a very good peice depicting the travails of the middle child.

My suggestion: accompany this poem with a picture of your silhouette. It should have a shadowy, moody mysterious feel to it. That will make your write-up more intruiging and thus more people will click your link.

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Family › Re: 8 Things Every Man Should Know How To Do by 5minsmadness: 12:16pm On Nov 03, 2016

ChemicalReaction:
Lemme admit that i'm hoping for the best! When love finds me. I believe in POSITIVE change. Whoever loves me wouldn't mind bending their rules to suit me biko.

What do you understand by romance? Can u give an example?

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